FabSwingers.com forum: Phone calls opinions please

By *alcon43 OP Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I'm not that keen chatting on the phone to strangers plus I have kids in the house. I know some people like to chat to make sure it's really a male or female at the other end.

Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

I find it a bit awkward , and tend to find my in built waffle mode takes over

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

My phone call comes when we're seriously considering meeting. It's a deal breaker if it's refused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no phone calls for me either,till very close to meeting..i dont live alone either so its very intrusive...only when im actually at the point of meeting do i want to speak on the phone, and the its also becasue i would like to hear a voice...i'd want to know if they are going to sound like joe pasquale or something!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll take a call when I'm ready to,I don't mind a quick hello so they know I'm a woman. That's once we have said we would like to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give my mobile number out and I don't do phone calls. My OH will exchange numbers with a guy we are going to meet to discuss times etc but that is all. We don't just chat on the phone.

If people are suspicious or they require phone calls then we just don't bother

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By *alcon43 OP Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I don't understand why it's a deal breaker!

I rarely chat on the phone before a social meet.

I just feel if someone won't accept me saying no to a call it's disrespectful and probably end up not meeting.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I dont give out my number, so don't do phone calls prior to meets.

If someone won't meet me without a phone call... I don't meet them. End of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not that keen chatting on the phone to strangers plus I have kids in the house. I know some people like to chat to make sure it's really a male or female at the other end.

Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!"

If the person asking to speak to you on the phone makes you feel forced and uncomfortable then don't do it.

Never let anyone force you to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

If they don't respect your wishes then they are not the right person for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So often, just as with "socials" a lot of guys want to turn a phone call into something else...

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I don't like speaking to many people on the phone! So speaking to a stranger would be a definite no from me!

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By *alcon43 OP Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"I dont give out my number, so don't do phone calls prior to meets.

If someone won't meet me without a phone call... I don't meet them. End of

I agree.

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I dont give out my number, so don't do phone calls prior to meets.

If someone won't meet me without a phone call... I don't meet them. End of

This

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't do phone calls, we're quite happy to accept that its a deal breaker for some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My phone call comes when we're seriously considering meeting. It's a deal breaker if it's refused."

Same here!

If a guy won't even chat on the phone then I doubt he'd turn up to a meet either! Personality is also a big deal for me in a meet - so I like to chat on the phone to make sure there'll be giggles along with the orgasms!

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"I don't understand why it's a deal breaker!

I rarely chat on the phone before a social meet.

I just feel if someone won't accept me saying no to a call it's disrespectful and probably end up not meeting. "

And I don't understand why someone can't have a quick chat on the phone to finalise plans, but people do things differently and if those things don't gel then they won't meet. Nothing to do with being disrespectful.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also some people have tried to insist that the women from two couples talking on the phone guarantees that everyone is genuine. Breaking news...women lie too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never give my number out, and will only speak to people I've met already...

I really don't see the point of verifying myself with someone I've never met, and vice versa... it could be anyone on the other end and I'd be none the wiser, so definitely not

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

It depends how I'm asked. If it's demanded of me I tend to refuse.

There are ways of proving your female without handing your number out. I've even sent little audio files with a quick message on confirming I'm female via email. Even if I do give my number out, I tend to do a voice recording on whatsapp. I hate those awkward initial conversations. I don't ask them of others and I won't comply if I'm given an ultimatum.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's like everything else if something is important to somebody but you don't want to do it you aren't compatible. No drama required.

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By *alcon43 OP Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"I don't understand why it's a deal breaker!

I rarely chat on the phone before a social meet.

I just feel if someone won't accept me saying no to a call it's disrespectful and probably end up not meeting.

I guess everyone is different in how they arrange things. No right or wrong way, just what's right for the individual.

Thanks for the replies.

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey

"Also some people have tried to insist that the women from two couples talking on the phone guarantees that everyone is genuine. Breaking news...women lie too.

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True , unfortunately .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I rarely meet without a phone call

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

For me it's nothing to do with proving the person I'm corresponding with is really female, I'm savvy enough to suss that out within two received messages.

