FabSwingers.com forum: Bullies finally kill

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A girl from my eldests school committed suicide a couple of days ago She was 16 and was being bullied by a group of girls who said she was ugly and fat

I wonder how those girls are feeling now?

Going to go out of my way today to say something nice to everyone I chat too you never know what people are going through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is just unbelievable, at 16 no one should even have them thoughts in they head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids can be such wonderful, lovely things - they also have the potential to be venomous, vicious, relentlessly evil little fuckers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a dark day. Is it more prolific now than when we were kids? Or more vitriolic? Another young life cut short by the abuse of others. For shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been happening for years. I was unmercieslly bullied throughout Primary and Secondry school. I understand how bad it makes you feel.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

someone in my sons class a year ago killed himself because of exam stress. Its not a nice world out there for teenagers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A girl from my eldests school committed suicide a couple of days ago She was 16 and was being bullied by a group of girls who said she was ugly and fat

I wonder how those girls are feeling now?

Going to go out of my way today to say something nice to everyone I chat too you never know what people are going through "
i hope they are feeling really guilty and should be punished really,schools these days are not allowed to do any punishments anymore didn't do me any harm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scum they are, growing up I was bullied as was Mrs and really it's just soul deatorying. Girls are by far the worst and I don't know how some can just ignore it sometimes.

Paying good karma forward is a fantastic idea, Mrs did this awhile back and made a few people cry and give her hugs so making that one or two peoples day makes it so worth it.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Nasty evil people they were. Being bullied myself when at school for being different it is a horriblr place to be

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

That's frigging awful

Loathe bullies with a passion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How awful the poor girl must have been absolutely distraught to do that .really sad .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a dark day. Is it more prolific now than when we were kids? Or more vitriolic? Another young life cut short by the abuse of others. For shame. "

I put a lot of that down to social media sites, now they can get at they victims 24 hrs a day

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"This is a dark day. Is it more prolific now than when we were kids? Or more vitriolic? Another young life cut short by the abuse of others. For shame. "

I think so, the only time you could be bullied was at school or in the street before, now there is social media and mobile phones to let the bullies do their thing.

As much as the internet is a great invention, there is an obvious down side.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"A girl from my eldests school committed suicide a couple of days ago She was 16 and was being bullied by a group of girls who said she was ugly and fat

I wonder how those girls are feeling now?

Going to go out of my way today to say something nice to everyone I chat too you never know what people are going through "

How very very sad. My son has been bullied at school. He now has lots of support from the school and counselling.

It is dreadful that the school were unable to stamp this out. I actually feel sorry for the bullies. They will have the knowledge of what happened because of them for the rest of their lives.

My sympathy goes to the girls family.

Your comment of being kind to people, as you do not know what is going on in their lives is very true. This is the important bit of this post for me.

I hope your child is coping ok with what happened. Sending caring thoughts to your community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a dark day. Is it more prolific now than when we were kids? Or more vitriolic? Another young life cut short by the abuse of others. For shame.

I think so, the only time you could be bullied was at school or in the street before, now there is social media and mobile phones to let the bullies do their thing.

As much as the internet is a great invention, there is an obvious down side.

People are more likely to become bullies online aswell. Internet warriors or trolls. Because their face is hidden, they feel more detached

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

the leaders wont give a tuppeny toss they will just see the victim in this as weak and pathetic and they were right . the lieutenants will be feeling bad but wont show it for fear of being seen as weak the hangers on and acolytes will be bothered but hiding it as they dont want to be next .

and girls are the worst for bullying and humiliating others

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"A girl from my eldests school committed suicide a couple of days ago She was 16 and was being bullied by a group of girls who said she was ugly and fat

I wonder how those girls are feeling now?

