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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To find either A - a local male we both like enough to consider a possibility of some fun, or B - a local couple who are what we are looking for?

Always seem to get the freaks messaging us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because you live in basildon not manchester

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

They do say like attracts like

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Am I that bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not going to make an Essex comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think it's hard? Try being a single guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because you live in basildon not manchester "

... hmm - Shameless v Essex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They do say like attracts like"

Obviously you still have a problem with Mr Marmite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And presuming they need to like marmite to

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"They do say like attracts like

Obviously you still have a problem with Mr Marmite."

i have a problem with noone but if i was.only attracting."freaks" id change my approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because you live in basildon not manchester

... hmm - Shameless v Essex "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To find either A - a local male we both like enough to consider a possibility of some fun, or B - a local couple who are what we are looking for?

Always seem to get the freaks messaging us "

Probbaly cause you say no single men so all the decent ones wont message.

Also no public pics means all the onrs with standards wont message.

Leaving you with the dross

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To find either A - a local male we both like enough to consider a possibility of some fun, or B - a local couple who are what we are looking for?

Always seem to get the freaks messaging us

Probbaly cause you say no single men so all the decent ones wont message.

Also no public pics means all the onrs with standards wont message.

Leaving you with the dross"

Although we say no single males, how many actually read the profile? About 1 in 100 possibly?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh and we do have pics from friends only, we are not just going to meet and shag, there's got to be a connection between everyone, not just the blokes wanting a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To find either A - a local male we both like enough to consider a possibility of some fun, or B - a local couple who are what we are looking for?

Always seem to get the freaks messaging us

Probbaly cause you say no single men so all the decent ones wont message.

Also no public pics means all the onrs with standards wont message.

Leaving you with the dross

Although we say no single males, how many actually read the profile? About 1 in 100 possibly?

"

Like i say all the decent oens read the profile see that move on

The dross sends messges.

Then you whine about who messages you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and we do have pics from friends only, we are not just going to meet and shag, there's got to be a connection between everyone, not just the blokes wanting a fuck. "

Thats why i said no public pics not no pics.

No guy with standards is going to message a blank profile when theres thousands of profiles where he can see who he's messaging.

Instead youre gonna get the desperate any holes a goal crew messaging...

Then you'll whine about whos messaging.

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop


"To find either A - a local male we both like enough to consider a possibility of some fun, or B - a local couple who are what we are looking for?

Always seem to get the freaks messaging us

Probbaly cause you say no single men so all the decent ones wont message.

Also no public pics means all the onrs with standards wont message.

Leaving you with the dross

Although we say no single males, how many actually read the profile? About 1 in 100 possibly?

Like i say all the decent oens read the profile see that move on

The dross sends messges.

Then you whine about who messages you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To find either A - a local male we both like enough to consider a possibility of some fun, or B - a local couple who are what we are looking for?

Always seem to get the freaks messaging us

Probbaly cause you say no single men so all the decent ones wont message.

Also no public pics means all the onrs with standards wont message.

Leaving you with the dross

Although we say no single males, how many actually read the profile? About 1 in 100 possibly?

Like i say all the decent oens read the profile see that move on

The dross sends messges.

Then you whine about who messages you."

We have a winner, thread is d.....o......n......e

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is a simple way of sending polite messages even if you are the dross of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a simple way of sending polite messages even if you are the dross of the site.

"

You don't want single males to send you messages; state it in your profile, seriously, why not just block all single men (as you are told, week after week, when you come fourth with the same "single men are........." rant

Yawn

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmm. .. so do we rant every week then Paul? Interesting argument,as you may have seen we have male friends from the club, so don't block for that reason.

All stated on our profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm. .. so do we rant every week then Paul? Interesting argument,as you may have seen we have male friends from the club, so don't block for that reason.

All stated on our profile"

People on your friends list can message you; next

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are not here to argue, plenty of people in our vanilla life for that!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Hmm. .. so do we rant every week then Paul? Interesting argument,as you may have seen we have male friends from the club, so don't block for that reason.

All stated on our profile"

i will be honest i havent.seen one for a.couple of.weeks but since your.misses.has joined.thats.all you go on about and not long.ago you yourself was one of the very guys.you moan about

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is a simple way of sending polite messages even if you are the dross of the site.

