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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there a difference you perceive between having sex and making love? If so, which do you prefer? Is there a difference in male and female attitudes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there is, sex is the nsa fun stuff, making love is the intimate act of building a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i perceive the act of having is sex is just going through the physical motions without feelings and emotions. Believe you could have sex with anyone.

i perceive making love to be intimate, romantic and a physical act where you give yourself entirely to an other that you love.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

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Yes. I've always graded it:-

1/ Making love

2/ Having sex

3/ Fucking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i perceive the act of having is sex is just going through the physical motions without feelings and emotions. Believe you could have sex with anyone.

i perceive making love to be intimate, romantic and a physical act where you give yourself entirely to an other that you love.

Muses....How do you give yourself entirely? I don't think I have ever done that........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. I've always graded it:-

1/ Making love

2/ Having sex

3/ Fucking"

Id have fucking as a separate category too.

Id only fuck people i trusted. For me fucking is more intense and harder, pushing boundaries and being rough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's definatly a difference.

Making love is totally emersing yourselves in each other mentally as well as physically.

Having sex is much more..... Physical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To have sex - play with friends

To make love - only with the other half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweet and I make love.There is love,emotion,passion

We have sex with other people.there is no love or emotion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i perceive the act of having is sex is just going through the physical motions without feelings and emotions. Believe you could have sex with anyone.

i perceive making love to be intimate, romantic and a physical act where you give yourself entirely to an other that you love.

Muses....How do you give yourself entirely? I don't think I have ever done that........"

Well ive never made love so wouldnt know.. but i imagine it to be all lovey dovey and poetic and lyrical

i imagine fresh linen, gentle breees, flowers on the side on a spring warm day..

oh and of course being so deeply in love and in sync with one person you just give every part of who you are and submit all your dreams and hopes to that individual in the trust they will be with you forever

i have zero experience in that .. its just what id imagine it to be..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. I've always graded it:-

1/ Making love

2/ Having sex

3/ Fucking

Id have fucking as a separate category too.

Id only fuck people i trusted. For me fucking is more intense and harder, pushing boundaries and being rough.

I would agree totally with this definition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. I've always graded it:-

1/ Making love

2/ Having sex

3/ Fucking

Id have fucking as a separate category too.

Id only fuck people i trusted. For me fucking is more intense and harder, pushing boundaries and being rough.

This definitely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i perceive the act of having is sex is just going through the physical motions without feelings and emotions. Believe you could have sex with anyone.

i perceive making love to be intimate, romantic and a physical act where you give yourself entirely to an other that you love.

Muses....How do you give yourself entirely? I don't think I have ever done that........

Well ive never made love so wouldnt know.. but i imagine it to be all lovey dovey and poetic and lyrical

i imagine fresh linen, gentle breees, flowers on the side on a spring warm day..

i have zero experience in that .. its just what id imagine it to be.. "

Now I thought I'd made love many times but I now wonder. Perhaps there are degrees of that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So with all your definitions then I'm guessing my parents must've had sex for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. I've always graded it:-

1/ Making love

2/ Having sex

3/ Fucking

Id have fucking as a separate category too.

Id only fuck people i trusted. For me fucking is more intense and harder, pushing boundaries and being rough.

I agree totally. You can have sex with anyone and have no emotion. Make love with the person you love. But you can fuck the person you love too but you can also fuck a person you trust as to fuck and I mean really fuck you need to know that person and what they want and really like for it to be a mind blowing fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just discussed with tray and with us there is

1) making love

2)fucking this is boundaries are pushed and things get down and dirty but only between ourselves

Having sex is strictly nsa no emotions just play with others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Making love is done with feelings and passion with your partner ,sex is no feeling involved like here on fab and it's fun ,a fuck is like a d*unken one night stand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. I've always graded it:-

1/ Making love

2/ Having sex

3/ Fucking

Id have fucking as a separate category too.

Id only fuck people i trusted. For me fucking is more intense and harder, pushing boundaries and being rough.