Going to go out of my way today to say something nice to everyone I chat too you never know what people are going through i hope they are feeling really guilty and should be punished really,schools these days are not allowed to do any punishments anymore didn't do me any harm "

I think it's also about empowering children to see it, recognise it for what it is and have avenues for them to tell, at home or at school ....I agree that its hard for girls. I have been bullied by other parents when my daughter was at school, stopped in the street and shouted at. For various reasons I didn't respond. When the daughter of one of the girls 'bullied' my daughter online, she called the mum directly and told her she should be ashamed of herself .... I don't know where my daughter got the strength to do that, but it was hats off to her for it. Not something everyone can do. As parents we have to be on the look out for it all the time I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was bullied myself at school for being fat it went on for months and months,never told my parents and it was a lonely time ,but it stopped when i got the ring leader on her own,shame though as i had to become a bully myself to stop the bully ,as teachers didnt want to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's been happening for years. I was unmercieslly bullied throughout Primary and Secondry school. I understand how bad it makes you feel. "

Same, even carried on into adulthood. Bullies are nothing but scum, if I was anyone of those girls parents I would skull drag the little bitches round to the poor girls house and force them to let her parents give 'em both barrels.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

The scariest thing I find about bullying now, is the amount of bullying carried out over the Internet, via Facebook, Twitter etc.

I have been at the receiving end of it in a previous job. It left me extremely low, physically sick, unable to eat and not wanting to go into work.

Eventually I left, and though very stressed at times I am in a much better place with some lovely supportive friends.

It is so tragic that such young people take their own lives to get away from these bullies. Despite help being available, many do not seek help, they feel they are in the wrong, and therefore life is not worth living.

Tragic.....

Suzi xxxxx

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"It's been happening for years. I was unmercieslly bullied throughout Primary and Secondry school. I understand how bad it makes you feel. "

ME too. Affected my self esteem and confidence for many many years into adulthood because when you are told something enough times, you believe it to be true so the process of undoing those negative thought patterns about yourself can take a long time. It's akin to child abuse in any format but at the hands of the school bullies.

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By *ilthyjackcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Two years ago my best friends sistets son hung himself because he was being bullied.

He was eleven.

School's response? 'We do not have a bullying problem in our school'

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

My eldest daughter has been bullied at school recently they choice to solve it in their mind by taking my daughter out of her classes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is such a bad society for kids at the minute. Worst child poverty, social services lacking, rising needs for mental health support for teens, more diagnoses, obesity being so common, school have their own battles, and the beauty cycle that children are active within, parents aren't protecting enough at times, so much combines to create a tough world for a child.

Never just one thing, bullies 99 out of 100 times have their own issues and needs too. Prevention rather than cure is what I'm saying should be better.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Two years ago my best friends sistets son hung himself because he was being bullied.

He was eleven.

School's response? 'We do not have a bullying problem in our school'

That's to sad for words...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's terrible , school days should be the happiest days of your life

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

When my youngest daughter was 13, she bravely stood up for someone who was being relentlessly bullied at school. As a result the attention was turned on her and she was mercilessly bullied herself until she attempted suicide when she was 14. She couldn't face going to school after that and had a very limited education at home. This meant she couldn't do the courses she wanted to at college and consequently had to take whatever job she could.

The knock-on effects just magnified as provision for mental health is sketchy at best - she got zero help once she was no longer deemed a child.

She's now 20 and recently went seriously downhill to the point where she took 2 overdoses last week alone. She's been sectioned today for her own safety. I have watched my precious girl go from a vibrant, happy soul to a wretched, scarred, hollow individual over the course of 7 years - So yes - I fucking hate bullies with a passion.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"This is a dark day. Is it more prolific now than when we were kids? Or more vitriolic? Another young life cut short by the abuse of others. For shame. "

No. There is just much much more publicity.

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

Tragic and terrible although I do not see the system doing anything about this.

Without meaning to sound like a cliche,I also blame the parents of the bullies. It seems that parents of bullies have no idea when it comes to teaching the correct values of behaviour in society.

It may sound like a Victorian attitude but it has nothing to do with being single parents, nothing to do with social class or where you come from, nothing to do with political leaning, nothing to do with income level or need to claim benefits. It is nothing to do with trying to produce the clone of a saint.

It has everything to do with respect for yourself and respect for others.

I think that in many cases,it comes down to not spending enough time with offspring to impart these values.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

School was the most horrible time of my life and it's taken me until I am in my thirties to become the person I feel I should have always been.

