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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Try telling that to couples as well who message and demand a reply....let's not put everything on the single guys now.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over. "

It's not Thursday lol

I would never get in a strop if someone doesn't reply people have real lives, kids, works, football.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Try telling that to couples as well who message and demand a reply....let's not put everything on the single guys now. "

And single females got to make sure it has gender equality today

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By *ugar -TitsWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Yes I get some proper abuse as to why I haven't replied.

Even after they have sent several aggressive messages.

My block list is growing by the day.

As for the hate mail they send.... Never understood why people go out of their way to send you abuse. What a waste of energy.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Here we go again. newsflash we aren't all the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try telling that to couples as well who message and demand a reply....let's not put everything on the single guys now. "

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By *elson61Man
over a year ago

WELWYN GARDEN CITY


"Here we go again. newsflash we aren't all the same "

Very true, but some seem to tar us all with the same brush.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I think couples and women who moan about receiving hundreds of replies and not being able to reply should do the decent thing and employ a secretary

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By *arkliverpoolMan
over a year ago

whiston / the lakes sometimes


"Try telling that to couples as well who message and demand a reply....let's not put everything on the single guys now. "
thank you some of us are decent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do know, the majority of all users on here are respectful, regardless of gender.

Then you get people who aren't so respectful, again regardless of gender. Just delete and block and if abusive report to admin.

We know many lovely, respectful, fun men, women and couples on here and none of them are like that.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Seven years, only meet single men, only reply to those who meet what I'm looking for even if it's a "no thanks". Zero insult or abuse and I'm fat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I get some proper abuse as to why I haven't replied.

Even after they have sent several aggressive messages.

My block list is growing by the day.

As for the hate mail they send.... Never understood why people go out of their way to send you abuse. What a waste of energy. "

The abuse makes me chuckle, I said no thanks, being abusive will make me change my mind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over. "

I understand implicitly and when I get no reply I just forget it and try someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got so fed up with being pestered by the same person/people or getting abuse for a polite no thanks or the Spanish inquisition as to why I wasn't interested trying to change my mind I did something about it - blocked everyone and look for suitable people myself, sorted. No need to rant and moan about things you can do something about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?"

yes.... once for me

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over. "

Why do you people rant?

Just use the block button and get on with your life?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?"

Yes yes and a big fat YESSSS

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Filters are your friends.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

yes.... once for me "

More than 1s for me and I'm nothing special

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Its not just single men that do this,but block single men and look for them yourself .Miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The couples profile we set up (wife and me) gets about two messages a week if that, so replying to messages isn't an issue for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over. "

I don't think this is just single guys I think it's open to all but lucky for this site there's not to many of them......think people need to remember people have life's out of fab and your not going to be everyone's cuppa tea and hounding folk is only going to make getting a reply non existent.......so for people that do this if the 1st message is deleted take the hint if it's unread take the hint.....meant to be a fun enjoyable site don't spoil it for people x

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By *ak1aMan
over a year ago

wiltshire trowbridge

here here , oi reply oi ?? Joke

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over.

Why do you people rant?

Just use the block button and get on with your life?"

What?!! A life away from Fab?!!

Now you're just being ridiculous!!!

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton


"Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over. "

I have to agree i get lots of messages every day, i cant reply to them all

I only reply to guys who i find attractive an want to talk to or meet up with. I havnt the time to sit there all day saying no thanks happy swinging etc. Too time consuming. Im not ill mannered, rude, or ill mannered i have a life outside of fabs an i have work etc an guys will have to accept its a fact of life that cpls/single fems havnt the time to answer every email

Am move on its no biggy to me i send an email to a guy an it gets ignored i simply move on an its no big deal tbh

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would say this week I have received a few more mails than I usually do - maybe because I have been a bit more assertive and a bit more active on the forums

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?"

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it "

Keep dreaming pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like we're missing out on the full fab experience here, we very rarely get abuse or that many messages to be honest.