That's what I want but with that comes a whole level of trust that I'm not sure I'll find on here. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn no ones made love to me in a long time. I can't remember which I prefer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love isn't sex at all to me. i don't get why people say they fall for people they fuck more than a few times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would it blur the line by asking those of you who have or have had long term partners the following question?

When you first had an intimate act with your partner, were you making love or having sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would it blur the line by asking those of you who have or have had long term partners the following question?

When you first had an intimate act with your partner, were you making love or having sex?"

Sex on the first night we met. Then we fucked like rabbits for a few months and then one day made love.

Then the love stopped we had argument make up sex and just fucked and then just emotionless sex and then it was over.

Then after that we just fucked as most people do when you have no one else at the time as you know it's good and wrong which is what makes fucking the best out of all three in my mind whether your in a relationship or not. In love with the person or not or just fuck buddies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would it blur the line by asking those of you who have or have had long term partners the following question?

When you first had an intimate act with your partner, were you making love or having sex?"

Having sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, as has been commented above, making love doesn't necessarily have to be soft and lovey.

Making love, to me at least, is being with someone and becoming one. Uniting in mind, body and soul. It could be tender and caring, or it could be the release of raw passion in an almost explosion of sexual activity.

You meet people for a fuck for a few hours when the need arises or to fulfil a desire. There's no real meaning, apart from getting what you need.

You make love to those people special enough who deserve and have earned the right to see you carved open...deep into your soul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would it blur the line by asking those of you who have or have had long term partners the following question?

When you first had an intimate act with your partner, were you making love or having sex?"

nothing but sex.

love was what happens away from sex and made me bond with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the point of having sex with no feelings would make me feel like a robot x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make love to those people special enough who deserve and have earned the right to see you carved open...deep into your soul."

See those words sound fabulous and evocative but when I reflect on my own experience they simply don't describe any of my sexual experiences.

Perhaps I'm too fucked up to experience stuff like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. I've always graded it:-

1/ Making love

2/ Having sex

3/ Fucking

Id have fucking as a separate category too.

Id only fuck people i trusted. For me fucking is more intense and harder, pushing boundaries and being rough.

I would agree totally with this definition

Me too

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I always remember my ex saying in the middle of the deed we are not fucking we are making love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would it blur the line by asking those of you who have or have had long term partners the following question?

When you first had an intimate act with your partner, were you making love or having sex?

Having sex"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always remember my ex saying in the middle of the deed we are not fucking we are making love

Is that why you say X now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate "

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Well I have never been in love so I've never made love therefore I'm maybe not the best person to comment but that's how I see it yes

If you love somebody then surely no matter how the sex is its love making?

Same as if it's a meet off here surely it's just a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Well I have never been in love so I've never made love therefore I'm maybe not the best person to comment but that's how I see it yes

If you love somebody then surely no matter how the sex is its love making?

Same as if it's a meet off here surely it's just a shag?"

See I can go with that definition, it's the 'carving open of your soul' definitions that have me wondering what the fuck is the experience that goes with those words?

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"Is there a difference you perceive between having sex and making love? If so, which do you prefer? Is there a difference in male and female attitudes?"

Of course there is!

Most of the contributions define the answers well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Difference is the romanticism of sex, imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Difference is the romanticism of sex, imo."

Can you give me an example?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To have sex - play with friends

To make love - only with the other half

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion is that it is all sex.. Just different moods and different emotions make the sex the nature it will be...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Difference is the romanticism of sex, imo.

Can you give me an example?"

i've never had sex like that so no i can't really.

but i suppose you'd attach something to that sex that makes it sentimental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Difference is the romanticism of sex, imo.

Can you give me an example?

i've never had sex like that so no i can't really.

but i suppose you'd attach something to that sex that makes it sentimental."

So similar to what NN said then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Difference is the romanticism of sex, imo.

Can you give me an example?

i've never had sex like that so no i can't really.

but i suppose you'd attach something to that sex that makes it sentimental.

So similar to what NN said then?"

i don't think so no.

i have been in love twice and even though the sex was good i didn't miss that at all when we split up, i missed other things about that person. the sex was good and sorted out a/n need/urge but i never attached any sentimentality to it at all. it wasn't special because i was fucking someone i loved, other things were special and the sex wasn't as intimate for me as other things with these people.

i suppose, overall, i don't attach anything to sex. despite enjoying it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Difference is the romanticism of sex, imo.

