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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have lost mine and its frustrating as hell.. i want to enjoy sexual activity i just physically cant

I feel i have lost a spark in me, sex and foreplay were a massive part of me at one time. I feel like i am loosing touch of who i once was.

I have tried to force myself to masturbate with no luck.. met up with an old flame and even kissing there is just nothing. I just wanna cry.

Can anything be done about it or is it a waiting game?

The libido died when my underactive thyroid became really problematic and i had depression. Im not medicated for the depression and feel in a better place, but still no urge or desire..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried regular exercise. I find it can help with libido and depression issues.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

That's a good point(exercise). Plus a balanced diet, and seeing friends,etc, just to feel 'normal' and 'up'.

What about work stress as well?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yup im doing healthy eating and gym work outs,.. 2.5 stone down so far..

Friends are better than they have been in a long while.. My social life is lacking but im a single lone parent so its just life :D

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

When was your last thyroid function test?

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Ah. I gets ya..

How about an occasional sunbed session?

Sometimes perks me up.

Or just sitting outside at a cafe and people(perv..)watching? Or going to a pub and spotting the talent(if it's something you haven't done in a while).

- Maybe change your routine a bit that way and it could spark something off.

I live in the sticks, and it's amazing how my libido seems to get hotwired whenever I go into Birmingham centre and there's all these gorgeous people walking around, as opposed to the banality of the people/situation you see in the local supermarket or whatever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're doing all the right things lifestyle-wise, however, I think that for women in particular, libido diminishes if not fed - if not by actually having sex with others, by masturbating, fantasising,connecting with your body using sensual oils on yourself, having a massage, dressing up in sexy lingerie or sensual fabrics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also try taking zinc supplements and eating a diet rich in seafood.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When was your last thyroid function test? "

few months back.. its never been normal in the past 5 or 6 years

I think thats what has killed it off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Organise a babysitter so you can get away from being a parent - maybe even a weekend away with a girlfriend. You see yourself primarily as a mother - has a huge libido-dampening effect.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"When was your last thyroid function test?

few months back.. its never been normal in the past 5 or 6 years

I think thats what has killed it off "

I'd agree with that. My gp advised me to use iodised salt and eat plenty of oily fish to help with thyroid function.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're doing all the right things lifestyle-wise, however, I think that for women in particular, libido diminishes if not fed - if not by actually having sex with others, by masturbating, fantasising,connecting with your body using sensual oils on yourself, having a massage, dressing up in sexy lingerie or sensual fabrics."

Funny i had a massage for the 1st time last month and loved it, and few weeks back i dressed up and took some new pictures.. (id lost weight and felt good)..

yet nothing MOJO wise, has returned.

Although i do not meet at my home .. i re did my bedroom and its my little retreat away from the rest of my home. Somethin ive never had before, was always just somewhere to sleep.

So i have 'invested' in some ME time

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

As a single person why not just concentrate on the things you do enjoy.

I think i have a healthy libido but i enjoy other stuff more than sex.

If you dont worry/think about it im sure when your in a better place it will come back.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

How about giving yourself three months off. Take all the pressure to be or feel sexy off yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All positive, get your thyroid function tested again, it adjusts very slowly to treatment so meds may need further tweaking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a mum was the main reason my libido nose dived. I swear it's a subconscious protective reflex - fuck, having sex made me pregnant - I am NEVER doing that again!

Plus TA exhausting constantly putting someone else's needs before your own. I often see sex as another thing on my "to do" list as it's just yet another demand on my time to keep someone happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*its

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop putting pressure on yourself to get it back. Thr more pressure you place on it the less likely its gonna come back.

Focus on whatever is making you happy atm and it will come back xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being a mum was the main reason my libido nose dived. I swear it's a subconscious protective reflex - fuck, having sex made me pregnant - I am NEVER doing that again!

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Thats SO true.. i resented sex as i fell pregnant on the Implant and i found out at 33 weeks

The act of NO sex was the only guarantee it would never happen again.

I went through a stage back then where id no have it,, got my mojo back as i was allowed a bit more social freedoms (family kindly babysat)

Now i find i am back with zero libdo. Love my child with all my heart and my life truly is all about her, but ive forgotten how to be me.. does that make me selfish?

I get one night out a month, and the last thing i want is sex when id just love a girlie night out with friends

Ive booked in for a Dr appointment end of the week to talk it through..

Mind is a horrible thing to try and fix once broken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think the less sex you have the less you want sometimes. As in your libido goes into hibernation. Just do other things you enjoy and it might just sneak up on you again unawares.

Sarah

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Aww sorry to hear this,i think state of mind can be a big thing.i suffer depression and i was similar last year,i took a break from meeting for ages.

Like others have said concentrate on being you and getting yourself back and i hope it returns for you.Miss xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to say this Cute but mines through the roof at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a mum was the main reason my libido nose dived. I swear it's a subconscious protective reflex - fuck, having sex made me pregnant - I am NEVER doing that again!

Plus TA exhausting constantly putting someone else's needs before your own. I often see sex as another thing on my "to do" list as it's just yet another demand on my time to keep someone happy."

This. it wasn't until my littlest was 3.5/4 that my libido came back properly. Be kind to yourself, it will come back xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Got the Dr's on Friday for a double appointment to have a really good chat.

My wonderful grandparents and have said they'' have my daughter over night for one night a week so i get the chance to mix/mingle with people 'in the real world'..

i feel better already knowing i have freedom to discover myself again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont worry about it is the first thing - and walk - my first solution to most things and then tidy out stuff - thes take your mind off whatever just for a time and let you relax

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