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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I'm just reading another post on why some actively seek people who are married to others.

So truth time. If you are married and playing on here alone. Be honest how would you feel if you found out your husband / wife had cheated on you ?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I don't think it's anyone's place to judge others, no one knows what goes on behind closed doors and it's no one else's business.

If you don't want to meet married people that's fine, but no one needs to justify themselves to others. If you don't like it, ignore and move on.

The obsession on this site about married people is really bizarre, there's a new thread about it every day.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"So I'm just reading another post on why some actively seek people who are married to others.

So truth time. If you are married and playing on here alone. Be honest how would you feel if you found out your husband / wife had cheated on you ? "

You think they will actually be honest? The way people vilify them on here when they do say they are married and looking it's no wonder so many more lie about it. Why would anyone actually put themselves up for a forum bashing?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm just reading another post on why some actively seek people who are married to others.

So truth time. If you are married and playing on here alone. Be honest how would you feel if you found out your husband / wife had cheated on you ?

So you mean you actively censor yourself because you're worried what people you've never met on an Internet forum may say about you?

Good lord.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first got involved in Swinging back in the early 80's EVERYONE was married and "Wife Swapping"

Yes there was singles who joined in the fun too. These were private parties held for people with similar interests and singles were invited to make up numbers

But nobody questioned anyone else's morals or why they chose the lifestyle we just got on with it

Because the scene wasn't blown up like it is now pre-internet you went to a party and had sex with whoever was there. People on these sites at so picky and choosey and judgemental

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"When I first got involved in Swinging back in the early 80's EVERYONE was married and "Wife Swapping"

Yes there was singles who joined in the fun too. These were private parties held for people with similar interests and singles were invited to make up numbers

But nobody questioned anyone else's morals or why

they chose the lifestyle we just got on with it

Because the scene wasn't blown up like it is now pre-internet you went to a party and had sex with whoever was there. People on these sites at so picky and choosey and judgemental "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think it's anyone's place to judge others, no one knows what goes on behind closed doors and it's no one else's business.

If you don't want to meet married people that's fine, but no one needs to justify themselves to others. If you don't like it, ignore and move on.

The obsession on this site about married people is really bizarre, there's a new thread about it every day. "

When did I say I wouldn't play with married guys. It was a follow on from a post about why some people actively seek out married partners ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op I can only note the hypocrisy of two male married "friends" on here who i know in rl but have never played with.

Both found that their wives found out that they had cheated and both became holier than thou and put their wives through hell for being unfaithful.

One of the women had slept with an ex boyfriend when they were taking a break from their marriage and he was living away from the home for 6 months!

Pointing out that hypocrisy to them was lost in them both. They saw fab as non emotional cheating where as their wives had emotionally cheated by developing a relationship to the point that they could cheat.

What really made me laugh is one of them has openly slept with over 100 women here and elsewhere, brags and he has never used a condom in his life and yet demanded that his wife be sti tested for sleeping with one man one time using condom. He humiliated her by telling family and friends about her infidelity. And all the time he was just manipulating her to complete compliance and subservience to beg him to take her back.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"So I'm just reading another post on why some actively seek people who are married to others.

So truth time. If you are married and playing on here alone. Be honest how would you feel if you found out your husband / wife had cheated on you ?

So you mean you actively censor yourself because you're worried what people you've never met on an Internet forum may say about you?

Good lord."

I don't but then I'm not married and looking for sex on the side. Read any thread posted by a married man and you will see all the cliché comments....white Knights telling him to send his wife to them, he'll show her how a real man fuck....people berating him, laughing at his 'honesty' etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see why anyone would put themselves up for judgement on here.

It's a no win situation ~ whatever answer they give someone will be ready to jump all over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am here to explore my sexual side not here to judge others X

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We don't care what the personal circumstances are in other peoples lives we are looking to explore our own sexuality and fantasies.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I don't think it's anyone's place to judge others, no one knows what goes on behind closed doors and it's no one else's business.

If you don't want to meet married people that's fine, but no one needs to justify themselves to others. If you don't like it, ignore and move on.

The obsession on this site about married people is really bizarre, there's a new thread about it every day.

When did I say I wouldn't play with married guys. It was a follow on from a post about why some people actively seek out married partners ? "

I didn't say you did. It was the general you, not the specific you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and my husband cheated on me and one of which was my sister, so the way I see it good enough for him good enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am here to explore my sexual side not here to judge others X

exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first got involved in Swinging back in the early 80's EVERYONE was married and "Wife Swapping"

Yes there was singles who joined in the fun too. These were private parties held for people with similar interests and singles were invited to make up numbers

But nobody questioned anyone else's morals or why they chose the lifestyle we just got on with it

Because the scene wasn't blown up like it is now pre-internet you went to a party and had sex with whoever was there. People on these sites at so picky and choosey and judgemental "

This. Completely true. Im astounded by the amount of picky fussy judgemental and moralistic people on here. We're here for nsa fun.. and and sometimes its anything but.

