FabSwingers.com forum: Desperation

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I sincerely hope this thread doesn't offend anyone but just wondering do men see us larger ladies as an easy target ie we should count ourselves lucky for the attention? Just asking after seeing a few comments and profile texts recently. Be nice to hear some honest _iews. (ps rejoined a gym today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sincerely hope this thread doesn't offend anyone but just wondering do men see us larger ladies as an easy target ie we should count ourselves lucky for the attention? Just asking after seeing a few comments and profile texts recently. Be nice to hear some honest _iews. (ps rejoined a gym today

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Not at all, lots of guys like "larger" ladies.

My friend I have known from early on in school only ever liked the larger ladies and he married a large woman. Skinny women never did do anything for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Not at all, lots of guys like "larger" ladies.

My friend I have known from early on in school only ever liked the larger ladies and he married a large woman. Skinny women never did do anything for him.

Anyway, just looked at your profile, your not large lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not all guys but some do-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the larger lady.

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

What size are you op?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm desperate....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like variety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm desperate...."

Go to the toilet then

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

There's an unspoken theory amongst guys that larger ladies get chatted up less and as such are more grateful for the attention.

Like most theories dreamed up in a boozer it's most probably utter bollocks

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'm desperate...."
....for a cup of coffee.

And then the toilet.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Not all guys but some do-"
yes I think this is true to an extent.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"Not all guys but some do- yes I think this is true to an extent. "

Things is some don't mind as long as they have the attention, whereas it makes other's overly cautious.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Honest answer yes.

I have several friends, who always go for the larger ladies and openly addmit its because its easier or less hastle.

But as stated, there are also guys who like gig girls.

So meh, have fun and enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No doubt some men think this, but as previous posters have said, there are plenty guys that genuinely love larger ladies. Myself, I like women of all sizes, if a woman is sexy, she is sexy no matter what her size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like ladies in general

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Ps: would never class op as large lady... large brests yes, but great figgre to go with them in pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've pretty much said this before elsewhere, but my personal opinion, and from my own experience, is that if I find that I am engaged by the charisma and personality of a lady, and I feel that they are as in to me too, then body shape doesn't factor in to it.

Just sayin'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Sadly I think sone men do, that's obvious by the fairly common threads on here

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By *horehouseprincessWoman
over a year ago

small town near Munich

Some guys seem to think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to go for anyone who smells like desperation, no matter their size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met and played with an extremely sexy guy at Kestrels on Sunday.

He was tall, slim and very good looking. He was very popular there and I'm pretty sure he could have played with any woman he wanted to, including ones who were a lot slimmer than I am but for some weird reason he was happy to play with me.

Whether he thought it was because I was less hassle or easier, I don't care because I pulled a hottie

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I tend to go for anyone who smells like desperation, no matter their size.

That's interesting. I was just about to post:

Desperation is *not* sexy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What size are you op? "

16 at moment and feeling big

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

Marilyn Monroe was a size 16. Don;t fret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of men think every woman on here is desperate just because we are on here !!!!!! You can normally tell the type they claim this is a sex site

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I met and played with an extremely sexy guy at Kestrels on Sunday.

Whether he thought it was because I was less hassle or easier, I don't care because I pulled a hottie

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

Marilyn Monroe was a size 16. Don;t fret"

Actually in today's dress size she'd be a 12 at most. But thanks though

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

Marilyn Monroe was a size 16. Don;t fret

Actually in today's dress size she'd be a 12 at most. But thanks though

Really?

There's inflation

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

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your 5ft 7 and size 16 even if some men thought big women where an easy target i doubt tbey would be messaging you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ps: would never class op as large lady... large brests yes, but great figgre to go with them in pics."

Hey that's very kind of you to say but let's just say I wouldn't post a side _iew photo at the moment

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

You are hot and pretty. Killer combination

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

Marilyn Monroe was a size 16. Don;t fret

Actually in today's dress size she'd be a 12 at most. But thanks though

Really?

There's inflation "

Yes dress size has changed dramatically since the 50s

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think a lot of men think every woman on here is desperate just because we are on here !!!!!! You can normally tell the type they claim this is a sex site

Lol

. You have a stunning figure x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxx"
i couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

your 5ft 7 and size 16 even if some men thought big women where an easy target i doubt tbey would be messaging you"
it's all relative though, the op looks attractive so I bet she generally plays with attractive men. I know some fellas who are conventionally attractive and if they can't get with a girl they want sometimes they will go with some they consider less attractive which may be bigger in size in their eyes. They even call them 'bankers' because they know they are pretty much guaranteed. So I imagine if they get turned down by a so called 'banker' they would not be happy. I know this isn't nice but it's true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to go for anyone who smells like desperation, no matter their size.

That's interesting. I was just about to post:

Desperation is *not* sexy. "

I don't know, that sexy scent of desperation can be quite the turn on.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I tend to go for anyone who smells like desperation, no matter their size.

That's interesting. I was just about to post:

Desperation is *not* sexy.

I don't know, that sexy scent of desperation can be quite the turn on."

Whatever floats your boat...

Cuppa tea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to go for anyone who smells like desperation, no matter their size.

That's interesting. I was just about to post:

Desperation is *not* sexy.

