FabSwingers.com forum: Too far!?, story of my life

By *enswing321 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

hi everyone,

i have recently joined this site and have come across some great women (none that i have met as of yet). My main problem is for every woman that i come across, the running theme seems to be that im too far away. looking for females my age and also older (like a woman who knows what she wants). I dont mind to travel so i cang see the issue. any females in here care to elaborate.

any input appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've only been here a week, give it longer. Public pics might help too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can only speak for myself but I prefer men not to travel a long way to meet me

If they are local and we don't get on its no big deal if they have traveled 150 miles I feel a bitch if I turn them down but then I don't want to feel obligated to shag somebody I don't like because they have traveled a long way to meet me

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"hi everyone,

any input appreciated!"

The issue is you have no photographs, you're a smoker and you've been here a week.

Please, don't assume that the only women who 'know what they want' are older women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say the easy solution is to move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe you should check their profiles....if they want to meet locally, they will probably say so in their profile.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I wouldn't want to feel obliged to a bloke who travels a long way to meet me. What if we don't hit it off?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

On my old single profie i prefered near as i only do a social first.I wouldnt want someone travelling miles only for there to be no chemistry or attraction in person.Miss.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Sort your profile out, it's too generic

Lose the newbie bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You definitely need a photo of some kind XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe you should check their profiles....if they want to meet locally, they will probably say so in their profile."

We do say that on ours,but still get messages from guys who live a long distance away wanting to meet !!

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By *enswing321 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

i agreee with what your saying about the only being on here for a week, but its the same reply i seem to get about distance, is it really that much of an issue? also tye pic thing, im a working professional so cant really post oics in public but dont mind setting them to "private" or "friends" on here. isthataput off. thanks for the replies btw

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By *eccymanMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

Your issue is that he is a smoker. Other women are happy to meet a smoker especially if they are smokers too.

to the OP: swinging life is no different to going out to a pub and chatting to girls. They're human beings with emotions too. They want things they see in a man and will actively seek out partners who meet that criteria. Simply being a swinger shouldn't tell you that they're easy, they're not, they're just more sexually liberated than non swingers.

As others have said, a photo goes a long way to piqueing a woman's interest and if you stop to consider the message your sending by not having any photos on your profile you'll realise why you're not getting much feedback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id say the easy solution is to move

Lmao

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I need my mind stimulated along with the rest of me.

If you can't supply any visual stimulation then you wont generate much interest I'm afraid to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, another here to tell you that it's highly unlikely you'll get anything without photos and by that I don't mean scores of cock pics that are average or below (remember FAB average is around 8").

Mrs X

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"i agreee with what your saying about the only being on here for a week, but its the same reply i seem to get about distance, is it really that much of an issue? also tye pic thing, im a working professional so cant really post oics in public but dont mind setting them to "private" or "friends" on here. isthataput off. thanks for the replies btw

Sorry but absolute crap! I am a working professional and I have plenty of pics of me on here that no one would be able to recognise me by from normal day to day life, so that is a very lame excuse indeed!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

[Removed by poster at 07/06/16 20:20:06]

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"also tye pic thing, im a working professional so cant really post oics in public but dont mind setting them to "private" or "friends" on here. isthataput off."

Do your workmates know what your bum, back, or chest look like? If so, where do you work?? If not, slap up some pics. Most people when searching filter out profiles with no public pics. And most women won't respond to profiles without pics. Why not make life a bit easier for yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, it really is an issue. Nobody wants to feel obliged to fuck someone who's had to travel a long way, a lot of people like to meet for a social first which adds to the potential travel and are you expecting the people you travel to to accommodate you? Many people won't do that until they know someone well...

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By *enswing321 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

by that do you mean body pics of face included. Youre not worried that anybody from work could see?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to feel obliged to a bloke who travels a long way to meet me. What if we don't hit it off?"

this for me too.

also i want regular meets so need someone who can meet me regular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but absolute crap! I am a working professional and I have plenty of pics of me on here that no one would be able to recognise me by from normal day to day life, so that is a very lame excuse indeed! - foximinx

by that do you mean body pics of face included. Youre not worried that anybody from work could see?

But surely if work mates can see them

then they're doing the same thing as you are ?

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By *enswing321 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

seems like its the same theme about people dont wanting to feel oblidged to have to take it further. Personally i dont mind having to travel even if it doesnt work out. Always nice ro have met somebody new on here. thanks again for all the replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

by that do you mean body pics of face included. Youre not worried that anybody from work could see?

plenty,most in fact, have pics that dont show faces at all...you can keep a face on private..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

by that do you mean body pics of face included. Youre not worried that anybody from work could see?

I'm the future King of England but you can't recognise me from my pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

by that do you mean body pics of face included. Youre not worried that anybody from work could see?

It is not crap, OP. Very few people will communicate with someone with no public pictures.

As for distance? No way would we arrange a meet with someone far away. Too much in the way of expectations.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

by that do you mean body pics of face included. Youre not worried that anybody from work could see?

Body pics of course, I have over 70 that people in real life will never know it is me, women need (or should I say this one) needs enticing by body shots, I'm not suggesting you make face pics public, but to have none and expect results is just ridiculous to be honest

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I had hoped that this would be a thread full of embarrsaing social faux pas....

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By *enswing321 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

very true gailandcosy

think i will have to work on putting some body pics up. What do the ladies in this forum like to see

genuine question

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Arms, shoulders and bum

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

by that do you mean body pics of face included. Youre not worried that anybody from work could see?

