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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do they sound "gay"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not with you ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's turn is it to get the popcorn?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oooh this could be very amusing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not with you ???"

When some gay men speak they do so in a tone that identifies them as Gay. Is it a learned accent, or does it occur naturally?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some gay men you would never know just by talking to them, not all gay men mince around say hello ducky

Though some do it just to make a point and to wind people up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some gay men you would never know just by talking to them, not all gay men mince around say hello ducky

Though some do it just to make a point and to wind people up

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By *es-sMan
over a year ago

Rugby

Hello sweetcheeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work with a gay man and it's so obvious he is gay without him actually saying he is.

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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago

Chester

Speaking as someone who'd love to have a higher pitched voice (and smaller feet, and be shorter etc...), I wish I knew!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Some guys do have quite a higher than usual voice and can sound quite feminine ....

But I quite like it ...

Better than a gruff bad mannered gobshite ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm all for it personally, one minute I'm just another customer at a bar or another shopper in Tesco , then I think "hang on, I'm talking to a gay guy" 10 minutes later he's swallowing my load! All good! Who ever invented it was a genius!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I work with a gay man and it's so obvious he is gay without him actually saying he is."

One of my managers at work is gay and you can tell by just looking at him, his mannerisms just let you know

Where as a work colleague of mine is gay and I worked with him for two years before I knew, I was genuinely shocked when I found out, he's very masculine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's several straight men that sound "gay". Mist gay people I know talk normally. The way you talk doesn't have jack shit to do with your sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I work with a gay man and it's so obvious he is gay without him actually saying he is."

I remember when George Michael came out thinking "jeez where did that come from!" (his voice) he must have been saving it up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's an affectation.

Doesn't bother me- my Gaydar is better as a result!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm all for it personally, one minute I'm just another customer at a bar or another shopper in Tesco , then I think "hang on, I'm talking to a gay guy" 10 minutes later he's swallowing my load! All good! Who ever invented it was a genius!"

He's swallowing your load in Tesco

Where the hell do you shop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's swallowing your load in Tesco

Where the hell do you shop?"

Asda.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He's swallowing your load in Tesco

Where the hell do you shop?"

Car park usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's swallowing your load in Tesco

Where the hell do you shop?

Asda."

I ment what area silly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean camp?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's swallowing your load in Tesco

Where the hell do you shop?

Asda.

I ment what area silly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my sons is gay, sounds like any other guy but yes his boyfriend and some of his other gay friends do have a higher pitch voice and the second they open there mouth you think, yep your gay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of my sons is gay, sounds like any other guy but yes his boyfriend and some of his other gay friends do have a higher pitch voice and the second they open there mouth you think, yep your gay

Same with my daugher

She's a lesbian, her voice is really deep you just know by looking at her she's gay, she does have a high level of testosterone though which could account for her deep voice and boy like looks maybe it's the same visa versa for men, some gay men just look and act more feminine than others same as some lesbians are more butch than others

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By *cotbbtopMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"There's several straight men that sound "gay". Mist gay people I know talk normally. The way you talk doesn't have jack shit to do with your sexuality. "

Exactly right. I know several straight men who appear to be gay in mannerisms and yet aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's several straight men that sound "gay". Mist gay people I know talk normally. The way you talk doesn't have jack shit to do with your sexuality.

Exactly right. I know several straight men who appear to be gay in mannerisms and yet aren't. "

Some gay men put it on just because they think it's expected due to stereotypes. It is annoying when they talked normal then come out and start talking in a certain way. But I know way more straight men that do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's several straight men that sound "gay". Mist gay people I know talk normally. The way you talk doesn't have jack shit to do with your sexuality.

Exactly right. I know several straight men who appear to be gay in mannerisms and yet aren't.

I am sure some gay men put it on a lot having said that I do know at lest two guys who lower the voice when talking to women, me and a mate used to take the piss out of them all the time, don't know if they thought it made them more manly lowering they voice but it was so funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do they sound "gay"?"

Well Honky-tonk..... I've never noticed they do.......