Guess we're just not that popular

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

Keep dreaming pal "

wrong side of the bed?

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By *ugar -TitsWoman
over a year ago

leeds


"Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over.

I have to agree i get lots of messages every day, i cant reply to them all

I only reply to guys who i find attractive an want to talk to or meet up with. I havnt the time to sit there all day saying no thanks happy swinging etc. Too time consuming. Im not ill mannered, rude, or ill mannered i have a life outside of fabs an i have work etc an guys will have to accept its a fact of life that cpls/single fems havnt the time to answer every email

Am move on its no biggy to me i send an email to a guy an it gets ignored i simply move on an its no big deal tbh"

Yes... This

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

Keep dreaming pal

wrong side of the bed?

"

Not even close stick around you'll get used to me

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over. "

Maybe you should put in your status you have had hundreds of messages and will get around to answering when you can.

Then hopefully no one gets ratty!

Or just delete and block everyone. End of problem.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I feel like we're missing out on the full fab experience here, we very rarely get abuse or that many messages to be honest.

Guess we're just not that popular "

I know the feeling , I'm sure op will be getting more messages after this thread

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I feel like we're missing out on the full fab experience here, we very rarely get abuse or that many messages to be honest.

Guess we're just not that popular "

Msg waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over.

Maybe you should put in your status you have had hundreds of messages and will get around to answering when you can.

Then hopefully no one gets ratty!

Or just delete and block everyone. End of problem. "

That'll probably get messages like yeah yeah, you're not all that or things like you really thing you're God's gift etc! Just simply block everyone and search yourself then this doesn't become a chore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?"

Yes.... quite a lot actually

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

Keep dreaming pal

wrong side of the bed?

Not even close stick around you'll get used to me "

Well as long as your not Mr Grumpy grumps... I was only joking, like you do all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP if you are not prepared to be proactive and message people first; then this is what happens,.

IF you filtered all single men from blocking you; found someone you liked the look off and messaged (or even winked) at them first; then they can send you a message; no one else can.

The fact that you do not do this says more about you (and others that come on here ad infinitum to complain that they are unable to use the site properly).

Be proactive; and use filters; or suffer the anonymity and vagaries of the internet.

DRAMA........ OVER.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP if you are not prepared to be proactive and message people first; then this is what happens,.

IF you filtered all single men from blocking you; found someone you liked the look off and messaged (or even winked) at them first; then they can send you a message; no one else can.

The fact that you do not do this says more about you (and others that come on here ad infinitum to complain that they are unable to use the site properly).

Be proactive; and use filters; or suffer the anonymity and vagaries of the internet.

DRAMA........ OVER."

Some people thrive on the drama though and these types would probably moan they got no messages if they blocked everyone and searched themselves!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


" Some people thrive on the drama though and these types would probably moan they got no messages if they blocked everyone and searched themselves!"

I have no filters on at all and rarely get more than 5 messages a day, but if I ever do I'll be sure to come on here and post a good moan. I mean, men messaging me for sex on this site? The very nerve!!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

Keep dreaming pal

wrong side of the bed?

Not even close stick around you'll get used to me

Well as long as your not Mr Grumpy grumps... I was only joking, like you do all the time"

Still way to serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP if you are not prepared to be proactive and message people first; then this is what happens,.

IF you filtered all single men from blocking you; found someone you liked the look off and messaged (or even winked) at them first; then they can send you a message; no one else can.

The fact that you do not do this says more about you (and others that come on here ad infinitum to complain that they are unable to use the site properly).

Be proactive; and use filters; or suffer the anonymity and vagaries of the internet.

DRAMA........ OVER.

Some people thrive on the drama though and these types would probably moan they got no messages if they blocked everyone and searched themselves!"

Quite simply; putting the onus on people to contact you first leads to lots and lots of crap messages; thats life. Taking control of who can message you and when... that's effective use of the site; but then if no single man was ever able to message first, the ladies and couples would have to do it, and run that oh so bitter feeling of rejection they may get.....

