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Why Do Single Guys Get A Harder Time?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am a single guy. I have been on this site for over 2 months. I have had some messages from various ppl, however i am really struggling to get any meets

Can anyone explain what the trick is for single guys to get meets to improve my chances?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

volume versus demand..

and welcome to fab & good luck.

just be true to yourself, be respectful, always honest... craft messages that are tailored to what people are looking for..

and join in... either in chat/forums and/or social meets.

and never do 'slithering'..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

cheers mate

i have been myself when i send ppl messages and i have been in the chat rooms, i just find them very clicky, and hardly anyone speaks to u either

the forums seem better

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

From my point of _iew as a single female, don't be pushy, be willing to get to know each other (I invite to mine so I need to feel safe!) Usually takes me at least 4 weeks and that is constant talking, mailing or msn.

And most importantly, remember, some males see this as a sex site, I don't!

I am not here for someones entertainment...and I have no obligation to meet you, regardless of what you want to happen.....yes you guessed I have had some problems of late lol x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"cheers mate

i have been myself when i send ppl messages and i have been in the chat rooms, i just find them very clicky, and hardly anyone speaks to u either

the forums seem better"

both are full of some people who have bonded in friendship and enjoy good banter.. just join in and enjoy..

and always remember.. postive is far more attractive than negative..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yeah i agree i try not to be pushy and i dont see this as a sex site i try to make new friends on this, i have been talking to some ppl for a few weeks without meets

Im sure i messaged u minxy without reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

was thinking in leaving this but change my mind n decided 2 stay

due to one idiot in mail being dam right cheeky (wont let them win)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cheers mate

i have been myself when i send ppl messages and i have been in the chat rooms, i just find them very clicky, and hardly anyone speaks to u either

the forums seem better"

Chat rooms are a gradual process. Seldom do people spot a newbie sitting there quietly as they tend to gravitate to the people they've got to know over the time they've been using a particular chat room. If you persevere and don't come across as 'needy' then gradually you should see one or two 'Hiya mate' or 'welcome back' when you log in and say 'Hello'. A bit more time passes and people see you as a name they know and will engage you in their conversations.

Socials are the best way though. If the chat room you prefer organises a social, get yourself along to it so people can put a name and a personality to the user.

Swinging isn't easy at the best of times and patience really does reap rewards if you stick at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a single guy. I have been on this site for over 2 months. I have had some messages from various ppl, however i am really struggling to get any meets

Can anyone explain what the trick is for single guys to get meets to improve my chances? "

You are doing quite well compared to some... you've had a 'play' meet already lol!!! Some guys come on here moaning that they can't even get someone to send them a message back rejecting them!!!

Just be positive and don't expect a massive 'shag-fest'!!! xx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"yeah i agree i try not to be pushy and i dont see this as a sex site i try to make new friends on this, i have been talking to some ppl for a few weeks without meets

Im sure i messaged u minxy without reply"

More than likely!! Sorry for that lol - currently sitting at over 130 unread messages.....not easy being a single female either lol

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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

A lot of the single guys have some unrealistic expectations when they first join, fab is no different to anything, it takes time for people to build that repoir with someone, be patient, be a nice person to chat with, someone that other members feel comfortable being around and if you're still having trouble 12 months later then don't worry about it, you may not have found the sex you want, but you'll have made some really good friends along the way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yeah i have frock off, however i was hoping to have more success than i have in my time so far. I am being genuine and myself when i send messages, so there really isnt much more i can do xx

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"yeah i have frock off, however i was hoping to have more success than i have in my time so far. I am being genuine and myself when i send messages, so there really isnt much more i can do xx"

try the after 8 club in Edinburgh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although we r a couple I also have my own Profile, and have my own meets with single guys. Hubby will be the Single Guy next week, I am off to a friends for a meet, he is going to Partners

Pam x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you pull in "normal" life?

If not, then you will probably struggle here too.

Success here needs all the same social skills as well as the usual personality traits that we call upon when we go on the pull

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yeah jackandkatie

i am a very shy person, and do tend to struggle to pull in normal life, so i try online, as i find it easier

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