I don't know, that sexy scent of desperation can be quite the turn on.

Whatever floats your boat...

Cuppa tea?

Just working in my wheelhouse.

I'd love one thanks.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I tend to go for anyone who smells like desperation, no matter their size.

That's interesting. I was just about to post:

Desperation is *not* sexy.

I don't know, that sexy scent of desperation can be quite the turn on.

Whatever floats your boat...

Cuppa tea?

Just working in my wheelhouse.

I'd love one thanks."

What are you, a hamster now?

How do you take it? I'm going to guess... milk n' 2

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

If someone offered me a pity shag thinking I was desperate they'd get a piece of my mind and blocked faster than they could blink!

If I thought they turned to me through desperation then likewise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are you, a hamster now?

How do you take it? I'm going to guess... milk n' 2"

I'm not that small and cute. That's the dream though.

Good guess... Have I mentioned that before?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Everyone has different opinions. My wife is a size 14 with 34ff tits. That's big to some folk but for me she's spot on. It's all about individuals but what I will say is that OP, you look amazing and I'm sure as hell that you are not a pity shag. I'd be over the moon meeting someone like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I think some men (not all!) see any woman on here as an easy target..

a small minority seem to look on single women here with pity and feel as though they are doing us a huge favour by even chatting to us, never mind agreeing to meet us for a fuck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

your 5ft 7 and size 16 even if some men thought big women where an easy target i doubt tbey would be messaging you it's all relative though, the op looks attractive so I bet she generally plays with attractive men. I know some fellas who are conventionally attractive and if they can't get with a girl they want sometimes they will go with some they consider less attractive which may be bigger in size in their eyes. They even call them 'bankers' because they know they are pretty much guaranteed. So I imagine if they get turned down by a so called 'banker' they would not be happy. I know this isn't nice but it's true."

are you sure you didn't mis spell banker?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I personally prefer a fuller figured lady. Miss is a size 16 with 38e boobs which I find hugelt attractive. (Obviously lol). Jack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

I'm a size 16 and I feel beautiful.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

are you sure you didn't mis spell banker?

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ball breaking me again hey

no i don't think so and i was referring to the ops profile before not in forum spelling completely different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bigger the girl - better the breakfast!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone offered me a pity shag thinking I was desperate they'd get a piece of my mind and blocked faster than they could blink!

If I thought they turned to me through desperation then likewise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Men are just pigs. We will say what we think any woman wants to hear just to get sex... Here or fab and in real life... The only way to know if a guy truly likes you is the way he behaves after he has gotten sex....

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

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ssshhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I just enjoy the company of women that are good company. I have to find them attractive (as I am positive that they have to find the men they meet attractive) but this isn't based on size.

There has to be a mental connection, a sense of humour, my definition of pretty or attractive (everyone's is different I imagine). So when someone messages me; I tend not to be concerned with size, but how they present themselves in both their profile and pictures. Are they confident without being arrogant? Do they have that "something" which I look for? (can't quite define that better), are they engaging?

So I don't think a person's size is as important as the person.... (same goes for age, height, colour etc.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Never a truer word spoken!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

Marilyn Monroe was a size 16. Don;t fret

Actually in today's dress size she'd be a 12 at most. But thanks though

Really?

There's inflation "

That's more her bra size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fellas that do such things are not the type id call men just worthless pieces of s**t i think the op is stunning and worth alot more than the scum that give abuse to women and think that the sites pureley for sex i have made great friends all sizes and the scum that do abuse women and think that they can offer a pity shag are the worst form on here xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a size 16 and I feel beautiful."

This is the key. Any women who feels beautiful will exude that confidence and is less likely to be seen as an easy target by anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you need to worry op. You have the right attributes to go with a size 16 figure. Being a size 16 with little boobage sucks to be honest....but i think it's just natural for guys, and let's face it women too, to go for the easier target. And yes, larger people are seen that way by many because we don't fit society's ideal stereotype for beautiful people. Just like those that aren't traditional beautiful. How often do we see threads about being out of someone's league? Most people are well aware of where they feature in comparison to society's ideal attractive person. And large ain't it no matter what we read on here. I'm not saying that this is how everyone is, but a generalisation based on what we see in the media.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a size 16 and I feel beautiful.

This is the key. Any women who feels beautiful will exude that confidence and is less likely to be seen as an easy target by anyone."

thank you babe. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bigger the girl - better the breakfast!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Should you consider yourselves lucky for the attention?? NO ABSOLUTELY NOT. You are a woman as good as any other and no-one has any right to tell you otherwise. Deep down inside every woman has the right to be liked and loved for WHO they are, not what size clothes they wear xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's an unspoken theory amongst guys that larger ladies get chatted up less and as such are more grateful for the attention.

Like most theories dreamed up in a boozer it's most probably utter bollocks"

Amen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say the larger ladies get more attention

Guys loves curves

It's that simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of men think every woman on here is desperate just because we are on here !!!!!! You can normally tell the type they claim this is a sex site

Lol

. You have a stunning figure x"
thank you but so do you !!! And you are very pretty to X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fellas that do such things are not the type id call men just worthless pieces of s**t i think the op is stunning and worth alot more than the scum that give abuse to women and think that the sites pureley for sex i have made great friends all sizes and the scum that do abuse women and think that they can offer a pity shag are the worst form on here xxx "

Pretty much this... if a man is going to take advantage of a woman it will be due to a perceived lack of confidence whether this is due to size or one of a hundred other things is moot. Some men looked for a perceived "weakness" and take advantage of it.