But then again some people reckon I'm camper that a row of pink tents....

I can't see it myself though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's several straight men that sound "gay". Mist gay people I know talk normally. The way you talk doesn't have jack shit to do with your sexuality.

Exactly right. I know several straight men who appear to be gay in mannerisms and yet aren't.

In all fairness, I do use a lot of slang used in RuPaul's drag race

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's to do with the male female aspect of the relationships I just to work for a gay couple n one was obv male n the other female persona. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do they sound "gay"?

Well Honky-tonk..... I've never noticed they do.......

But then again some people reckon I'm camper that a row of pink tents....

I can't see it myself though...

Do you gesticulate profusely and purse your lips in between sentences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they put it on, one in big brother said it as well. They dont need to do it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because they put it on, one in big brother said it as well. They dont need to do it."

Oooo behave!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clem can I come shopping with you please. I am always trying to pull in Tesco and it never works. I wouldn't mind seeing how its done.

I'll push the trolley and everthing

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Some gay men are very camp, walk camp, talk camp, speak camp. My best friens where i worked was bloody camp. One of my sons friends came round and first thing he said in a really camp voice was "oooooh i do like your curtains"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do they sound "gay"?

Well Honky-tonk..... I've never noticed they do.......

But then again some people reckon I'm camper that a row of pink tents....

I can't see it myself though...

Do you gesticulate profusely and purse your lips in between sentences? "

Yes but only when fully extending my arm to examine the state of the fingernail of my slightly upturned hand ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Clem can I come shopping with you please. I am always trying to pull in Tesco and it never works. I wouldn't mind seeing how its done.

I'll push the trolley and everthing

No way! I don't want you cramping my style

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I know what you are saying - my son is gay and I guess I have always known from his mannerisms, the way he is - however when he officially came out to all his friends etc he became a lot camper - no idea why!?

Asked him this a while ago actually and he said he just felt able to do so but doesn't really know WHY - he is what he is though and I love him to bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clem can I come shopping with you please. I am always trying to pull in Tesco and it never works. I wouldn't mind seeing how its done.

I'll push the trolley and everthing

No way! I don't want you cramping my style

Fine keep all the supermarket sex for yourself greedy.

Just so you know you made my face do this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what you are saying - my son is gay and I guess I have always known from his mannerisms, the way he is - however when he officially came out to all his friends etc he became a lot camper - no idea why!?

Asked him this a while ago actually and he said he just felt able to do so but doesn't really know WHY - he is what he is though and I love him to bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clem can I come shopping with you please. I am always trying to pull in Tesco and it never works. I wouldn't mind seeing how its done.

I'll push the trolley and everthing

No way! I don't want you cramping my style

Fine keep all the supermarket sex for yourself greedy.

Just so you know you made my face do this

Poor Knitter, meet me in Tesco's and we can role play, but I tell you now I am not easy to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No filters they should be out and proud still too many stigmas attached to being gay male or female. They should be true to who they are x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asked him this a while ago actually and he said he just felt able to do so but doesn't really know WHY - he is what he is though and I love him to bits

Still your son same as mine is, know it was really hard for him to come out and have to give him a hell of a lot of credit for doing it.

He happy and that's all we care about.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

PMSFL. Nice one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Campness? Its an intereating question. I have gay friends who are camp and some you would never guess.

The campest guy ive ever known though is completely straight xx

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Clem can I come shopping with you please. I am always trying to pull in Tesco and it never works. I wouldn't mind seeing how its done.

I'll push the trolley and everthing

Let me know which Tesco you go to and I'll make it work for you there.

he he

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Wow. In the light of recent events in Orlando, I'm disturbed that this thread is so glib

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By *otblondewife hornyMrCouple
over a year ago

Cambuslang

"Not with you ???

When some gay men speak they do so in a tone that identifies them as Gay. Is it a learned accent, or does it occur naturally?"

