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Miscarriage and stillbirth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do feel sorry for that Amanda Holden she must be utterly devastated after losing her unborn bady son seven months pregnant ..... I had two myself years ago and i know how it feel ... you do look back thinking what would have grown up like looked like..and things you cant help it at times ... maybe next time Amanda will put her feet up and rest not work i had to do that .. and had 4 childern just big gap in middle .. xx jo

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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28 years this year and it still rips me apart

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

when my 2nd daughter was born she wasnt breathing and had to be resusitated and it was the longest 2 minutes of my life. i was lucky enough that i had a gd team around me but some arnt so lucky ... and i fell for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son was born 10 weeks prematurely and was delivered by emergency caesarian as I had preeclampsia. He spent five weeks in hospital and we were allowed to take him home, for him to die a month later: cot death.

He would have been 21 this year. I wonder what my life would have been like if he'd lived as his death coloured things and made me a different person.

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good


"My son was born 10 weeks prematurely and was delivered by emergency caesarian as I had preeclampsia. He spent five weeks in hospital and we were allowed to take him home, for him to die a month later: cot death.

He would have been 21 this year. I wonder what my life would have been like if he'd lived as his death coloured things and made me a different person. "

Thats same as Alfie, spent long time in hpspital then just one month at home..

hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son was born 10 weeks prematurely and was delivered by emergency caesarian as I had preeclampsia. He spent five weeks in hospital and we were allowed to take him home, for him to die a month later: cot death.

He would have been 21 this year. I wonder what my life would have been like if he'd lived as his death coloured things and made me a different person.

Thats same as Alfie, spent long time in hpspital then just one month at home..

hugs "

And to you too Kitty...heartbreaking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my heart definately goes out to amanda holden,i was 5 months when my baby was stillborn and it happend at my place of work 5 years ago, the guilt and memory never goes away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a stillbirth at 7 mths. I am grateful that I was able to deliver my baby naturally after a 9hr labour, even tho I didnt get a happy end result. My other sons were born by c section. I cant put into words the devastation and the year of depression that followed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Siren lost our second child on Valentine's Day this year. She was 7 weeks pregnant and I don't suppose the 14th Feb will ever be the same for us now.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

My first miscarriage i was 19 and lost it in tragic circumstances.

The second one i had i was 26 and lost it. It was natures way with the second

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never experienced a miscarriage to my knowledge or experienced a still birth. I can not possibly begin to imagine what you ladies have gone through.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

lin had 3 miscarriages,at one hospital.we moved to another area,she attended another hospital.

the next time she got pregnant,she explained what had happened,in previous pregnancies.

after a 5 minute examination.the doctor told her,the neck of her womb was open,and told her she needed a stitch inserted.to prevent another miscarriage.

this was duly done,we now have 2 healthy boys.

my friends wife had 4 miscarriages.i told him what had happened to lin.

they changed hospitals,asked the doctor about this procedure,it was duly done.they now have 3 boys and a girl.

i know there are many reasons women miscarry,and this wont work for everyone,but this is such a simple procedure.if you have these problems,it does no harm to ask.

for some reason,some doctors are reluctant,to diagnose,and carry out this procedure.

all i know is,it worked for us,and my friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive never experienced a miscarriage to my knowledge or experienced a still birth. I can not possibly begin to imagine what you ladies have gone through."
well like most things in life you learn to live with it and time is a Great Healer but at times it just all come back after reading about Amanda it did to me.

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By *utty tartWoman
over a year ago

the house of sin


"My son was born 10 weeks prematurely and was delivered by emergency caesarian as I had preeclampsia. He spent five weeks in hospital and we were allowed to take him home, for him to die a month later: cot death.

He would have been 21 this year. I wonder what my life would have been like if he'd lived as his death coloured things and made me a different person.

Thats same as Alfie, spent long time in hpspital then just one month at home..

hugs "

hgugs kitty xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good


"lin had 3 miscarriages,at one hospital.we moved to another area,she attended another hospital.

the next time she got pregnant,she explained what had happened,in previous pregnancies.

after a 5 minute examination.the doctor told her,the neck of her womb was open,and told her she needed a stitch inserted.to prevent another miscarriage.

this was duly done,we now have 2 healthy boys.

my friends wife had 4 miscarriages.i told him what had happened to lin.

they changed hospitals,asked the doctor about this procedure,it was duly done.they now have 3 boys and a girl.

i know there are many reasons women miscarry,and this wont work for everyone,but this is such a simple procedure.if you have these problems,it does no harm to ask.

for some reason,some doctors are reluctant,to diagnose,and carry out this procedure.

all i know is,it worked for us,and my friend."

