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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly that they are unstable personalities who you should avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably lifted from a bookface circular

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It says theyve found a.quote and copied it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably lifted from a bookface circular"

Most certainly, but surely they wouldn't post it if they couldn't relate to it?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Probably lifted from a bookface circular

Most certainly, but surely they wouldn't post it if they couldn't relate to it?"
well pwrhaps they can. I see some.quotes all the time i can relate to. I dont post them though apart from the.grandma ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clichés are cliché. I can see Marc mentally check out as soon as he reads/hears one. He really despises them

I think it usually says that the person has little imagination or creativity (not meant negatively, I don't have any, either) and that they in some way relate to or feel an affinity with the quote - in which case it tells me I should avoid them because I prefer people who have some sense of social responsibility and interaction over people who think the only person who matters is them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Clichés are cliché. I can see Marc mentally check out as soon as he reads/hears one. He really despises them

I think it usually says that the person has little imagination or creativity (not meant negatively, I don't have any, either) "

I remember you saying, lovely though you are, you do have that Vulcan-esque quality about you


"and that they in some way relate to or feel an affinity with the quote - in which case it tells me I should avoid them because I prefer people who have some sense of social responsibility and interaction over people who think the only person who matters is them. "

It does often seem to me that it's typically obnoxious and unpleasant people who posts such things, as though they're thinking 'I'm not wrong, everyone else is!'. Mind though, they could just be Aspies like me, who've grown so frustrated of trying to fit their square pegs into round holes that they want to smash the entire game in a fit of sadness and resultant rage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored' "

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with ."

See 'My personality is a bit like Marmite'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with ."

Pretty much this; in other words "I let things get on top of me and I lash out at people whether they deserve it or not; and this is forgivable because I don't have good coping mechanisms and you have to make allowances, because when I am not having a crisis I am fucking wonderful"........okay, cheers then (thats a "bye" in Devon)

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

It was originally Marilyn Monroe who was quoted saying it and I agree with the sentiment.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with .

Pretty much this; in other words "I let things get on top of me and I lash out at people whether they deserve it or not; and this is forgivable because I don't have good coping mechanisms and you have to make allowances, because when I am not having a crisis I am fucking wonderful"........okay, cheers then (thats a "bye" in Devon)"

No one is nice all the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with .

Pretty much this; in other words "I let things get on top of me and I lash out at people whether they deserve it or not; and this is forgivable because I don't have good coping mechanisms and you have to make allowances, because when I am not having a crisis I am fucking wonderful"........okay, cheers then (thats a "bye" in Devon)

No one is nice all the time!"

True enough, but some people don't feel the need to take out a bad day/time on other people. I am a good ear, but a real shit punchbag

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with .

Pretty much this; in other words "I let things get on top of me and I lash out at people whether they deserve it or not; and this is forgivable because I don't have good coping mechanisms and you have to make allowances, because when I am not having a crisis I am fucking wonderful"........okay, cheers then (thats a "bye" in Devon)

No one is nice all the time!

True enough, but some people don't feel the need to take out a bad day/time on other people. I am a good ear, but a real shit punchbag"

I don't read it like that.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

My bathroom is covered in plaques saying all kinds of quotes and fridge magnets wonder what that says about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with .

Pretty much this; in other words "I let things get on top of me and I lash out at people whether they deserve it or not; and this is forgivable because I don't have good coping mechanisms and you have to make allowances, because when I am not having a crisis I am fucking wonderful"........okay, cheers then (thats a "bye" in Devon)

No one is nice all the time!

True enough, but some people don't feel the need to take out a bad day/time on other people. I am a good ear, but a real shit punchbag

I don't read it like that."

The people I have known to use this quote..... well let's just say they tend to "detonate" in spectacular fashion when things go wrong;....... however that is just my experience and as such, I avoid people that use such phrases like the plague....

...nothing excuses other people from treating people like shit, nothing at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love qoutes i can relate to. I have a pinterest board full of them..usually lyrics.

I dont like negative ones though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with ."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with .

