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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People often speak about their 'type' on here, the sort of person they go for, the kind who excites them, stimulates them, and just makes them feel GOOD. Everyone has a type, some covering a wider variety than others, my question is, do YOU think you're your types type?

I know what I like, my standards are rather high, not ridiculously so, and sometimes I question whether or not I'm actually at that level myself, a bit like a person who has a taste for fine steak, but only so much money in their pocket - so how do you make more? Do you seek to improve yourself in whatever way you can to make yourself more attractive to these people, or do you reevaluate your standards, and choose a different type?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't have a physical type but I do tend to meet people I would describe as like-minded in terms of personality. That's why my profile is vague as to what I'm looking for; I can't exactly define it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ligiea you are definitely my type gorgeous body there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess I do have a type of lady I like but most of the time if I am honest I look at someone picture and think, wow someone that hot isn't going to look at me twice.

So I never contact them, maybe I should but I think you have to live in the real world and not kid yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm similar to Ligeia, I don't have a specific type but I am attracted to certain people & luckily enough the feeling is usually mutual.

I tend to go for like minded individuals who I'll have something in common with, always a good place to start imo.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Wouldn't really say I have a type and if I did judging from past experience I need to change it if I did. I like woman with brains. Yes it's true in the 1st instance we all go for looks but personally I know a good looking girl turns very ugly very quickly if she has no personality. Having said that I'm quite happy on my own so unless Mrs right comes charging up to sweep me off my feet (ye right) it really isn't that important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guess I do have a type of lady I like but most of the time if I am honest I look at someone picture and think, wow someone that hot isn't going to look at me twice.

So I never contact them, maybe I should but I think you have to live in the real world and not kid yourself."

So you only contact women you don't think are hot then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guess I do have a type of lady I like but most of the time if I am honest I look at someone picture and think, wow someone that hot isn't going to look at me twice.

So I never contact them, maybe I should but I think you have to live in the real world and not kid yourself.

So you only contact women you don't think are hot then? "

No putting words in my mouth please, no I just don't contact anyone for a meet

All the ladies on fab are way to good for me

Maybe I should change sides

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Guess I do have a type of lady I like but most of the time if I am honest I look at someone picture and think, wow someone that hot isn't going to look at me twice.

So I never contact them, maybe I should but I think you have to live in the real world and not kid yourself.

So you only contact women you don't think are hot then?

No putting words in my mouth please, no I just don't contact anyone for a meet

All the ladies on fab are way to good for me

Maybe I should change sides "

Far from a dig dude but maybe a bit more confidence would do you well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you seek to improve yourself in whatever way you can to make yourself more attractive to these people, or do you reevaluate your standards, and choose a different type?"

I'd say you're best improving yourself for you. Whatever may follow is all well and good but you wake up you, and you go to sleep you. Make that as good a deal as it can be, and hope for the best with others.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The question was - 'Are you your type's type?'

It's not possible to give an answer as I am me and not the someone else.

Who knows who individuals we haven't even met yet, fancy?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Do you seek to improve yourself in whatever way you can to make yourself more attractive to these people, or do you reevaluate your standards, and choose a different type?

I'd say you're best improving yourself for you. Whatever may follow is all well and good but you wake up you, and you go to sleep you. Make that as good a deal as it can be, and hope for the best with others."

To true

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

A workable answer would be......

I will be the type for some of my type but not the type for all of my type.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

No I've always attracted my type

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"A workable answer would be......

I will be the type for some of my type but not the type for all of my type. "

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physically, yeah I think I'm my type's type.

Mentally, I think I go for guys smarter than myself (a bit out of my league in that sense). I still wonder why Marc wanted to be with me. But that's more for relationships and friends than sex on fab.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"A workable answer would be......

I will be the type for some of my type but not the type for all of my type. "

Common sense always cuts through the bullshit Granny. Well put.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I have a type, but I never know what will attract me to someone - many different qualities or attributes have, and I am open to that.

I attract a fair amount of my type - when I was 'out there' on the pull I may not have always got the best-looking guy in the room but the sexiest ones always made a beeline for me

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Got a cock - you'll do!

Seriously personality that is matched, fun and physically I don't just have one type but very fit works, preferably taller.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sense of humour and personality much more attractive than looks alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not aiming to high waiting... I'm just waiting patiently for Sharon stone!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who has something about them that you cant quite define...something extra

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

Interesting question

I definitely have a type, although I rarely attract men of that type. In fact I've always attracted the exact opposite. Yes, I am constantly re-evaluating myself to attract that type….so far I've concluded I'm just not in the right circles since I left my last job.

How do you ever really know…unless you find someone & ask them???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you seek to improve yourself in whatever way you can to make yourself more attractive to these people, or do you reevaluate your standards, and choose a different type?