I had a baby in jan 11. i was 20 weeks i also had a sticth in as my last 3 pregs stopped at 22 weeks 24 weeks and 27 weeks, however having the stitch caused a major infection which made me lose my little boy in jan this year, it is meant to help but there are also other risks with this

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By *utty tartWoman
over a year ago

the house of sin

ive had 6 miscarriages and a stil born , PJ were born atr 29 n haslf weeks after i had major surgery to remove a tumor in my ovary

not a day goes by that i dsnt think of him n how lifde wud ber different,my 2 girls both born sfter still call him baby PJ even tho hed be 19 now...

the wigan social in may 28th any proceeds are goiing to SandS which is the stillbirth society so if anyone wants to attend or donate towards our raffle feel free xx

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"lin had 3 miscarriages,at one hospital.we moved to another area,she attended another hospital.

the next time she got pregnant,she explained what had happened,in previous pregnancies.

after a 5 minute examination.the doctor told her,the neck of her womb was open,and told her she needed a stitch inserted.to prevent another miscarriage.

this was duly done,we now have 2 healthy boys.

my friends wife had 4 miscarriages.i told him what had happened to lin.

they changed hospitals,asked the doctor about this procedure,it was duly done.they now have 3 boys and a girl.

i know there are many reasons women miscarry,and this wont work for everyone,but this is such a simple procedure.if you have these problems,it does no harm to ask.

for some reason,some doctors are reluctant,to diagnose,and carry out this procedure.

all i know is,it worked for us,and my friend.

I had a baby in jan 11. i was 20 weeks i also had a sticth in as my last 3 pregs stopped at 22 weeks 24 weeks and 27 weeks, however having the stitch caused a major infection which made me lose my little boy in jan this year, it is meant to help but there are also other risks with this "

i was so sorry to hear of you'r loss kitty.i hope you are well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we have alot in common some of us not just swingers . (((( BIG HUGS TO ALL))))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive had 6 miscarriages and a stil born , PJ were born atr 29 n haslf weeks after i had major surgery to remove a tumor in my ovary

not a day goes by that i dsnt think of him n how lifde wud ber different,my 2 girls both born sfter still call him baby PJ even tho hed be 19 now...

the wigan social in may 28th any proceeds are goiing to SandS which is the stillbirth society so if anyone wants to attend or donate towards our raffle feel free xx "

SANDS one of the charities I support. I met my dear friend via SANDS. She'd written an article for their newsletter. Her son Charlie died at 10 days old. I contacted her via the newsletter and was surprised to note she lived less than 5 miles from me.

We are from two totally different backgrounds, but united by grief and loss. She went on to have another son - his middle name is Matthew after my son, I went on to have a daughter - her middle name is Charlotte after her son.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

3 miscarriages and a stillbirth. Not a day goes by that I don't miss my boys!!!

eldest would have been 25 this year.

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

After a healthy pregnancy with my daughter (who's now 10) I had 3 miscarriages, the 3rd was at 12 weeks, just as I started to believe things were looking up. At that point I decided I could no longer keep putting myself through this and decided that my daughter would be an only child.

Six years later and now with a different partner I decided to give it one last shot, the doctors advised me to take half an aspirin every day whilst trying to conceive and up until 34 weeks pregnant.

I'm now 18 weeks and due at the beginning of August.

I cannot imagine the pain of losing a baby, either to stillbirth or afterwards xxxx

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"After a healthy pregnancy with my daughter (who's now 10) I had 3 miscarriages, the 3rd was at 12 weeks, just as I started to believe things were looking up. At that point I decided I could no longer keep putting myself through this and decided that my daughter would be an only child.

Six years later and now with a different partner I decided to give it one last shot, the doctors advised me to take half an aspirin every day whilst trying to conceive and up until 34 weeks pregnant.

I'm now 18 weeks and due at the beginning of August.

I cannot imagine the pain of losing a baby, either to stillbirth or afterwards xxxx"

Good news, keep healthy and strong

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After a healthy pregnancy with my daughter (who's now 10) I had 3 miscarriages, the 3rd was at 12 weeks, just as I started to believe things were looking up. At that point I decided I could no longer keep putting myself through this and decided that my daughter would be an only child.

Six years later and now with a different partner I decided to give it one last shot, the doctors advised me to take half an aspirin every day whilst trying to conceive and up until 34 weeks pregnant.

I'm now 18 weeks and due at the beginning of August.

I cannot imagine the pain of losing a baby, either to stillbirth or afterwards xxxx"
wow thats just so lovely xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My heart goes out to all that suffer I lost my baby boy when I was 17/18 went on to carry two very healthy boys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My heart goes out to all that suffer I lost my baby boy when I was 17/18 went on to carry two very healthy boys."
thats lovely to here xxx(((BIG HUGS ))))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had two daughters then lost my son Alex at full term. He strangled on the cord as he was being delivered in an emergency ambulance (he'd shown signs of distress during labour and I was being transferred from a local maternity unit to hospital for a C-Section). He'd be 25 now if he'd lived.