Pretty much this; in other words "I let things get on top of me and I lash out at people whether they deserve it or not; and this is forgivable because I don't have good coping mechanisms and you have to make allowances, because when I am not having a crisis I am fucking wonderful"........okay, cheers then (thats a "bye" in Devon)

No one is nice all the time!"

No they're not , but to justify nastiness by saying if you don't like me when I'm like this , you don't deserve to see me when I'm nice , is frankly arrogant and unpleasant .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with .

Pretty much this; in other words "I let things get on top of me and I lash out at people whether they deserve it or not; and this is forgivable because I don't have good coping mechanisms and you have to make allowances, because when I am not having a crisis I am fucking wonderful"........okay, cheers then (thats a "bye" in Devon)

No one is nice all the time!"
oh but didnt you know some are never have a grump, shit day, always look their best, never think negatively

*sighs* oh to be perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure if the negative ones are a not-so-subtle warning or if people feel misunderstood enough to have to give a visual aid to others.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If a person who's had a shit experience can draw strength from a meme, however cliched, then good for them. Its not causing me any harm, apart from a light case of rolly eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a person who's had a shit experience can draw strength from a meme, however cliched, then good for them. Its not causing me any harm, apart from a light case of rolly eyes."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having got kids who like to take it out on everyone around them when they are having a bad day (they have diagnosed problems) - I really find this fascinating in adults.

I've done a lot of reading on child development theories. Your skills in emotional regulation is something you are born with, to a huge extent. I see kids who are amazing at it and kids who are awful at it. And then on top of that all kids need support and good role models to be taught how to handle their feelings.

Having looked into it to the degree that I have, I do feel sorry for adults who are perpetually angry at everyone around them. They put their immune system and heart under immense strain because of all the stress hormones they generate (cortisol) and are at increased risk of heart attacks, stroke and early death.

And as a society no one helps them. Anger management isn't easily available, and Lets face it, we really look down on people who have poor emotional regulation and high impulsivity. We don't associate with them and think they should "grow up".

It's the fight or flight response. When stressed, we tend to fight or run. And the people who have anger issues are the fighters. And they take anyone down with them.

It's straight back to there not being enough focus on mental health support for kids and adults available.

The kids I used to teach who would seem to get the most pleasure out of deliberately being nasty to others (without a diagnosis) always had fairly horrific childhoods at home in one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having got kids who like to take it out on everyone around them when they are having a bad day (they have diagnosed problems) - I really find this fascinating in adults.

I've done a lot of reading on child development theories. Your skills in emotional regulation is something you are born with, to a huge extent. I see kids who are amazing at it and kids who are awful at it. And then on top of that all kids need support and good role models to be taught how to handle their feelings.

Having looked into it to the degree that I have, I do feel sorry for adults who are perpetually angry at everyone around them. They put their immune system and heart under immense strain because of all the stress hormones they generate (cortisol) and are at increased risk of heart attacks, stroke and early death.

And as a society no one helps them. Anger management isn't easily available, and Lets face it, we really look down on people who have poor emotional regulation and high impulsivity. We don't associate with them and think they should "grow up".

It's the fight or flight response. When stressed, we tend to fight or run. And the people who have anger issues are the fighters. And they take anyone down with them.

It's straight back to there not being enough focus on mental health support for kids and adults available.

The kids I used to teach who would seem to get the most pleasure out of deliberately being nasty to others (without a diagnosis) always had fairly horrific childhoods at home in one way or another.

"

As an Aspergers sufferer myself, I can sadly relate to this. All my life, I've found my mind seems to constantly drift between states of deep consideration and focus, where I often end up with some amazing thoughts and fantastic ideas, but I also have moments where I overload with emotion, and though my I've gradually learned how to better control this (in spite of how painfully intense they can be) and thusly never lashed out in an explosive fit despite feeling a desperate need to, I can understand why people would avoid me when I'm going through one of these episodes, though of course, that just increases the feelings of isolation and resultant anger

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with .

Pretty much this; in other words "I let things get on top of me and I lash out at people whether they deserve it or not; and this is forgivable because I don't have good coping mechanisms and you have to make allowances, because when I am not having a crisis I am fucking wonderful"........okay, cheers then (thats a "bye" in Devon)

No one is nice all the time!

