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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My son is 11 and still in primary school.

2 weeks ago they learned first aid, he came home and practiced putting bandages on everyone.

Last week they learned about vegetarianism. He came home and refused to eat meat all week.

Next week they are watching Living and Growing unit 3, they will see a cartoon couple having sex in different positions.... I am dreading what he will come home and do haha!

Seriously though I believe its essential for kids to learn this stuff, to know its all normal and they can talk about it. And to be fair I think he already knows the basics, kids nowadays know more than we think!

Some of the mothers are kicking off though saying their kids are too young to learn this. What do you all think?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I learnt about vegetarianism at the age of eight and have been one ever since. Today children are exposed to lots of things ... they can find out on the internet etc. Best that school takes ownership of these things so that the spread of misinformation is minimised. Good on your son for taking these things to heart ... my middle one, now 17, asked me what 'doggie style' was when he was in year six (age 11).

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

In the world we live in today children need to know these things. I remember when my first son watched the cartoon sex ed thing. I went in to see it first so I could answer any questions he might have. I was quite shocked at how much info was in it. For example they spoke about the clit. Do kids of 11 need to know that much detail???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I learnt about vegetarianism at the age of eight and have been one ever since. Today children are exposed to lots of things ... they can find out on the internet etc. Best that school takes ownership of these things so that the spread of misinformation is minimised. Good on your son for taking these things to heart ... my middle one, now 17, asked me what 'doggie style' was when he was in year six (age 11)."

That's how I feel, we need to make sure they get the right information. Like the amount of adult males I know who thought you couldn't get a girl pregnant if you just pull out... and girls who think they can't get pregnant the first time they have sex... sex education is definitely necessary. Think the mums complaining just feel its too young. But I know children reach puberty earlier these days. 11 year olds are having periods and so could get pregnant

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"In the world we live in today children need to know these things. I remember when my first son watched the cartoon sex ed thing. I went in to see it first so I could answer any questions he might have. I was quite shocked at how much info was in it. For example they spoke about the clit. Do kids of 11 need to know that much detail??? "

I would say they do, yes. It's part of a woman's body no point not mentioning it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's a good age to know where babies come from and how they get there.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm all for it but coming home and practicing rope work is definitely a step to far

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its very important to go hand in hand with being taught at home. We never had taboo subjects but i spoke to him age approprite by the time he was 11 it was anything goes.

Funniest thing was when he had his 12th birthday he took to wearing two pairs of pants to bed when i asked why he said it was incase his sperm came out in the night but we used to watch a lot of what i thought where educational programmes together

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yep I have always tried to be open with my boy to. He used to ask a lot of questions from reading those headline banners you see outside newsagents... like "muuum what's a rapist"

I guess on a swingers site I will find more people who agree with the sex education. Being more open-minded about sex in general. Think I would have had some heated replies if it was mumsnet I posted on haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm all for it but coming home and practicing rope work is definitely a step to far "

Hahaha well my boy struggles to tie his own shoelaces so I don't think that's gonna be an issue for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son is 11 and still in primary school.

2 weeks ago they learned first aid, he came home and practiced putting bandages on everyone.

Last week they learned about vegetarianism. He came home and refused to eat meat all week.

Next week they are watching Living and Growing unit 3, they will see a cartoon couple having sex in different positions.... I am dreading what he will come home and do haha!

Seriously though I believe its essential for kids to learn this stuff, to know its all normal and they can talk about it. And to be fair I think he already knows the basics, kids nowadays know more than we think!

Some of the mothers are kicking off though saying their kids are too young to learn this. What do you all think?"

I had sex education at junior school, I'm going to say at around age 7/8. Never did me any harm, don't recall having to ask anyone any questions and there was only one boy in the class who's mum wouldn't let him take part in the class. As long as it's done sensibly and factually I see no problem. Better to learn the facts I think.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yep I have always tried to be open with my boy to. He used to ask a lot of questions from reading those headline banners you see outside newsagents... like "muuum what's a rapist"

I guess on a swingers site I will find more people who agree with the sex education. Being more open-minded about sex in general. Think I would have had some heated replies if it was mumsnet I posted on haha"

Hmm. I wonder if you will, I often find people in the forums quite closed minded about sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son is 11 and still in primary school.

