FabSwingers.com forum: Other than clubs...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...has anyone found other locations to be effective means of meeting like minded people who can possibly satisfy a need for companionship, rather than online?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answer no.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

Yes brothels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here.......oooops, that's online isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Something that opened my eyes, was my recent return to education over the past year, namely college. As a mature student, there were many times I felt like a misfit, as I was surrounded by 18-20 year olds, and yes, of course I found many of them attractive despite the age gap (though my class was entirely male, I still bumped into a lot of other students).

It wasn't just their youthful looks which appealed to me though, it was the LIFE I felt around me, these people were energised, funny, friendly, interested and interesting, so unlike in so many other areas I've found myself in, where those emotions were replaced with cynicism, jadedness, and an overall feeling of 'if I couldn't do it, neither will you'.

I just want to find a place where I can find that sort of positivity for someone like me, where my age won't lead to me feeling like I'm doing something wrong by actively interacting and flirting with these people.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes, its called the real world. Im on here as its the easiest way to find my sexual needs. Im on no other type of forum. Not so much at the moment but i would join groups of things i was interested in.

I also loved being a mature student although i was only 28 but the others where quite a bit younger than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on several forums.

Car audio

Several modified car groups

War gaming club which meets once a week.

its great meeting people through modified car meets, something I've put a lot of time, money and effort into being appreciated by total strangers who want a demo of the car audio and having crowds of people checking it out is an insane buzz.

War gaming is something I've just got into, tabletop games with miniatures, sounds like a kids game but I'm the youngest there! Great way to just have fun and geek out a bit.

I think with fab, it can become your social life and only form of outlet if you let it.

I understand what you mean about the vibrancy with being at college but being cynical I think it's because a lot of the people there 18 year olds etc, haven't had a taste of the real world yet.

I was at college from 16 - 19 doing a plumbing apprenticeship and the difference in attitude between the apprentices who worked and the people who are full time at college was as clear as night and day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I understand what you mean about the vibrancy with being at college but being cynical I think it's because a lot of the people there 18 year olds etc, haven't had a taste of the real world yet.

Possibly, but I don't believe it's all simply a matter of mere naivety, as of course you still get the dour and cynical amongst even them. I think that some people simply are more alive and energetic than others, and though the stresses of the system may squash down some of them, there will always be those who press on, move with the times and don't lose their glow, and those are the kind I want to meet.

I suppose I could try a local war gaming club, I've no interest in playing myself, but these places often attract those I might be able to talk things like science and philosophy with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand what you mean about the vibrancy with being at college but being cynical I think it's because a lot of the people there 18 year olds etc, haven't had a taste of the real world yet.

I suppose I could try a local war gaming club, I've no interest in playing myself, but these places often attract those I might be able to talk things like science and philosophy with..."

First night I went I just turned up, not knowing anyone, grabbed a pint and just talked. I would say it does attract the more thinking type, some of the older guys who play bolt action (WW2 game) are 50s/60s. And I can have some great conversation with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you need some LARP in your life. Attracts all sorts and they are some funny people of all different background. Many a debate over a campfire.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like you need some LARP in your life. Attracts all sorts and they are some funny people of all different background. Many a debate over a campfire. "

I have a healthy imagination, but think dubbing myself Sir Osmund of Thork and attacking guys with green faces with my big wobbly foam sword is probably going a bit far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like you need some LARP in your life. Attracts all sorts and they are some funny people of all different background. Many a debate over a campfire.

I have a healthy imagination, but think dubbing myself Sir Osmund of Thork and attacking guys with green faces with my big wobbly foam sword is probably going a bit far."

Give yourself over to the LARP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Surprised by the lack of response...perhaps less folks get as much action in the 'real world' as they claim to...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Something that opened my eyes, was my recent return to education over the past year, namely college. As a mature student, there were many times I felt like a misfit, as I was surrounded by 18-20 year olds, and yes, of course I found many of them attractive despite the age gap (though my class was entirely male, I still bumped into a lot of other students).

You want energised, earn to swing dance!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v9xxeWRxSbA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...has anyone found other locations to be effective means of meeting like minded people who can possibly satisfy a need for companionship, rather than online?

Do you mean to build friendships, relationships? Or something else?

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Depends what you're looking for.

For sexy times....here is a good start.

For something more serious, I'd look elsewhere, real life as a preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recently had a life reset and it energised me to move on- but outside of fabs not much social action at the moment.

I totally understand how people become jaded but feel free to do new things and live again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For sexy times....here is a good start. "

It really, really isn't.

