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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all..I know it takes time and Rome wasn't built in a day.. but I am happy just to talk with people at the moment to be honest.. i am a newbie afterall ..I understand all the women on here are inundated with messages..but I find it hard to even grab the attention of a woman just to say hi back.(i get plenty of winks and messages from men?). me thinks I need to get real and build a strategy..I am here for the long haul as a way of life .not just an ego boost.. any ideas or direction would be more than welcome..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The forum rules state that no one is allowed to offer profile advice unless asked for.

You've been here a week.....what were your expectations?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Do a forum search for 'Profile Advice', read the good stuff and apply it

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"The forum rules state that no one is allowed to offer profile advice unless asked for.

You've been here a week.....what were your expectations? "

I've been here ages and still expecting to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put filters on then you won't get men messaging you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Brighton Steve.. it was more of a general chat opener than a request for advice but to be honest I don't know what I expected.. to chat with like minded people.. I am seeing that this one post has had more reaction than a general profile.. it seems that must be the way.. forums and chat.. best get my fingers working..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put filters on then you won't get men messaging you "

thanks didn't want to be rude at first.. it's not my way.. but I see it is what is required..profile filters he I Cum...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Well now, firstly you need to have a good profile, with a good selection of photos. Indeed, doing a forum search for 'profile advice' might use up a few spare moments. The forums are agreeably interactive and easy but remember only about 2% of fab members use it. Use the chatrooms too, spend some time and have a look around the site at all the forums including the meets section, bear in mind you as a single man are 'competing' against loads of other men, so you need to stand out. You can do this by being yourself because you're unique. Go to a social, go to a club, go in the cam rooms and immerse yourself in fab-land. Don't forget doing other stuff off line as well. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK filters done.. let's see how that goes..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"The forum rules state that no one is allowed to offer profile advice unless asked for.

You've been here a week.....what were your expectations?

I've been here ages and still expecting to meet you "

You will

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I don't think I ever had "A strategy"...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"The forum rules state that no one is allowed to offer profile advice unless asked for.

You've been here a week.....what were your expectations?

I've been here ages and still expecting to meet you

I know

You will "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. Your profile text reads the same as most of the other single guys on here.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I don't think I ever had "A strategy"... "

Tall, toned & hot. Not sure you ever needed one

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well now, firstly you need to have a good profile, with a good selection of photos. Indeed, doing a forum search for 'profile advice' might use up a few spare moments. The forums are agreeably interactive and easy but remember only about 2% of fab members use it. Use the chatrooms too, spend some time and have a look around the site at all the forums including the meets section, bear in mind you as a single man are 'competing' against loads of other men, so you need to stand out. You can do this by being yourself because you're unique. Go to a social, go to a club, go in the cam rooms and immerse yourself in fab-land. Don't forget doing other stuff off line as well. Good luck. "

Great.. thanks..feel a bit like a lost sheep at the moment.. I have a club near by and it seems like the place to meet .. just a bit nervous to rock up on my own.. suppose I have to take the leap.. Cheers again..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op. Your profile text reads the same as most of the other single guys on here. "

Violet. I seem to see that.. as much as I don't want to look at blokes profiles...I see I need to be me.. the reason I am on here in the first place.. just to be me..new profile text required.. oh well .. honesty is best policy..

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I don't think I ever had "A strategy"...

Tall, toned & hot. Not sure you ever needed one "

Why thankyou!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put filters on then you won't get men messaging you

thanks didn't want to be rude at first.. it's not my way.. but I see it is what is required..profile filters he I Cum..."

Doesn't make you rude to stop messages from people your not looking for

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I don't think I ever had "A strategy"...

Tall, toned & hot. Not sure you ever needed one

Why thankyou! "

I've told you before I'm sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find funny profiles the best, they are the ones that grab me the most, I'm also (personal preference here) not a massive fan of the whole cock pic but each lady is different.

It takes time, the forum is a great way to chat to people and when I was single, I would say most of my meets (well socials) came from the forum, maybe as a woman there was a bit more 'trust' if that's the right word but at Brighton Steve said, only a small portion uses the forum, you will get there I'm sure

G x

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