If someone is reluctant to give their number out I'll simply suggest they ring me withheld. If still reluctant they're deprived of listening to my dulcet tones and the meet is off

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"For me it's nothing to do with proving the person I'm corresponding with is really female, I'm savvy enough to suss that out within two received messages.

If someone is reluctant to give their number out I'll simply suggest they ring me withheld. If still reluctant they're deprived of listening to my dulcet tones and the meet is off

And that's your prerogative just as its ours to not make phone calls. Vive la difference!

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"For me it's nothing to do with proving the person I'm corresponding with is really female, I'm savvy enough to suss that out within two received messages.

If someone is reluctant to give their number out I'll simply suggest they ring me withheld. If still reluctant they're deprived of listening to my dulcet tones and the meet is off

And that's your prerogative just as its ours to not make phone calls. Vive la difference!

From your various posts there are a myriad of things you don't/won't do that should make me not want you...But I still do

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

I'm happy to speak on the phone to confirm I exist but if at any point the person on the other end then tries to initiate dirty talk or phone sex, that's the end of it.

Does nothing for me and I'm not into "What are you going to do to me?" bullshit.

- Amy. x

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By *lectrumMan
over a year ago

south shields

So people actually meet up on here with the intention of having sex without speaking to that person first!

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"I don't like speaking to many people on the phone! So speaking to a stranger would be a definite no from me!"

I'm the same and these days with smart phones don't see the need too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to chat first if I am meeting someone to gauge personality and it's a nice progression

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

I prefer not to chat on phone. I'm well verif & only meet verif so we don't need to prove ourselves plus I love finding out about ppl face2face, 1st meets can be awkward enough with having nothing to say if we'd talked lots on the phone.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"So often, just as with "socials" a lot of guys want to turn a phone call into something else..."

Oh I've had a few of those. Told them to call Babestation.

Quite happy with flirting via WhatsApp before a meet. Tends to do the job

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

I love chatting to potential meets, love hearing their voice, love getting that unexpected call, shows me they are horny.. To me it's like a rehearsal before the big performance!

I appreciate I mayve been lucky with who I meet, or perhaps I attract quality!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!"

Anybody that tries to force anything won't be someone I'll meet. I don't like to do as I'm told....however, once i get to meeting stage I'm normally very keen to have a cheeky phone chat....it can be an amazing part of the build up....it's not essential and certainly not a deal breaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not that keen chatting on the phone to strangers plus I have kids in the house. I know some people like to chat to make sure it's really a male or female at the other end.

Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!"

Personally I need to hear someones voice....if I arrange to meet but have never heard them speak before then when they do speak I find out I don't like their accent or their voice it makes it hard for me to get turned on by their body or looks......plus you can often tell how comfortable someone is with the concept of swinging just by a quick chat. It doesn't have to be dirty talk, just a few polite exchanges about preferences and places and people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand why it's a deal breaker!

I rarely chat on the phone before a social meet.

I just feel if someone won't accept me saying no to a call it's disrespectful and probably end up not meeting. "

I insist on a phone call in some circumstances. If they won't do that then I won't meet.

However I don't see it as a big issue. If they don't want to do it I respect their opinion.

Anyone that would go against their own rules in that way must be just desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont force but prefer a fem to fem call - it breaks the ice as well as showing each other we not blokes - but i also have grown up kid at home - so ask for a text first before they call - then i do a runner up into my bathroom closing bedroom and then bathroom door behind me - you will find me hanging out of the window there so i cant be heard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we are meeting another couple or a single female, the ladies will chat on the phone. I just tend to make it when we are both free to chat and I'm on my lunchbreak or out and about somewhere.

I understand why someone would like a phone call prior to even a social. To authenticate someone is real. Esp important for single females in my opinion.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me its a deal breaker,, a mans voice has to appeal to me too. And id rather not waste my time with a social if i dont like his voice .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No phone calls, no webcam, no Skype. Too shy.

I had social meets for us to check each other out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally appreciate it's not for everyone, but personally I enjoy talking on the phone as I generally find it a lot easier to build a rapport with someone, rather than through messages. That said, there is absolutely no way in hell that I would EVER constantly ask someone, or force the idea, to talk on the phone, as that would make me/anyone a complete asshat! Everyone has boundaries and if those can't be respected, particularly on a site like Fab, then that's a total deal-breaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I would prefer a quick chat, it not only confirms you are who you say but also gives a quick, albeit simplistic, idea of whether or not there is a connection. However I can totally understand why a woman would not want to give out her number to a stranger.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"I don't give my mobile number out and I don't do phone calls. My OH will exchange numbers with a guy we are going to meet to discuss times etc but that is all. We don't just chat on the phone.