You don't want single males to send you messages; state it in your profile, seriously, why not just block all single men (as you are told, week after week, when you come fourth with the same "single men are........." rant

Yawn"

Mrs M

Don't block single men because desite some idiots there are good men here why should we deny ourselves the chance of a decent friendship and have made good friends with single males

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you intentionally leave your profile open so that all and sundry can message you, and then get messages from all and sundry, what is the point on drawing our attention to your inability to manage your profile? Relax, do the searching yourself..

...why is this harder than posting a moan on the forums once a week?

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey

If you shortened your profile to " WE HATE MEN !!!! " I'm sure you'd had a better success rate of males reading it and maybe let them know in no uncertain terms your dislikes .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is a simple way of sending polite messages even if you are the dross of the site.

You don't want single males to send you messages; state it in your profile, seriously, why not just block all single men (as you are told, week after week, when you come fourth with the same "single men are........." rant

Yawn

Mrs M

Don't block single men because desite some idiots there are good men here why should we deny ourselves the chance of a decent friendship and have made good friends with single males "

Block single men and message those you find attractive. If what you're doing is causing you problems change what you're doing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you intentionally leave your profile open so that all and sundry can message you, and then get messages from all and sundry, what is the point on drawing our attention to your inability to manage your profile? Relax, do the searching yourself..

...why is this harder than posting a moan on the way forums once a week?"

Mrs M

This is true but slight exaggeration on moaning every week but then from where I stand most male messages don't seem to have even bothered reading our profile but the ones that do seem genuinely nice people so as I say why deny the chance of a good friend or possibly more and I have met lots of lovely people at the club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a simple way of sending polite messages even if you are the dross of the site.

You don't want single males to send you messages; state it in your profile, seriously, why not just block all single men (as you are told, week after week, when you come fourth with the same "single men are........." rant

Yawn

Mrs M

Don't block single men because desite some idiots there are good men here why should we deny ourselves the chance of a decent friendship and have made good friends with single males

Block single men and message those you find attractive. If what you're doing is causing you problems change what you're doing."

It's easier to change all the single men on the website apparently

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

There are always plenty of people to play with at a club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are always plenty of people to play with at a club "

And they are also friendly too

Think the club is the only place we will meet anyway, no computer warriors wanting an argument there.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"There are always plenty of people to play with at a club

And they are also friendly too

Think the club is the only place we will meet anyway, no computer warriors wanting an argument there."

Have you considered the option of blocking single men?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are always plenty of people to play with at a club

And they are also friendly too

Think the club is the only place we will meet anyway, no computer warriors wanting an argument there.

Have you considered the option of blocking single men? "

As Mrs M said previously, why should she have to miss out on here, this site is used by both of us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"There are always plenty of people to play with at a club

And they are also friendly too

Think the club is the only place we will meet anyway, no computer warriors wanting an argument there.

Have you considered the option of blocking single men?

As Mrs M said previously, why should she have to miss out on here, this site is used by both of us. "

I suggested that she could pick out the men she thought suitable and message them. From what you said earlier about the quality of messages you're receiving she isn't really missing out at the moment.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"There are always plenty of people to play with at a club

And they are also friendly too

Think the club is the only place we will meet anyway, no computer warriors wanting an argument there.

Have you considered the option of blocking single men?

As Mrs M said previously, why should she have to miss out on here, this site is used by both of us. "

miss out on what she doesnt want to play anyway. No single guys and no play is what your profile says

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just some bad eggs recently, sometimes people read the profile before messaging, but some slip through the net

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Just some bad eggs recently, sometimes people read the profile before messaging, but some slip through the net"
thats not what your op says

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh and Mrs diamondsmlies... glad you can read, most others don't bother.

We may change for the right person/couple.... who knows?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Just some bad eggs recently, sometimes people read the profile before messaging, but some slip through the net"

I'm afraid you can't have it both ways. We have our fair share of messages from people who clearly haven't read our profile but find it easier to just concentrate on those that have. We used to get lots of messages from men younger than we really wanted to meet so we blocked them and if I fancy a very young guy I can browse at my leisure and contact them, it really does take a lot of the angst out of it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Oh and Mrs diamondsmlies... glad you can read, most others don't bother.

We may change for the right person/couple.... who knows?"

im not a mrs not on here

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