I believe it's referred to as the "will young lisp"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. In the light of recent events in Orlando, I'm disturbed that this thread is so glib

The thing is, surely it would wrong to allow the behaviour of a deranged individual to influence or temper the ability of people to live their lives without feeling compelled to rain back on the pleasure of engaging in harmless social interaction..

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"Wow. In the light of recent events in Orlando, I'm disturbed that this thread is so glib

You're absolutely right. Just a bit raw.

Stood in Old Compton Street last night with my friends, crying, helpless and angry that a bunch of people were targeted because who they are and chose live it openly. I've had eggs and fists thrown at me. Most of my friends have been abused, physically or verbally because they're a bit if a woopsie. Casual banter shouldn't bother me. But they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. In the light of recent events in Orlando, I'm disturbed that this thread is so glib

You're absolutely right. Just a bit raw.

I know what you mean.....

I just feel we should never pause celebrating the wonderful diversity of humanity every time someone dies in tragic circumstances .....

The actions of those who wish to disrupt society should never be given the credibility of validation....

My heart aches for those affected but I will show my respect for them by living proud...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. In the light of recent events in Orlando, I'm disturbed that this thread is so glib

You're absolutely right. Just a bit raw.

I know what you mean.....

I just feel we should never pause celebrating the wonderful diversity of humanity every time someone dies in tragic circumstances .....

The actions of those who wish to disrupt society should never be given the credibility of validation....

My heart aches for those affected but I will show my respect for them by living proud...

Well said

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"Wow. In the light of recent events in Orlando, I'm disturbed that this thread is so glib

You're absolutely right. Just a bit raw.

I know what you mean.....

I just feel we should never pause celebrating the wonderful diversity of humanity every time someone dies in tragic circumstances .....

The actions of those who wish to disrupt society should never be given the credibility of validation....

My heart aches for those affected but I will show my respect for them by living proud...

Absolutely

I'm not going to stop being who I am and actively encourage LGBTQI+ visibility. If we live in fear, they've won.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. In the light of recent events in Orlando, I'm disturbed that this thread is so glib

You're absolutely right. Just a bit raw.

I know what you mean.....

I just feel we should never pause celebrating the wonderful diversity of humanity every time someone dies in tragic circumstances .....

The actions of those who wish to disrupt society should never be given the credibility of validation....

My heart aches for those affected but I will show my respect for them by living proud...

Absolutely

I'm not going to stop being who I am and actively encourage LGBTQI+ visibility. If we live in fear, they've won."

That's the spirit,,,,

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Asked him this a while ago actually and he said he just felt able to do so but doesn't really know WHY - he is what he is though and I love him to bits

Still your son same as mine is, know it was really hard for him to come out and have to give him a hell of a lot of credit for doing it.

He happy and that's all we care about."

In all honesty mine found it reasonably easy with most people and 'told' me with the question:

'Mum, how did you know I was gay?'

I actually took that as a huge compliment and a testament to the great relationship we have.

I still don't get the camp him that appeared after he publicly outed himself though - it was like he had something to prove or a stereotype to live up to? He is back to himself mostly now though - he put Julian Clary him away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have previously been accused of homophobia for not finding 'softly spoken' men sexually attractive.

For me, the attraction in a man comes from either masculinity or cheeky boyishness.

Effeminacy does nothing for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do ...some dont

Some are very efeminate (if thats the word i am looking for)

Some arent ....

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover

A agree it's an affection.

Each to their own but I don't understand it.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Why do they sound "gay"?"

I met the gayest man once... "Brad", limp-wristed, lisping "awright dawling, gis' a hug."

Married, with 2 kids. Openly gay, he just happened to be straight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do they sound "gay"?

I met the gayest man once... "Brad", limp-wristed, lisping "awright dawling, gis' a hug."

Married, with 2 kids. Openly gay, he just happened to be straight. "

Matron!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The great thing is that it doesn't matter. Unless you're inclined like the Orlando guy, people are free to be themselves. It's liberating.

I assume that the majority of guys on fab who dabble in some ways with other men don't have telltale signs.

Separate issue - did anyone see the Liberace film? Recommend it? I think he was gay.

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