Thankfully most of the people on fab that have been here for a while can spot this.... but I always see the new members filling up their friends list quickly with men that have been accused (via status messages, word of mouth etc.) of this.

I think we all have to protect ourselves against people that could abuse trust or pay lipservice to our preferences.

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

OP - if you've joined a gym for the social contact as well as the health benefits that's great but you don't have to join a gym for appearance enhancement unless you (and only you) feel uncomfortable about something. From what I've seen of your pics you are all woman and very appealing (to me anyway).

I don't think men who like a larger lady is desperate so take it as a compliment (you look great).

I don't have a particular type physically as I think it's more about personality, chemistry and gelling!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Op, you are in no way a larger lady. You are in fact the UK average size. You have large boobs granted of which I'm just a tad jel!!

. I have had comments from guys myself saying I should be grateful they would want to fuck me!! I'm a larger woman. A size 22/24. Short arse to go with it!! I've got to the point where I'm slightly put off meeting because of my size! I've become overly cautious. How do I know if they like me or is it just cos they're gonna get a fuck?

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By *affy72Woman
over a year ago

Herefordshire

"Men are just pigs. We will say what we think any woman wants to hear just to get sex... Here or fab and in real life... The only way to know if a guy truly likes you is the way he behaves after he has gotten sex....

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Sadly, I think this is the truth of the matter. Not all men are like that, but the majority seem to be.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Skinny, slim, above average and fat. I have never had trouble getting men. I am far from desperate ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Any man should consider himself lucky to meet a beautiful, intelligent Lady like yourself.

Welcome back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP. For what it's worth I'll add my two penneth.

While I'm sure that many men do behave this way being driven by the smaller head, it should no way be indicative of all men.

Following a brief perusal of your profile pictures, you were not what I was expecting.

Large? No.

Real woman? Absolutely!!

Curves in all the right places.

Don't let social convention or some small Minded shallow miscreants make you feel less than you are.

You're lovely.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Beautiful figure op x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not all guys but some do-"

As succinct and true as you'll get.

I think most guys like curves though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certianly don't. I find larger ladies more atrractive.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Good for you....I hope you enjoy. I'm a gym bunny myself having too much flab om y hips.and thighs as well as a slight jelly belly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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Op, you are in no way a larger lady. You are in fact the UK average size. You have large boobs granted of which I'm just a tad jel!!

Thanks hunny and it's all relative I suppose. That's how I feel sometimes like I'm good enough for a quick fuck but nothing else. It's like a double edged sword.

As for the comments regarding me being on hot photos I'm only probably on there for novelty value, big breasts. I don't take it seriously.

Thanks for all the comments. Quite interesting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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Good for you....I hope you enjoy. I'm a gym bunny myself having too much flab om y hips.and thighs as well as a slight jelly belly"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobody should be treated as a easy target no matter who you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Oh I wondered what you would have to add. Negativity as usual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Oh I wondered what you would have to add. Negativity as usual.

Where am I being negative?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now"

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Oh I wondered what you would have to add. Negativity as usual.

Where am I being negative?"

No you hunny.

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

Op these men are the ones that come in the bbw threads and slate smaller girls, go to a smaller girls thread and tell them they have the hottest body they've ever seen etc etc

It's them who are the desperate ones not the ladies of any size on here

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

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sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

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do I detect a hint of jealousy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

Would you like a big spoon? I can get admin to make you a spoon emoji if you like?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

Would you like a big spoon? I can get admin to make you a spoon emoji if you like?"
haha your not verified told you already people don't think your opinion is valid

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op these men are the ones that come in the bbw threads and slate smaller girls, go to a smaller girls thread and tell them they have the hottest body they've ever seen etc etc

It's them who are the desperate ones not the ladies of any size on here"

I've seen that hunny and think it's just nasty to make anyone feel inferior no matter what size they are. I fab loads of pics on here, some petite ladies and some bigger lasses like myself. All different.

The reason for posting this thread was because just recently I've noticed a fair few comments regarding the bigger ladies on here and just thought I'd see what everyone else who cared to comment thought.

As usual the small minority of negative snide comments have emerged but I wouldn't expect anything better from some people, so predictable and sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

What diamond is saying is op has nothing to worry about as she is always in hot pics in fact today she is on pg1 so her fears are unfounded.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Short answer, no, not an easy target.

Personality, sense of humour and fun are really attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men see larger women as an easy lay.

Some men see all women as an easy lay.

Some men just really do fancy larger women. I meet those.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

"
jealous of what?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Some men see larger women as an easy lay.

Some men see all women as an easy lay.

Some men just really do fancy larger women. I meet those.

