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WHY do some people read a message and then mark it as unread!!??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Please tell me why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might not have time to properly respond so unmark it to respond when they do have time?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

So they don't lose it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They can save it, then they won't lose it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do that if it's something i want to reply to but don't have time when i read it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please tell me why"

I only do it to annoy, because i know it teases...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I do that if it's something i want to reply to but don't have time when i read it"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it too hard to say something short and sharp like.."like your message will respond later"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it, as if I've read it n it's a good message, I mark it as unread so Billy can see it.

Poppy x

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Please tell me why"

To piss you off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it too hard to say something short and sharp like.."like your message will respond later"?"

Sometimes yes....why does it bother you, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really not that big of a deal lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's really not that big of a deal lol"

I honestly never thought it was either

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"Is it too hard to say something short and sharp like.."like your message will respond later"?"

Yes, it is;

Some people may have 20.+ messages like that: or perhaps they are still considering it.

If you keep stressing about it, you will only feel worse......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Is it too hard to say something short and sharp like.."like your message will respond later"?"
how do you know if somwone has marked.a message unread or whether its just not been read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have.."

Then I'm odd. I'm cool with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I don't want to reply at that very minute and I don't want mardy follow up messages asking me why I haven't replied at that very minute.

Or because I won't want to reply full stop.

Or it's because some single men watch their sent messages like hawks and throw hissy fits about them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why not just delete it..and if they continue to bug you, block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have.."

I find it odd that someone would even notice a message has been read and unmarked never mind a thread about it. But hey ho

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have.."
ok the only way i can see you can tell if its been opened and marked is if your refreshing the profile constantly

Now thats odd

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Why do people have to open post every day questioning how others use the site??

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Meanwhile in Syria....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have..

I find it odd that someone would even notice a message has been read and unmarked never mind a thread about it. But hey ho "
thats what i dont get

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have..

I find it odd that someone would even notice a message has been read and unmarked never mind a thread about it. But hey ho "

That is a fair arguement, Lol, but I have noticed, and I got to say,I would much prefer a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have..

I find it odd that someone would even notice a message has been read and unmarked never mind a thread about it. But hey ho

That is a fair arguement, Lol, but I have noticed, and I got to say,I would much prefer a no thanks"

For me it can be it is a message I want to respond to but don't have the time, I'll just save it for later if it's something quick like a thanks but no thanks it would just be just that then deleted. Your thinking way too much into it. I've never used the saved messages Barr to save details of a organised social details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause i clicked by mistake. Because it deserves a proper repky later. Or because i intend to delete when thr sender is less likely to notice and have a pop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's my inbox, I'll do as I please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do it loads. Means we ar coming back to it. More to the point, if the sender is watching it for an instantaneous reply, then I think he/she is going to be pushy and not for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why not just delete it..and if they continue to bug you, block them."

i do block people if i'm not interested and they message me too much but i try not to because i don't want a big blocklist.

no point inconstantly deleting messages every minute though and messages are coming every minute, sometimes a few, sometimes nothing for a while but it's just not convenient to delete every single thing. i used to go through my inbox and take my time reading everything, deleting everything i wanted to delete, then reply to the people i wanted to chat to. used to take me an hour or two to get through my inbox so now i don't.

i check my inbox from time to time, am constantly in it if chatting. otherwise i unread anything i am not interested in and leave it. sometimes i leave it because i intend to reply later, sometimes i just don't want the sender to know i've read and ignored it.

everyone uses this site the way they want to in a way that suits them. if they don't reply take it as not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's been a couple of occasions when I've deleted sent messages that haven't been opened. Then get a response ages later. By that time I've forgotten what I said in the message. So I've deleted their reply.

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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago

Chester

I mark them unread if I'm short of time and I want to give a proper response later.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Because I don't want to reply at that very minute and I don't want mardy follow up messages asking me why I haven't replied at that very minute.

Or because I won't want to reply full stop.

Or it's because some single men watch their sent messages like hawks and throw hissy fits about them."

I do it as sometimes I am at work and don't have time to reply so read mark unread and reply when away from work

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..

