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"I think it has nothing to do with age." OK. . So what do you think makes for a better female lover? Maybe 'better' isn't the right word. Not sure. But say..... more fulfilling experience? | |||
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"Personally I love much younger and much older men. Both are great lovers but in different ways and I enjoy them." So how are they different then? You say great but different | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good." I don't think I was a great liver at all in my 20s. I think it took me years to grow into my own skin so to speak. .. | |||
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"I think it has nothing to do with age." totally agree with you! | |||
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"I personally prefer men my age as i feel more comfortable. " So for you it sounds like it isn't so much about their 'performance ' but more about you feeling more comfortable with your own age group? | |||
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"I think it has nothing to do with age. totally agree with you!" Fine. But if it isn't about age for you, then what makes it more fulfilling? | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good. I don't think I was a great liver at all in my 20s. I think it took me years to grow into my own skin so to speak. .." i was lucky that when i was 19 i found someone who was not confident in bed so i always had to take the lead and be active, go on top, all that kind of stuff because he didn't know what to do (and neither did i but he never complained about me trying things out) got to the point where i had to ask for what i wanted because he didn't have a clue really. i think because of him i ended up with my dominant streak. | |||
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"I think it has nothing to do with age. totally agree with you! Fine. But if it isn't about age for you, then what makes it more fulfilling?" personal confidence ![]() | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good. I don't think I was a great liver at all in my 20s. I think it took me years to grow into my own skin so to speak. .. i was lucky that when i was 19 i found someone who was not confident in bed so i always had to take the lead and be active, go on top, all that kind of stuff because he didn't know what to do (and neither did i but he never complained about me trying things out) got to the point where i had to ask for what i wanted because he didn't have a clue really. i think because of him i ended up with my dominant streak. " Thats interesting. .. | |||
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"I think every person is different, there is the experience thing aswell. What is to say a lady in her 40's has had more sexual experiences than a lady in her 20's. It all comes down to chemistry for me. if you both are into each other then the experience would be great x" This is a good point. However I wonder if life experience and not just sexual experience plays a part in a person's overall confidence to ask for what they need and express their likes and dislikes with confidence competed to when they were younger. This is certainly true for me | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good. I don't think I was a great liver at all in my 20s. I think it took me years to grow into my own skin so to speak. .. i was lucky that when i was 19 i found someone who was not confident in bed so i always had to take the lead and be active, go on top, all that kind of stuff because he didn't know what to do (and neither did i but he never complained about me trying things out) got to the point where i had to ask for what i wanted because he didn't have a clue really. i think because of him i ended up with my dominant streak. Thats interesting. .." ill go on then...i like talking, sorry. ![]() | |||
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"I don't think age has anything to do with how good a lover will be or not. I prefer woman around my own age or slightly older as we are likely to have more in common. It's not all about sex during a meet ." Well do remember I wasn't talking to a man who is a member of the swinging community. So he isn't necessarily meeting lots of women for NSA sex. But he commented about the sexual experience of being with ladies his own age range compared to younger. Maybe I was surprised (pleasantly so) as i had envisioned my friend being attracted to younger women as he can attract any woman he likes really... very good looking guy! But it was nice to know it wasn't all about her being youthful looking . | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good. I don't think I was a great liver at all in my 20s. I think it took me years to grow into my own skin so to speak. .. i was lucky that when i was 19 i found someone who was not confident in bed so i always had to take the lead and be active, go on top, all that kind of stuff because he didn't know what to do (and neither did i but he never complained about me trying things out) got to the point where i had to ask for what i wanted because he didn't have a clue really. i think because of him i ended up with my dominant streak. Thats interesting. .. ill go on then...i like talking, sorry. ![]() I am glad you had good experiences at that age because for so many, that isnt the case and we spend years repairing our self esteem because there is no doubt that confidence is sexy! | |||
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"I think life experience can play a big part in someones sexual life. because it could be that one time when they were put off for some reason and stayed in the shell for many years... to some people sex may not be what it seems to others. May i say you have started a very good thread x" Thankyou.... it is an interesting topic when I think about it more and reflect on my own experiences. | |||
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"Love making is akin to wine. Matured in the right conditions, leads to a very fulfilling experience. However a quality young wine will have a fresher bite with a bit more zing. Just depends on whatever floats your boat." LOL! !!! Well I think I need to re read that to fully absorb it lol | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good. I don't think I was a great liver at all in my 20s. I think it took me years to grow into my own skin so to speak. .. i was lucky that when i was 19 i found someone who was not confident in bed so i always had to take the lead and be active, go on top, all that kind of stuff because he didn't know what to do (and neither did i but he never complained about me trying things out) got to the point where i had to ask for what i wanted because he didn't have a clue really. i think because of him i ended up with my dominant streak. Thats interesting. .. ill go on then...i like talking, sorry. ![]() thanks, so am i. not just for sexiness really, although that's what this topic is about, but more for my own mental health as well. he helped me in so many ways and knows it. ![]() | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good. I don't think I was a great liver at all in my 20s. I think it took me years to grow into my own skin so to speak. .. i was lucky that when i was 19 i found someone who was not confident in bed so i always had to take the lead and be active, go on top, all that kind of stuff because he didn't know what to do (and neither did i but he never complained about me trying things out) got to the point where i had to ask for what i wanted because he didn't have a clue really. i think because of him i ended up with my dominant streak. Thats interesting. .. ill go on then...i like talking, sorry. ![]() ![]() Well sex is about expression. Identity. Intimacy. Individualism. Allowing ourselves to free up and