Heaven forbid!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


" Some people thrive on the drama though and these types would probably moan they got no messages if they blocked everyone and searched themselves!

I have no filters on at all and rarely get more than 5 messages a day, but if I ever do I'll be sure to come on here and post a good moan. I mean, men messaging me for sex on this site? The very nerve!!"

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

Keep dreaming pal

wrong side of the bed?

Not even close stick around you'll get used to me

Well as long as your not Mr Grumpy grumps... I was only joking, like you do all the time

Still way to serious "

Don't sweat it.. I never take anything seriously

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

Keep dreaming pal

wrong side of the bed?

Not even close stick around you'll get used to me

Well as long as your not Mr Grumpy grumps... I was only joking, like you do all the time

Still way to serious

Don't sweat it.. I never take anything seriously "

Now your getting me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP if you are not prepared to be proactive and message people first; then this is what happens,.

IF you filtered all single men from blocking you; found someone you liked the look off and messaged (or even winked) at them first; then they can send you a message; no one else can.

The fact that you do not do this says more about you (and others that come on here ad infinitum to complain that they are unable to use the site properly).

Be proactive; and use filters; or suffer the anonymity and vagaries of the internet.

DRAMA........ OVER.

Some people thrive on the drama though and these types would probably moan they got no messages if they blocked everyone and searched themselves!

Quite simply; putting the onus on people to contact you first leads to lots and lots of crap messages; thats life. Taking control of who can message you and when... that's effective use of the site; but then if no single man was ever able to message first, the ladies and couples would have to do it, and run that oh so bitter feeling of rejection they may get.....

Heaven forbid!"

It doesn't bother me that my fancy a fuck messages get ignored and deleted

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

Keep dreaming pal

wrong side of the bed?

Not even close stick around you'll get used to me

Well as long as your not Mr Grumpy grumps... I was only joking, like you do all the time

Still way to serious

Don't sweat it.. I never take anything seriously

Now your getting me "

And you me, thank god for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP if you are not prepared to be proactive and message people first; then this is what happens,.

IF you filtered all single men from blocking you; found someone you liked the look off and messaged (or even winked) at them first; then they can send you a message; no one else can.

The fact that you do not do this says more about you (and others that come on here ad infinitum to complain that they are unable to use the site properly).

Be proactive; and use filters; or suffer the anonymity and vagaries of the internet.

DRAMA........ OVER.

Some people thrive on the drama though and these types would probably moan they got no messages if they blocked everyone and searched themselves!

Quite simply; putting the onus on people to contact you first leads to lots and lots of crap messages; thats life. Taking control of who can message you and when... that's effective use of the site; but then if no single man was ever able to message first, the ladies and couples would have to do it, and run that oh so bitter feeling of rejection they may get.....

Heaven forbid!

It doesn't bother me that my fancy a fuck messages get ignored and deleted "

To be honest the "bitter feeling" part was a bit tongue in cheek; I am dead inside

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

Keep dreaming pal

wrong side of the bed?

Not even close stick around you'll get used to me

Well as long as your not Mr Grumpy grumps... I was only joking, like you do all the time

Still way to serious

Don't sweat it.. I never take anything seriously

Now your getting me

And you me, thank god for that "

Prick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do single men not realise that some of us get so many messages that it would be impossible to find the time to reply to them all. We have had 100s of messages and simply can't reply to them all. And when you don't, after some individual sends 25 a day, they get in a strop. I'm going to find the block button and start using it. Rant over. "
1307 unread messages. Imagine replying to all. It would be a vicious circle of never ending replies lol.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"OP if you are not prepared to be proactive and message people first; then this is what happens,.

IF you filtered all single men from blocking you; found someone you liked the look off and messaged (or even winked) at them first; then they can send you a message; no one else can.

The fact that you do not do this says more about you (and others that come on here ad infinitum to complain that they are unable to use the site properly).

Be proactive; and use filters; or suffer the anonymity and vagaries of the internet.

