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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. " That's easy, shy humble and modest  | |||
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"Somewhere in the middle is good. Not shy but not totally arrogant. " yeah a mixture of all in different circumstances maybe but I find it hard to believe women like shy men. | |||
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"Somewhere in the middle is good. Not shy but not totally arrogant. yeah a mixture of all in different circumstances maybe but I find it hard to believe women like shy men." You didn't say which sex you where talking about, I guessed a lady  | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. " no point asking the question if you wont let us respond how we wish to? 
I would say a mixture of both would do it for me...and yes a modicum of confidence is preferred to a bucketload of arrogance...I like people who know what they want but don't go about it in a demanding way | |||
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"Somewhere in the middle is good. Not shy but not totally arrogant. yeah a mixture of all in different circumstances maybe but I find it hard to believe women like shy men. You didn't say which sex you where talking about, I guessed a lady "i mean either sex, just saying I didn't think women will find shy men sexy though. | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. no point asking the question if you wont let us respond how we wish to?
I would say a mixture of both would do it for me...and yes a modicum of confidence is preferred to a bucketload of arrogance...I like people who know what they want but don't go about it in a demanding way"there is I just want the 2 extremes not the middle which is the answer everbody says that confidence is sexy not arrogance. | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. no point asking the question if you wont let us respond how we wish to?
I would say a mixture of both would do it for me...and yes a modicum of confidence is preferred to a bucketload of arrogance...I like people who know what they want but don't go about it in a demanding way there is I just want the 2 extremes not the middle which is the answer everbody says that confidence is sexy not arrogance."well in that case, everyone is correct | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. " Shaz hates cocky and arrogant Men, we even have that as a no no on our profile. Shy, yes she much prefers | |||
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"Somewhere in the middle is good. Not shy but not totally arrogant. yeah a mixture of all in different circumstances maybe but I find it hard to believe women like shy men. You didn't say which sex you where talking about, I guessed a lady i mean either sex, just saying I didn't think women will find shy men sexy though."You maybe be right but then I have no idea what a women thinks | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. Shaz hates cocky and arrogant Men, we even have that as a no no on our profile. I am so shy Shy, yes she much prefers"  | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. Shaz hates cocky and arrogant Men, we even have that as a no no on our profile. I am so shy Shy, yes she much prefers " | |||
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"For me its middle ground. I will very rarely make the first move in a club yet I am confident enough to talk to anyone.... So I need a guy who will do that but at the same time ain't gonna come stormin through shouting 'Get yer coat love - you've pulled'! "yeah I get you, I have a friend good looking guy but is shy and only seems to have success with ladies when they come to him which isn't often as ladies expect the man to make the move. Whereas I usually try my luck and punch above my weight an do reasonably well. | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. That's easy, shy humble and modest " | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. no point asking the question if you wont let us respond how we wish to?
I would say a mixture of both would do it for me...and yes a modicum of confidence is preferred to a bucketload of arrogance...I like people who know what they want but don't go about it in a demanding way there is I just want the 2 extremes not the middle which is the answer everbody says that confidence is sexy not arrogance.
well in that case, everyone is correct "I suppose it's more what you would prefer either 1 extreme or the other. | |||
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"Something inbetween would be my preference too but if I absolutely have to choose I would go with shy and modest.... cockiness is a real turn off and I prefer quieter types who usually (in my experience) have deeper thoughts and more emotional intelligence, which are big turn ons for me " | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. no point asking the question if you wont let us respond how we wish to?
I would say a mixture of both would do it for me...and yes a modicum of confidence is preferred to a bucketload of arrogance...I like people who know what they want but don't go about it in a demanding way there is I just want the 2 extremes not the middle which is the answer everbody says that confidence is sexy not arrogance.
well in that case, everyone is correct I suppose it's more what you would prefer either 1 extreme or the other."I've already said what I would prefer ...you don't have to find one or the other sexy, and you don't have to try and put words in my mouth as I do have a mind of my own... | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. no point asking the question if you wont let us respond how we wish to?
I would say a mixture of both would do it for me...and yes a modicum of confidence is preferred to a bucketload of arrogance...I like people who know what they want but don't go about it in a demanding way there is I just want the 2 extremes not the middle which is the answer everbody says that confidence is sexy not arrogance.
well in that case, everyone is correct I suppose it's more what you would prefer either 1 extreme or the other.
