FabSwingers.com forum: Too into eachother?!?!?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We recently started talking with an attractive single female and the three of us had a wee group chat going. All seemed well and there seemed to be a spark......

Until tonight.

We got a message saying that she thought we didn't need to meet her, as we seemed too good together!

So this got me thinking.... Are we intimidating? Belle and I fancy the pants off eachother! And we certainly don't "need" anyone else.

We're here because we love a bit of kink together and love the different dynamics fab brings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't the faintest idea if you are too much in to each other or not.

But I do think what happened is just part of a virtual world. This is only the internet, don't measure yourselves against it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It sounds like she gave you a kind excuse that she didn't want to see you again.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I haven't the faintest idea if you are too much in to each other or not.

But I do think what happened is just part of a virtual world. This is only the internet, don't measure yourselves against it."

I agree wholeheartedly with the last sentence of this.

Not sure what you mean by intimidating in this context though I guess she was either being kind as Steve said or felt that she would be no more than a plaything for the two of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like she gave you a kind excuse that she didn't want to see you again. "

That's what I thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we meet single fems and chat a lot with them before a meet - it could be that if you are so 'couply' that she might feel she will be just the extra part and out of it a little bit - as if you come across as so together why do you need someone else - we always make the fem the centre of our attentions and and let them know thats the case - unless the lady is very confident herself it must be very intimidating to go and meet a couple

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also your slightly passive aggressive status in top of a forum thread is overdoing it a bit. The lady had the decency to let you know, move along with good grace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we meet single fems and chat a lot with them before a meet - it could be that if you are so 'couply' that she might feel she will be just the extra part and out of it a little bit - as if you come across as so together why do you need someone else - we always make the fem the centre of our attentions and and let them know thats the case - unless the lady is very confident herself it must be very intimidating to go and meet a couple "

This. We make the single lady the centre of our attention. Don't want her to feel like the third wheel. Maybe she just changed her mind. It does happen.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you gave her the impression it was going to be all about you on the meet?

And she felt she was going to be used as a novelty toy for your amusement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe you gave her the impression it was going to be all about you on the meet?

And she felt she was going to be used as a novelty toy for your amusement?"

I've felt this in the past, I now don't meet couples.

So many have all these silly rules like 'he' only plays with 'her' and 'he' will watch then you leave so the real fun can take place. It's an awful feeling. If you want a sex toy go to the shop and buy one! Playing with a couple should be that, a couple not one or the other with silly rules and commands as what you will and won't be doing!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like she gave you a kind excuse that she didn't want to see you again.

That's what I thought.

This, its very difficult for a single female to feel comfortable with both halves of a couple. It may have nothing to do with you xx

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