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By *ungrylikethewolfMan
over a year ago

Cheadle

Well this escalated quickly.

From a male point of viewhat here.

I would sleep with a married woman butility only if we clicked. And that's the important bit.

If they are fooling around then the chances are we won't click anyway bit I don't know what's happening behind the scenes in their own life and really I don't want to.

This is a swingers site and not Jeremy kyle.

The question needed to be asked really is not what are married people on here for but why are they on here. That's a better question to ask.. if you wanted to ask it.

Just my male thoughts anyway. Don't shoot me if you people disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am here to explore my sexual side not here to judge others X

exactly!"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm just reading another post on why some actively seek people who are married to others.

So truth time. If you are married and playing on here alone. Be honest how would you feel if you found out your husband / wife had cheated on you ? "

Honestly? I'd be relieved that I wasn't the only one and then hopeful we could be honest about what we both really need

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By *ungrylikethewolfMan
over a year ago

Cheadle

Sorry for the above post. I have a new phone and it auto corrects to some strange words.. not even English. I really should reread what I put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm just reading another post on why some actively seek people who are married to others.

So truth time. If you are married and playing on here alone. Be honest how would you feel if you found out your husband / wife had cheated on you ? "

I'd be a little pissed just for the fact my Mrs has said no to sex for 3 years. Other than that the thought of her riding another mans cock turns me on or even a few men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm just reading another post on why some actively seek people who are married to others.

So truth time. If you are married and playing on here alone. Be honest how would you feel if you found out your husband / wife had cheated on you ?

Honestly? I'd be relieved that I wasn't the only one and then hopeful we could be honest about what we both really need

Why not be honest about what you both need without the cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first got involved in Swinging back in the early 80's EVERYONE was married and "Wife Swapping"

Yes there was singles who joined in the fun too. These were private parties held for people with similar interests and singles were invited to make up numbers

But nobody questioned anyone else's morals or why they chose the lifestyle we just got on with it

Because the scene wasn't blown up like it is now pre-internet you went to a party and had sex with whoever was there. People on these sites at so picky and choosey and judgemental "

The post is about people cheating, not married couples doing it together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My OH has full access to this profile and (like yesterday) sometimes accompanies me on socials.

Being a fully active part of the scene isn't of interest though, so advertising as a couple would be disingenuous.

So where does that leave me in these quasi judgemental threads ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm married and my husband cheated on me and one of which was my sister, so the way I see it good enough for him good enough for me."

That was my husband's reasoning for cheating on me,except he had no hard evidence I had cheated,because I hadn't. He was cheating on me throughout our relationship then accused me and spoke to all his family and friends about me when his paranoia made him think I was cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shhhhhh don't let my wife know om on here, she thinks im playing poker.

Luvs ya Mrs Marmite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've actually been twice cheated on via the internet, and i used the same sites they signed up to to cheat on them back.

Childish, yes, made me feel better initially though and i don't regret doing it.

I wouldn't sign up to a site to cheat on someone if the relationship isn't great. I'm very independent so if something isn't working out for me with a relationship i don't see the point in remaining stagnant in that way. The relationship changes, i change, or the relationship ends.

I was gutted each time i was cheated on, despite it being a fault with the cheater and not the loyal one. I doubt i'd do what i did previously and get my revenge by cheating, it just makes me as bad as them, i know now it's best to move on, forget the shitty past, and build a better future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm just reading another post on why some actively seek people who are married to others.

So truth time. If you are married and playing on here alone. Be honest how would you feel if you found out your husband / wife had cheated on you ?

This.

Honestly? I'd be relieved that I wasn't the only one and then hopeful we could be honest about what we both really need

Why not be honest about what you both need without the cheating?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My OH has full access to this profile and (like yesterday) sometimes accompanies me on socials.

Being a fully active part of the scene isn't of interest though, so advertising as a couple would be disingenuous.

So where does that leave me in these quasi judgemental threads ?"

Nowhere as you have an amazing open communicative relationship. I love that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest i think I would be in shock if I found my wife on here. I don't know how I would feel if I found out she was cheating on me, to react badly would make me a complete hypocrite. And how about that some honesty from a male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd feel like shit I imagine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm just reading another post on why some actively seek people who are married to others.

So truth time. If you are married and playing on here alone. Be honest how would you feel if you found out your husband / wife had cheated on you ?

Yes, I'm cheating! If I was to find my wife was cheating then I wouldn't really be able to moan about.

If people choose to cheat and if offends you, there is always the option of ignoring them.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"To be honest i think I would be in shock if I found my wife on here. I don't know how I would feel if I found out she was cheating on me, to react badly would make me a complete hypocrite. And how about that some honesty from a male."

I've pulled up a chair and got my popcorn out, you'd better get a tin helmet on ready for the lectures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love my partner to cheat on me really turns me on.... But she dont want to ... And i have told her

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