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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there a moment or more than one, good or bad, that changed the course of your life.

Mine was having someone close collapse with a heart attack in front of me. I kept their heart beating until the ambulance arrived. It terrified me and thankfully they were OK. it made a decision for me about what to do with my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hm. Not too many things in my life rested on a single moment. I guess the only one I can really think of was when my father died. I doubt I'd have considered leaving NY, never mind the US, had he still been alive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dying will do that to you.

Tried it three times - meh...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Embracing my bisexuality and never compromising or justifying it.

and I haven't looked back in the last 40 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im still waiting on one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hungover trip to the Forest of Dean; when I was 19.....

.....that led to me working in over 15 countries and travelling to 37 others....

.....that was the moment, all those years ago, stood on a cliff edge; with a harness and abseil line and saying, "whats the worst that can happen".......

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By *eccymanMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

Losing my virginity at the age of 14 to my older brother's ex girlfriend...before he did!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

When my daughter was born.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a gobby 19 year old who didn't have an ounce of respect for anyone and thought I could take the world on until I was mouthy too 3 lads and I was on my own and they decided to stab me and a little kicking made me realise I wasn't all that and made me grow up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't need any sympathy and not after any but when my daughter died i changed for the better surprisingly.

had already given up drinking as soon as i found out i was pregnant but pretty much stopped completely after that, despite being an alcoholic for years before then.

a spate of DV during a later pregnancy made me realise i should not tolerate asshole behaviour in my life and i cut that person dead kind of, i still used to help them out but i knew i didn't want to be emotionally attached to them and that stopped.

finding someone who truly loved me after that made it so i got rid of anyone toxic out of my life for good. i was lovable and finally knew it and anyone who didn't agree with that was gone. that person is still important to me and i would die for them.

got fooled by a covert abuser, so even after all the above i now about them. has made my a cynical bitch and i lost faith in all people for a while, even seemed to attract more knobheads around this time and that made me feel worse, but now i know the whole truth and have a few people i already trust and am finding more people i can trust i am getting that faith back and have even started doing things for myself that i never would have done before.

my life might sound shit from the above and i kind of do wish i hadn't had the shitty experiences, they seem to have made me into a better person, more genuine and real anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having my children. I'm not really the maternal type, never was one for getting clucky over babies/children (and I'm still not, when it comes to other's kids!) but I wouldn't be without them.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Is there a moment or more than one, good or bad, that changed the course of your life.

Mine was having someone close collapse with a heart attack in front of me. I kept their heart beating until the ambulance arrived. It terrified me and thankfully they were OK. it made a decision for me about what to do with my life."

That is truely amazing. You have my admiration xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"don't need any sympathy and not after any but when my daughter died i changed for the better surprisingly.

had already given up drinking as soon as i found out i was pregnant but pretty much stopped completely after that, despite being an alcoholic for years before then.

a spate of DV during a later pregnancy made me realise i should not tolerate asshole behaviour in my life and i cut that person dead kind of, i still used to help them out but i knew i didn't want to be emotionally attached to them and that stopped.

finding someone who truly loved me after that made it so i got rid of anyone toxic out of my life for good. i was lovable and finally knew it and anyone who didn't agree with that was gone. that person is still important to me and i would die for them.

got fooled by a covert abuser, so even after all the above i now about them. has made my a cynical bitch and i lost faith in all people for a while, even seemed to attract more knobheads around this time and that made me feel worse, but now i know the whole truth and have a few people i already trust and am finding more people i can trust i am getting that faith back and have even started doing things for myself that i never would have done before.

my life might sound shit from the above and i kind of do wish i hadn't had the shitty experiences, they seem to have made me into a better person, more genuine and real anyway."

You seem stronger through your style of posting right here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You seem stronger through your style of posting right here. "

this past few months i've realised a lot about myself. i'm getting back to the person i was before the last abuser and becoming who i really am, and it feels great.

actually a bit more is being sorted out since before i met him as well, so despite everything that's happened it's helped me to grow even more as a person. not sure if i'd be the same person without all the crap in my life but here i am dealing with stuff and it feels good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah not really life isn't a movie with some act 2 miraculous character change point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many, both up and down, but you live and learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got run over by a d*unk driver which in itself did change my life but not as much as the compo which let me travel the world 3 times then spend 3 months in the usa. now though I'm skint and know I'm missing out on the all the places I didn't get to!!! ahh happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being told my baby boy might have cancer and waiting a week for the all clear.