Can you give me an example?

i've never had sex like that so no i can't really.

but i suppose you'd attach something to that sex that makes it sentimental.

So similar to what NN said then?

i don't think so no.

i suppose, overall, i don't attach anything to sex. despite enjoying it."

Ah ok I understand I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Difference is the romanticism of sex, imo.

Can you give me an example?

i've never had sex like that so no i can't really.

but i suppose you'd attach something to that sex that makes it sentimental.

So similar to what NN said then?

i don't think so no.

i suppose, overall, i don't attach anything to sex. despite enjoying it.

Ah ok I understand I think

it's ok if you don't. you have to experience things to understand them really, or be able to compare it to something you've experienced at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Difference is the romanticism of sex, imo.

Can you give me an example?

i've never had sex like that so no i can't really.

but i suppose you'd attach something to that sex that makes it sentimental.

So similar to what NN said then?

i don't think so no.

i suppose, overall, i don't attach anything to sex. despite enjoying it.

Ah ok I understand I think

it's ok if you don't. you have to experience things to understand them really, or be able to compare it to something you've experienced at least."

I think I've experienced what you talk about. I haven't associated anything special with sex. The sentimental things in my life and relationships are not sexually related, and the romantic side of my life is also not sexually related. However that might simply be a sexual dysfunction for me rather than a shared reality. That is why I was curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ont think ive ever made love..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people just want full on dirty,filthy sex

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Is there a difference you perceive between having sex and making love? If so, which do you prefer? Is there a difference in male and female attitudes?"

The phrase 'making love' makes me feel icky. I'm not very romantic, so we have sex or we fuck. No making love for us.

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite what I said above I have an idea what I might consider really making love, but it remains a fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is for hot passionate no feelings pure lust...

M love is chilled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Difference is the romanticism of sex, imo.

Can you give me an example?

i've never had sex like that so no i can't really.

but i suppose you'd attach something to that sex that makes it sentimental.

So similar to what NN said then?

i don't think so no.

i suppose, overall, i don't attach anything to sex. despite enjoying it.

Ah ok I understand I think

it's ok if you don't. you have to experience things to understand them really, or be able to compare it to something you've experienced at least.

oh right. how you put it here sounds like what i meant as well.

you see the sex in films, and i can relate that to being emotional/romaintic sex just it's not the sex i'd want or have had.

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By *veabigun37Man
over a year ago

Northwich

"To me, as has been commented above, making love doesn't necessarily have to be soft and lovey.

You meet people for a fuck for a few hours when the need arises or to fulfil a desire. There's no real meaning, apart from getting what you need.

You make love to those people special enough who deserve and have earned the right to see you carved open...deep into your soul."
spot on!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me the difference between shagging and making love is the feelings you have with who you are with

You can be soft and sensual and just be fucking if it's a meet off here or you can be hard and rough and making love if your with your soul mate

But is that all the difference is? The feelings that you have for your partner?

Difference is the romanticism of sex, imo.

Can you give me an example?

i've never had sex like that so no i can't really.

but i suppose you'd attach something to that sex that makes it sentimental.

So similar to what NN said then?

i don't think so no.

i suppose, overall, i don't attach anything to sex. despite enjoying it.

Ah ok I understand I think

it's ok if you don't. you have to experience things to understand them really, or be able to compare it to something you've experienced at least.

oh right. how you put it here sounds like what i meant as well.

you see the sex in films, and i can relate that to being emotional/romaintic sex just it's not the sex i'd want or have had.

But sex in films is just acting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me, as has been commented above, making love doesn't necessarily have to be soft and lovey.

You meet people for a fuck for a few hours when the need arises or to fulfil a desire. There's no real meaning, apart from getting what you need.

You make love to those people special enough who deserve and have earned the right to see you carved open...deep into your soul. spot on!!!!"

If he's spot on, what is this 'carved open....deep into your soul' stuff? I'd like to understand

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