FabSwingers.com forum: Q about marriage

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK slight follow on from the other marriage thread- if you were married or indeed engaged- did you have any doubts?

And if so how long did you stay in it and why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non what so ever, I knew she was and still is the one for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't ever want to get married, even on my wedding day I didn't want to marry him, my Nan offered to call me an ambulance to get me out of it

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Doubts about getting married non at the time staying married many.

Getting a divorce no doubt what so ever and the best thing I've ever done.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

First guy i waa was engaged to i knew id never marry.

Second one i married, its weird cause i wanted to marry him but never thought it would be forever

Third one i was engaged to wanted more than i could give.

Now im with the love of my life with a haopily naked finger

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My dad AFTER I got married thought I was making a mistake and he was right but the fucker could of told me before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I married for a strange reason; I think I did the right thing, we are all happy now, those obviously divorced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For my first marriage, I actually remember walking down the aisle and thinking "it's ok if it doesn't work out because we can get divorced".

When I looked at him standing there, he looked white, sweaty with nerves and just really unattractive! When we exchanged rings, I couldn't get his ring on his finger. He didn't help me, he just stood there like an idiot.

Yeah. Lasted four months.

I only agreed to marry him because we'd been together 4 years and in my head it's what you do.

I met my second husband a few months later. I was a bit nervous, but couldn't wait to marry him and was so excited to share vows with him. Our wedding was tiny and cheap compared to the first one but I loved marrying him. I loved seeing him waiting for me down the aisle. He smiled at me. Love him to bits.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"OK slight follow on from the other marriage thread- if you were married or indeed engaged- did you have any doubts?

I baulked at the cost of the sandwiches for the wedding buffet, but it turns out she was worth the 50p a head (or whatever it was)

Everyone has doubts OP, the trick is to trust your heart to conquer any problems that arise.

Mr ddc

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"My dad AFTER I got married thought I was making a mistake and he was right but the fucker could of told me before

Would you have listened?

My sister tried to tell me what a mistake I was making but I thought I knew better and I knew full well how they felt about each other so in the end I told my sis to ether deal with my choice in life or get the fuck out of my life and I ment it. Thank God she left it and just stood back. She was so right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK slight follow on from the other marriage thread- if you were married or indeed engaged- did you have any doubts?

I baulked at the cost of the sandwiches for the wedding buffet, but it turns out she was worth the 50p a head (or whatever it was)

Everyone has doubts OP, the trick is to trust your heart to conquer any problems that arise.

Mr ddc"

Haha i think i could've phrased it better. The kind of gut instinct underlying doubts some people alluded to above

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I had no doubts at all - I'd asked him!!!!

I did ask my best friend 10 mins before her wedding if she knew what she was doing. I'd given birth 3 days earlier so she blamed my hormones. She is currently going through a very nasty divorce from the mentally abusive control freak.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

No doubts whatsoever, I thought I'd found the perfect man and everyone else did too, except one old friend I found out 20 years later. I stayed 20 years because I made a vow and meant it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i got engaged to my oldest kids dad and had doubts, we only got engaged because i was pregnant, young and stupid. glad i never married him.

2nd time i had no doubts at all, was gonna spend the rest of my life with him. we're still friends but not together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK slight follow on from the other marriage thread- if you were married or indeed engaged- did you have any doubts?

And if so how long did you stay in it and why?"
Yes its the unknown and you have to just dive in . I wished to run away on my wedding day .. lol over 25 years now . lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"My dad AFTER I got married thought I was making a mistake and he was right but the fucker could of told me before

Would you have listened?

I would of listened to him, he is my rock and not often does he dish out advice but when he does we listen

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I was 16 when I got married. I knew it was a mistake and cried all the way through it. I was pregnant and it seemed the sensible thing to do. I didn't love him though. I wish I'd had the courage to cancel it at the time.Worst day of my life and ill never get that happily ever after now. Or just the chance to marry the man I love.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"My dad AFTER I got married thought I was making a mistake and he was right but the fucker could of told me before

Would you have listened?

I would of listened to him, he is my rock and not often does he dish out advice but when he does we listen "

Fair enough. I didn't know you'd been married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was sure at the time but looking back I had worries. We will be getting a divorce soon enough.

What with all the marriage threads and stuff recently? It seems there's a lot of relationship and couples stuff about at the moment .... Is it getting hot in here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a kid you think its going to be a bed of roses but its hard work and its give and take.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I was sure at the time but looking back I had worries. We will be getting a divorce soon enough.