I'm the future King of England but you can't recognise me from my pics! "

This made me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people don't like to feel 'obligated' (I totally get that!) and some people don't mind travelling or being travelled to.... fact is there's no one size fits all on here OP, it's just about finding a match. I don't usually travel and prefer to accommodate, but I've twice taken flights to meet someone off here! So stay positive and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry you're too far away" is a kinder reply than "I don't want to meet you because of xyz."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi everyone,

any input appreciated!"

have you actually chatted to these women, and if you are too far away have you not thought about messaging women who are closer?

this is not a problem!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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""Sorry you're too far away" is a kinder reply than "I don't want to meet you because of xyz.""

Bit difficult to use that excuse when they show as being within half a mile though.

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By *enswing321 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"I don't want to meet you because of xyz." good point, but they were all approximatly an hour away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Sorry you're too far away" is a kinder reply than "I don't want to meet you because of xyz."

Bit difficult to use that excuse when they show as being within half a mile though.

I still use the same reply.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

""Sorry you're too far away" is a kinder reply than "I don't want to meet you because of xyz."

Bit difficult to use that excuse when they show as being within half a mile though.

I still use the same reply.

Cruelty!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I say 'too far' to people in Hove.

Although I did see a lady on here from there and I said 'far out' and got a shag from that message. Eventually.

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By *eccymanMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

""I don't want to meet you because of xyz." good point, but they were all approximatly an hour away"

They might have been half a mile away but without a profile pic at least they may as well have been on Mars.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"I say 'too far' to people in Hove.

Although I did see a lady on here from there and I said 'far out' and got a shag from that message. Eventually. "

Its amazing how far some people go for a shag, eh Steve?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I say 'too far' to people in Hove.

Although I did see a lady on here from there and I said 'far out' and got a shag from that message. Eventually.

Its amazing how far some people go for a shag, eh Steve?

Was it worth it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can only speak for myself but I prefer men not to travel a long way to meet me

Same here these days.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I say 'too far' to people in Hove.

Although I did see a lady on here from there and I said 'far out' and got a shag from that message. Eventually.

Its amazing how far some people go for a shag, eh Steve?

Was it worth it?

Planning the next visit already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me if they aren't at least 20 miles away then they are too near...in fact i block anyone within a 15-20 mile radius just to make sure

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I say 'too far' to people in Hove.

Although I did see a lady on here from there and I said 'far out' and got a shag from that message. Eventually.

Its amazing how far some people go for a shag, eh Steve?

Was it worth it?

Planning the next visit already."

Yippee!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for me if they aren't at least 20 miles away then they are too near...in fact i block anyone within a 15-20 mile radius just to make sure

Sounds like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can only speak for myself but I prefer men not to travel a long way to meet me

So if I come over, do I get an obligatory shag?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Can only speak for myself but I prefer men not to travel a long way to meet me

So if I come over, do I get an obligatory shag?

We'll nail ya up again, just ta make sure

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By *eccymanMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

I once drove from Luton to Torquay for a shag with a very sexy couple and it was worth every second of every mile.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"seems like its the same theme about people dont wanting to feel oblidged to have to take it further. Personally i dont mind having to travel even if it doesnt work out. Always nice ro have met somebody new on here. thanks again for all the replies

You're not alone so many people are willing to travel if people will let them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to feel obliged to a bloke who travels a long way to meet me. What if we don't hit it off?"

This is why i like the bike if something happens so the meet doesnt take place ive got some good weather and good roads and have just had a nice day out on the bike.

Stop in a pub, town or city to grab some food and its been a good day.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I prefer local as I always meet socially first during my lunch break.

Also I play at home. I don't want someone travelling for miles to meet me arriving with sweaty bollocks! I also don't meet men who don't accommodate but willing to travel miles to my house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long distance booty calls suck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont have enought spare time to travel far and wide - more than enough close to home

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"I wouldn't want to feel obliged to a bloke who travels a long way to meet me. What if we don't hit it off?

This is why i like the bike if something happens so the meet doesnt take place ive got some good weather and good roads and have just had a nice day out on the bike.

Stop in a pub, town or city to grab some food and its been a good day.

Excellent getaway vehicle too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wanna try living in South Wales pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to feel obliged to a bloke who travels a long way to meet me. What if we don't hit it off?

This is why i like the bike if something happens so the meet doesnt take place ive got some good weather and good roads and have just had a nice day out on the bike.

Stop in a pub, town or city to grab some food and its been a good day.

Excellent getaway vehicle too!

I crashed once escaping a disastrous fab meet

It was such a pretty bike too.

Still picked it up and rode the rest of the way home lol

.....then it got stolen that weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You wanna try living in South Wales pal

Theres teabags :p

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I wouldn't want to feel obliged to a bloke who travels a long way to meet me. What if we don't hit it off?

This is why i like the bike if something happens so the meet doesnt take place ive got some good weather and good roads and have just had a nice day out on the bike.

Stop in a pub, town or city to grab some food and its been a good day.

Excellent getaway vehicle too!

I crashed once escaping a disastrous fab meet

It was such a pretty bike too.

Still picked it up and rode the rest of the way home lol

.....then it got stolen that weekend"

Now that WAS a bad meet.

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By *w_bbwWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

"Can only speak for myself but I prefer men not to travel a long way to meet me

I fully agree and you put it so eloquently x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You wanna try living in South Wales pal

Theres teabags :p"

Um....

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