FabSwingers.com forum: Turning into your Dad or Mum.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you find yourself thinking this more and more often? How is it manifesting itself? Is this something to worry about? In my case I think maybe it 's not, as I feel closer to the old man than I have ever done. Ah, but...! Discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I open my mouth and my mum comes out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm turning into my father when I get home d*unk, put on Irish music and start cooking.

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By *parkly MittensWoman
over a year ago

My own little world

I've always been my fathers daughter.

Though I've noticed a lot of my mannerisms are my mum.... My daughter is picking these up too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've always been my fathers daughter.

Though I've noticed a lot of my mannerisms are my mum.... My daughter is picking these up too

Twas ever thus perhaps! Reassuring in a way.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

when you get older you become more like your mum when you were a kid.

I am like my mum in some ways which is fine by me. I am old fashioned and don't care what people think about me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know I'm turning into my father when I get home d*unk, put on Irish music and start cooking. "

The Pogues?! Or The Chieftains?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I'm turning into my father when I get home d*unk, put on Irish music and start cooking.

The Pogues?! Or The Chieftains?

Usually the Pogues. If he's really d*unk he puts on elvis and 'sings' along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely since having my son I've turnt into my mum. Forever coming out with things I said I would never say as a parent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have occasionally caught an unexpected reflection in a mirror or window and seen my father, then realised its me.... spooky!

Jim

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely since having my son I've turnt into my mum. Forever coming out with things I said I would never say as a parent."

yes, it's all so true...! We now set the boundaries I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have occasionally caught an unexpected reflection in a mirror or window and seen my father, then realised its me.... spooky!

Jim"
With me it's the hair that does it....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know I'm turning into my father when I get home d*unk, put on Irish music and start cooking.

The Pogues?! Or The Chieftains?

Usually the Pogues. If he's really d*unk he puts on elvis and 'sings' along."
...whereas you...?!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im very like my mum but not on the surface. Since i lost weight so many people comment i look like my mum. This has never been the case. We share the same morals and values.

She doeent judge people. She is always helping people but in some ways completly worlds apart.

My mum is extremely houseproud i dont think ive ever seen a thing out of place. Although clean and tidy im far more slapdash than she is, people take me as they find me.

She also comes across as very conservative which she isnt really.

But if i turn into my mother id be a happy person.

The only negative is my mum doesnt outwardly show her emotions but does by actions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I feel that we get to understand our parents better as we go through life and come up against the same sort of situations and challenges. Fathers' Day soon! I sent my Mum a heartfelt card with flowers this year. She was visibly overcome. She put up with SO much from me!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I feel that we get to understand our parents better as we go through life and come up against the same sort of situations and challenges. Fathers' Day soon! I sent my Mum a heartfelt card with flowers this year. She was visibly overcome. She put up with SO much from me!"
i spend my whole life trying to spoil my mum, not with lavish gifts, but things.to show my appr!ciation. She has been my rock and backbone and never judged me (Apart from when i was 12 and got pissed.and she had to come get me she.went berserk)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel that we get to understand our parents better as we go through life and come up against the same sort of situations and challenges. Fathers' Day soon! I sent my Mum a heartfelt card with flowers this year. She was visibly overcome. She put up with SO much from me!i spend my whole life trying to spoil my mum, not with lavish gifts, but things.to show my appr!ciation. She has been my rock and backbone and never judged me (Apart from when i was 12 and got pissed.and she had to come get me she.went berserk)

I think women are better at appreciating parents and looking after them generally. I wonder if mine wish they had daughters rather than two 'uncaring' sons!

Mind you, they have always been a self-sufficient couple, until recently and done their own thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found more and more, my mouth opens and their words spill out 0_o. I've turned into a really odd mix of them both. Even the bairns laugh about it, but they've already picked up a few mannerisms too, so it's all downhill for them. They just haven't realised it yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've found more and more, my mouth opens and their words spill out 0_o. I've turned into a really odd mix of them both. Even the bairns laugh about it, but they've already picked up a few mannerisms too, so it's all downhill for them. They just haven't realised it yet

You ought to get a few of your own embedded in their brains too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I had kids I realised, actually more when I started to tell the typical white lies, carrots can make you see in the dark, that kinda thing. I remember a moment stopping and wondering if I had really just said that. I had, and I was my dad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good god my wife is definitely starting to resemble her mum In every way . Her attitude her mannerisms, so much so im thinking another year and I'm off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mam and dad are both deceased now. So, I do not have that choice or dilemma nomore.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would say I have my mums temprement

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I had kids I realised, actually more when I started to tell the typical white lies, carrots can make you see in the dark, that kinda thing. I remember a moment stopping and wondering if I had really just said that. I had, and I was my dad! "

But don't they?? My dad said that nightfighter pilots ate them in WW2... ! You mean it's a myth? So he lied..