Also we're all just people, most of us are just trying to get along with each other in the best way we can.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

Well sorry you seem to think that but as I said I think the only reason I get on hot photos is because I have bigger than average breasts. My original point was a genuine enquiry after reading comments recently and being messaged by someone who would apparently prefer a fit 25yr old but seeing as that wasn't likely decided I seemed like a viable option

. I just wanted to see if my fellow forumites ever felt the same. So I'm sorry you think that I'm not allowed to ask questions like that but you don't really know my experience on here do you? Thanks for replying though.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

jealous of what? "
well like I said before it's all relative you obviously don't understand that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some men see larger women as an easy lay.

Some men see all women as an easy lay.

Some men just really do fancy larger women. I meet those.

As usual the voice of reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Id say, having talked to guys on here and in the "real world" "yes" is the answer.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

some will, some won't.

as for desperation, there are examples galore of desperation coming from all shapes and sizes, male female & couples.

For meets, for attention, for love, for affection and so on.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

jealous of what? well like I said before it's all relative you obviously don't understand that.

"
what has understanding got to do with jealousy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"some will, some won't.

as for desperation, there are examples galore of desperation coming from all shapes and sizes, male female & couples.

For meets, for attention, for love, for affection and so on.

Hello, not seen you around for a while

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"some will, some won't.

as for desperation, there are examples galore of desperation coming from all shapes and sizes, male female & couples.

For meets, for attention, for love, for affection and so on.

Hello, not seen you around for a while

I have been resting

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

jealous of what? well like I said before it's all relative you obviously don't understand that.

what has understanding got to do with jealousy"
well the fact your bringing up about the op being in the hot photos and making it out as if she couldn't possibly feel this way but it is not the case obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bigger the girl - better the breakfast!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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Pretty sure that some guys will think that but I'm guessing that larger ladies will still get inundated on here so can still do the picking and choosing.

I think it's more in a nightclub situation where some knob head after a few pints will think a larger lady is a easy target for him and his swollen head

Most guys I would hope would be pretty genuine

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Not all guys but some do- yes I think this is true to an extent. "

It's impossible for it not to be true.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

I think it's pretty shitty that I doubt most men who approach me, thinking there is an ulterior motive and they can't possibly fancy me due to manyany years of hearing men and women laugh about the bigger girl etc etc.

I guess you could argue why nput yourself in that position when you could just lose weight....not as easy as that really. (Though im sure someone will argue this) but why is that OK. Why, because of the way someone looks shouldn't the be allowed to think someone wants them for them and not because it's fuck a fatty night. ..etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a gorgeous guy last night,tall handsome and a great personality,and i am meeting him again ,so its really each to their own ,i will lose weight if i feel i need to ,but wont just so i can be attractive to guys who dont like big UN's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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First, you're gorgeous--curves and all. Any putz who can't see that is not worth your time.

Second..

There's always going to be certain number of assholes in the world, and that's just a fact of life.

Any guy worth his salt does not approach a lady as his fallback. "I don't think I can do any better so I'll settle". That's Bullshit. If you feel that bad about a lady, shell figure it out, so don't bother. And if you (as a guy) feel your prospects are that minimal, maybe you should sit out for a bit, make some personal growth, until you can get control of your self-esteem.

Just my opinion. You can't share a half empty cup.

I know it happens but it shouldn't. Never settle. I happen to love curvy ladies. Top of my list actually.

If you go to the gym, go for yourself. To live longer, better, whatever goal you set. Not because it'll change other people's _iew of you--because it'll change your _iew of yourself. Your motivation should be for you, or you're not going to get your money's worth.

What the trainer's and workout gurus don't tell us i s that sex gets better when you're more fit. You breath better, more strength, endurance, better nerve response, better joint geometry, more testosterone --even for the ladies.(orgasms don't happen without T)

Imagine that marketing campaign;"Come to the gym you'll fook better". Yeah...doubt you'll see that on a billboard.

Getting down off my soapbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr G really does like a bit of a tummy on a lady, it's one of his favourite parts of the body. If we are out, larger ladies will get his attention. Now maybe he's not the norm but he's not the only one who likes larger ladies.

When arranging meets, we make it very clear, I'm a larger lady. Never feel like we are desperate or those that meet us, see me as being desperate.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

jealous of what? well like I said before it's all relative you obviously don't understand that.

what has understanding got to do with jealousy well the fact your bringing up about the op being in the hot photos and making it out as if she couldn't possibly feel this way but it is not the case obviously."
no its a case of how we percieve ourselves and if the op is in the hot pics (that could be confirmation) i dont know why she would feel different asking.as there is more chance of negative replies and someone who thinks they.are big isnt going to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I salute you Sir Tedster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has it ever occurred to anyone that it could be the woman using the man to get a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I salute you Sir Tedster

Cheeky by name, cheeky by nature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I think a lot do yes

I've had some really nasty messages from guys because I've turned them down, some are genuinely shocked that I feel I have the rights to turn them down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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Id say, having talked to guys on here and in the "real world" "yes" is the answer. "

Well thankfully not all guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has it ever occurred to anyone that it could be the woman using the man to get a shag?

I rather think that is the case more often than not Ma'am!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

Would you like a big spoon? I can get admin to make you a spoon emoji if you like? haha your not verified told you already people don't think your opinion is valid

If I only had 26 meets in over a year, I wouldn't be bragging about it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has it ever occurred to anyone that it could be the woman using the man to get a shag?

