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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been asked to rewrite a verification as I had put he was considerate towards my disability.he doesn't want to display other one as he things it sounds pervy and sounds like I might have no legs or I am "a bit special" Now feeling quite hurt. Would you guys do another veri or tell him to shove it up his arse? Answers on a butt plug please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I have been asked to rewrite a verification as I had put he was considerate towards my disability.he doesn't want to display other one as he things it sounds pervy and sounds like I might have no legs or I am "a bit special" Now feeling quite hurt. Would you guys do another veri or tell him to shove it up his arse? Answers on a butt plug please

"

If you can see past your own feelings, write him another one.

Only he knows why he doesn't want to leave others guessing what your disability is.

Only you know why you thought you would put something about your disability in a verification that simply needs to prove that he is who he says he is.

It's no biggy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you "

Sounds like a plan thank you x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you "

Why ? All he wants is the right to show a verification or not.

Up to him surely.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Sounds like a plan thank you x"

Jesus,

Good job this place is N.S.A.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Sounds like a plan thank you x"

it's up to you what you write not him!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Sounds like a plan thank you x

it's up to you what you write not him!"

I agree and it's up to him what he displays on his own profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you "

This

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Sounds like a plan thank you x

it's up to you what you write not him!

I agree and it's up to him what he displays on his own profile. "

Correct,so if he doesn't like what's been written then he doesn't display it. What happens if he doesn't like the next one she writes or the one after that?! Maybe he should write it himself,then he can't blooming complain about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its your veri you write it as you want - up to the other person if they want to display it or not -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have been asked to rewrite a verification as I had put he was considerate towards my disability.he doesn't want to display other one as he things it sounds pervy and sounds like I might have no legs or I am "a bit special" Now feeling quite hurt. Would you guys do another veri or tell him to shove it up his arse? Answers on a butt plug please

If you can see past your own feelings, write him another one.

Only he knows why he doesn't want to leave others guessing what your disability is.

Only you know why you thought you would put something about your disability in a verification that simply needs to prove that he is who he says he is.

It's no biggy. "

That is exactly what I was doing. He promised to be considerate and gentle and he was. Not all men that promise this are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Why ? All he wants is the right to show a verification or not.

Up to him surely. "

And he had that right. People can't go around dictating what others write about them. If they don't like it then don't display it. Simple. I think it's a bit of a cheek to ask for it to be rewritten and the OP clearly was offended by it so i offered a solution.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

It depends if you want to meet him again ....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Sounds like a plan thank you x

it's up to you what you write not him!

I agree and it's up to him what he displays on his own profile.

Correct,so if he doesn't like what's been written then he doesn't display it. What happens if he doesn't like the next one she writes or the one after that?! Maybe he should write it himself,then he can't blooming complain about it"

So the simple solution would be NOT to write another one.

N.B. He is trying to write it himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want to meet him again if so write him another.

If you don't want to then just say ~ no, either display the one I've written or don't.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Sounds like a plan thank you x

it's up to you what you write not him!

I agree and it's up to him what he displays on his own profile.

Correct,so if he doesn't like what's been written then he doesn't display it. What happens if he doesn't like the next one she writes or the one after that?! Maybe he should write it himself,then he can't blooming complain about it

So the simple solution would be NOT to write another one.

N.B. He is trying to write it himself. "

That's why she should tell him to do one,she shouldn't be made to feel bad about what's she's written when in her mind it was said in a positive way.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Why ? All he wants is the right to show a verification or not.

Up to him surely.

And he had that right. People can't go around dictating what others write about them. If they don't like it then don't display it. Simple. I think it's a bit of a cheek to ask for it to be rewritten and the OP clearly was offended by it so i offered a solution."

O.P. says he 'asked'. I have in the past asked that veri's are not graphic. I see no harm in agreeing a tone before veri's are given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have never agreed to give a veri - certainly never been asked what type of veri to write - and theyre not that important in the grand scheme of things

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


" He promised to be considerate and gentle and he was. Not all men that promise this are"

Personally I feel the verification should only be about him. If you still feel he was kind, considerate and gentle during the meet, why not leave out the bit about you?

