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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some men and women are aesthetically beautiful and I can think wow. Yet recently I've been drawn to minds more sexually and physically they can be not my type. Yet I still think pwoar. Can a mental attraction outweigh physical for you?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Unless there's a mental attraction for me there is no physical attraction. There might be an aesthetic appreciation without it but it's not remotely sexual unless I like them as them.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Pics are fine but my mind needs to be engaged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck yes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me no, no matter how nice a guy is if I don't find him physically attractive I couldn't have sex with him, but the same goes the other way round I couldn't have sex with a nice looking guy if there was no mental attraction, need a good balance of the two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mental and personal attraction is more powerful for me. A physical attraction is always good though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not for me no, no matter how nice a guy is if I don't find him physically attractive I couldn't have sex with him, but the same goes the other way round I couldn't have sex with a nice looking guy if there was no mental attraction, need a good balance of the two "

Well put

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Everytime for me

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

no i need both, if I'm not attracted physically I won't get it up simples.

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By *egularFunMan
over a year ago

...

What's one without the other?

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

I need a face i want to gaze at when i cum but need mental attraction too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, on Fab as I meet off the forums, the initial physical & mental attraction tend to go hand in hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there has to be some sort of physical attraction but the mental attraction is far more interesting than purely physical at the end of the day their has to be connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a mix of both those things , though a mental attraction can lead to so.much more delightful things.its a meeting of minds , the best alchemy leads to the best chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There needs to be a mix of both.

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

It used to be a lot more about physical for me but lately definitely more about mentality

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I can see someone with a plain face on initial look but the moment they interest me their whole face changes, lights up and has character

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There needs to be a mix of both. "

Agreed !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can work with one, but when both engage...........well worth waiting for!

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Mental attraction is key for me. And I look for people who also seek that.

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By *regory-pecksMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"It used to be a lot more about physical for me but lately definitely more about mentality"

Spot on! There needs to be a physical attraction, obviously, but I find that secondary to a mental attraction. If you don't like the other person as a person then there's no point.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Some people have the ability to make you go phhwwooarrr but if the personality doesn't match then for me it's a no go, I like interaction as much as I like the sex

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I have to have both.

Both are as important as each other

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Can a mental attraction outweigh physical for you? "

Sometimes, but I'm *extremely* shallow

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By *horley GirlWoman
over a year ago

Local-ish

Elements of the two. Has to be a mental attraction, a connection. Someone I can have a chat and a giggle with. Has to be able to hold my attention during recovery breaks lol. "Come to bed" eyes and a sexy bum also help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think both are important but depending on the person and my mood their weighting changes, so some Guys i meet are more physically stimulating than mentally and vice versa. That is what is so wonderful about fab...the variety means i don't have to always want the same thing

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Yes it can but I have to find someone at least a teeny bit physically attractive before their personality wins me over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if this counts as a mental attraction but I find passionate (non sexual way) women a lot more attractive.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Cant say I have honestly met anyone like that on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless there's a mental attraction for me there is no physical attraction. There might be an aesthetic appreciation without it but it's not remotely sexual unless I like them as them."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless there's a mental attraction for me there is no physical attraction. There might be an aesthetic appreciation without it but it's not remotely sexual unless I like them as them."

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

For me personally there has to be a mental attraction. After all it's the most powerful stimulant we have.

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By *eccymanMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

I'm just shallow. If she's fit I'll fuck her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not for me no, no matter how nice a guy is if I don't find him physically attractive I couldn't have sex with him, but the same goes the other way round I couldn't have sex with a nice looking guy if there was no mental attraction, need a good balance of the two

Well put

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Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a mix of both those things , though a mental attraction can lead to so.much more delightful things.its a meeting of minds , the best alchemy leads to the best chemistry "
I like the word 'alchemy' so much more than 'chemistry'. The former suggests the mystery and magic of real attraction, whilst the latter smacks of the formulaic (x+y=wow!). I have met people who were at first 'not for me' who during the course of coffee became 'yessss, now, please..'. Alchemy, yes. Always a wonderful surprise, making gold.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Its a mix of both those things , though a mental attraction can lead to so.much more delightful things.its a meeting of minds , the best alchemy leads to the best chemistry I like the word 'alchemy' so much more than 'chemistry'. The former suggests the mystery and magic of real attraction, whilst the latter smacks of the formulaic (x+y=wow!). I have met people who were at first 'not for me' who during the course of coffee became 'yessss, now, please..'. Alchemy, yes. Always a wonderful surprise, making gold. "

Yes I had one of those off a dating site lol, he was so enthusiastic and persistent I finally agreed to dinner and half way through, WHACK it hit me!

We went for a walk and had an hour of passionate snogging, he was a fabulous kisser lol!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Without the physical they're likely to remain a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can see someone with a plain face on initial look but the moment they interest me their whole face changes, lights up and has character"

This for me too. And it works in reverse too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone pretty can grab my attention, someone witty can hold it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless there's a mental attraction for me there is no physical attraction. There might be an aesthetic appreciation without it but it's not remotely sexual unless I like them as them."

This.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'm with Dorothy Parker:

“I require three things in a man: he must be handsome, ruthless, and stupid.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some men and women are aesthetically beautiful and I can think wow. Yet recently I've been drawn to minds more sexually and physically they can be not my type. Yet I still think pwoar. Can a mental attraction outweigh physical for you? "

No. It can't outweigh it, but it isn't something I compartmentalise because you take the person as a whole.

Some people can increase or decrease in their attractiveness to me though in the sense that I could get on really well with them on the Internet but feel no chemistry when we meet, and vice versa x

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