No they're not , but to justify nastiness by saying if you don't like me when I'm like this , you don't deserve to see me when I'm nice , is frankly arrogant and unpleasant ."

I'm finding it fascinating how you folk are reading 'best' and 'worst' to mean nice and not nice. I'm thinking it says a bit more about your perception that what the quote *actually* says.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Isn't it a warning sign? The wolf which couldn't be bothered to find any sheep's clothing.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Having got kids who like to take it out on everyone around them when they are having a bad day (they have diagnosed problems) - I really find this fascinating in adults.

I've done a lot of reading on child development theories. Your skills in emotional regulation is something you are born with, to a huge extent. I see kids who are amazing at it and kids who are awful at it. And then on top of that all kids need support and good role models to be taught how to handle their feelings.

Having looked into it to the degree that I have, I do feel sorry for adults who are perpetually angry at everyone around them. They put their immune system and heart under immense strain because of all the stress hormones they generate (cortisol) and are at increased risk of heart attacks, stroke and early death.

And as a society no one helps them. Anger management isn't easily available, and Lets face it, we really look down on people who have poor emotional regulation and high impulsivity. We don't associate with them and think they should "grow up".

It's the fight or flight response. When stressed, we tend to fight or run. And the people who have anger issues are the fighters. And they take anyone down with them.

It's straight back to there not being enough focus on mental health support for kids and adults available.

The kids I used to teach who would seem to get the most pleasure out of deliberately being nasty to others (without a diagnosis) always had fairly horrific childhoods at home in one way or another.

As an Aspergers sufferer myself, I can sadly relate to this. All my life, I've found my mind seems to constantly drift between states of deep consideration and focus, where I often end up with some amazing thoughts and fantastic ideas, but I also have moments where I overload with emotion, and though my I've gradually learned how to better control this (in spite of how painfully intense they can be) and thusly never lashed out in an explosive fit despite feeling a desperate need to, I can understand why people would avoid me when I'm going through one of these episodes, though of course, that just increases the feelings of isolation and resultant anger "

Some of us can understand and accept you, regardless SB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I see people post negative quotes / updates I immediately think ~ they're all about the drama.

Especially on Facebook when its followed up with 'I can't say on here but PM me'......

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored'

I guess they are justifying why they can be complete arseholes sometimes , and if you don't like it tough .

The type of people we wouldn't want to associate with .

Pretty much this; in other words "I let things get on top of me and I lash out at people whether they deserve it or not; and this is forgivable because I don't have good coping mechanisms and you have to make allowances, because when I am not having a crisis I am fucking wonderful"........okay, cheers then (thats a "bye" in Devon)

No one is nice all the time!"

I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its usually displayed as a warning which translates to "hello I'm batshit crazy"

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By *oncupiscentTonyMan
over a year ago

Kent


"When I see people post negative quotes / updates I immediately think ~ they're all about the drama.

Especially on Facebook when its followed up with 'I can't say on here but PM me'...... "

I balem facebook, mostly people without an ounce of wit thinking it's somehow original to quote in the hope others will see it as projecting an air of pseudo sophistication. That Bob Marley 'everyone's gonna hurt you' is another one that gets on my tits

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I see people post negative quotes / updates I immediately think ~ they're all about the drama.

Especially on Facebook when its followed up with 'I can't say on here but PM me'......

I balem facebook, mostly people without an ounce of wit thinking it's somehow original to quote in the hope others will see it as projecting an air of pseudo sophistication. That Bob Marley 'everyone's gonna hurt you' is another one that gets on my tits"

The world is full of people trying to look smarter than they are, they take a brain of lead, paint it a shiny metallic yellow, then try to pretend they have a golden mind...

Yes, I just did it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'If you can't stand me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best'

Yadda yadda...

I've seen these sort of sayings pop up all over the internet for years (posted by women most of the time, interestingly), I'm curious as to what people believe they say about the ones posting them...?

Other than 'they're bored' "

I think the expression if you can't stand me at my worse you don't deserve me at my best is a ridiculous expression

All that says to me is take my shit or I'm not being your friend

Makes them sound arrogant

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