The worst and best moments all in one week

After getting the all clear I knew we would cope with anything that came our way due to the health problem he had and that kept me going through numerous trips to theatre

Now he is a teenager with the untidiest bedroom in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there a moment or more than one, good or bad, that changed the course of your life.

Mine was having someone close collapse with a heart attack in front of me. I kept their heart beating until the ambulance arrived. It terrified me and thankfully they were OK. it made a decision for me about what to do with my life."

I've never been the same since the day I realised how great I am - self confidence is an all round winner

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

plenty but they are mostly to do with death and loss, mine and other peoples.

using death as an adviser, they taught me how to be alive while living...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The moment my ex husband text me and said 'we need to talk' I knew then my life was going to change forever right then.

A year and a half on, I have a partner and relocating very soon but the past year and a half since he typed those words have been one of the darkest, most terrifying moments of my life and I never wish to repeat

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's all happened in the last two months, my friend was killed in a rtc leaving 3 children one was only weeks old with no mother. Then two days later my ex bf had a heart attack and died leaving 5 kids without a father.

It's made me realise what's important in life and what I want from life so in the past month I've put my house on the market and I'm going back up north and doing something I've always wanted giving a home and love to children such as my friends kids.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Yes it's all happened in the last two months, my friend was killed in a rtc leaving 3 children one was only weeks old with no mother. Then two days later my ex bf had a heart attack and died leaving 5 kids without a father.

It's made me realise what's important in life and what I want from life so in the past month I've put my house on the market and I'm going back up north and doing something I've always wanted giving a home and love to children such as my friends kids. "
im very sorry for your loss x ive lost three people from my inner circle in the past year. follow your heart..it wont lead you astray..hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughters birth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it's all happened in the last two months, my friend was killed in a rtc leaving 3 children one was only weeks old with no mother. Then two days later my ex bf had a heart attack and died leaving 5 kids without a father.

It's made me realise what's important in life and what I want from life so in the past month I've put my house on the market and I'm going back up north and doing something I've always wanted giving a home and love to children such as my friends kids. im very sorry for your loss x ive lost three people from my inner circle in the past year. follow your heart..it wont lead you astray..hugs xx"

Hugs back Suzy xxxxx if nothing it's made follow my heart. Since 'she' died a few things have happened that's now all making sense and as the saying goes 'everything happens for a reason'x

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I would like to tell of two.....

My sister got colon cancer. It was found from her tumour she has something called lynch syndrome - as her closest genetic match that has implications on me. In the same year my dad had a heartattack and had to be resuscitated.

After the above I decided to live life more as I wanted to.

I was ready for leaving my husband for the true love of my life who I'd been seeing for many years.

I later found he was not the man I thought, in actual fact he was a detestable lying creature who hurt me in ways only he and I truly know.

He lead me to attempt suicide and to a nervous breakdown and didn't give a shit that he took me to that point.

Its taken well over a year to get past - I've improved myself in a million ways since it all happened and I'm enjoying my life like I haven't done in years

Am I over it - I doubt I ever will be, but I'll never let anyone hurt me like that again. It's MY heart and I'm keeping it safe

(really is a night of confession for me this evening!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leaving my ex husband when no one ever thought I would. I remember standing in my hall and having an actual "holy shit" moment and knowing that my life was going to change for the better x

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London


"Is there a moment or more than one, good or bad, that changed the course of your life.

Mine was having someone close collapse with a heart attack in front of me. I kept their heart beating until the ambulance arrived. It terrified me and thankfully they were OK. it made a decision for me about what to do with my life."

Flying through a windscreen at 80mph and landing in a field 20ft away from the car, which was 20ft away from the road, upside down, with the roof ripped off....

My life took a turn for the weird after that!!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Meeting my real Dad at forty years old.

Thank you Mike and the Mechanics for spurring me to find him!