*curtsys*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I think a lot do yes

I've had some really nasty messages from guys because I've turned them down, some are genuinely shocked that I feel I have the rights to turn them down "

Do you think though they would have still been nasty whatever the recipients size? I have a feeling they would if that is their mindset anyway.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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I think a lot do yes

I've had some really nasty messages from guys because I've turned them down, some are genuinely shocked that I feel I have the rights to turn them down "

Had that happen

. Nice photos btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

Marilyn Monroe was a size 16. Don;t fret"

Have you never seen Marilyn Monroe

Google her, how the heck is she a size 16

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has it ever occurred to anyone that it could be the woman using the man to get a shag?

I'd never do that.

Sarah

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

jealous of what? well like I said before it's all relative you obviously don't understand that.

what has understanding got to do with jealousy well the fact your bringing up about the op being in the hot photos and making it out as if she couldn't possibly feel this way but it is not the case obviously.no its a case of how we percieve ourselves and if the op is in the hot pics (that could be confirmation) i dont know why she would feel different asking.as there is more chance of negative replies and someone who thinks they.are big isnt going to help"
no you still don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Us larger ladies' ?

I wouldn't describe you as larger

Buxom and fuller figured is a better description imho

(btw, no white knighting, just a genuine comment)

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"'Us larger ladies' ?

I wouldn't describe you as larger

Buxom and fuller figured is a better description imho

(btw, no white knighting, just a genuine comment)"

I read that as knitting.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

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After looking at your pictures your not large your in proportion and exceedingly sexy.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

Would you like a big spoon? I can get admin to make you a spoon emoji if you like? haha your not verified told you already people don't think your opinion is valid

If I only had 26 meets in over a year, I wouldn't be bragging about it....

"
no I just hope people can see from veris I'm a nice guy. I actually broke my back and pelvis in march last year and was out of the game for a while met a lot more at clubs who aren't on here aswell. They are proof though, you have zero proof you might not have had any meets in the last year which looks most likely

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"What size are you op?

16 at moment and feeling big

Marilyn Monroe was a size 16. Don;t fret

Have you never seen Marilyn Monroe

Google her, how the heck is she a size 16

She was 36,26,36 an American size 16 which is a UK 12 I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In answer to your question, larger women are not easier targets.

There is no reason for them to be.

We are all unique.

Saints and sinners come in all shapes and sizes

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

the comment: men are just pigs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My response to this topic is quite simple; if you set yourself up to be a "victim", you will be an easy "target" if you (not the op just a general YOU), feel you aren't good enough for someone or only get attention because people are desperate is an issue YOU have, not the people contacting you.

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

). Fab can harden one a little, we have all heard enough compliments in our time/s on here, and we know in our hearts that some of them are fibs, however people do and can give genuine compliments; how we take those is based on how cynical or disenchanted we have become.

Believing the worst about people, or yourself, is never a good thing. Personally I have had mainly positive encounters through fab, people have treated me with respect and vice-versa (that's meets, not the forums.........) Some of them may have lied to to me about how "gorgeous" I really am, but thats swinging; passion and desire, electricity..........but just for a moment; and its those moments that I enjoy; I know to a greater or lesser degree that I am being "used", but I set my profile up, I know these facts, no one forces me into being used...... I do it willingly and with unfettered vision.

We have all been washed in soft-soap and covered in ego-kisses; but in the main, we are intelligent enough to know this and take it with just the slightest pinch of salt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op i think you look great!!

Some may think they are doing larger ladies a favour on here but they are pretty easy to spot. They want to meet before they have even seen your face.

Some geuinely like it or arent bothered by it. In day to day life culturely we are told slim is more attractive. But we accept faces are personal attraction,well so can bodies be too.

Dont lose weight for men loose it for yourself if it would make you happier and healthier .xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

Would you like a big spoon? I can get admin to make you a spoon emoji if you like? haha your not verified told you already people don't think your opinion is valid

If I only had 26 meets in over a year, I wouldn't be bragging about it....

no I just hope people can see from veris I'm a nice guy. I actually broke my back and pelvis in march last year and was out of the game for a while met a lot more at clubs who aren't on here aswell. They are proof though, you have zero proof you might not have had any meets in the last year which looks most likely

You constant personal attacks bore me to be frank..... but if you wish to garner favour by belittling my unverified status, then please do, anything I can do, to help a fellow jabber get meets is all good for me......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as the sex is good I'm not bothered why someone messages me

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"My response to this topic is quite simple; if you set yourself up to be a "victim", you will be an easy "target" if you (not the op just a general YOU), feel you aren't good enough for someone or only get attention because people are desperate is an issue YOU have, not the people contacting you.

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

We have all been washed in soft-soap and covered in ego-kisses; but in the main, we are intelligent enough to know this and take it with just the slightest pinch of salt"
yeah yeah, what I wanna know is what's up with just a social veri they aren't notches could show what an 'amazing great swinger' you really are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

We have all been washed in soft-soap and covered in ego-kisses; but in the main, we are intelligent enough to know this and take it with just the slightest pinch of salt yeah yeah, what I wanna know is what's up with just a social veri they aren't notches could show what an 'amazing great swinger' you really are

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am?

