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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Since coming out last year, I've been receiving a lot of messages from single males, to the point where I've now had to block them, as they were predominantly, for want of a more PC expression, utter shit - I mean, I was literally getting tens of messages to the tune of 'hi u ok wanna meet n fuck.

It makes me wonder, is this complete social ineptitude a 'male' thing, or is it simply the sheer volume of single males that makes it stand out so much? I have also had equally terrible messages from couples, far fewer from females though they almost never message first.

It also made me wonder if the reason so many guys are on here, are because they lack the social skills to succeed in these romantic/erotic pursuits in the real world, and just looking at the numbers, what does this say about the modern male overall?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Be gratefully your on the right side for want of a better expression. I'm totally strategy and get them. Very disturbing it is to

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Yes, men can be stupid like that.

Oh right, because it says bi on profile that means that I'll drop my drawers at the drop of a hat?

Ok...

Yeah. Men.

But women know this already.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, men can be stupid like that.

Oh right, because it says bi on profile that means that I'll drop my drawers at the drop of a hat?

Ok...

Yeah. Men.

But women know this already. "

Well yeah but even guys don't want to be treated like pieces of meat, if we're gonna roll around in a haze of wanton homoerotic passion and all that great stuff, it needs to be with someone we feel drawn to and excited by, not just a cretins wet toothy hole to stick our dicks into.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Yes, men can be stupid like that.

Oh right, because it says bi on profile that means that I'll drop my drawers at the drop of a hat?

Ok...

Yeah. Men.

But women know this already.

Well yeah but even guys don't want to be treated like pieces of meat, if we're gonna roll around in a haze of wanton homoerotic passion and all that great stuff, it needs to be with someone we feel drawn to and excited by, not just a cretins wet toothy hole to stick our dicks into."

It entirely depends on how you play the game

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I don't send fancy a fuck messages

Though I did get one from a friend yesterday and I said hell yes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's my biggest put off on here.

not that the messages are shit really because i get how hard it can be to start a conversation up.

but the presumption i even fancy the guy and want to fuck him, let alone am here to be 'booked' at his convenience.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"it's my biggest put off on here.

not that the messages are shit really because i get how hard it can be to start a conversation up.

but the presumption i even fancy the guy and want to fuck him, let alone am here to be 'booked' at his convenience."

Fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's my biggest put off on here.

not that the messages are shit really because i get how hard it can be to start a conversation up.

but the presumption i even fancy the guy and want to fuck him, let alone am here to be 'booked' at his convenience.

Fancy a fuck "

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"it's my biggest put off on here.

not that the messages are shit really because i get how hard it can be to start a conversation up.

but the presumption i even fancy the guy and want to fuck him, let alone am here to be 'booked' at his convenience.

Fancy a fuck

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some on here think because its classed as a sex site women who come on fab are desperate gagging for it and will fuk any tom dick or harry I guess they don't get the I am a person not a piece of meat concept

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I removed my filters ages ago, I don't receive many messages from guys most are a single line the odd one has more depth,

the messages I receive from ladies and couples are pretty similar, I suppose they have more choice who to message and likely think they don't need to try.

Not had a message from a tv/ts so couldn't comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing though that single guys can send out lots of long messages and get no reply. I wonder if eventually they get demoralised and get to the stage they just send - hi! And maybe 1 out of 50 times they'll still get a reply.

There are also plenty of single men who send very well put together messages. They will always stand out and do better here, in my opinion.

Sarah

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I think some on here think because its classed as a sex site women who come on fab are desperate gagging for it and will fuk any tom dick or harry I guess they don't get the I am a person not a piece of meat concept "

That's a no then

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

To be fair it's not just men. I'm shit at first messages too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think that all types of profiles send shit messages, and great ones, but there's a lot more men so they get judged a bit more unfairly, in terms of numbers.

Today I've had two messages that are like this:

"Fancy meeting my wife"

"Face pics?"

I'm not slating the senders, though the first one made me laugh as I wondered if the wife existed and I have no public pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blocked single men aswell due to all the crude messages :')

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of course all my sent messages are crap........ I'm a single male lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair it's not just men. I'm shit at first messages too "

So am I!

Sarah

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

It's not all about the first message as we met a guy who's first communication was probably three lines...He did, however, have a profile that informed, intrigued and amused us...With some great pics too. Which ever way you approach it, the profile or the message but preferably both are what catches our eye...All we'll say is put some effort in and reap the rewards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi how you doing hun

Wearing no knickers in this hot sun

I was in your area and horny and hot

So fancy a fuck I thought I give it a shot

You look great and I am free

I have a large cock you will want to see

Let me pound you and then take my leave

You have deleted me I cannot believe

Onto the next to chance my arm

To ply my wit and undoubted charm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lmfao officer its more funny coz we are mate n I read that in your voice n could imagine your expressions as you said it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm guessing though that single guys can send out lots of long messages and get no reply. I wonder if eventually they get demoralised and get to the stage they just send - hi! And maybe 1 out of 50 times they'll still get a reply.

There are also plenty of single men who send very well put together messages. They will always stand out and do better here, in my opinion.

Sarah "

Not much point in wasting time on a long message if 99% get deleted with no response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair it's not just men. I'm shit at first messages too "

Me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to my world OP.

and for the record it's not just men that send shite 1st messages, couples & women do it too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be that they don't understand the site. Some people think 'swingers' are sex mad and live breathe and eat (??!) sex.

They want a fuck. They don't want chit chat or they'd be on a dating site. They mail asking for a fuck.

Different people use the site in different ways. One way isn't better than the other, it's just different.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"To be fair it's not just men. I'm shit at first messages too

Me too! "

Judging by how many replies we get, we're rubbish at them too.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont even open them can see the first line.

Just deleted and then i concentrate on the decent messages and lots of guys do send decent messages despite popular belief

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm guessing though that single guys can send out lots of long messages and get no reply. I wonder if eventually they get demoralised and get to the stage they just send - hi! And maybe 1 out of 50 times they'll still get a reply.

There are also plenty of single men who send very well put together messages. They will always stand out and do better here, in my opinion.

Sarah

Not much point in wasting time on a long message if 99% get deleted with no response. "

True, but you can still display yourself as somewhat articulate and interesting in just a couple of well written sentences - manage that, and failure to establish contact is most likely do to lack of enthusiasm on the part of the recipient, and I doubt rewriting the Iliad for them would change that.

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