FabSwingers.com forum: Rubbish at flirting??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else rubbish at flirting or keeping conversations going?

I can engage in a bit of banter or double entendre for a while but then I just think oh they'll be sick of talking to me by now I'll just wander off now....Yeah....lol

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like you read my mind. *wonders off damn it

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By *ilthyjackcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Yep, me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I'm rubbish

Was out with a few mates from work and there's this girl I like.

I couldn't tell if she was being nice to me or if she likes me back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I'm rubbish

Was out with a few mates from work and there's this girl I like.

I couldn't tell if she was being nice to me or if she likes me back.

Only one way to find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the opposite problem .... I can talk for England literally lol

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Easy. I could hold a deep and meaningful conversation with a brick wall

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Easy. I could hold a deep and meaningful conversation with a brick wall

Now that I can do! I've been conversing with my brick wall tonight while I removed 350 year old plaster and wondered about the horses that donated the hair that went into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Easy. I could hold a deep and meaningful conversation with a brick wall

Yep, you talk to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god, this is so me. Clumsy at flirting, can't do small talk and a girl practically has to shove her breasts in my face for me to realise she's interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ican talk to anyone about anything if they can. I find people bore me pretty easily though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a PhD in talking rubbish for hours lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I'm rubbish

Was out with a few mates from work and there's this girl I like.

I couldn't tell if she was being nice to me or if she likes me back.

Only one way to find out.

Think I lost the opportunity with her. hopefully she hasn't friendzoned me.

Need to pluck up some courage and go for it. grrrr!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here, that's why I just don't talk to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me I can talk to anyone lol..hubby on the other hand can't. Mind you,that's probably,because I never shut up for long enough ,to give him chance....

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

Oh I love a good flirt

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Easy. I could hold a deep and meaningful conversation with a brick wall

Yep, you talk to me!"

Aww... don;t sell yourself short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same here, that's why I just don't talk to anyone "

You should give it a go. Never know you might be surprised at the result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me I can talk to anyone lol..hubby on the other hand can't. Mind you,that's probably,because I never shut up for long enough ,to give him chance....

You sound just like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same here, that's why I just don't talk to anyone

You should give it a go. Never know you might be surprised at the result. "
nah I'm good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta say i (mrs) chat to anyone and if im nervous even more than usual

That said im useless of noticing if anyone is flirting with me

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I do it a lot but it can become seen as your natural style, rather than some seductress wanting in on some intimacy. Follow through with sustained physical proximity and explore a new beginning

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By *ustCurious9966Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"Oh I love a good flirt

I can imagine you do and from your amazing album I bet you are in control and have them eating out if your hand. Very hot.

From other comments, I'd say it's important not to confuse flirting and talking. Flirting for me is very two-way. It feeds off one another. I can talk for England too -but then tend not to read the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me I can talk to anyone lol..hubby on the other hand can't. Mind you,that's probably,because I never shut up for long enough ,to give him chance....

We are like that too, but the other way round.

Mr can talk for Europe!

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

This is exactly me OP .... I find small talk and/or flirting really difficult and actually quite uncomfortable on occasion. If someone leads the conversation I can make a reasonable stab at being sociable in return but am hopeless at initiating it myself. As another poster up thread said, someone has to spell it out absolutely explicitly before I let myself even begin to think they *might* be interested. I do recognise this is a big self confidence issue but nonetheless can't help beating myself up about it on a regular basis and regretting missed opportunities due to my social ineptitude. How to improve matters I don't know ... but am very much in awe of those who appear to flit effortlessly around a room 'circulating'.

Ms G

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
over a year ago

Willenhall

I probably have what would be labelled as a 'borderline personality disorder' as I am extremely antisocial and have never particularly been interested in a long-term relationship.

I'm not shy, I just struggle to interact with other people on a common level. In fact, it's probably fair to say I dislike people in general.

A little hint though - if you're stuck at the 'small talk' stage in a group conversation and don't know how to keep the conversation going when the 'awkward silence' moment is coming simply lean in, say something completely innocent yet completely inappropriate like "I like turtles!"

...then immediately walk away to the bar to buy a round of drinks.

Their reaction will let you know if you're on to a winner or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it depends on the person and whether we're any good at playing off one another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else rubbish at flirting or keeping conversations going?

I can engage in a bit of banter or double entendre for a while but then I just think oh they'll be sick of talking to me by now I'll just wander off now....Yeah....lol

Mrs x"

Always assume less is more when flirting online. A " Fancy a fuck " message with a phone number works every time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On fab I flirt but I do get bored easily n wonder off. I the real world I think men find me quite scary. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm woeful at flirting - it just comes so natural to some people hey? That's just not fair is it? (Stamps feet in a huff)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm OK face to face but online I just assume I bore people and there's only so many times you can flutter your eyelashes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can chat shit to anybody for hours - ask me what ive gone on about and i wont have a clue - if you want me to shut up best thing to do is kiss me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm OK at flirting, for the most part. There is, however, another problem: some people are just impervious to flirting. There's nothing more frustrating than deploying a weapons-grade flirt and getting a "lol" back.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I am the same I can't always tell if people are being polite / flirting or genuily intreasted

I find that akward period between flirting and asking to play is the worse,

its even worse if you know the couple don't actively look for single guys but play ocationally with them but you have a feeling the female is flirting - akward

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By *abloversCouple
over a year ago

London

I'm excellent at chatting - sends Ja straight to sleep - literally (lol) xxx

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Much better at it in real life than I am on here, body language plays a big part of flirting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I'm sure half of my messages are read and deleted because I'm a social retard. I just crumble at making small talk or trying to say something witty and engaging.

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By *rey NomadMan
over a year ago

Calne

"Much better at it in real life than I am on here, body language plays a big part of flirting

This

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"Easy. I could hold a deep and meaningful conversation with a brick wall

You're such a good listener Joe.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I try and I fail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope can't flirt at all. I'm a boring sod really

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If you mean going up and talking to someone yes. If you mean over the top eyelash fluttering and such like then i have no intention of doing it

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