I'd say you're best improving yourself for you. Whatever may follow is all well and good but you wake up you, and you go to sleep you. Make that as good a deal as it can be, and hope for the best with others."

I do agree with the whole be the best you can be for yourself thing, but I'm still not satisfied with that answer alone - justifying your value as a person will always have to be measured somewhat against the views of those around you, otherwise how are you any different to a psychopath, not placing value on the values of others?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A workable answer would be......

I will be the type for some of my type but not the type for all of my type.

Common sense always cuts through the bullshit Granny. Well put. "

Bobby you're not intelligent enough to identify either common sense or bullshit, your every contribution to my threads is a transparent, clumsy snipe at myself, in which you fail to achieve anything other than make yourself look increasingly stupid each time, kindly just go away, thankyou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do agree with the whole be the best you can be for yourself thing, but I'm still not satisfied with that answer alone - justifying your value as a person will always have to be measured somewhat against the views of those around you, otherwise how are you any different to a psychopath, not placing value on the values of others?"

Oh I'm not saying place no value on those things - but they are more likely to take root when you cultivate yourself, as opposed to expending energy on a chase while you go malnourished.

Take it to the other extreme; if you throw everything into the pursuit of others, what do they see in you to find value from? There's no 'you' to be had.

It's tougher these days particularly with social media urging everything to be compared to everything else (and as quickly as possible too), but there's something to be said for getting the foundations right, and building a strong inner life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do agree with the whole be the best you can be for yourself thing, but I'm still not satisfied with that answer alone - justifying your value as a person will always have to be measured somewhat against the views of those around you, otherwise how are you any different to a psychopath, not placing value on the values of others?

Oh I'm not saying place no value on those things - but they are more likely to take root when you cultivate yourself, as opposed to expending energy on a chase while you go malnourished.

Take it to the other extreme; if you throw everything into the pursuit of others, what do they see in you to find value from? There's no 'you' to be had.

It's tougher these days particularly with social media urging everything to be compared to everything else (and as quickly as possible too), but there's something to be said for getting the foundations right, and building a strong inner life."

I agree with what you're saying, I think we're all really trying to find that harmony inside and out, being able to satisfy our own needs whilst not taking those of others for granted, and at the same time seeking to offer out and be appreciated by those around us. We need to understand and embrace those things in order to truly become the best that we can be, someone who is happy in themselves, happy with their place in the world, in a world that is happy to have them.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"A workable answer would be......

I will be the type for some of my type but not the type for all of my type.

Common sense always cuts through the bullshit Granny. Well put.

Bobby you're not intelligent enough to identify either common sense or bullshit, your every contribution to my threads is a transparent, clumsy snipe at myself, in which you fail to achieve anything other than make yourself look increasingly stupid each time, kindly just go away, thankyou."

You seem to have persecution mania Brian, I was simply congratulating Granny on hitting the nail on the head, rather than going around the houses as some have a tendency to do.

I am far from stupid and I will post in an open forum if I want, with or without your permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think about if I'm better looking or not than anyone else.

So I don't have any levels or put people in a "league" etc.

I like who I like and never think am I attractive enough for that person or are they attractive enough for me.

So never experienced what your talking about tbh.

Maybe some others think they are too good for me though ?? Lol

But that probably says more about them than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they only fuck middle aged fat women who suck cock well and like anal,probably.

It's a difficult one for me because I don't have a type; I'm one of those people who fuck "anything" and can't always put a finger on why I find someone attractive enough to rim or ride.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I only meet people that are my type and i assume if they keep coming back im their type. What i have as.a type on here has nothing to do with the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of banter

Clean looking .tats If possible .easy going .ticks my boxes. .If dead fit looking I think would they go for somebody a bit overweight like myself .so tend not to message

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I've met guys who I didn't think were my type and we've got on famously. I've also met guys who I thought were fabulous and found there was no chemistry.

Am I my types type? You'd have to ask them xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

How do we know if our standarda are high or that we are just lucky that we match with people

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"I don't have a physical type but I do tend to meet people I would describe as like-minded in terms of personality. That's why my profile is vague as to what I'm looking for; I can't exactly define it."

Same here. Intellectual or social link is far more important than a physical connection for us. That's why we don't specify looks and our age limits are fluid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a supermodel and my type is a supermodel.

That could be the reason I've never been married and have no children. I've dated the ladies with a face that could light up a room. But the brains of a fish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a good sense of humour and I'm level headed. I only seek the same. Can't cope with those who have changeable moods. I lived with that for too long.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

My standards are high and always will be.

Thought I could to start off with on here, but realised very very quickly that absolutely no way....

So no I wouldn't lower them for on here why would I?

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