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"Has it ever occurred to anyone that it could be the woman using the man to get a shag?

Ooooh now there's an idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Hunni if ur large I'm mahoosive lol

I feel the same way though! I'm not desperate

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am?"
something you can't answer wow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say larger women are easier lays or easier targets etc.

But what I would say is if you have low self esteem because of your weight then you may unwittingly be seen as easy prey so to speak?

But low self esteem and vulnerability for any personal reasons will usually be picked up on by certain people who wish to exploit your vulnerabilities for their own gain.

It's people's vulnerabilities some people prey on and not necessarily because of the persons weight or attractiveness etc.

Work on your own self worth and self esteem thats the key.

Just my personal _iew on this for what it's worth .

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By *illnatMan
over a year ago

wherever i need to be

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Hi, I've seen your profile.... And without meaning to seem creepy (apologies in advance if that is the case

) but I wouldn't class you as large. Your look absolutely gorgeous.

I'm no skinny bugger myself and as long as you are comfortable in your own skin and the smile on your face seems to say you are then what's the problem?

I'm a work in progress but I'll never ever be stick thin. It's all genetics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think you have much to worry about op given that your always on the first few pages of hot pics.

xxxi couldnt understand the thread maybe i can now

Can you be more specific in what you mean by that comment? Thanks

sure, your an average sized woman, you have confirmation some find you attractive.(being in hot.photos) but you still think some guys only want.to.shag you.because.they think your.an.easy.lay

do I detect a hint of jealousy

Would you like a big spoon? I can get admin to make you a spoon emoji if you like? haha your not verified told you already people don't think your opinion is valid

If I only had 26 meets in over a year, I wouldn't be bragging about it....

To be totally honest some of the nicest and most reliable meets I have had have been from unverified guys i find when guys have a few verification under their belt they can get a bit cocky, most of the guys who cancel on me have been verified and they seem to think by keep mailing you telling you to read their verifications should get them a meet

Being unverified means bugger all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not all guys but some do- yes I think this is true to an extent.

It's impossible for it not to be true. "
ah Granny, the voice of logic! I think you are almost unique.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

We have all been washed in soft-soap and covered in ego-kisses; but in the main, we are intelligent enough to know this and take it with just the slightest pinch of salt"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Meet him for a brew and verify him then if it's that important to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op i think you look great!!

Some may think they are doing larger ladies a favour on here but they are pretty easy to spot. They want to meet before they have even seen your face.

Some geuinely like it or arent bothered by it. In day to day life culturely we are told slim is more attractive. But we accept faces are personal attraction,well so can bodies be too.

Dont lose weight for men loose it for yourself if it would make you happier and healthier .xx"

Thanks hunny very kind of you to say. Yes I'm losing weight for myself. Getting on a bit and feel I should get my arse into gear. Very nice photos yourself.

I think from what I've read is that I should read between the lines but try not to be too cynical.

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over a year ago

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow! "

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over a year ago

"Op i think you look great!!

Some may think they are doing larger ladies a favour on here but they are pretty easy to spot. They want to meet before they have even seen your face.

Some geuinely like it or arent bothered by it. In day to day life culturely we are told slim is more attractive. But we accept faces are personal attraction,well so can bodies be too.

Dont lose weight for men loose it for yourself if it would make you happier and healthier .xx

Thanks hunny very kind of you to say. Yes I'm losing weight for myself. Getting on a bit and feel I should get my arse into gear. Very nice photos yourself.

I think from what I've read is that I should read between the lines but try not to be too cynical.

It's easy to be cynical on here

Some men feed us that much bull shit to get a meet its hard to figure out who likes you and who will make do with you sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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Hunni if ur large I'm mahoosive lol

I feel the same way though! I'm not desperate "

Looking very pert to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say larger women are easier lays or easier targets etc.

But what I would say is if you have low self esteem because of your weight then you may unwittingly be seen as easy prey so to speak?

But low self esteem and vulnerability for any personal reasons will usually be picked up on by certain people who wish to exploit your vulnerabilities for their own gain.

It's people's vulnerabilities some people prey on and not necessarily because of the persons weight or attractiveness etc.

Work on your own self worth and self esteem thats the key.

Just my personal _iew on this for what it's worth .

Extremely well put.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I wouldn't say larger women are easier lays or easier targets etc.

But what I would say is if you have low self esteem because of your weight then you may unwittingly be seen as easy prey so to speak?

But low self esteem and vulnerability for any personal reasons will usually be picked up on by certain people who wish to exploit your vulnerabilities for their own gain.

It's people's vulnerabilities some people prey on and not necessarily because of the persons weight or attractiveness etc.

Work on your own self worth and self esteem thats the key.

Just my personal _iew on this for what it's worth .

great post....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say larger women are easier lays or easier targets etc.

But what I would say is if you have low self esteem because of your weight then you may unwittingly be seen as easy prey so to speak?

But low self esteem and vulnerability for any personal reasons will usually be picked up on by certain people who wish to exploit your vulnerabilities for their own gain.

It's people's vulnerabilities some people prey on and not necessarily because of the persons weight or attractiveness etc.

