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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

Before i start this post i know im going to regret it but it has to be said sorry to those i might offend in saying it...

We are a cpl as many on this site know as weve met a few people and had a gr8 time but there are certain types we will not meet..

1/. couples who want to have fun as per cpl to cpl..

2/. guys younger than 35 or older than 49 and no guys i wont change my mind no matter how big ur cock is..

3/. gay or bi guys we will not meet and no we arent homophobic b4 u start we just wont meet them as my hubby is str8 and have no need to meet them..

We do meet couples on occasions but thats at socials and parties and yes we do have fun with myself being a bi fem but thats the only time we meet cpls for fun, however there are times we go out for a meal and drinks with a cpl as friends only...

normally i wouldnt put this sort of comment on forums but its starting to get to us recieving mail after mail after mail from people we dont want mail from, pls pls pls read our profile and respect our wishes after all its not rocket science...im already disliking myself for this..xxxx stella

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

bit hard to know how to respond ...as someone who does not meet your criteria and would not therefore respond to you..

i err hope you get what you want

good luck

MR X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really know why I am saying this, as I also wouldn't fit your criteria, and what I am about to ask doesn't even concern me....

but I always wondered, why are couples so against bi guys? I know you said your husband isn't bi, but just because a guy is bi doesn't mean he HAS to do something with your husband. Its just another option for that bi guy if the situation arises, which obviously it wouldn't if he were to meet with you, so in that case he would just do the same as what a straight guy would. Or are there other reasons?

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

I think your profile might be the problem.

No one is seriously going to read all that just to find out if they fit in your criteria.

Shorten it. Make it as basic as you realistically can and state what you are NOT looking for rather than what you would like.

Thats the only thing I can suggest.

Mind you, regardles of what you put, some idiotic halfwit is always going to message you 'just to chance their arm'

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Most of the people that your post is aimed at probably would,nt even read the forums lol

Having said that sometimes its good to get it off your chest xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No offence to the OP but your profile is very very long....in many ways i can understand why folks mail without reading it.

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

Fun08time hun we have nothing against anyones wishes or wants whether they be bi, gay or whatever, we just choose not to meet certain types...i can think of loads of very good dear friends that are gay and bi both fem and male and we love them to death but certainly wouldnt meet them on a sexual basis..lol

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

JandS we started on this site with a normal length profile and were getting loads of people that we didnt want to meet even though we made it clear what we wanted and didnt want, so we thought wed mark it out step by step so no one got it wrong and we are still getting them,its a no win situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it can be annoying but if folks aint what you want then all you do is say thanks but no thanks....people are always gonna chance their luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...but that still doesn't actually explain why? You've just said we have gay friends and we wouldn't meet them. Is it something they do? The way the act? You find they like different or dirtier things?

As I said, they can still do all the things straight people do and avoid all the bits that make them bi if they want, so how are they different?

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

darling we just dont meet gay guys and bi guys and thats it...i knew id regret putting this post in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the OP read my profile i think lmao x

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

whos the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Everybody is entitled to their preferences and we all have them

I could question loads of peoples but my life is far too short lol

So I just look forward to meeting the people that meet ours and don't worry about the ones that don't

Easy peasy lol

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

original poster

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

ok im gonna bite why "" OP ""

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

thank u pleasure u sweetie..xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why what did u think? lmao

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

i thought it meant ""old pensioner "" mind u i have only 12yrs until i can claim a free bus pass...lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

No wonder you were gonna bite lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ffs, i wondered why u said u was gonna bite hahaha

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

could of been worse ...lol

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

kitty its me being on the defensive hun, if u knew what id been called on this site simple for saying "" no thank u "" u would be shocked ridgid...but then its amazzzzzzing what one getsn used to..lol

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

dont make it right tho does it ...i get ashamed to be a guy sometimes ....there is no excuse for desperate guys kicking off cus things dont go there way ....

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

id like to agree with u hun but i have to say the guys arent really the problem, on the whole i can handle most guys its the cpls that are the worst, they seem the get very abusive when u say no,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that would make a great thread, to see who had be called the worst thing, lol. "OP" would pale into insignificance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats why i dont even bother saying no thanks haha

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

you start it hot .....

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

do you think its the guys in the couple doing that or the women or both ....?