I've already said what I would prefer ...you don't have to find one or the other sexy, and you don't have to try and put words in my mouth as I do have a mind of my own... "ok fair enough ball breaker | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. no point asking the question if you wont let us respond how we wish to?
I would say a mixture of both would do it for me...and yes a modicum of confidence is preferred to a bucketload of arrogance...I like people who know what they want but don't go about it in a demanding way there is I just want the 2 extremes not the middle which is the answer everbody says that confidence is sexy not arrogance.
well in that case, everyone is correct I suppose it's more what you would prefer either 1 extreme or the other.
I've already said what I would prefer ...you don't have to find one or the other sexy, and you don't have to try and put words in my mouth as I do have a mind of my own... ok fair enough ball breaker "I actually find you rather arrogant... | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. no point asking the question if you wont let us respond how we wish to?
I would say a mixture of both would do it for me...and yes a modicum of confidence is preferred to a bucketload of arrogance...I like people who know what they want but don't go about it in a demanding way there is I just want the 2 extremes not the middle which is the answer everbody says that confidence is sexy not arrogance.
well in that case, everyone is correct I suppose it's more what you would prefer either 1 extreme or the other.
I've already said what I would prefer ...you don't have to find one or the other sexy, and you don't have to try and put words in my mouth as I do have a mind of my own... ok fair enough ball breaker
I actually find you rather arrogant...
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. " neither both sound crap,,lol | |||
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"maybe through experience of women being emotionally scarred by more cocky arrogant type men when they are younger they look for a 'nice guy' hence the expression 'nice guys finish last'." What women being emotionally scarred? Shy doesn't equate to nice. | |||
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"maybe through experience of women being emotionally scarred by more cocky arrogant type men when they are younger they look for a 'nice guy' hence the expression 'nice guys finish last'. What women being emotionally scarred? Shy doesn't equate to nice. " I mean as in cheated an not treated properly or appreciated. The shy, humble and modest are characteristics of a 'nice guy' though. | |||
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"For me its middle ground. I will very rarely make the first move in a club yet I am confident enough to talk to anyone.... So I need a guy who will do that but at the same time ain't gonna come stormin through shouting 'Get yer coat love - you've pulled'! yeah I get you, I have a friend good looking guy but is shy and only seems to have success with ladies when they come to him which isn't often as ladies expect the man to make the move. Whereas I usually try my luck and punch above my weight an do reasonably well."Maybe that is because they find your confidence attractive? | |||
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"For me its middle ground. I will very rarely make the first move in a club yet I am confident enough to talk to anyone.... So I need a guy who will do that but at the same time ain't gonna come stormin through shouting 'Get yer coat love - you've pulled'! yeah I get you, I have a friend good looking guy but is shy and only seems to have success with ladies when they come to him which isn't often as ladies expect the man to make the move. Whereas I usually try my luck and punch above my weight an do reasonably well.
Maybe that is because they find your confidence attractive?"yeah I'm sure it is, but I think I am often mistaken for arrogance though and I've been trying to change my approach recently. | |||
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"For me its middle ground. I will very rarely make the first move in a club yet I am confident enough to talk to anyone.... So I need a guy who will do that but at the same time ain't gonna come stormin through shouting 'Get yer coat love - you've pulled'! yeah I get you, I have a friend good looking guy but is shy and only seems to have success with ladies when they come to him which isn't often as ladies expect the man to make the move. Whereas I usually try my luck and punch above my weight an do reasonably well.
Maybe that is because they find your confidence attractive? yeah I'm sure it is, but I think I am often mistaken for arrogance though and I've been trying to change my approach recently."I wouldn't change too much Hun! I know you fairly well now and I like you - so you must be doing something right!
Take a tip from an old fart - don't break your neck trying to be what other people think you should be - it never works in the long run and it makes no-one happy! Xx | |||
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"Shy humble and modest is nice if you have the privilege of time, in a club situation you're against the clock a bit so confidence works better at getting to the point. Arrogance is rarely attractive in any situation Mrs x" yeah that baffles me when men go to any kind of club looking for women and don't approach them because nothing will happen unless you are really good looking the old fashioned way of women expecting men to make the move is still how it works. | |||
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"For me its middle ground. I will very rarely make the first move in a club yet I am confident enough to talk to anyone.... So I need a guy who will do that but at the same time ain't gonna come stormin through shouting 'Get yer coat love - you've pulled'! yeah I get you, I have a friend good looking guy but is shy and only seems to have success with ladies when they come to him which isn't often as ladies expect the man to make the move. Whereas I usually try my luck and punch above my weight an do reasonably well.
