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Couples that allow each other to play alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just throwing this out there other than condoms a must what other rules do you insist on.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"Just throwing this out there other than condoms a must what other rules do you insist on."

We don't insist on anything....we have discussed at length what we want and don't want - this is respected by the other at all times as this is for our mutual pleasure

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

We all always tell each other what we are doing/who we are meeting beforehand, there as been occasions where me or Kim are in an immediate situation & we ring each other.

We don't mind what the other person gets up to but when its secretly done it becomes unfaithful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insist on having fun with people we find attractive.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I'm not keen on them insisting on their other half watching on a webcam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not keen on them insisting on their other half watching on a webcam "

Don't play with those that want that then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing goes up my bum!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think allow is an interesting choice of word

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Always tell each other what's going on.

No secrets is the key for us.

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By *kda 07Man
over a year ago

Aldershot

We like seeing photos of the fun after it has happend. But not a must. Main thing is honesty, we are happy to play solo but we always tell the other half about it after words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea


"We like seeing photos of the fun after it has happend. But not a must. Main thing is honesty, we are happy to play solo but we always tell the other half about it after words. "

Where we are filming all the time for work this is something we don't do when swinging as its great to put the camera down for a change, the photo thing got us into porn & swinging in the first place so i know where you are coming from guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think allow is an interesting choice of word"

I say I'm allowed to play alone, because I don't know how else to word it? In the same way I'd say I was allowed to slap someone round the face in a play? It doesn't mean that person owns me. Just that they gave permission for me to do something that in other circumstances would have been very painful for them.

Our rules have relaxed as we've gone along. Mainly now I would never have a secret meet or even secret conversation with someone behind my husband's back. His main rule is "inclusion" in whatever format we agree at the time.

Whether that's rules he wants me to follow, or taking photos or being there during a meet. Or even that he simply gets hot sex before and/or after the meet.

I did video for him once (in fact he was filming it) and it was very sexy. Still watch it now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These are all reasonable. Too many people still consider it cheating of even if the other half knows and allows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both play alone. We have strict rules, agreed upon and the same for both of us, No bareback is top of it. Its a non negotiation thing and if it stops a meet it stops it, safety is no accident

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"Nothing goes up my bum!!!!! "

And plenty of pics and vids for LB to look at afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always go to clubs together ,never alone. But,allow each other to play alone whilst there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No bareback and open communication. But it's not about "allowing" as such!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe "giving" is better than allowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are all reasonable. Too many people still consider it cheating of even if the other half knows and allows "

Who considers it cheating? My husband wants me to be a "hotwife" and it was his idea?

(I just so happen to like it. )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are all reasonable. Too many people still consider it cheating of even if the other half knows and allows "

Can't see how it's cheating if the other half knows, but some people do have some funny ideas on here

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home


"Just throwing this out there other than condoms a must what other rules do you insist on."

There are not rules, more how we play in any situation being solo or as a couple

Safe sex and honesty always with everyone involved, that includes whom we are playing with. We tell eachother who we are meeting and where for safety reasons. If either of us feels not comfortable with the meet, we would cancel.

It's all for good fun otherwise there is no point

MrsSB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe "giving" is better than allowing"

Yes that is better terminology

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never swung as a couple so I don't know how applicable any opinions that I might provide could be, but I've had a similar conversation with a swinging friend before and I think my views helped them.

I suggested making your OH as much a part of the meet as possible - even if they won't be there! Such as, picking out underwear & clothes to wear on the meet together, or picking out props to use on the meet together. It's still something to enjoy as a couple, so maybe having photos from the meet taken back to the partner, or "enjoying" the memories together between the couple at a later date? It'd probably help to have a mutual respect & friendship between all three parties too, and communication, openness & honesty too - make sure that all three people absolutely want it to happen, have all considered any repercussions and are all comfortable with it.

As I said - I can't provide an opinion from experience, but those are the aspects I'd personally pay attention to.

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By *oodvibrations68Couple
over a year ago

Lake Constance

...we only do it with longterm friends as an alternative to a mfmf meet - proofing increasingly difficult to arrange babysitting on either side - ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the good grammer police are working overtime.

You all know what I meant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the good grammer police are working overtime.

You all know what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What puts me off meeting men from a couple is being discussed afterwards. Discretion is forgotten about in those circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I film all my meets so hubby and I can watch them back together!

Obviously this is on my profile and one of the first things I ask once we start chatting Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No bareback and open communication. But it's not about "allowing" as such!"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What puts me off meeting men from a couple is being discussed afterwards. Discretion is forgotten about in those circumstances. "

My wife videos her meets, we discuss them and watch the video together.

All she wants to know from mine is if I had a good time.

I think that's quite common among couples that play separately from what I've seen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think allow is an interesting choice of word

I say I'm allowed to play alone, because I don't know how else to word it? In the same way I'd say I was allowed to slap someone round the face in a play? It doesn't mean that person owns me. Just that they gave permission for me to do something that in other circumstances would have been very painful for them.

Our rules have relaxed as we've gone along. Mainly now I would never have a secret meet or even secret conversation with someone behind my husband's back. His main rule is "inclusion" in whatever format we agree at the time.

Whether that's rules he wants me to follow, or taking photos or being there during a meet. Or even that he simply gets hot sex before and/or after the meet.

I did video for him once (in fact he was filming it) and it was very sexy. Still watch it now!

"

I was being a bit of a pedant about the word, but I understand what you mean. I think it depends how you come to swinging that changes how you approach playing apart.

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