DRAMA........ OVER.

Some people thrive on the drama though and these types would probably moan they got no messages if they blocked everyone and searched themselves!

Quite simply; putting the onus on people to contact you first leads to lots and lots of crap messages; thats life. Taking control of who can message you and when... that's effective use of the site; but then if no single man was ever able to message first, the ladies and couples would have to do it, and run that oh so bitter feeling of rejection they may get.....

Heaven forbid!

It doesn't bother me that my fancy a fuck messages get ignored and deleted "

My last Msg to you ended in the big house

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

Keep dreaming pal

wrong side of the bed?

Not even close stick around you'll get used to me

Well as long as your not Mr Grumpy grumps... I was only joking, like you do all the time

Still way to serious

Don't sweat it.. I never take anything seriously

Now your getting me

And you me, thank god for that

Prick "

Takes one to know one...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP if you are not prepared to be proactive and message people first; then this is what happens,.

IF you filtered all single men from blocking you; found someone you liked the look off and messaged (or even winked) at them first; then they can send you a message; no one else can.

The fact that you do not do this says more about you (and others that come on here ad infinitum to complain that they are unable to use the site properly).

Be proactive; and use filters; or suffer the anonymity and vagaries of the internet.

DRAMA........ OVER."

You make some good points. However I like the company of single men so blocking them would be pointless, however I shall take advice and block those who pester me. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we open our filters to single guys we get a lot of messages. We delete 95% of them without reply, but have never had any abuse. Crap messages? Sure. Persistence? Of course - but never abuse.

If we did, we'd block. Very simple really this Fab lark.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?

lol.. I will let you know if I ever get a message.. My inbox is as dry as a nun's fanny.

The reality is that this is a place for women to meet who they want to.. I have no idea why guys get so upset about it. If a woman doesn't reply she may well have missed out on some total awesomely, awesomeness... That's the way I look at it

Keep dreaming pal

wrong side of the bed?

Not even close stick around you'll get used to me

Well as long as your not Mr Grumpy grumps... I was only joking, like you do all the time

Still way to serious

Don't sweat it.. I never take anything seriously

Now your getting me

And you me, thank god for that

Prick

Takes one to know one... "

Good answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP if you are not prepared to be proactive and message people first; then this is what happens,.

IF you filtered all single men from blocking you; found someone you liked the look off and messaged (or even winked) at them first; then they can send you a message; no one else can.

The fact that you do not do this says more about you (and others that come on here ad infinitum to complain that they are unable to use the site properly).

Be proactive; and use filters; or suffer the anonymity and vagaries of the internet.

DRAMA........ OVER.

You make some good points. However I like the company of single men so blocking them would be pointless, however I shall take advice and block those who pester me. Xx "

If you like the company of single men; then why not block them all and message the ones you like? Why put the onus on ALL the single men contacting you? Or do you fear rejection?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"OP if you are not prepared to be proactive and message people first; then this is what happens,.

IF you filtered all single men from blocking you; found someone you liked the look off and messaged (or even winked) at them first; then they can send you a message; no one else can.

The fact that you do not do this says more about you (and others that come on here ad infinitum to complain that they are unable to use the site properly).

Be proactive; and use filters; or suffer the anonymity and vagaries of the internet.

DRAMA........ OVER.

You make some good points. However I like the company of single men so blocking them would be pointless, however I shall take advice and block those who pester me. Xx "

You want to know something the best blokes on here get treated like the worst no matter what so no matter what they do can't win and that my friend is why they will never mail you. Like Paul said up there do your own searching because we will no longer come to you and that's because of the thousands of threads just like yours. So in effect your your own worst enemie

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"OP if you are not prepared to be proactive and message people first; then this is what happens,.

IF you filtered all single men from blocking you; found someone you liked the look off and messaged (or even winked) at them first; then they can send you a message; no one else can.

The fact that you do not do this says more about you (and others that come on here ad infinitum to complain that they are unable to use the site properly).

