FabSwingers.com forum: Are Compliments Important.?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are compliments Important to you.? In life and on here or don't you care.? Was saying on This Morning Lack of compliments lead to low confidence. I give them and get them at times its lovely and makes me smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're really important to me. Don't need to be grand or sweeping, but any appreciation for the things you do/try to do, counts.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I take the majority of the compliments on here with a big pinch of salt. However when I give them I mean them.

In real life it's always lovely to recieve a compliment. It's still not easy for me to just accept them though.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I am gracious when paid a compliment

I don't pay too many unless someone really moves me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like them. I don't often believe them, but I like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think everyone like a compliment don't they, got to make you feel good has it not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like them. I don't often believe them, but I like them."

Nice feet

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Can't say I need them but if genuine they are nice. I think to many pass to many on here so it just becomes obvious bullshit. Having said that I ment what I mailed you

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

"I am gracious when paid a compliment

I don't pay too many unless someone really moves me"

I compliment you all the time and you have never been gracious

MrsSB apologies for her recent behaviour

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

"I like them. I don't often believe them, but I like them."

I'm the same

MrsSB

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I like them. I don't often believe them, but I like them.

Nice feet "
nice arse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can't say I need them but if genuine they are nice. I think to many pass to many on here so it just becomes obvious bullshit. Having said that I ment what I mailed you

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lol ooo You lovely man .. x your always making us smile here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A compliment a day keeps the blues and tears at bay.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I like them. I don't often believe them, but I like them.

I'm the same

MrsSB

Nice arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like them. I don't often believe them, but I like them.

Nice feet nice arse

Nice arse yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I absolutely love to compliment.

If anyone wants one let me know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they honest ones then yes. Its always nice to get a little pat on the back. Or arse

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Are compliments Important to you.? In life and on here or don't you care.? Was saying on This Morning Lack of compliments lead to low confidence. I give them and get them at times its lovely and makes me smile.

Hello Jo,

Sincerity .... matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off the people who matter to me yes they are invaluble. Off my peer group on fab yes they also matter. Off other fab members n Joe public it depends on the context. Xxx

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Can't say I need them but if genuine they are nice. I think to many pass to many on here so it just becomes obvious bullshit. Having said that I ment what I mailed you

lol ooo You lovely man .. x your always making us smile here.

You should try the rest of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like them when they are sincere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see something worth complimenting, I compliment. I appreciate any I get. I think it can brighten someone's day a little. I don't do false compliments though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello Jo,

Sincerity .... matters. "

Hiyer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello Jo,

Doh not me ...hang my head in shame and walk away quickly

Sincerity .... matters.

Hiyer "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello Jo,

Doh not me ...hang my head in shame and walk away quickly

Sincerity .... matters.

Hiyer "

Pants cant do that right either

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Compliments are important from people who matter to me...I tend to take them with a pinch of salt on here however accept them gracefully

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Compliments are important from people who matter to me...I tend to take them with a pinch of salt on here however accept them gracefully

Cheeky you are legend and I love ya sis xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always remember a time when I was running a retail business which was obviously turnover driven . The business owner would see me every month and we would go over the figures , and as the business grew he would tell me how well I was doing which was a major factor in driving me .

Anyway after a few years he went away , missed a monthly meeting and when he saw me for the next one he was a bit stand offish despite a major upturn in figures . I felt totally deflated so rang him a week later and asked him why he hadn't mentioned it . He told me that one day he may not be around to compliment me on my performance , and it was time for me to be self motivated . I was 25 at the time and didn't full get it , but here I am now 30 years later running my own successful business . Best thing that ever happened to me !

But on a superficial level , a well meant compliment is nice to give and receive .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here, compliments are not often given freely. There is nearly always an agenda behind them.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I like to think that I don't need them but there's probably a deep human need for them at some level. No man is an island. We're social creatures and lack of human social nourishment when young leads to potential disorders.

I give them and also like to say what my deep feelings are, rather than something that leaves others guessing or wondering what the ulterior motive really is.

Always a pleasure to receive. Like fab 'straight' there are also fab 'compliments', with their own meanings.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hello Jo,

Doh not me ...hang my head in shame and walk away quickly

Sincerity .... matters.

Hiyer

Pants cant do that right either

Well keep trying! Gotta be something you can do right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I take the majority of the compliments on here with a big pinch of salt. However when I give them I mean them.

In real life it's always lovely to recieve a compliment. It's still not easy for me to just accept them though.

same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here, compliments are not often given freely. There is nearly always an agenda behind them.

This. I don't tend to compliment guys because they seem to lose interest when I do. No clue why?

And I don't tend to believe compliments if they are given to me. But a part of me lies to myself and pretends it's true on here, cos let's face it, you don't get many compliments in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments from Marc are important to me, yes. If he stopped complimenting me I think my self-esteem would diminish a bit.

When people other than Marc compliment me, it's nice but I wouldn't say it's "important" to me. On fab it's a completely different story because compliments are usually complete bull shit.

I don't like people who can't take a compliment, though. It can get annoying when I genuinely compliment someone and they feel like they just have to disagree with me. I was reading a book on Englishness that said this is a common trait of English people. It's drives me crazy.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Compliments from Marc are important to me, yes. If he stopped complimenting me I think my self-esteem would diminish a bit.

When people other than Marc compliment me, it's nice but I wouldn't say it's "important" to me. On fab it's a completely different story because compliments are usually complete bull shit.

Cough....... I can help you there Courtney. It is true. If you say to an English woman. ' I love your dress!' they will reply .... 'Oh ..this old thing. Had it years. Bought it for buttons in Primark. Worn to death now.... uhmmm ermmmm thanks. You can have it if you want. .......