Work on your own self worth and self esteem thats the key.

Just my personal _iew on this for what it's worth .

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow!

Seriously; you wish to derail this thread and turn it into, why isn't Pauly verified, and why won't he say why he isn't verified? Seems you have an issue with me, I am sorry to read that.... but I will try not to let it worry me too much. I don't have to explain myself to you, my unverified status does not affect you, though it seems to annoy you, I can't truly understand why, but I don't claim I understand everyone. When I give an opinion, it is just that, my opinion, and I don't feel the need to launch an attack on someone else... regardless of their awesomeness....."
I don't have a problem you just got caught in the crossfire off another thread. I can see why people giving opinions on things when they are deemed to have no experience of being frustrating though. The way you have taken it though makes me believe I am right though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I would never see anyone as an easy target. I absolutely adore larger ladies x

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over a year ago

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow!

Seriously; you wish to derail this thread and turn it into, why isn't Pauly verified, and why won't he say why he isn't verified? Seems you have an issue with me, I am sorry to read that.... but I will try not to let it worry me too much. I don't have to explain myself to you, my unverified status does not affect you, though it seems to annoy you, I can't truly understand why, but I don't claim I understand everyone. When I give an opinion, it is just that, my opinion, and I don't feel the need to launch an attack on someone else... regardless of their awesomeness..... I don't have a problem you just got caught in the crossfire off another thread. I can see why people giving opinions on things when they are deemed to have no experience of being frustrating though. The way you have taken it though makes me believe I am right though. "

Well if you think you are right, you must be right. Congratulations, you have belittled another member on this forum and won the internet... all because of a white tick in a green circle, hats off chap, I concede, you are so very much more experienced/genuine/better than me...

Is that okay?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think some guys _iew anyone as an easy target - don't think it relates to size exclusively

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow!

Seriously; you wish to derail this thread and turn it into, why isn't Pauly verified, and why won't he say why he isn't verified? Seems you have an issue with me, I am sorry to read that.... but I will try not to let it worry me too much. I don't have to explain myself to you, my unverified status does not affect you, though it seems to annoy you, I can't truly understand why, but I don't claim I understand everyone. When I give an opinion, it is just that, my opinion, and I don't feel the need to launch an attack on someone else... regardless of their awesomeness..... I don't have a problem you just got caught in the crossfire off another thread. I can see why people giving opinions on things when they are deemed to have no experience of being frustrating though. The way you have taken it though makes me believe I am right though.

Is that okay?"
happy days

you still didn't answer about the social veri though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow!

Seriously; you wish to derail this thread and turn it into, why isn't Pauly verified, and why won't he say why he isn't verified? Seems you have an issue with me, I am sorry to read that.... but I will try not to let it worry me too much. I don't have to explain myself to you, my unverified status does not affect you, though it seems to annoy you, I can't truly understand why, but I don't claim I understand everyone. When I give an opinion, it is just that, my opinion, and I don't feel the need to launch an attack on someone else... regardless of their awesomeness..... I don't have a problem you just got caught in the crossfire off another thread. I can see why people giving opinions on things when they are deemed to have no experience of being frustrating though. The way you have taken it though makes me believe I am right though. "

This is completely off topic, if you both have a problem with each other, just ignore each other. Stop arguing on other threads. It's just not necessary.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op these men are the ones that come in the bbw threads and slate smaller girls, go to a smaller girls thread and tell them they have the hottest body they've ever seen etc etc

It's them who are the desperate ones not the ladies of any size on here"

Those are the white knights, they come out in these threads like its a reunion

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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speak for yourself, just because you might treat women like that, doesn't mean all men do..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op these men are the ones that come in the bbw threads and slate smaller girls, go to a smaller girls thread and tell them they have the hottest body they've ever seen etc etc

It's them who are the desperate ones not the ladies of any size on here

Those are the white knights, they come out in these threads like its a reunion

*goes to get a massive sack of carrots*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow!

Seriously; you wish to derail this thread and turn it into, why isn't Pauly verified, and why won't he say why he isn't verified? Seems you have an issue with me, I am sorry to read that.... but I will try not to let it worry me too much. I don't have to explain myself to you, my unverified status does not affect you, though it seems to annoy you, I can't truly understand why, but I don't claim I understand everyone. When I give an opinion, it is just that, my opinion, and I don't feel the need to launch an attack on someone else... regardless of their awesomeness..... I don't have a problem you just got caught in the crossfire off another thread. I can see why people giving opinions on things when they are deemed to have no experience of being frustrating though. The way you have taken it though makes me believe I am right though.

Is that okay? happy days

you still didn't answer about the social veri though?"

If you have to rely on your veris rather than yourself to get meets, then it doesn't say much about you in my opinion

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow!

Seriously; you wish to derail this thread and turn it into, why isn't Pauly verified, and why won't he say why he isn't verified? Seems you have an issue with me, I am sorry to read that.... but I will try not to let it worry me too much. I don't have to explain myself to you, my unverified status does not affect you, though it seems to annoy you, I can't truly understand why, but I don't claim I understand everyone. When I give an opinion, it is just that, my opinion, and I don't feel the need to launch an attack on someone else... regardless of their awesomeness..... I don't have a problem you just got caught in the crossfire off another thread. I can see why people giving opinions on things when they are deemed to have no experience of being frustrating though. The way you have taken it though makes me believe I am right though.