If people are suspicious or they require phone calls then we just don't bother

This, apart from we give our number for whatsapp exchanges just before the meet and only answer via this app.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I don't phone before we meet,I have enough verifications to prove I'm a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like phone calls, or texts unless I expect things to develop into a longer term relationship. I like to keep my Fab world and my real world as separate entities. For me this is fun, occasional escapism, not a lifestyle.

I use Kik, and a Skype/email address unique to my Fab activities - keeps things simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wnt give my number unless I've been chatting awhile and only then if I'm comfortable with it. Did it once and guy abused me terrible when I rejected him

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"So people actually meet up on here with the intention of having sex without speaking to that person first!

Yes.

We tend to meet those with solid, verified profiles, we also enjoy the nervous energy of the first meet and this is a factor which adds to it. We're yet to be turned off by anyone's voice, there's a lot more going on mentally forbut to be a factor....that's just us though.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

**for it

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"to me its a deal breaker,, a mans voice has to appeal to me too. And id rather not waste my time with a social if i dont like his voice .

but don't you find people can sound different over the phone than they do in the flesh. In the early days on a different site I did phone someone but ended the call pretty quick. He was a big burly guy in his pic's,but he sounded so girly over the phone. Having a sexy conversation with him just wasn't working. Anyway I did meet him and thankfully he sounded nothing like he did over the phone,he was all man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave my number out to a guy once and said call at a certain time, he rang a different time and chatted to one of my kids! So that was the first and last time I did it. I will and do chat on phone but only if I can call them from a withheld number. I explain this early on and if people don't want to meet because of it that's fine. We all have to feel comfortable with how we plan our meets and just do what you feel happy with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather arrange to meet in person, somewhere public first before exchanging phone numbers. That way if theres no connection, either party doesnt have to worry about unwanted messages or calls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you guys in the Uk have a block feature on your mobile phones?

I give out my phone number and if I don't like the person I block them. It's very easy

I have to have a phone call before we meet. Encase I disappear. My phone records are first place the police are going to look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you guys in the Uk have a block feature on your mobile phones?

I give out my phone number and if I don't like the person I block them. It's very easy

I have to have a phone call before we meet. Encase I disappear. My phone records are first place the police are going to look

I like your reasoning! Yes we are able to block calls.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I'm not that keen chatting on the phone to strangers plus I have kids in the house. I know some people like to chat to make sure it's really a male or female at the other end.

Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!"

I'm the same. I won't be forced into speaking on the phone if I don't want to. If they chose not to believe I am who I say I am that's their issue.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!"

Depends how much I want to meet the man if he insists. Its unlikely though. I'll swap numbers for pre-meet texts but warn guys not to call me as I don't like talking on the phone. If they assume I am fake after seeing my profile pics then that's not my problem.

There have been very few men who have baulked at my terms. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's nothing to do with proving the person I'm corresponding with is really female, I'm savvy enough to suss that out within two received messages.

If someone is reluctant to give their number out I'll simply suggest they ring me withheld. If still reluctant they're deprived of listening to my dulcet tones and the meet is off

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"For me it's nothing to do with proving the person I'm corresponding with is really female, I'm savvy enough to suss that out within two received messages.

If someone is reluctant to give their number out I'll simply suggest they ring me withheld. If still reluctant they're deprived of listening to my dulcet tones and the meet is off

And that's your prerogative just as its ours to not make phone calls. Vive la difference!

From your various posts there are a myriad of things you don't/won't do that should make me not want you...But I still do

you have charm. There are a myriad of things we are more than happy to do therein lies our charm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only give out my number the day before a meet as I found if I gave it too soon, guys would ring me when they were free and expect me to chat even when I was at work.