If his request has pissed you off for some reason, which it seems to have done, don't. It is then up to him to choose whether or not he displays it.

Mr ddc

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Do you want to meet him again if so write him another.

If you don't want to then just say ~ no, either display the one I've written or don't."

Not sure I agree with that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends if you want to meet him again .... "

I doubt he will want to see me again

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"we have never agreed to give a veri - certainly never been asked what type of veri to write - and theyre not that important in the grand scheme of things "

I don't focus on them either but occasionally I have said - ' i'd never display smutty , graphic or ego inflating stuff. I tend to just want them to say I have five fingers and five toes and didn't kill anyone.

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I've had 2 guys over the years ask me to rewrite a veri.

One because I said he was shy- he really was..

Other because I said he was giddy- he was..

Said no to both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends if you want to meet him again ....

I doubt he will want to see me again"

well no need fo r the veri then - block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him he was a shit shag and block him. Sounds a real gent

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It depends if you want to meet him again ....

I doubt he will want to see me again

well no need fo r the veri then - block and move on "
and

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want to meet him again if so write him another.

If you don't want to then just say ~ no, either display the one I've written or don't.

Not sure I agree with that.

"

Most my meets are repeat, therefore I like the person, therefore I'd probably rewrite them a veri if they asked me to.

If for some reason I didn't want to meet them again I probably wouldn't rewrite it.

After all the general point of the veri is to verify they are genuine not a review of the night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Why ? All he wants is the right to show a verification or not.

Up to him surely.

And he had that right. People can't go around dictating what others write about them. If they don't like it then don't display it. Simple. I think it's a bit of a cheek to ask for it to be rewritten and the OP clearly was offended by it so i offered a solution.

O.P. says he 'asked'. I have in the past asked that veri's are not graphic. I see no harm in agreeing a tone before veri's are given.

"

She also said that the guy was worried about what others would think of him based on her verification!! Sounds like he doesn't want others knowing he's met someone who is disabled...in which case I'd be offended too.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


" I have in the past asked that veri's are not graphic. I see no harm in agreeing a tone before veri's are given.

"

Where's the fun in that? We love the random lottery of allowing our meets to say whatever they like, it acts as a final confirmation that we chose well when we discover they're disceet enough not to mention insisting I wear a paper bag.

Our only real fear is that they mention our real names.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"It depends if you want to meet him again ....

I doubt he will want to see me again"

Well I certainly wouldn't change what you've then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Why ? All he wants is the right to show a verification or not.

Up to him surely.

And he had that right. People can't go around dictating what others write about them. If they don't like it then don't display it. Simple. I think it's a bit of a cheek to ask for it to be rewritten and the OP clearly was offended by it so i offered a solution.

O.P. says he 'asked'. I have in the past asked that veri's are not graphic. I see no harm in agreeing a tone before veri's are given.

She also said that the guy was worried about what others would think of him based on her verification!! Sounds like he doesn't want others knowing he's met someone who is disabled...in which case I'd be offended too."

Having re read the OP I am inclined to agree with you that's what it sounds like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

plus if you re did a veri - would look like hed had 2 meets if he displays the veris info doodar -- nah forget him

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have been asked to rewrite a verification as I had put he was considerate towards my disability.he doesn't want to display other one as he things it sounds pervy and sounds like I might have no legs or I am "a bit special" Now feeling quite hurt. Would you guys do another veri or tell him to shove it up his arse? Answers on a butt plug please

"

Since I don't know the tone or content of your verification I can't comment on his reaction. I will say though that this sort of thing is often better sorted between the people concerned rather than one of the people and loads of others who weren't involved.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Christ I would never rewrite a veri for anyone

The way I see it is if they don't like it they won't show it

Luckily most of my veris have been well written, and funny and not graphic

I personally would t write a graphic one so would expect the same in return.

Tell him to p off and you have already written one

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Block him....then he can't display any verification from you

Why ? All he wants is the right to show a verification or not.