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I walk around the house turning light switches off tutting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good god my wife is definitely starting to resemble her mum In every way . Her attitude her mannerisms, so much so im thinking another year and I'm off

They say you should always look at the mother-in-law ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I walk around the house turning light switches off tutting. "

...and the thermostat...

I like to check the tyre pressures before a long journey nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good god my wife is definitely starting to resemble her mum In every way . Her attitude her mannerisms, so much so im thinking another year and I'm off

They say you should always look at the mother-in-law ....

O Shit iv tried not to for 27 years but it's getting more difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not.My father is currently very absent minded.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My mam and dad are both deceased now. So, I do not have that choice or dilemma nomore.

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Sorry. Mine are aging fast now, so I suppose I am thinking of them a lot more than I used to...before it is too late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I'm turning into my father when I get home d*unk, put on Irish music and start cooking.

The Pogues?! Or The Chieftains?

Usually the Pogues. If he's really d*unk he puts on elvis and 'sings' along....whereas you...?!"

If I'm really d*unk I go to bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was watching Pointless with my partner in between cooking dinner and I called someone competing a fucking idiot, and asked the telly how they didn't know the answer. It's exactly what my dad would do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hope not.My father is currently very absent minded.

Mine too. I feel our roles are reversing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I call everyone by the wrong name,even calling my grandchildren by their dogs' names. My mum used to call all of us by my eldest sister's name and now does it to my niece.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I call everyone by the wrong name,even calling my grandchildren by their dogs' names. My mum used to call all of us by my eldest sister's name and now does it to my niece. "

The slippery slope!

There but for the grace of God...!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I see my dad more and more in the mirror as I get older and it pisses me right off but thankfully that's where the similarities end. He was a complete basterd and I've no idea if he's alive or not and care just as much. As the saying gos you reap what you saw

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know I'm turning into my father when I get home d*unk, put on Irish music and start cooking.

The Pogues?! Or The Chieftains?

Usually the Pogues. If he's really d*unk he puts on elvis and 'sings' along....whereas you...?!

If I'm really d*unk I go to bed"

Good news, you are too young to worry just yet!

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

I do/say some of the awful things my mother does but I have the decency to realise that I've done it and apologise for it. That's where we differ and I'll never be like her.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Good god my wife is definitely starting to resemble her mum In every way . Her attitude her mannerisms, so much so im thinking another year and I'm off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see my dad more and more in the mirror as I get older and it pisses me right off but thankfully that's where the similarities end. He was a complete basterd and I've no idea if he's alive or not and care just as much. As the saying gos you reap what you saw"

I guess you just have to stop the damage perpetuating through the generations by being a good dad, unlike yours

My dad's dad was never there, so my dad made sure he was for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I open my mouth and my mum comes out x"

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do/say some of the awful things my mother does but I have the decency to realise that I've done it and apologise for it. That's where we differ and I'll never be like her. "

But DO you always realise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, as I've gotten older I beging to understand many words of wisdom I didn't recognise when I was younger. Dammit the woman is ALWAYS right... just as well I love her so much... I can only hope my kids have the same experience lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep, as I've gotten older I beging to understand many words of wisdom I didn't recognise when I was younger. Dammit the woman is ALWAYS right... just as well I love her so much... I can only hope my kids have the same experience lol

I am sure they will! I remember reading somewhere that being a good parent is not to be confused with being their friend...at least until adulthood, whenever that begins!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure they will! I remember reading somewhere that being a good parent is not to be confused with being their friend...at least until adulthood, whenever that begins!

I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Oh yeah deffo like my dad even more so when d*unk fall asleep watching TV and such lol

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By *londie bearWoman
over a year ago

Bexley-ish

I find it a comfort to be so likened to my parents, as I lost them both so early, and my eldest daughter is so much like my mum, though they never had the chance to meet. They live on in u, and should be appreciated and not taken for granted x

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"I do/say some of the awful things my mother does but I have the decency to realise that I've done it and apologise for it. That's where we differ and I'll never be like her.

But DO you always realise?

Yes. Not always immediately but eventually. I'm an over thinker

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh yeah deffo like my dad even more so when d*unk fall asleep watching TV and such lol"

Sounds like his work is done...!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do/say some of the awful things my mother does but I have the decency to realise that I've done it and apologise for it. That's where we differ and I'll never be like her.

But DO you always realise?

Yes. Not always immediately but eventually. I'm an over thinker "

...but not always before you say/do awful things! I always intend to pick up that dog turd in the long grass, but forget or can't find it. Should remember bags. Say Confucius...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find it a comfort to be so likened to my parents, as I lost them both so early, and my eldest daughter is so much like my mum, though they never had the chance to meet. They live on in u, and should be appreciated and not taken for granted x"

exactly

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