What with all the marriage threads and stuff recently? It seems there's a lot of relationship and couples stuff about at the moment .... Is it getting hot in here? "

People are having cupids arrow shot up their arse...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't think much about what marriage meant when I got married. It felt right and I was happy. I may have been naive or blinkered to what was going on in front of my nose, but I never thought he would cheat,especially so soon after we were married. The abuse started quite early on but I thought it would stop,that he would come to his senses. I wanted it to work,I wanted the perfect family and did everything he expected of me. 27 years later-30 years after we first met-I decided to call it a day and accepted that it wasn't going to get any better. It's painful to see him happy with his new girlfriend but I wish him well. I'm not looking forward to them getting married though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was sure at the time but looking back I had worries. We will be getting a divorce soon enough.

What with all the marriage threads and stuff recently? It seems there's a lot of relationship and couples stuff about at the moment .... Is it getting hot in here? "

Idk about anyone else but i'm bored of using people and even more bored of being used.

I want something more than nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was sure at the time but looking back I had worries. We will be getting a divorce soon enough.

What with all the marriage threads and stuff recently? It seems there's a lot of relationship and couples stuff about at the moment .... Is it getting hot in here?

People are having cupids arrow shot up their arse...

Well isn't that all very lame

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I was sure at the time but looking back I had worries. We will be getting a divorce soon enough.

What with all the marriage threads and stuff recently? It seems there's a lot of relationship and couples stuff about at the moment .... Is it getting hot in here?

People are having cupids arrow shot up their arse...

Well isn't that all very lame

You would know wouldn't you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK slight follow on from the other marriage thread- if you were married or indeed engaged- did you have any doubts?

And if so how long did you stay in it and why?"

I stayed because I loved him, very deeply...and he wasn't honest so I didn't have all the information.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I imagine there are more broken hearts on here than other dating sites

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I wanted the big white wedding. Had been together for 8 years. Stayed married for 13 years until he decided to trade me in for a younger model. I would've ended it sooner had I known I'd manage financially with the kids.

Fab is good for me for lots of reasons and no I won't get married again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I loved my ex dearly, as a friend which, as we all know, is not enough to make a successful marriage. With hindsight it was obvious that I didn't have much in the way of romantic feelings for him, but at 23 and a history of abusive relationships it seemed to make sense to marry my best friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I loved my ex dearly, as a friend which, as we all know, is not enough to make a successful marriage. With hindsight it was obvious that I didn't have much in the way of romantic feelings for him, but at 23 and a history of abusive relationships it seemed to make sense to marry my best friend. "

Forgot to say, we were together for 13 years and married for 10.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I didn't ever want to get married, even on my wedding day I didn't want to marry him, my Nan offered to call me an ambulance to get me out of it

Bless her. My friends father told him if he changed his mind even at the altar to just collapse on the ground and he'd get him out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did love my wedding dress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did at the time, but it faded away due to her drinking and tendency to treat me as a punching bag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had no doubts and loved her deeply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally in love, but life is about compromise and living together as 'one' is constantly about compromising and finding the balances

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

32 years together 24 years married she is my soul mate and my absolute everything.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

I was never sure about getting married but I did and it lasted about a year..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult to say anything that isn't glib and hasn't been said. I guess if the truth be told I feel guilty for failing even though I never did anything wrong. I think that tacit failure, that abject sense of profound failure has haunted me and still makes me question my ability to love or to be loved now...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think ive always viewed relationships as the here and now. Apart from the first one who was a cunt ive never given any thought to them once they ended they ended and that was that including my marriage. Im begininhg to think im odd. Its only when i met jay everything changed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had been with my boyfriend for a total of three months and got engaged and married within two and a half weeks on the back of an argument (I knew him from school so wasn't a total stranger) we lasted 10 years before I played away, we got back together for another five years but we both knew it was over when he started going out more and more and another woman came into his life..I was never mad, how could I be? The way I treated him five years earlier? Was I happy to get married then? I don't really think I thought about it that much, it's just something I did and got on with it, I never had that 'awwww' moment with him, I never had that want to take care of him or show him any love.

Now though, I know I have met the love of my life and I know when I walk down the aisle to meet him at the other end, I know the reason why I am marrying him, because I truly love him, to take care of him and show him all the love I can

G X

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

If there's doubt, get out.

I was engaged but she's engaged to someone else now. I have my moments and wonder what could have been but it's for the best and so nice to see her happy with someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God knows why I got married but it didn't last long and getting divorced was the best thing I ever did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My dad AFTER I got married thought I was making a mistake and he was right but the fucker could of told me before

Don't call your father a 'fucker' how disrespectful

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