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

i always make a point of replying even if its to someone i dont wanna meet, i look at it this way they took the time to mail me which in a way is nice of them even if they arent what im wanting so a polite no thank always goes on its way...its only fair

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

pleasure my thoughts as well hun, possibly it could be the guys...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmmm totally unrelated, no honest my mum never met her dad.

I have a big one, really really big, is it too big ?

My profile I mean.

I have always believed that a profile can never be too big providing it is informative, humourous perhaps, well written, articulate and punctuated, that's not saying I think mine is perfect of course but I have tried to make it as reader friendly as possible.

I tried to show some of my personality at the same time being upfront and honest so I dont waste anyones time.

But having read some of the comments in this thread about BIG ONES I would appreciate genuine thoughts

now thinking about it I am going to copy this to my own thread on Profiles in general forum too

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I must be lucky then,I try and reply to most,having said that I deleted one today from a serial messenger,but I did get a nice reply back from a single girl who I had said no thanks to which I thought was really nice

I hav,nt had any abuse...yet! but if I did they would get more than likely get a load back lol

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

to be honest i have never had an abusive reply either .... but come to think of it ... ive never had a reply

Bwaaaahahahahahahahaha

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

pleasure i'll send u something hun..xxxx

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

received with pleasure .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My god man, you will do anything for attention

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

you know i am a slut ...it was your first observation about me lol

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

thank u site adimn..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i just recieved contact from a cpl in their 20's etc, our profile says no cpls and only guys aged between 35 and 49 so i told them no thanks and they replied i must ne a loner etc and became abusive so i blocked them,,they then made a new profile and did it again so i reported them and admin has deleted their 2nd profile so again thank u admin...we love u... stella..xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unwanted mail! i get it coming through my door, usally by someone called bill wanting money? i'd like to tell him to f**k off but that would result in me getting cut off & left sitting in the dark!!!

anyways just look at the flip side how would you feel if you got no mail at all? or no replies? so surely sum junk mail is better than none? just think of it like this you can't help it if your disireble & if you are then unfortunatly your going to get unwanted attention!lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

red

why not put a post in feedback and suggest a block function for couples, something like the site already has for single men, that way couples on your friends list can still contact you and other couples that you have mailed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile'e like war and peace - long winded, it's not suprising that everyone doesn't read it, I gave up half way down.

The simple answer is to reply to the mail which interests you, discard the rest. Thats what we do, in fact if we were honest, we reply to maybe 10% of all inbound mail.

Do we complain or lose sleep over it ? No we don't - life's too short.

As a side note, not all bi guys have to play bi you know, I dabble in that side of life but if I know that the other guy isn't of that mindset, it would be the last thing on my mind. You could be shutting out some very good playmates.

Have fun

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

we reply to every single e-mail we recieve and just couldnt hit the delete function, i look at it this way even though we do recieve alot of mail from peple we dont want it from they still took the time to sit down and write it so it would be very rude of me not to reply even if it is a no thank you most of them..

As for having a very long profile yes u are right and yes it is a bit like war and peace but mine is volume 2 of war and peace and it has lots of pretty pictures to go with it, when we first joined this site over a yr ago we had a short but to the point profile out lining what we wanted and not wanted and we recieved hundreds of mail from the ones we didnt want, so we re-wrote it all making it bigger and more to the point and still recieved un-wanted mail, now as u will see we have tried to cover most points and at least now the un-wanted mail is slowing down some what...lmao, i hope i have explained myself fully on this matter to the peeps who question our profile...lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We kinda got the impression you were questioning it yourselves lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One tiny comment,

I doubt that 99% of people that mail you would be reading this.

If they can't be bothered to read the profile why read this.

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

ur right maybe alot dont bother to read the forums but im just getting my point across...which i think in certain respects is valid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, first time in the forum and first time replying. As people have said, cut down the profile. just say only looking for straight guys, and the age range and say 'Anyone else will be deleated without being read'. This is supposed to be a fun thing and you are letting it get to you. yes there are some dick heads on here who take the rejection personally. If someone says no to me then I am not their type. OK. Try to think of it that they are finding you attractive and that they want to be with you. No bad thing really, just not who you want. Men are pedators by nature. Don't let it spoil the good times. Take care, Brian

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