1. Cant be arsed to respond

2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..

1. Cant be arsed to respond

2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message"

I think most people actually said they were leaving it so they could return to it later.....or was i reading a different thread??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..

1. Cant be arsed to respond

2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message

I think most people actually said they were leaving it so they could return to it later.....or was i reading a different thread??"

True, I've translated that into can't be arsed

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now


"They can save it, then they won't lose it"

Only site supporters can 'save' received messages. Non-site supporters will often 'mark as unread', so that they can use the 'delete all read' button to clear the dross out of their inboxes. Assume it's a compliment, more often than not - they don't think your message is dross!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..

1. Cant be arsed to respond

2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message

3. To annoy the paranoid"

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I often wonder why people monitor their sent boxes so closely, but its all part of life's rich tapestry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..

1. Cant be arsed to respond

2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message

I think most people actually said they were leaving it so they could return to it later.....or was i reading a different thread??

True, I've translated that into can't be arsed "

If i couldn't be arsed i would open the message then ignore it. That's "can't be arsed"!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often wonder why people monitor their sent boxes so closely, but its all part of life's rich tapestry."
nothing better to do probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..

1. Cant be arsed to respond

2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message"

Majority said to respond when they have time. You sound well para!

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Might not have time to properly respond so unmark it to respond when they do have time? "

Also, in couples there are two people who read them.

Mr ddc

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

Sometimes timing, sometimes trying to think of a response

Sometimes easier to leave as marked unread

So you don't get the usual stroppy well you read why haven't you responded answered by me saying I was responding to other messages followed by the block.

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By *luffy_bunniesCouple
over a year ago

Ilkeston


"Might not have time to properly respond so unmark it to respond when they do have time?

Also, in couples there are two people who read them.

Mr ddc"

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Please tell me why"

Because we can. Some people are very needy and want a reply straight away. I don't always have time for message tennis, so marking it as unread gives me the option of chatting at a later time.

Katie.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

I for one was very grateful when the site introduced it a few years back.

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By *iss AdventureWoman
over a year ago

Wonderland

Guilty .... I've always done it, same as I do with emails, just to remind myself that I've got messages to look at.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Why are you arsed trying to second guess why people do what they do ?

You want a shag. You asked for one. There was no reply......

Next !

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By *etty_brianCouple
over a year ago

midlands

So the other half will notice we have a message when lookong throughout the day.

And to save the moaners messaging about not having a reply once it's been read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually because I can't be arsed replying straight away.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

And to save the moaners messaging about not having a reply once it's been read. "

(It's after threads like this that I only read and mark as unread if the sender hasn't got their blue-dot showing)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because carrots are orange?

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

I sometimes mark things as unread if I have read but not replied, otherwise I end up forgetting

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"

And to save the moaners messaging about not having a reply once it's been read.

(It's after threads like this that I only read and mark as unread if the sender hasn't got their blue-dot showing)

"

I haven't got a blue dot

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..

1. Cant be arsed to respond

2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message

I think most people actually said they were leaving it so they could return to it later.....or was i reading a different thread??

True, I've translated that into can't be arsed "
well there you go thats how you translate it. I mark as unread when i want to think about what i want to say. So bugger a with cant be arsed

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

I sometimes do this if it's a message I want Paul to answer...or vice versa...no great mystery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I do that if I'm deciding how to respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes read messages then mark them unread so Ali can read them whe she gets on seeing as most messages are aimed st her anyway

-Ads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it all the time at work.

It either means I'm in a rush and will respond later or that I want to consider my response first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please tell me why"

What's life without whimsy...

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Please tell me why"

So I remember to answer that person when I have time to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people have to open post every day questioning how others use the site?? "

Because if they don't ask they won't know.

I like threads like this. It's interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's TWO of us so we might not actually be in the exact same place at the exact same time as the first one reading it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So my partner can read it ss we work shifts and are often miles apart. Also to read it properly later

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

And to save the moaners messaging about not having a reply once it's been read.

(It's after threads like this that I only read and mark as unread if the sender hasn't got their blue-dot showing)

I haven't got a blue dot "

You would if you pm'd me

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