This place is more likenable to cueing in a bank than it is to an effective avenue to meet like minded folks for sexual intrigue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For sexy times....here is a good start.

It really, really isn't.

This place is more likenable to cueing in a bank than it is to an effective avenue to meet like minded folks for sexual intrigue."

Alot of long words, good sentence construction.

You sure you're from Coventry?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For sexy times....here is a good start.

It really, really isn't.

This place is more likenable to cueing in a bank than it is to an effective avenue to meet like minded folks for sexual intrigue.

Alot of long words, good sentence construction.

You sure you're from Coventry? "

I'm not sure I'm from Earth, let alone Coventry.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"For sexy times....here is a good start.

It really, really isn't.

This place is more likenable to cueing in a bank than it is to an effective avenue to meet like minded folks for sexual intrigue."

We must be doing "Fabs" differently, you and I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That depends what you mean by like minded people, I don't think you're going to find many places to talk about sexual subjects like on here, But if it's not sexual topics,

Social clubs, Music venues, Sporting events, Work place/part time job etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For sexy times....here is a good start.

It really, really isn't.

This place is more likenable to cueing in a bank than it is to an effective avenue to meet like minded folks for sexual intrigue.

Alot of long words, good sentence construction.

You sure you're from Coventry?

I'm not sure I'm from Earth, let alone Coventry."

Definitely not from Coventry then mate. The ability to consider conceptual ideas of other world's is not in the make up of a Coventry dweller

It's all, I miss Highfield Road and we hate the villa and that's as far as it goes

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Surprised by the lack of response...perhaps less folks get as much action in the 'real world' as they claim to..."
"action" i thought you wanted companionship and to meet like minded people. If its just "action" your after this is the easist route

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Surprised by the lack of response...perhaps less folks get as much action in the 'real world' as they claim to..."action" i thought you wanted companionship and to meet like minded people. If its just "action" your after this is the easist route"

Perhaps my definition of action is different to yours, and I'm tired of explaining myself, having done so so very many times on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are several social group sites such as meetup, oddfellows and citysocialiser where you can find info about local groups be it walking, music, film buffs, and so on x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are several social group sites such as meetup, oddfellows and citysocialiser where you can find info about local groups be it walking, music, film buffs, and so on x"

I'd not really thought about that, but yes, I suppose that could be rather interesting...especially as I get REALLY intelligent when I'm d*unk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want sex then try the fishy site or for kink/fet then the famous fet site where you'd be able to find out about local munches which are just a gathering much like a fab social but with a fet focus

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you want sex then try the fishy site or for kink/fet then the famous fet site where you'd be able to find out about local munches which are just a gathering much like a fab social but with a fet focus"

I returned to that fishy site not long ago, and all the heart and excitement is long gone from it, hence why I left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are several social group sites such as meetup, oddfellows and citysocialiser where you can find info about local groups be it walking, music, film buffs, and so on x

I'd not really thought about that, but yes, I suppose that could be rather interesting...especially as I get REALLY intelligent when I'm d*unk

I'm on meetup and I regularly get guys on there trying to chat me up and ask me out (thought that's not why I'm there!)

Go for it. It can be fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are several social group sites such as meetup, oddfellows and citysocialiser where you can find info about local groups be it walking, music, film buffs, and so on x

I'd not really thought about that, but yes, I suppose that could be rather interesting...especially as I get REALLY intelligent when I'm d*unk

I'm on meetup and I regularly get guys on there trying to chat me up and ask me out (thought that's not why I'm there!)

Go for it. It can be fun."

Sounds almost like a warning to me, I've never been a fan of the friendzone...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I go to lots of things where friendly men would have no problem finding friendly women to flirt with.

Choirs are stuffed full of women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are several social group sites such as meetup, oddfellows and citysocialiser where you can find info about local groups be it walking, music, film buffs, and so on x

I'd not really thought about that, but yes, I suppose that could be rather interesting...especially as I get REALLY intelligent when I'm d*unk

I'm on meetup and I regularly get guys on there trying to chat me up and ask me out (thought that's not why I'm there!)

Go for it. It can be fun.

Sounds almost like a warning to me, I've never been a fan of the friendzone..."

If I were single I'd probably be interested in meeting guys that way. But as a married woman I don't feel like meetup is the place for me to find shags.

But if you're looking for people you can talk to and hang out with who also may potentially be more, it seems like a good place to me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"There are several social group sites such as meetup, oddfellows and citysocialiser where you can find info about local groups be it walking, music, film buffs, and so on x

I'd not really thought about that, but yes, I suppose that could be rather interesting...especially as I get REALLY intelligent when I'm d*unk

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why dont you join mensa.