Be proactive; and use filters; or suffer the anonymity and vagaries of the internet.

DRAMA........ OVER.

You make some good points. However I like the company of single men so blocking them would be pointless, however I shall take advice and block those who pester me. Xx

If you like the company of single men; then why not block them all and message the ones you like? Why put the onus on ALL the single men contacting you? Or do you fear rejection? "

You can't win mate stop trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like we're missing out on the full fab experience here, we very rarely get abuse or that many messages to be honest.

Guess we're just not that popular "

It's not that you're not popular, it's that you're too far away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do single guys ever get abuse from women when they turn them down? Just wondered if it's ever happened?"

Oh it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes me laugh when people moan about receiving 100s of messages bit won't use their filters presumably because they want to enjoy the false adulation of a bulging inbox.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"It makes me laugh when people moan about receiving 100s of messages bit won't use their filters presumably because they want to enjoy the false adulation of a bulging inbox."

ego boosts spring to mind

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"It makes me laugh when people moan about receiving 100s of messages bit won't use their filters presumably because they want to enjoy the false adulation of a bulging inbox."

My inbox never bulges

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

If you know what you want/ looking for, go searching and make first contact yourselves with single men.

Saves all the 'unsuitable' messages and drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes me laugh when people moan about receiving 100s of messages bit won't use their filters presumably because they want to enjoy the false adulation of a bulging inbox."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone doesn't reply to my first message, but it has been read, I send a second one saying that I understand they get a lot of messages, I understand that I must not be their type, and I shan't bother them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you all understand that you have all spoilt a perfectly good single man bashing thread, truly you should all be ashamed....

....damn you all and your logic

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"Yes I get some proper abuse as to why I haven't replied.

Even after they have sent several aggressive messages.

My block list is growing by the day.

As for the hate mail they send.... Never understood why people go out of their way to send you abuse. What a waste of energy. "

We have never got any abuse for not replying... They just disappear, they may message again, but it's as if they are messaging for the first time.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"If you know what you want/ looking for, go searching and make first contact yourselves with single men.

Saves all the 'unsuitable' messages and drama.

"

Does it work

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"If you know what you want/ looking for, go searching and make first contact yourselves with single men.

Saves all the 'unsuitable' messages and drama.

Does it work "

Yes most of the time, but occasionally an unsavoury type will get through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you know what you want/ looking for, go searching and make first contact yourselves with single men.

Saves all the 'unsuitable' messages and drama.

Does it work

Yes most of the time, but occasionally an unsavoury type will get through. "

Sorry! My bad!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"If you know what you want/ looking for, go searching and make first contact yourselves with single men.

Saves all the 'unsuitable' messages and drama.

Does it work

Yes most of the time, but occasionally an unsavoury type will get through.

Sorry! My bad!"

No, you're alright. I quite like you.

It's that one from Manchester you have to watch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try telling that to couples as well who message and demand a reply....let's not put everything on the single guys now. "

Exactly! I haven't send a first message for 2 weeks now, still hoping someone will reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have had people apologise for not replying-we say dont stress over it as we understand people have lives to live - the number of them that go on to say they get blocked or abuse for not replying straight away is unreal -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many of these types of thread there has been?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder how many of these types of thread there has been?"

zillions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Some people thrive on the drama though and these types would probably moan they got no messages if they blocked everyone and searched themselves!

I have no filters on at all and rarely get more than 5 messages a day, but if I ever do I'll be sure to come on here and post a good moan. I mean, men messaging me for sex on this site? The very nerve!!"

Same, and I don't think I've ever had hundreds a day either, I get enough for what I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try telling that to couples as well who message and demand a reply....let's not put everything on the single guys now. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes when I find the lady really attractive, and she reads but doesn't reply to my first one. I send a second saying "will you marry me?". For the reference it has actually worked once

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Sometimes when I find the lady really attractive, and she reads but doesn't reply to my first one. I send a second saying "will you marry me?". For the reference it has actually worked once"

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