FabSwingers.com forum: how much is too much

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so we have been chatting to a very lovely lady and are looking to meet on Friday, but as she pointed out people she chats to tend to disappear, which got me thinking how much contact should be made between the first contact where a meet is agreed and the actual meet?

Obviously want to show we're serious but don't want to seem stalkerish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think its down to individuals,

when i was meeting there would be some people id just 'get' and id not need much in the way of communication and other times id need more of it just to be sure.

Im quite a friendly chatty person anyway so my style/preference is to find others similar to myself who like the banter, chat, texts,calls etc..

it was never just about sex and go,, i made 'friends' too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd prefer contact every day tbh. but my profile does point out i am needy.

i get that people might not have time for that or are looking for other people to also fuck but most guys tend to make a lot of effort until they've fucked me then disappear and only get in touch when they want another fuck and if they aren't that chatty on the meet i go off them for that reason.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I'd be happy with chatting and setting a date. Maybe a few more messages to sort out any boundaries.

Then leave it until the day before, to confirm.

I find that those who want a detailed plan of who is going to do what during the meet, generally don't turn up.

Communication is important, but leave some thing for the meet.

I enjoy general chat, and exchange of fantasy, but don't like timewasters who say they want to meet. But just use it to get messages.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Sometimes about a year for me

Sometimes a couple of days - it depends when we are both available really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a fuck? That's about as much as I can chat. Any more than that is wastefull.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

They tend to disappear when I suggest a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well for us we have arranged the meet, just as she described that lots just disappear I wondered how often I should message.

Seems crazy I've been on here near on 4 years and I still have no idea.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im assuming if someone is interested they will be in regular contact.

I remember chatting to a guy and i never heard anything from him for a week and i was amazed when about 6pm on the day of the meet he mesaaged to say he was just leaving and he was surprised i was on my way out.

How am i supposed to know someone who doesnt stay in contact still wants to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They tend to disappear when I suggest a meet

could b your taste in hats _olgate??

tho that one is appropriate if your going mexico

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im assuming if someone is interested they will be in regular contact.

How am i supposed to know someone who doesnt stay in contact still wants to meet"

I always have a back up plan

so if they don't meet ...I'm off to pics their loss n hopefully good film on

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