Maybe that is because they find your confidence attractive? yeah I'm sure it is, but I think I am often mistaken for arrogance though and I've been trying to change my approach recently.
I wouldn't change too much Hun! I know you fairly well now and I like you - so you must be doing something right!
Take a tip from an old fart - don't break your neck trying to be what other people think you should be - it never works in the long run and it makes no-one happy! Xx"yes the feeling is mutual and thanks! yes I guess that's very true you can become very narcissistic in this lifestyle. x | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. That's easy, shy humble and modest "I'm probably the most modest person in the world. Cal | |||
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"Somebody being cocky and arrogant or somebody being shy, humble and modest? I know people will say confidence is sexy so no need to reiterate that. That's easy, shy humble and modest
I'm probably the most modest person in the world.
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"For me its middle ground. I will very rarely make the first move in a club yet I am confident enough to talk to anyone.... So I need a guy who will do that but at the same time ain't gonna come stormin through shouting 'Get yer coat love - you've pulled'! yeah I get you, I have a friend good looking guy but is shy and only seems to have success with ladies when they come to him which isn't often as ladies expect the man to make the move. Whereas I usually try my luck and punch above my weight an do reasonably well.
Maybe that is because they find your confidence attractive? yeah I'm sure it is, but I think I am often mistaken for arrogance though and I've been trying to change my approach recently.
I wouldn't change too much Hun! I know you fairly well now and I like you - so you must be doing something right!
Take a tip from an old fart - don't break your neck trying to be what other people think you should be - it never works in the long run and it makes no-one happy! Xx"Yup I have to agree with Peach there | |||
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"Somewhere in the middle is good. Not shy but not totally arrogant. yeah a mixture of all in different circumstances maybe but I find it hard to believe women like shy men." I dislike arrogance massively. I'd rather someone shy than a guy who thinks he's the dogs bollocks. That's not attractive at all. | |||
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"Somewhere in the middle is good. Not shy but not totally arrogant. yeah a mixture of all in different circumstances maybe but I find it hard to believe women like shy men. I dislike arrogance massively. I'd rather someone shy than a guy who thinks he's the dogs bollocks. That's not attractive at all." yeah but if you look at popular film and tv protagonists,sport stars, musicians all the best definitely seem to be arrogant to an extent in my opinion and there still likeable. | |||
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"Somewhere in the middle is good. Not shy but not totally arrogant. yeah a mixture of all in different circumstances maybe but I find it hard to believe women like shy men. I dislike arrogance massively. I'd rather someone shy than a guy who thinks he's the dogs bollocks. That's not attractive at all. yeah but if you look at popular film and tv protagonists,sport stars, musicians all the best definitely seem to be arrogant to an extent in my opinion and there still likeable." Arrogance can be overlooked if someone is at the top of their game.....unless you're walking round wearing a shaggers gold medal there is no place for arrogance in swinging lol | |||
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"Somewhere in the middle is good. Not shy but not totally arrogant. yeah a mixture of all in different circumstances maybe but I find it hard to believe women like shy men. I dislike arrogance massively. I'd rather someone shy than a guy who thinks he's the dogs bollocks. That's not attractive at all. yeah but if you look at popular film and tv protagonists,sport stars, musicians all the best definitely seem to be arrogant to an extent in my opinion and there still likeable. Arrogance can be overlooked if someone is at the top of their game.....unless you're walking round wearing a shaggers gold medal there is no place for arrogance in swinging lol" yes very true, haha how do I get myself a shaggers gold medal | |||
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"Somewhere in the middle is good. Not shy but not totally arrogant. yeah a mixture of all in different circumstances maybe but I find it hard to believe women like shy men. I dislike arrogance massively. I'd rather someone shy than a guy who thinks he's the dogs bollocks. That's not attractive at all. yeah but if you look at popular film and tv protagonists,sport stars, musicians all the best definitely seem to be arrogant to an extent in my opinion and there still likeable. Arrogance can be overlooked if someone is at the top of their game.....unless you're walking round wearing a shaggers gold medal there is no place for arrogance in swinging lol yes very true, haha how do I get myself a shaggers gold medal "Spray paint a bin lid?? | |||
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"For me its middle ground. I will very rarely make the first move in a club yet I am confident enough to talk to anyone.... So I need a guy who will do that but at the same time ain't gonna come stormin through shouting 'Get yer coat love - you've pulled'! yeah I get you, I have a friend good looking guy but is shy and only seems to have success with ladies when they come to him which isn't often as ladies expect the man to make the move. Whereas I usually try my luck and punch above my weight an do reasonably well."Really so why do you only have 29 Verifactions ? | |||
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"I've read more of the thread now. I guess if I had to choose between the two I'd choose the cocky guy over the shy guy. How about you, OP? Which would you prefer in a woman? Would your answer change depending on whether you're dating her or having nsa sex with her? " I'd say I find the more cocky and arrogant woman sexier because I would think there must be a reason for it. No my answer would be the same for dating or nsa. She would probly be more challenging and put me in my place aswell which I need from time to time. | |||
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"For me its middle ground. I will very rarely make the first move in a club yet I am confident enough to talk to anyone.... So I need a guy who will do that but at the same time ain't gonna come stormin through shouting 'Get yer coat love - you've pulled'! yeah I get you, I have a friend good looking guy but is shy and only seems to have success with ladies when they come to him which isn't often as ladies expect the man to make the move. Whereas I usually try my luck and punch above my weight an do reasonably well.