Is that okay? happy days

you still didn't answer about the social veri though?

If you have to rely on your veris rather than yourself to get meets, then it doesn't say much about you in my opinion

"
I don't have to don't be so silly, my veris just confirm that's all and show proof. Very Cliquey these forums though you hurt 1 the calvary comes running, they need shaking up a bit an I don't mind doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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speak for yourself, just because you might treat women like that, doesn't mean all men do.."

Warning : sarcasm ... read between the lines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I formerly apologise to the OP for your thread becoming derailed and hope you accept this as an apology for my part in that; I shouldn't have reacted.

I believe I have added my opinions on your original post and I think its an interesting topic which, as others have said, is about your own self-confidence and self esteem, for what its worth, and from what I can remember, your pics have always been highly fabbed (myself included), and I have always found that your posts have been measured and thought provoking, which is the measure of any of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow!

Seriously; you wish to derail this thread and turn it into, why isn't Pauly verified, and why won't he say why he isn't verified? Seems you have an issue with me, I am sorry to read that.... but I will try not to let it worry me too much. I don't have to explain myself to you, my unverified status does not affect you, though it seems to annoy you, I can't truly understand why, but I don't claim I understand everyone. When I give an opinion, it is just that, my opinion, and I don't feel the need to launch an attack on someone else... regardless of their awesomeness..... I don't have a problem you just got caught in the crossfire off another thread. I can see why people giving opinions on things when they are deemed to have no experience of being frustrating though. The way you have taken it though makes me believe I am right though.

Is that okay? happy days

you still didn't answer about the social veri though?

If you have to rely on your veris rather than yourself to get meets, then it doesn't say much about you in my opinion

I don't have to don't be so silly, my veris just confirm that's all and show proof. Very Cliquey these forums though you hurt 1 the calvary comes running, they need shaking up a bit an I don't mind doing it."

Be careful they might all block you

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow!

Seriously; you wish to derail this thread and turn it into, why isn't Pauly verified, and why won't he say why he isn't verified? Seems you have an issue with me, I am sorry to read that.... but I will try not to let it worry me too much. I don't have to explain myself to you, my unverified status does not affect you, though it seems to annoy you, I can't truly understand why, but I don't claim I understand everyone. When I give an opinion, it is just that, my opinion, and I don't feel the need to launch an attack on someone else... regardless of their awesomeness..... I don't have a problem you just got caught in the crossfire off another thread. I can see why people giving opinions on things when they are deemed to have no experience of being frustrating though. The way you have taken it though makes me believe I am right though.

Is that okay? happy days

you still didn't answer about the social veri though?

If you have to rely on your veris rather than yourself to get meets, then it doesn't say much about you in my opinion

Be careful they might all block you

"
think it's too late for that but am I bothered?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I formerly apologise to the OP for your thread becoming derailed and hope you accept this as an apology for my part in that; I shouldn't have reacted.

Thanks I appreciate that and yes you did post a valid reply. No problem with going off topic I know it happens. Done it myself before

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow!

Seriously; you wish to derail this thread and turn it into, why isn't Pauly verified, and why won't he say why he isn't verified? Seems you have an issue with me, I am sorry to read that.... but I will try not to let it worry me too much. I don't have to explain myself to you, my unverified status does not affect you, though it seems to annoy you, I can't truly understand why, but I don't claim I understand everyone. When I give an opinion, it is just that, my opinion, and I don't feel the need to launch an attack on someone else... regardless of their awesomeness..... I don't have a problem you just got caught in the crossfire off another thread. I can see why people giving opinions on things when they are deemed to have no experience of being frustrating though. The way you have taken it though makes me believe I am right though.

Is that okay? happy days

you still didn't answer about the social veri though?

If you have to rely on your veris rather than yourself to get meets, then it doesn't say much about you in my opinion

Be careful they might all block you

think it's too late for that but am I bothered?"

You realise you come across as a troll right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Men, Women and Couples on here use all kinds of methods to bed someone; its a simple fact; being wise to this comes with experience (but what would I know

Why is it so important to YOU what kind of a swinger I am? something you can't answer wow!

Seriously; you wish to derail this thread and turn it into, why isn't Pauly verified, and why won't he say why he isn't verified? Seems you have an issue with me, I am sorry to read that.... but I will try not to let it worry me too much. I don't have to explain myself to you, my unverified status does not affect you, though it seems to annoy you, I can't truly understand why, but I don't claim I understand everyone. When I give an opinion, it is just that, my opinion, and I don't feel the need to launch an attack on someone else... regardless of their awesomeness..... I don't have a problem you just got caught in the crossfire off another thread. I can see why people giving opinions on things when they are deemed to have no experience of being frustrating though. The way you have taken it though makes me believe I am right though.

Is that okay? happy days

you still didn't answer about the social veri though?

If you have to rely on your veris rather than yourself to get meets, then it doesn't say much about you in my opinion

Be careful they might all block you

think it's too late for that but am I bothered?"

Thanks as well for posting valid reply earlier

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