Up to him surely.

And he had that right. People can't go around dictating what others write about them. If they don't like it then don't display it. Simple. I think it's a bit of a cheek to ask for it to be rewritten and the OP clearly was offended by it so i offered a solution.

O.P. says he 'asked'. I have in the past asked that veri's are not graphic. I see no harm in agreeing a tone before veri's are given.

She also said that the guy was worried about what others would think of him based on her verification!! Sounds like he doesn't want others knowing he's met someone who is disabled...in which case I'd be offended too.

Having re read the OP I am inclined to agree with you that's what it sounds like."

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Do you want to meet him again if so write him another.

If you don't want to then just say ~ no, either display the one I've written or don't.

Not sure I agree with that.

Most my meets are repeat, therefore I like the person, therefore I'd probably rewrite them a veri if they asked me to.

If for some reason I didn't want to meet them again I probably wouldn't rewrite it.

After all the general point of the veri is to verify they are genuine not a review of the night.

"

Yeah,I get all that. Especially the last line but if the O.P. considers that she doesn't think she should re - write a veri .... then she shouldn't , whether she wants a re meet or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I have in the past asked that veri's are not graphic. I see no harm in agreeing a tone before veri's are given.

Where's the fun in that? We love the random lottery of allowing our meets to say whatever they like, it acts as a final confirmation that we chose well when we discover they're disceet enough not to mention insisting I wear a paper bag.

Our only real fear is that they mention our real names."

I frequently wear a paper bag over my head for meets. It adds a certain air of mystery don't you think?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


" I have in the past asked that veri's are not graphic. I see no harm in agreeing a tone before veri's are given.

Where's the fun in that? We love the random lottery of allowing our meets to say whatever they like, it acts as a final confirmation that we chose well when we discover they're disceet enough not to mention insisting I wear a paper bag.

Our only real fear is that they mention our real names."

You mean meets don't call you Derby n Dale ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been asked to rewrite a verification as I had put he was considerate towards my disability.he doesn't want to display other one as he things it sounds pervy and sounds like I might have no legs or I am "a bit special" Now feeling quite hurt. Would you guys do another veri or tell him to shove it up his arse? Answers on a butt plug please

Since I don't know the tone or content of your verification I can't comment on his reaction. I will say though that this sort of thing is often better sorted between the people concerned rather than one of the people and loads of others who weren't involved. "

I agree....i merely offered a solution .....

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


" I have in the past asked that veri's are not graphic. I see no harm in agreeing a tone before veri's are given.

Where's the fun in that? We love the random lottery of allowing our meets to say whatever they like, it acts as a final confirmation that we chose well when we discover they're disceet enough not to mention insisting I wear a paper bag.

Our only real fear is that they mention our real names.

You mean meets don't call you Derby n Dale ?"

We tried fake names once, but neither of us could remember our fake names, and when the other couple started also interchanging their own fake and real names, it just ended up as a surreal experience where we were talking about four imaginary people.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

This is exactly why I don't display any veris and now tell people not to waste time writing them...

I don't want to broadcast what I do or my kinks...

And if someone liked something they can just directly contact me and tell me...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont do graphic verifications but ive only had one i dont like but i just dont show it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He wants it re written as he thinks it reflects badly on him do you mean? Because he met you and you have a disability or am I reading it wrong. Sounds a bit arse about face to me , why can't he display it as is. I wouldn't rewrite it. Id leave it as you wrote it. You didn't have to write one at all.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


" I have in the past asked that veri's are not graphic. I see no harm in agreeing a tone before veri's are given.

Where's the fun in that? We love the random lottery of allowing our meets to say whatever they like, it acts as a final confirmation that we chose well when we discover they're disceet enough not to mention insisting I wear a paper bag.

Our only real fear is that they mention our real names.

I frequently wear a paper bag over my head for meets. It adds a certain air of mystery don't you think?"