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By *uvesmuffinCouple
over a year ago

Barking

Have you tried the Mensa get togethers?

Mr Gimp Senior

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where do you think the kind of people you'd like to meet hangout?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe gatecrash funerals for vulnerable girls.

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By *uvesmuffinCouple
over a year ago

Barking

"Maybe gatecrash funerals for vulnerable girls. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are several social group sites such as meetup, oddfellows and citysocialiser where you can find info about local groups be it walking, music, film buffs, and so on x

I'd not really thought about that, but yes, I suppose that could be rather interesting...especially as I get REALLY intelligent when I'm d*unk

I'm on meetup and I regularly get guys on there trying to chat me up and ask me out (thought that's not why I'm there!)

Go for it. It can be fun.

Sounds almost like a warning to me, I've never been a fan of the friendzone...

If I were single I'd probably be interested in meeting guys that way. But as a married woman I don't feel like meetup is the place for me to find shags.

But if you're looking for people you can talk to and hang out with who also may potentially be more, it seems like a good place to me."

Perhaps you're right, maybe I just need to find a place, with no expectations other than just knowing it's somewhere I can be happy being me, and perhaps the rest of what I want will follow later...

"I get REALLY intelligent when I'm d*unk

why dont you join mensa."

Because I can't spell eye queue, aye cue, Ike you...see?

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

If you don't have many social events going on in your life, you won't meet people; and you are stuck with t'interweb ....

I meet people from all the things I do, and have loads of hobbies , interests, art, music, theatre, history, voluntary organisations, and things connected to my profession ;

Doesn't take much to socialise and work out who shows a bit of interest and " sparkle ".....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go to lots of things where friendly men would have no problem finding friendly women to flirt with.

Choirs are stuffed full of women.

And lacking in men!

You beat me to it Lickety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most amazingly diverse group of people i ever met was in our local pub in my 20s....ages ranged from early 20s to 60s...all walks of life with different experiences.....there are amazing people everywhere, op. I really don't understand why you struggle... unless you feel you are in some way superior to everyone else which does often come across in the things you post.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I go to lots of things where friendly men would have no problem finding friendly women to flirt with.

Choirs are stuffed full of women.

And lacking in men!

You beat me to it Lickety

And even if the men didn't want to join a choir and go regularly they'd do well on a workshop day. The last one I went to the men that went all stood alone not talking to anyone. I had to do the getting everyone to mingle thing and then the break times were zinging with the fluttering of female eyelashes. One of the men even ended up dancing with two of the women.

TEDx (the local, independent TED Talks) is also good. Always more women than men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't have many social events going on in your life, you won't meet people; and you are stuck with t'interweb ....

I meet people from all the things I do, and have loads of hobbies , interests, art, music, theatre, history, voluntary organisations, and things connected to my profession ;

Doesn't take much to socialise and work out who shows a bit of interest and " sparkle ".....

Well yes, and I have been meeting a lot more artistic people lately due to my recent personal pursuits, I'm just trying to find ways to do more of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I go to lots of things where friendly men would have no problem finding friendly women to flirt with.

Choirs are stuffed full of women.

And lacking in men!

You beat me to it Lickety

TEDx (the local, independent TED Talks) is also good. Always more women than men.

I actually did do some group singing a few years ago and got a few great comments on my voice, ultimately I gave it up though because there was little variety in the song choices, and I felt like I wanted to explore further. I wasn't content where I was, but couldn't think of where to go next.

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By *uvesmuffinCouple
over a year ago

Barking

"If you don't have many social events going on in your life, you won't meet people; and you are stuck with t'interweb ....

I meet people from all the things I do, and have loads of hobbies , interests, art, music, theatre, history, voluntary organisations, and things connected to my profession ;

Doesn't take much to socialise and work out who shows a bit of interest and " sparkle ".....

Well yes, and I have been meeting a lot more artistic people lately due to my recent personal pursuits, I'm just trying to find ways to do more of it."
Is on here not the best on here for you?

Her

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I go to lots of things where friendly men would have no problem finding friendly women to flirt with.

Choirs are stuffed full of women.

And lacking in men!

You beat me to it Lickety

TEDx (the local, independent TED Talks) is also good. Always more women than men.

Adjust your priorities to meeting people, relax and enjoy the social side. Or, just pick different workshop days covering different genres. I am sure they happen outside of London too.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm still a student and get a lot of what you mention op, from spending a lot of my life with these younger students. It's very refreshing.

Other than that I pursue my various interests with others as well as doing voluntary work. All good ways to meet great people.

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