Really so why do you only have 29 Verifactions ? "31 actually 29 published, thought you were more perceptive than that bro haha but not all play veris as I say. | |||
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"For me its middle ground. I will very rarely make the first move in a club yet I am confident enough to talk to anyone.... So I need a guy who will do that but at the same time ain't gonna come stormin through shouting 'Get yer coat love - you've pulled'! yeah I get you, I have a friend good looking guy but is shy and only seems to have success with ladies when they come to him which isn't often as ladies expect the man to make the move. Whereas I usually try my luck and punch above my weight an do reasonably well.
Really so why do you only have 29 Verifactions ? 31 actually 29 published, thought you were more perceptive than that bro haha but not all play veris as I say."I'm hating the game not the playa | |||
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"I dont.really find shy men attractive but id chose them over cocky and.arrogant " interesting the vast majority going for shy, I guess it was arrogant of me to think they wouldn't | |||
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"I dont.really find shy men attractive but id chose them over cocky and.arrogant interesting the vast majority going for shy, I guess it was arrogant of me to think they wouldn't "No not at all... These women saying shy have left out the word attractive.... I have a fat friend with bad teeth and acne... That's very shy. I'm sure all these ladies would take him over a beefcake like me  | |||
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"I dont.really find shy men attractive but id chose them over cocky and.arrogant interesting the vast majority going for shy, I guess it was arrogant of me to think they wouldn't
No not at all... These women saying shy have left out the word attractive....
I have a fat friend with bad teeth and acne... That's very shy. I'm sure all these ladies would take him over a beefcake like me "Gotta keep it even though.... attractive and arrogant or attractive and shy. Shy would still win for me! | |||
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"I dont.really find shy men attractive but id chose them over cocky and.arrogant interesting the vast majority going for shy, I guess it was arrogant of me to think they wouldn't
No not at all... These women saying shy have left out the word attractive....
I have a fat friend with bad teeth and acne... That's very shy. I'm sure all these ladies would take him over a beefcake like me
Gotta keep it even though.... attractive and arrogant or attractive and shy. Shy would still win for me! "yeah even, just different characteristics, very interesting I thought women would think the cocky arrogant guy would be experienced an perhaps show them a better time. | |||
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"I like confidence with a touch of arrogance... Mainly people who know what they want and how to get it. I like ambition too. Fighting your own battles.. Shy is cute but it bores me very quickly. I can't do with spending life in a corner. The most turn off though is negativity!! but shy people can be über positive and confident people very negative... Gosh that's a hard question you are asking! Humble is a wonderful quality. So is respectful "good answer I guess it's all relative aswell and depends on the lady. | |||
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"For me its middle ground. I will very rarely make the first move in a club yet I am confident enough to talk to anyone.... So I need a guy who will do that but at the same time ain't gonna come stormin through shouting 'Get yer coat love - you've pulled'! yeah I get you, I have a friend good looking guy but is shy and only seems to have success with ladies when they come to him which isn't often as ladies expect the man to make the move. Whereas I usually try my luck and punch above my weight an do reasonably well."Really dislike cocky and arrogant....much prefer the quiet type. | |||
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