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners

think i had one of those moments today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stopped someone very close to me from dying from an overdose.

Very scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stopped someone very close to me from dying from an overdose.

Very scary"

And what did you do differntly from that day on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stopped someone very close to me from dying from an overdose.

Very scary

And what did you do differntly from that day on?"

Continually been there for said person. We're very close. She's my everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two things changed my life. The first was being adopted when I was just a baby. My late mum and dad were wonderful. I grew up on a farm just outside Winchester and had a fantastic childhood.

The second was joining the Army at 18. I remember getting on the train to Birmingham , both excited and slightly nervous. Luckily I enjoyed 12 good years of military life.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

My best friends death, another to add to the list here. And the end of my main relationship. I reestablished myself and what's important to me for my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being diagnosed with a terminal illness. On days like today, I'm losing the battle. Tomorrow I might well be on the up again.

I'm fucked as if I'm going to the grave just yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

apart from having the children i think there are 2 huge things - both not very good at the time but longterm had a positive effect - first was the ex actually losing the plot and getting violent with me and the kids - that was a real flick the switch moment that woke me up to what the hell had i been doing for 20 yrs - the second was losing a guy i loved - he wasnt perfect (who is) but he treated me right and made me realise im ok to look at and be with and managing to keep a grip on those thoughts most of the time have enabled me to change career and carry on here - and carry on i do

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

It wasn't a big major event in my life but when I got made redundant and was out of work for a few weeks I was watching a lot of chappy TV and happened upon the lovely jessie pavelka on 'obese: a year to save my life' where he trained a woman larger than myself to complete a triathlon.

I decided that day to download couch 2 5k on my phone as my sister had done it previously and found it really good. 9pm that night I went for my first 'run'.

It took me a few attempts at starting and not finishing to get there but I did. I started going to parkrun, joined a local running club and now have run a half marathon with 2 more penciled in this year.

I haven't yet completed a tri bit it's in my current 3 year plan but that show showed me it doesn't matter how fast you go, just that you go. In the 3 years since starting I have only had 1 notable bit of heckling. Everyone else has been supportive and encouraging and I have made so many new friends.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Interestingly the time I performed cpr on an old man who had had a heart attack whilst on hos bike had very little impact on me.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Being diagnosed with a terminal illness. On days like today, I'm losing the battle. Tomorrow I might well be on the up again.

I'm fucked as if I'm going to the grave just yet!"

That's the big kinda kahunas we could all use in those situations xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching my mum go through Alzheimers for 7 years and then dying, suffering depression because of it, then recovering and becoming a more loving, understanding, caring and stronger person because of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dealing simultaneously with ending my marriage, my mother's Alzheimer's diagnosis and my father's descent into alcoholism, let me know that I'm a pretty strong person, despite my ex-husband describing me as "insane and useless"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stopped someone very close to me from dying from an overdose.

Very scary

And what did you do differntly from that day on?

Continually been there for said person. We're very close. She's my everything. "

You didn't do that before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stopped someone very close to me from dying from an overdose.

Very scary

And what did you do differntly from that day on?

Continually been there for said person. We're very close. She's my everything.

You didn't do that before?"

She attempted the overdose when I was seventeen.

Ofc I did but it made me realise how much I loved her. Life was hard back then

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Telling my ex-husband to leave. He'd been my life for the best part of 20 yrs & we had 2 kids together. The sad thing is for 22 months until I filed for divorce I probably would have taken him back.

The lightbulb moment 2 weeks ago when the FB & I admitted we do love each other I never thought I'd find anyone that would love me again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Telling my ex-husband to leave. He'd been my life for the best part of 20 yrs & we had 2 kids together. The sad thing is for 22 months until I filed for divorce I probably would have taken him back.

The lightbulb moment 2 weeks ago when the FB & I admitted we do love each other I never thought I'd find anyone that would love me again. "

Awww that's nice. Been felling lately that love doesn't exist. U give me hope.

My other life defining moment was finding out my daughters dad had cheated on md for sit months with his nieces best friend

He then left me with a three year old and a falling to pieces house

. I learnt I was strong after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lovely thread. Life can be shit but it really is what we make of it.

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