let go. So in a healthy sexual relationship /situation where there is trust and connection then i agree ..it absolutely helps your mental health. It is bonding. However with the wrong person or if you are mentally /emotionally in the wrong place, it can do a lot of damage | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good." i meet young men who i enjoy.howeva i do somemtimes meet a guy (68) and he is fit wow. | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good.i meet young men who i enjoy.howeva i do somemtimes meet a guy (68) and he is fit wow." Is there a difference in the sexual experience you get with younger vs older guys then..or is it similar for you? | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good. I don't think I was a great liver at all in my 20s. I think it took me years to grow into my own skin so to speak. .. i was lucky that when i was 19 i found someone who was not confident in bed so i always had to take the lead and be active, go on top, all that kind of stuff because he didn't know what to do (and neither did i but he never complained about me trying things out) got to the point where i had to ask for what i wanted because he didn't have a clue really. i think because of him i ended up with my dominant streak. Thats interesting. .. ill go on then...i like talking, sorry. ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good.i meet young men who i enjoy.howeva i do somemtimes meet a guy (68) and he is fit wow." i've met a 63 yr old off here and tbh he was good in bed but not energetic or anything. 68 good for him. ![]() | |||
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"i got better sexually the older i got but i've found older guys tend not to have the energy or hardness i need for sex so have stuck with younger guys on here. tbh i was in my 20s when i got good at bj and confident in bed. am branching into seeing older guys now and see how that goes. hopefully it'll be good. I don't think I was a great liver at all in my 20s. I think it took me years to grow into my own skin so to speak. .. i was lucky that when i was 19 i found someone who was not confident in bed so i always had to take the lead and be active, go on top, all that kind of stuff because he didn't know what to do (and neither did i but he never complained about me trying things out) got to the point where i had to ask for what i wanted because he didn't have a clue really. i think because of him i ended up with my dominant streak. Thats interesting. .. ill go on then...i like talking, sorry. ![]() ![]() ![]() There is a belief system that when we have sex with someone, we exchange energy with that person. So be careful who you give your energy to and whose energy you recieve. Could be positive or negative. .. and we all know when it is one or the other. Sex is never really just sex however brief and transient. | |||
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"Right. Really must sleep! Catch up with this conversation tomorrow. Been interesting. Thanks to all who participated. Night x" thanks. gave me something to think about anyway with the sharing of energies. i'm after sex that boosts me and glad i waited for that. ![]() | |||
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"I was chatting to a male friend of mine over a drink today. A gorgeous guy with an amazing body so he gets a LOT of attention from women. He isn't a swinger but he is a personal friend of mine. He is 42 and whilst he gets lots of women in their early 20s offering him sex, he always turns them down. His friends think he is mad but he says he doesn't want someone who is young but he wants a real woman of his own age range who knows what she wants! He isn't looking for a lot older either. Just around his age range so late 30s to late 40s. It got me thinking. I dislike it when young guys approach me looking for the cougar experience. I don't personally find it flattering and they hold no interest for me. I also like guys around my own age range or thereabouts. So I wonder what guys think. Do women make better lovers as they get older and if so, why? My friend added that a woman his own age knows what to do with him! ![]() | |||
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" I prefer mature women because like me they have aged a bit and not body perfect like a young person would be. As for sexual performance mature women do have the edge for me as I don't play with enough younger women to give a comparison lol." Speak for yourself ! Lol! A lot of YOUNG women and men are far from body perfect these days! I have known many men older enough to be their dad with FAR better bodies!!!! | |||
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"I've always preferred older guys, my last three male partners were my 22 to his 29, 24 to 32 and 25 to 30/31. I think I get a feeling of safety with someone who's older than I do with my age or younger. Older men get protective - not in a bad way - of me whereas younger men don't, and on a particularly bad day especially, I welcome that affection." I was EXACTLY the same when I was your age and younger! Always went for guys about 10 years older for similar reasons plus they had more maturity and something to say! | |||
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"I'm 27 but it's unlikely I'd go with a guy younger than me! Esp if they look really young. It just makes me uncomfortable! I also don't think the cougar thing is particularly flattering tbh! I always go for guys older than me, mid 30s and up really ![]() I don't like the cougar label either. Makes me feel like a novelty act! | |||
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"I'm 27 but it's unlikely I'd go with a guy younger than me! Esp if they look really young. It just makes me uncomfortable! I also don't think the cougar thing is particularly flattering tbh! I always go for guys older than me, mid 30s and up really ![]() Yep! It's grim! ![]() | |||
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"Older women is definetly the way too go. Women my age are like puppies, they get over excited, very short attention span, hard too train and make mistakes. You don't have to worry about any of the above with a woman of experience and age " Wow. If someone suggested I needed training, I'd be off like a shot! -.- | |||
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"Older women is definetly the way too go. Women my age are like puppies, they get over excited, very short attention span, hard too train and make mistakes. You don't have to worry about any of the above with a woman of experience and age " I have a short atten......shit what was I saying ![]() | |||
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"Older women is definetly the way too go. Women my age are like puppies, they get over excited, very short attention span, hard too train and make mistakes. You don't have to worry about any of the above with a woman of experience and age " Does that not apply to men also? If so what can a guy of your age after an older woman I don't want a guy making mistakes ![]() | |||
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"Does that not apply to men also? If so what can a guy of your age after an older woman I don't want a guy making mistakes ![]() It certainly does apply too men, but they're a lot easier to train and to get into good habbits | |||
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" I prefer mature women because like me they have aged a bit and not body perfect like a young person would be. As for sexual performance mature women do have the edge for me as I don't play with enough younger women to give a comparison lol. Speak for yourself ! Lol! A lot of YOUNG women and men are far from body perfect these days! I have known many men older enough to be their dad with FAR better bodies!!!! " ![]() | |||
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