Oh, I always have eye-holes though, I'm not into bdsm gimp-sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all your replies. I probably would have found it all funny if it was not for the mentioned. Of not having any legs. Today I am yoo g for a hospital appointment for a scan on a tumour at the top of my leg. If it is attached to the bone the leg will have to be amputated. This is not what I meant by disability. I also have Trigeminal neuralgia a very painful condition of the face. I don't think I will worry about this anymore. If he wants to display it he will if he doesnt he won't. I won't do another.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thank you for all your replies. I probably would have found it all funny if it was not for the mentioned. Of not having any legs. Today I am yoo g for a hospital appointment for a scan on a tumour at the top of my leg. If it is attached to the bone the leg will have to be amputated. This is not what I meant by disability. I also have Trigeminal neuralgia a very painful condition of the face. I don't think I will worry about this anymore. If he wants to display it he will if he doesnt he won't. I won't do another.

"

That's not nice for you, I hope it goes well. You read his comments in the light of what you're experiencing at the moment, he didn't write them with that in mind (I hope).

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Thank you for all your replies. I probably would have found it all funny if it was not for the mentioned. Of not having any legs. Today I am yoo g for a hospital appointment for a scan on a tumour at the top of my leg. If it is attached to the bone the leg will have to be amputated. This is not what I meant by disability. I also have Trigeminal neuralgia a very painful condition of the face. I don't think I will worry about this anymore. If he wants to display it he will if he doesnt he won't. I won't do another.

"

Big hugs and good luck today.

In his defence, if he didn't know the first bit, he probably wouldn't have been crass enough to say what he did.

Fingers crossed for you

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People judge other people because of their verifications. That's fact.

We don't know the circumstances of the meet, or even the wording of the verification, but depending on either I could imagine a scenario where a guy might be worried about a verification for a good meet reflecting badly on him. That doesn't mean he is embarrassed about the disability.

Could he simply not display the verification? Of course, and that's what many of us would do. But many people won't meet others who have hidden verifications, never mind a single guy with one. So that will reflect badly on him as well.

He is a single guy, part of a group who find it notoriously difficult on fab. He had a good meet, by the OP's own description. If it were me I would at least consider rewriting the verification because very often what is important is how people perceive things, not how they really are - especially with words on the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for all your replies. I probably would have found it all funny if it was not for the mentioned. Of not having any legs. Today I am yoo g for a hospital appointment for a scan on a tumour at the top of my leg. If it is attached to the bone the leg will have to be amputated. This is not what I meant by disability. I also have Trigeminal neuralgia a very painful condition of the face. I don't think I will worry about this anymore. If he wants to display it he will if he doesnt he won't. I won't do another."

I wish you the best regarding your hospital appointment. I hope it turns out well. My mother lost her leg a few years ago, so I understand a bit of your pain and worry. My thoughts are with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I have in the past asked that veri's are not graphic. I see no harm in agreeing a tone before veri's are given.

Where's the fun in that? We love the random lottery of allowing our meets to say whatever they like, it acts as a final confirmation that we chose well when we discover they're disceet enough not to mention insisting I wear a paper bag.

Our only real fear is that they mention our real names.

I frequently wear a paper bag over my head for meets. It adds a certain air of mystery don't you think?

Oh, I always have eye-holes though, I'm not into bdsm gimp-sex."

That's a really good idea especially if I use plastic bags. (Plastic holds up better in watersports or if feeling suicidal)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you for all your replies. I probably would have found it all funny if it was not for the mentioned. Of not having any legs. Today I am yoo g for a hospital appointment for a scan on a tumour at the top of my leg. If it is attached to the bone the leg will have to be amputated. This is not what I meant by disability. I also have Trigeminal neuralgia a very painful condition of the face. I don't think I will worry about this anymore. If he wants to display it he will if he doesnt he won't. I won't do another.

I wish you the best regarding your hospital appointment. I hope it turns out well. My mother lost her leg a few years ago, so I understand a bit of your pain and worry. My thoughts are with you. "

Thanks hun. I am terrified but will just have to put up with it. Nothing else for it but to get out there and live life to the full

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