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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so....a date that never even happened is not going to happen.

chap knows i am on this site "he's not comfortable with it"...of course I would leave if anything was to develop....but as we haven't even reached first date status i don't think i am going to be making life changing decisions quite yet...ok, no probs...all good.

my ex is travelling 9 hours to come visit his kids and as such is staying for one night in the house he pays the mortgage on "i'm not comfortable with that....it doesn't bode well for our future"

now, is this needy or is this control?

i ask out of curiosity as...well, as you can imagine, the date is not going ahead and i ought to stick with what i know

being single rocks and is totally the way to stay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will you marry me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Will you marry me?"

yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

erm the ex in house i get y hes uncomfortable but i also get y u need to do that...plus b4 first date he has no right to ask

as for leaving site again until your official no chance..if he forces it now u may resent that and so it doesnt bode well

move on...find someone else...i freee

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"erm the ex in house i get y hes uncomfortable but i also get y u need to do that...plus b4 first date he has no right to ask

as for leaving site again until your official no chance..if he forces it now u may resent that and so it doesnt bode well

move on...find someone else...i freee "

IF i was in a relationship with someone then, yes, i can understand why it might not work having the ex over...

fact is, i don't need to stay here when my ex is...i made that clear.

i think unless date guy was paying my mortgage, he has no say over who stays here and my ex is my ex for a reason.

i'll come back for you once i've divorced carlos....k?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Will you marry me?

yes"

I'm looking for a cutie who's ex is paying the mortgage. Oh, & I love you also!

Will he he pay for my season ticket & give me beer money also? Did I tell you I love you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

carlos thats a bit desperate son

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"carlos thats a bit desperate son"

I know Dad

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

your single??

fooking mingle hun lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hahahahahah lovin it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"your single??

fooking mingle hun lol x"

whatdidyoujustcallme?!

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

i could call you a lot of things

but no one else would be in the room


"your single??

fooking mingle hun lol x

whatdidyoujustcallme?!

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i could call you a lot of things

but no one else would be in the room

your single??

fooking mingle hun lol x

whatdidyoujustcallme?!

"

so cruel....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

speechless

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

date guy dont have a say in anything you do at all and is showing noyhing but jealousy and possivness. but thing you can do is leave well alone. trust me. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More needy than control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am too independent to have time for any needy gents!

Better to be single than in a bad relationship I'd say!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am too independent to have time for any needy gents!

Better to be single than in a bad relationship I'd say! "

totally agree!

i dipped my toe and my ankle got wet...but that's all!

i was actually considering the impact of a relationship and got as far as losing control of the remote and experienced something akin to a panic attack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am too independent to have time for any needy gents!

Better to be single than in a bad relationship I'd say!

totally agree!

i dipped my toe and my ankle got wet...but that's all!

i was actually considering the impact of a relationship and got as far as losing control of the remote and experienced something akin to a panic attack"

crikey, I've never met a lass before who's only damp patch is on her ankle!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

i dipped my toe and my ankle got wet...but that's all!

i was actually considering the impact of a relationship and got as far as losing control of the remote and experienced something akin to a panic attack

crikey, I've never met a lass before who's only damp patch is on her ankle!! "

that, Sir, is a proud boast indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

i dipped my toe and my ankle got wet...but that's all!

i was actually considering the impact of a relationship and got as far as losing control of the remote and experienced something akin to a panic attack

crikey, I've never met a lass before who's only damp patch is on her ankle!!

that, Sir, is a proud boast indeed!"

Thank you kindly madam

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"so....a date that never even happened is not going to happen.

chap knows i am on this site "he's not comfortable with it"...of course I would leave if anything was to develop....but as we haven't even reached first date status i don't think i am going to be making life changing decisions quite yet...ok, no probs...all good.

my ex is travelling 9 hours to come visit his kids and as such is staying for one night in the house he pays the mortgage on "i'm not comfortable with that....it doesn't bode well for our future"

now, is this needy or is this control?

i ask out of curiosity as...well, as you can imagine, the date is not going ahead and i ought to stick with what i know

being single rocks and is totally the way to stay!"

Sorry, you have to tell me you love me and that I'm the greatest lover in the world before I can commit to answering your question...

On a serious note, neediness and controlling behaviour are often on an emotional spectrum. Love is often about neediness too- Eric Fromm said growing up is knowing the difference between 'I love love you because I need you' and 'I need you because I love you.'

Now I know sod all about you except this post, and sod all about the other person except this post, but I think you're more than sharp enough to have spotted a mismatch between your level of maturity and neediness and theirs....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knew I did something wrong when I left my husband: left him the house and contents but took the kids and started again from scratch! Damn and bugger!

Personally I wouldn't entertain any man trying to dictate anything to me: already have my daughter's doing that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally hate possessiveness, some visits to Chams havent been all that because of it

With yours though, i agree, its your house, your ex pays the mortgage, you decide who stays in it not your "not even a boyfriend"??? Plenty more fish in the sea so dump the tadpole

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay


"I personally hate possessiveness, some visits to Chams havent been all that because of it

With yours though, i agree, its your house, your ex pays the mortgage, you decide who stays in it not your "not even a boyfriend"??? Plenty more fish in the sea so dump the tadpole "

nods at grey x while checking out the booty lol x

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

*shudders*

I farking hate needy men who clearly have so many insecurities and a total inability to trust.

Bleurgh!

*remains single forever*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky escape I say, think he was preparing the ball and chain for you. I wouldn't dream of saying that before even a date, gods knows what it would be like after a relationship developed.

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