That's cos... English people were brought up to consider it CRASS to make personal remarks about others and therefore never learned how to behave socially when someone does.... other than wanting to punch their lights out that is.. or run.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I don't like people who can't take a compliment, though. It can get annoying when I genuinely compliment someone and they feel like they just have to disagree with me. I was reading a book on Englishness that said this is a common trait of English people. It's drives me crazy. "

What, this old trait? I've had it for years, handed down by my parents, almost used it to death now, I could teach you how to do it if you like...

Run, Granny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me no.

But ill happily give a compliment if I think something is worth it.

I personally don't like cheap lip service.

Prefer it to come from the heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not important for me. I spent 30 years with a man who only once said I looked nice and once said he thought I had beautiful eyes. That was when he realised I was going to leave. Compliments don't make me feel better about myself,I don't care what others think of me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I love compliments, i love being complimented on things that are not obvious. I love getting compliments with no alterior motive. My favourites are from people who you know are not free with.

The ridiculous over the top compliments on here make me smile, smile at the fact they really think im going to go for that shit.

Im free with my compliments cause when i pay a compliment im just telling the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give them as they get others in a positive mood. It worked today on someone who was in a right misery. The more I gave, their mood lifted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compliments from Marc are important to me, yes. If he stopped complimenting me I think my self-esteem would diminish a bit.

When people other than Marc compliment me, it's nice but I wouldn't say it's "important" to me. On fab it's a completely different story because compliments are usually complete bull shit.

I hate it. It makes me feel like they want to be convinced that my compliment is true. If I say "oh your dress is nice," and a woman responds with "No, its just your average dress," what the hell am I supposed to say back? "Actually, yeah you're right, it's just an average dress, never mind"??? Meh. A simple "thanks" never killed anyone.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I hate it. It makes me feel like they want to be convinced that my compliment is true. If I say "oh your dress is nice," and a woman responds with "No, its just your average dress," what the hell am I supposed to say back? "Actually, yeah you're right, it's just an average dress, never mind"??? Meh. A simple "thanks" never killed anyone.

To this day I still haven't found a way to deal with "Pleased to meet you" I just panic.

Self-deprecation is fine up to a point, the problem comes when, as a nation, it becomes "Tall poppy syndrome" and we start trying to pull down anyone who achieves a modicum of success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its nice to get compliments from time to time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments are really important to me, not the I'll say anything to try and get in your knickers compliments, but genuine heartfelt ones like being told I'm good at my job, that kind of thing. If hubby compliments me I feel like I could take on the world. Maybe I'm just needy

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

I like to give them, not too fussed about receiving them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My idea of compliments are very different to everyone else's.

I like my version.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

I'm never sure compliments are genuine so treat them with a pinch of salt, especially on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but they're nice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very important. When youve grown up not getting any you tend to cherish the people that do compliment you. Hence why Im with Mrs Rockstar

- Mr x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not important . But nice all the same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paying others compliments was proven a long time ago to affect your own confidence positively.

Something i always taught on my confidence course

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Unexpected compliments are nice - I like it when a total stranger compliments my dancing or my riding. And compliments from the ones you love are important too. I don't often give them - so they are worth a lot when I do, though I regularly affirm in other ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Paying others compliments was proven a long time ago to affect your own confidence positively.

Something i always taught on my confidence course

How/ why does that work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get embarrassed if complimented as I'm not used to it. I get lots of comments from strangers about my height, often quite bitchy and unpleasant, so it's always nice to receive a genuine compliment from folk.

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

"I get embarrassed if complimented as I'm not used to it. I get lots of comments from strangers about my height, often quite bitchy and unpleasant, so it's always nice to receive a genuine compliment from folk."

Ok I don't get it what's wrong with your height ? Oh and by the way lovely leggs

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Fine words butter no parsnips."

~ the emperor Augustus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Fine words butter no parsnips."

~ the emperor Augustus"

There's butte_ed parsnips on offer? Yum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like complimemts about me personally

I like them when they are about my work, kids etc

But I would rather people not make compliments about me as a person they make me feel uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't like complimemts about me personally

I like them when they are about my work, kids etc

But I would rather people not make compliments about me as a person they make me feel uncomfortable "
And I know you and think your a lovely real caring woman .I would say that about you. x

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I take the majority of the compliments on here with a big pinch of salt. However when I give them I mean them.

In real life it's always lovely to recieve a compliment. It's still not easy for me to just accept them though.

same here"

same here

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Compliments about my cooking are important. Otherwise they mean nothing to me.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I take them graciously these days and I'm happy to dish them out to the deserving.

I do this in 'real' life a lot

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Yes they are both ways

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Compliments about my cooking are important. Otherwise they mean nothing to me."
I love my cooking and like you I need to know if they like. xx

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I don't like complimemts about me personally

I like them when they are about my work, kids etc

But I would rather people not make compliments about me as a person they make me feel uncomfortable "

I like what I can see of your tattoos is that OK

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Not overly important to me, but depends who they are from and if they are sincere. Hubby pays me some lovely compliments though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not from a bunch of strangers on here, no...

but they are nice to recieve from people I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see someone wearing a beautiful dress or their perfume smells lovely or someone does a good job i like to compliment them...i love to see someone smile and it's just nice to be nice, and even nicer to be appreciated. I never expect a return and the positive effect it has on them and me is worth more than gold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not important to me, they're just stating the obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only meaningful if its something im personally proud of.

Otherwise its just false flattery

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Online and off-line iam wary I always feel they are saying it to get some thing out of me so if some one says some thing I become a bit on edge

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

"Can't say I need them but if genuine they are nice. I think to many pass to many on here so it just becomes obvious bullshit. Having said that I ment what I mailed you

I think you take reverse psychology too far on the compliment side Bladey

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

A compliment without sincerity is not worth having.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Flatter my ego. (Yes that is a euphemism)

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