2 weeks ago they learned first aid, he came home and practiced putting bandages on everyone.

Last week they learned about vegetarianism. He came home and refused to eat meat all week.

Next week they are watching Living and Growing unit 3, they will see a cartoon couple having sex in different positions.... I am dreading what he will come home and do haha!

Seriously though I believe its essential for kids to learn this stuff, to know its all normal and they can talk about it. And to be fair I think he already knows the basics, kids nowadays know more than we think!

Some of the mothers are kicking off though saying their kids are too young to learn this. What do you all think?

I had sex education at junior school, I'm going to say at around age 7/8. Never did me any harm, don't recall having to ask anyone any questions and there was only one boy in the class who's mum wouldn't let him take part in the class. As long as it's done sensibly and factually I see no problem. Better to learn the facts I think. "

And I started my periods when I was 10, if I'd not had that education it could've been very scary, as it was I took it in my stride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always had an open door policy with my kids when it can to talking about sex. It pays off in the long run. my son told me last week that he had a condom split he's 17 and we talked about what was the right thing to do and when I did the shopping yesterday he asked if I would get him a different brand and what I would recommend. so proud of the boy

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Living and growing is outdated now.

Funniest thing was my son at the time. He has aspergers and in the video they had a cartoon with stick people tickling each other with feathers. Illustrating I guess that it's fun .. He came home and asked about why we needed a feather!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

My fourteen year old had a lesson on putting condoms on ... which I though was a bit much. But she said there is a high level of teen pregnancy in her school. I found out my son hadn't had this as he had a lot of time out of school due to following a professional sport career. We discussed this with him and luckily the educational institution he is at can plug that gap by providing that information.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always had an open door policy with my kids when it can to talking about sex. It pays off in the long run. my son told me last week that he had a condom split he's 17 and we talked about what was the right thing to do and when I did the shopping yesterday he asked if I would get him a different brand and what I would recommend. so proud of the boy"

That's my hope too, if we can talk about it openly now then I hope he will feel he can talk to me about it in the future

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Living and growing is outdated now.

Funniest thing was my son at the time. He has aspergers and in the video they had a cartoon with stick people tickling each other with feathers. Illustrating I guess that it's fun .. He came home and asked about why we needed a feather!"

My boy has aspergers too and takes things literally. The cartoon couple chase each other round the bed and have a pillow fight before they get down amd dirty... can imagine him in future chucking pillows at every girlfriend before they have sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can wait too long with sex education, when kids get to a certain age they get embarrassed more easily younger children are more honest with their questions, you'll not find a more inquisitive mind than that of a child, and they take more in.

Teenagers by and large think they know it all, and if they don't, they could never tell their friends that they don't, I think the right age for sex education is between the ages of 8 and 12 ish

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I was always open with my kids, my 19yr old talks to me about her sex life which her boyfriend finds fascinating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2011/mar/25/sex-education-dutch-children

Have a wee read of this, compared to our school curriculum I think this is the way forward they have one of the lowest teen pregnancy rates in the world. Rather your boy find out the information properly than go to the Internet himself and get wrong information from the likes of porn or porno esque websites. Would be about 13/14years ago that I got the living and growing and my teachers couldn't have been more embarrassed and uniformative especially when it came to answering our questions about contraception. The main thing I won't forget about it was learning - sex is bad and should only happen when you're married/in love.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks I will have a look at that. All I remember about sex ed at school was seeing a video of a woman giving birth and it horrified me! But times have definitely changed, my mum had a baby at 15, onlyhad sex once with no real clue what she was doing or that it could get her pregnant. She was treated terribly by the midwives and the very worst thing is when she went in to have the baby she didn't even know how it was going to come out. She thought he would come out of her belly button! Sounds funny but thanks goodness things have moved forward since then

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