I've never really understood the idea of forcing children into huge packs of other ferals with limited supervision for the majority of their formative years, it felt like a prison sentence for doing nothing wrong when I was a child, but with worse food than they serve in prison.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some sad stories

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was bullied all the way through school, primary and high.

I now take great pleasure in seeing those who were the bullying 'cool kids' with their shit dead end jobs and having been saddled with armies of kids since they were 19.

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By *heOwlMan
over a year ago

Altrincham

"This is a dark day. Is it more prolific now than when we were kids? Or more vitriolic? Another young life cut short by the abuse of others. For shame. "

Social media / internet have brought boarding school bullying to the masses. So whether it is more proliffic it is now relentless.

Lovely world!

Owl

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I used to get bullied at the all-boys secondary school I attended, so much so that I used to have weekly fantasies of a) killing myself, or b) coming into school with a knife and killing my bullies. It's only now I feel as if I've become the person I should have been at 18, although at times I still feel bitter.

Bullying is an absolutely awful phenomenon, and the advent of social media has amplified its effects. More needs to be done to educate young people of the effects of bullying, and reprimand repeat offenders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A girl from my eldests school committed suicide a couple of days ago She was 16 and was being bullied by a group of girls who said she was ugly and fat

I wonder how those girls are feeling now?

Going to go out of my way today to say something nice to everyone I chat too you never know what people are going through "

Thats so sad her family must be......iv no words

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By *heOwlMan
over a year ago

Altrincham

"I used to get bullied at the all-boys secondary school I attended, so much so that I used to have weekly fantasies of a) killing myself, or b) coming into school with a knife and killing my bullies. It's only now I feel as if I've become the person I should have been at 18, although at times I still feel bitter.

Yeah, know that one, though I never thought of option b. Was 15 when I left that school, the effects are still present.

So I can truely understand what some kids go through these days and fully agree nothing will change until kids are educated about the real effects of bullying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one of my sons started self harming aged 8 because he was being bullied at school. the school lied about it for a year and said nothing was happening and no bullying went on at that school, this was 8 years ago.

the head mistress of that school got sacked this year for bullying staff. just wanted to share some good news.

my son is ok now, he's had to go to a special school though for the past 8 yrs because he doesn't trust adults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son was being bullied in his home by his 30 something year old uncle, it started at 9 and lasted for four years, he was too scared to cause any trouble to speak out but it finally got too much for him and he went and spoke to his guidance teacher. The schools response was swift and impressive I must admit and now my boy is much happier in his life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When my youngest daughter was 13, she bravely stood up for someone who was being relentlessly bullied at school. As a result the attention was turned on her and she was mercilessly bullied herself until she attempted suicide when she was 14. She couldn't face going to school after that and had a very limited education at home. This meant she couldn't do the courses she wanted to at college and consequently had to take whatever job she could.

The knock-on effects just magnified as provision for mental health is sketchy at best - she got zero help once she was no longer deemed a child.

I cant begin to imagine what you are going through but im sure with the right help she will overcome

These demons and you will get your little girl back

Its very important to keep on at the staff in the unit shes in to get her treatment that starts immediately after release i know so many people who get sectioned then are released with a handfull of phone numbers and told to make appointments for themselves which then take 2 -4 weeks by which time they are back in again

I can get you info on help available if you hit a wall as i have a friend in mental health just pm me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The knock-on effects just magnified as provision for mental health is sketchy at best - she got zero help once she was no longer deemed a child.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

very sad.

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

My eldest was bullied at school wen she was around 12 or so.me and my ex went and saw head teacher about numerous times with no action being taken.sorted its self out eventually wen i got her to leather the ring leader.although the head wasnt to impressed wen we was called up the school and i informed her we wouldnt be punishing my daughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully they'll feel guilty for what they have done. So sad when someone is driven to suicide, especially at such a young age.

Parents need to do more too to monitor what their teens do online. Cyber bullying is on the increase and a lot of that is aimed at victims they don't even know.

Sarah

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