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Made to feel bad cancelling meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ano people go on about fakes and stuff as I've been here while.

But my mum got rushed into hospital last night sky I've messaged few ppl planned meets with today an tomorrow an got grief for doing so.

Omg do ppl not understand family first.

Sorry rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope your mums ok xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks just home get shower and stuff goin back now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people have probably experienced a lot of time wasters in the past and probably put you into that bracket as well because of it.

Take no notice.

Hope all is well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming you told them as soon as you could, then you have nothing to reproach yourself for.

Concentrate on your mum. You only have one compared to the many, many nice people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ano people go on about fakes and stuff as I've been here while.

But my mum got rushed into hospital last night sky I've messaged few ppl planned meets with today an tomorrow an got grief for doing so.

Omg do ppl not understand family first.

Sorry rant over"

People that have given you grief for doing so arent worth worrying about. These things happen cant be helped..not like you cancelled to wash your hair.

Hope your mums ok OP.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I hope your mums ok OP

I hope your proposed meets understand, and are OK to rearrange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cancelling in good time is not being a time waster, failing to attend is. Sadly some people won't give you a second chance if you cancel, whatever the reason, but the only thing you can do is move on. At the start of the year I had so much happen and go wrong I was at something like 2/7 attend/cancel ratio. It does balance out

As you said though, family comes first and I hope your mum is better soon

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

Family comes first hope your mum ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Family always comes first if some people don't understand that then they have their priorities all wrong.

Hope your mum gets well soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've cancelled in the past, and may have to do in the future, had my fair share of abuse and been called a fake.

Family and real life first - always.

Wishing your Mum a speedy recovery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hoping your mum recovers quickly and ignore the ignorant

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

How dare you put your family before a stranger's fun.

Hope your mother's okay.

I'm assuming strangers because friends wouldn't abuse you or assume you were a timewaster.

I've been on the other end of this. We wished them well and rescheduled. Had a great meet a few days later.

If people throw a tantrum because plans change, take it as a warning sign.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope your mum's ok op. I'm from frod Ashlands xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the best fella, hope Mum recovers well.

In terms of the response you got I guess it depends on how well you know the people concerned, if it's a first meet etc - many will have heard every excuse under the sun previously and so become cynical when they get another cancellation to the point where genuine ones are treated with the same cynicism.

I'm sure it's nothing personal against you so brush it off, look after your Mum, and come back to Fab when it's appropriate to do so.

Take care buddy

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

As far as I'm concerned a time waster is someone who doesn't turn up at al. Cancelling in advance is acceptable even if annoying.

Family will always come 1st, I don't care what others say or think about that. I'm a single parent, things happen that are out of our control.

I hope your mum isn't too poorly & is back home soon xx

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By *elson61Man
over a year ago

WELWYN GARDEN CITY

Don't worry about the negative responses, just concentrate on your mum, she is your priority right now. You gave notice of cancelling and that doesn't make you a timewaster. I have no problem with anyone who will cancel with notice, we all have lives outside of Fab and sometimes this has to take priority, especially if unexpected events occur.

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By *eccymanMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

Consider it a lucky escape. Would you really want to have sex with someone so insensitive.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Thinking of you OP. Just lost my mum, hope your mum gets better soon. Ignore the idiots, family first. X

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Ano people go on about fakes and stuff as I've been here while.

But my mum got rushed into hospital last night sky I've messaged few ppl planned meets with today an tomorrow an got grief for doing so.

Omg do ppl not understand family first.

Sorry rant over"

Unfortunately it's known to be used in excuses before so some people now take a cynical view. Sad but true.

Does it really matter though. At the end of the day you know it's true and to be honest would yoi really want to meet people who put getting a shag over the health of someone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First things first and that's you're family.

Balls to the righteous,never had to cancel anything before in their lives peeps.

Chin up,hope your mam makes a full recovery

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op if my mum had been rushed into hospital or another short notice emergency. If i could let then no i would but i wouldnt be worrying what they think.

Hope your mum gets better soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your reason was genuine, your conscience is clear. You have no control over what others think, so don't let it stress you.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

On every "timewasters excuses" thread the top excuse is a sick relative so ppl just lumped you in with them

When really you're different to them,you've posted a thread so it's all good

Hope ur mum is ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck em... there's this thing called life, things happen an sex is the last thing on your mind. Hope your mum's okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope your mum is okay op.X

Had to cancel a meet yesterday due to heat giving me a headache and was vomiting. Canceled couple of hours before and got abuse back. He slagged us off on his status so blocked and reported.

Did notice he'd put up a meet several hours before we'd canceled ...so in all feel we had a lucky escape .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for the support an advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Again I can't thank ppl enough the kind words meant alot.

Luckily mum is doin better and should get released tue or wed depending if everything stays ok. They have put it down to heat causing severe asthma attack which meant a night an day on icu but seems to have stabilised a bit she's moving to normal ward today with hope of discharge

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Again I can't thank ppl enough the kind words meant alot.

Luckily mum is doin better and should get released tue or wed depending if everything stays ok. They have put it down to heat causing severe asthma attack which meant a night an day on icu but seems to have stabilised a bit she's moving to normal ward today with hope of discharge "

Good to hear fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to hear. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again I can't thank ppl enough the kind words meant alot.

Luckily mum is doin better and should get released tue or wed depending if everything stays ok. They have put it down to heat causing severe asthma attack which meant a night an day on icu but seems to have stabilised a bit she's moving to normal ward today with hope of discharge "

That's good news she is on the mend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yer was Lil scary at start got respiratory issues but seems better fingers crossed

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Yer was Lil scary at start got respiratory issues but seems better fingers crossed"

Glad your mum is feeling better,good luck!

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