I've only ever chatted to a guy on the phone that would only meet once we had chatted on the phone, found it very odd as he wanted sexy chat plus seemed to feel he was quite happy to meet me for sex without the social, not for me as it turned out anyway so the chat on the phone was a waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont give out my number, so don't do phone calls prior to meets.

If someone won't meet me without a phone call... I don't meet them. End of

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So people actually meet up on here with the intention of having sex without speaking to that person first!

Yeah , why is that so hard to understand ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not that keen chatting on the phone to strangers plus I have kids in the house. I know some people like to chat to make sure it's really a male or female at the other end.

Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!"

I don't see the need myself.

If I was to travel long distance, to Paisley for example, I'd need to be fairly sure that the person I was meeting would actually turn up, and that I felt comfortable with her, but you can get all that without a phone call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer to chat on the phone before a social. You can tell so much just from a chat. I had a guy on the phone for 45 mins and all he talked about was his past conquests, didn't bother to find anything out about me. I also got the impression that he tried to make girls do what he wanted, even if they didn't want to, made me feel uncomfortable. So I went with my gut instinct and messaged him the next day to say it didn't feel right and that I no longer wished to meet him for a social. He was fine about it, and it saved both our time. Hearing a voice also makes it more real rather than just looking at a picture. I count it as part of the foreplay and the build up to the main event.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I don't like giving my number out. I'd hate to get a 3am call from someone who's horny. Instead, I just trust on the number of meets I've had and so on to prove I'm real and so on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like giving my number out. I'd hate to get a 3am call from someone who's horny. Instead, I just trust on the number of meets I've had and so on to prove I'm real and so on

Yes , and that approach works out just fine for us too

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'm not that keen chatting on the phone to strangers plus I have kids in the house. I know some people like to chat to make sure it's really a male or female at the other end.

Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!"

I insist on a phone call because voices do it for me. I learnt my lesson after meeting a guy that looked like Daniel Craig but sounded like Joe Pasquale!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's like everything else if something is important to somebody but you don't want to do it you aren't compatible. No drama required."

This!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'm not that keen chatting on the phone to strangers plus I have kids in the house. I know some people like to chat to make sure it's really a male or female at the other end.

Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!

This is what I mean.

I'm not talking dirty talk, just a basic quick conversation to hear their voice. Accents/tones etc can turn me on and off. No point meeting if your voice makes my eardrums bleed!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"to me its a deal breaker,, a mans voice has to appeal to me too. And id rather not waste my time with a social if i dont like his voice .

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

My main problem is I sound like a bloke on the phone so am likely to put them off even more!

I am a women. Honest!

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

Yes to fone chat before meet up x

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

"I'm not that keen chatting on the phone to strangers plus I have kids in the house. I know some people like to chat to make sure it's really a male or female at the other end.

Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!"

Speaking on the phone is up to the two parties. Some are ok with it some aint ok. However someone that 'forces' anyone into a phone call probably aint the best someone to be meeting.

An simple phone hello before meeting is handy. Especially with the amount of clowns behind cpls and ex's parading as a cpl who are no longer. If anyone struggles to understand I assume they've not been on the receiving end the games & tricks some muppets play or one jumping to their own defence

Ultimately it's each to their own but I often wonder if the cpls/fems that approach asking to come to my place them yet too scared to speak on the phone realise how they make themselves look. Confident enough to arrange, expect the address of the unknown male, brave enough to supposedly arrive at his door at yet too scared to say a quick hello on the phone and show its a male/female.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I won't do the phone/cam chat to prove I'm a woman.

When I'm meeting and have my profile visable I have some veris on show, if they choose not to trust them, then I am fine with them moving onto someone else.

I am photo veried, meet veried and cam veried, that is more than enough I think.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

Some of the answers have reminded me of someone I met for a chat in person years ago and the voice did put me right off

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I've had contacts from my phone pop up in my Facebook and LinkedIn suggested contacts feed... and this is why I don't give my phone number out. Instead, I stick to Kik.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not that keen chatting on the phone to strangers plus I have kids in the house. I know some people like to chat to make sure it's really a male or female at the other end.

Is it just me that doesn't like being forced in to having a phone call or do others feel the same way? I have been verified so not as if I'm not real!

I don't see the need myself.

Exactly! That's what PI's are for! Good old Magnum...

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