I then went on to have another two girls so having a son just wasn't meant to be.

Attending the funeral of your own baby is just about the most traumatic event any parent can experience.

Hugs to all those who have lost a baby under whatever circumstances xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had two daughters then lost my son Alex at full term. He strangled on the cord as he was being delivered in an emergency ambulance (he'd shown signs of distress during labour and I was being transferred from a local maternity unit to hospital for a C-Section). He'd be 25 now if he'd lived.

I then went on to have another two girls so having a son just wasn't meant to be.

Attending the funeral of your own baby is just about the most traumatic event any parent can experience.

Hugs to all those who have lost a baby under whatever circumstances xx

"
and hugs to you my darling xx and your right no mother should have to experience that in a life time when its should be a joyfull happy ending never that . I know this post is a sad post but some how i feel very close to you all and i dont know you but know we have things in comon here. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

words fail me when it comes to grief for fear of saying the wrong thing. My heart goes out to to those of you who have suffered the loss of a child.

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By *imal75Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Hi Guys, i Just wanted to say thanks for taking the time out to share your private life stories with the rest of us.

I carn't imagine how you all must have felt at the time. Feel quite sad reading the post and thinking how Life can be so cruel to us all sometimes. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its surprising just how many women have suffered. When it happens to you, you feel so alone and so damaged, you feel its your fault that you cant carry a baby to full term or have a healthy baby.

I am so grateful to have two boys, I do still think of the baby who didnt make it, she would have been 17 this year. I dont think about her every day but when things remind you of what happened, as this thread has done, it all comes rushing back. I expect all of us have felt that when reading this thread.

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

i can not imagine what you ladies and men have gone through loosing a child,my heart goes out to u all xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last pregnancy was almost 25 years ago, at 16 weeks my Mother died of Cancer, a week later I began to bleed and lost several large clots, I had to go for a scan the next day, turned out I had been expecting twins and the shock had caused me to lose one, luckily they were not identical, if they had have been I would probably have lost both, doctors also believed that the one I lost was a girl, I think about her everyday and often wonder what she would have looked like, it never goes away

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

redditch

these are all such sad stories I had two miscarriages hence a massive gap between my two eldest and my youngest,I feel like ive two seperate families,as my oldest grown up and married.these two miscarriages were just not meant to be,I guess xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is heartbreaking, you never foget and always wonder ...

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By *ornyandnymphoCouple
over a year ago

poole

Our son had a condition which was incompatable with life, as long as he was in my womb he would stay alive, but if born alive, very rare, would on live for minutes. We had to make the hardest decision of our lives to let him go. He was stillborn on good friday. We had to plan his funeral before he was born. The hospital were fantastic with us both, they took in to consideration my husbands feelings too. As we both lost our son. It was the hardest thing we have ever been through. Also had a miscarrige the same year.

We had a healthy son born at full term 2 years later, I felt so guily and direspectful to our sons memory holding and loving another baby. but our youngest knows he has an older brother who lives with the angels and visits his grave with us.

If a friend or family member looses a baby please remember the father has lost a child too and is also greiving. they very often get left out, I made sure my husband was never left out, he carried our son in to the church for his funeral.

Our love and hugs to all Mums and Dads who have lost a child.

H & N xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when my 2nd daughter was born she wasnt breathing and had to be resusitated and it was the longest 2 minutes of my life. i was lucky enough that i had a gd team around me but some arnt so lucky ... and i fell for them "

I had the same with one of my chikdren, sadly he was left mentally disabeled due to tha lack of oxygine to his brain and died at 20 months old

You can never fill the great big gap that fills you but I alreay had a daughter and went onto have another two so you have to be strong for them as they need you more

But I don't think inside you ever recover from loosing a child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when my 2nd daughter was born she wasnt breathing and had to be resusitated and it was the longest 2 minutes of my life. i was lucky enough that i had a gd team around me but some arnt so lucky ... and i fell for them

I had the same with one of my chikdren, sadly he was left mentally disabeled due to tha lack of oxygine to his brain and died at 20 months old

You can never fill the great big gap that fills you but I alreay had a daughter and went onto have another two so you have to be strong for them as they need you more

But I don't think inside you ever recover from loosing a child"

These new techniques to 'freeze' stillborns for up to three days that have been pioneered are having amazing results. Two children were in the papers recently who were successfully revived using this procedure as they've discovered that the brain will heal itself over those precious few days allowing the child to be rescusitated without suffering brain damage.

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