FabSwingers.com forum: I am not good enough

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong "

Negativity isn't attractive my friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong

Negativity isn't attractive my friend. "

I am only say and asking if I am doing anything wrong

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By *tep121Man
over a year ago

manchester

Don't worry mate.. I've given up trying to find a meet on here. Load of time wasters

More men on here than there are women too. I only come on here to be nosey n to chat with some mates

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Really don't mean this in the least bit nasty but boy have you both got a lot to learn to make this site work for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put a smile on your face you look too serious.I think you worry to much about the impression you put over to people.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Stand out from the crowd

Shout out loud

You're the one for me!

Dare to be different darlings

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong "
your a single male and your breathing just about wraps the thread. Up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picture?

Profile?

Messages?

No idea x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong "

Look to your profile. Here's a thought: when you took that photo of you in the bathroom mirror and looked at it, did you think "oh yes, this one shows my bicep and tattoo off nicely" or did you think "there, me gorgeous wash bag - the ladies will come running when they see what a lovely wash bag I have on show"?

What in saying is - it's a wash bag photo with you in the background. Think about what you're taking a photo of.

Or I could reduce that to 'think'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong "

Cause your post and profile and most of your pictures are all kind of a downer.

Anything that could possibly be a bad thing do play up, this site is full of idiots with profiles reading "im new/looking for wn older woman to teach me/no one wants to meet me"

Thinking it will get them some sympathetic pity fuck.

But it wont, people are here to fulfill fantasy sex, the kind of stuff you think about while having a wank.

How many women do you think fantasise about a fumbling newbie or somone complaining no one fucks then?

Be confident be positive, be the fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It s very simple, the ratio of men to woman is 1:8 to 1:15 depending on where you live.

Even if all the single men fell for the advice of believing it's just about right attitude / right profile / right photos do you think each women (couples/trans/men) would get round to organizing online meets with all 8 to 15 men?

It's nothing you do, or don't do, it's just disproportionate gender representation on her.

The majority of single men will never get laid, it has nothing to do with you as a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It s very simple, the ratio of men to woman is 1:8 to 1:15 depending on where you live.

It's nothing you do, or don't do, it's just disproportionate gender representation on her.

The majority of single men will never get laid, it has nothing to do with you as a person."

This plus i think its even harder for young men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It s very simple, the ratio of men to woman is 1:8 to 1:15 depending on where you live.

It's nothing you do, or don't do, it's just disproportionate gender representation on her.

The majority of single men will never get laid, it has nothing to do with you as a person."

Except its not because while it might be 8:1 anywhere between 1-8 of those guys might be totally unfuckable to your target market.

They might have shit profiles woth no pics 2 down

6:1

They might be over or unde rage ranges 3 down

3:1

They might not be able to travel or accom 1 down

2:1

Suddenly your odds are looking pretty good.

But it still wouldn't matter if it was 1 man to 10 women if the 10 women didnt find him attractive he still isnt gonna meet.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Don't put up barriers to meets and have a positive outlook and an inviting profile.

Almost all the men on here, if they have a good profile and have been here a few weeks, have met people.

It isn't impossible. But you have to put effort in and so far, I've seen little evidence.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"It s very simple, the ratio of men to woman is 1:8 to 1:15 depending on where you live.

It's nothing you do, or don't do, it's just disproportionate gender representation on her.

The majority of single men will never get laid, it has nothing to do with you as a person.

This plus i think its even harder for young men"

It is but I have known young men to do ok in the scene

Anyway advice from a single guy, remove cap photo looks a bit chavy.

Crop your photos they look not the best (I know mine are not great but a little bit of croping works wonders)

You haven't got a dick photo which again is good though one may be ok

Also write a bit more on your profile.

Also I would say try and get to a local club/social this will help you in meeting people

Also be willing to talk to people and not just expect sex from them. In my many years in the scene I have never had a same day meet in a home not saying they don't happen for people but I would put time get to know people

Also be honest and tell people if you can't meet due to work, family etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong

Cause your post and profile and most of your pictures are all kind of a downer.

Anything that could possibly be a bad thing do play up, this site is full of idiots with profiles reading "im new/looking for wn older woman to teach me/no one wants to meet me"

Thinking it will get them some sympathetic pity fuck.

But it wont, people are here to fulfill fantasy sex, the kind of stuff you think about while having a wank.

How many women do you think fantasise about a fumbling newbie or somone complaining no one fucks then?

Be confident be positive, be the fantasy.

That's too much to aim for ...

Surely being a man he can only focus on one thing at a time

And as for 'fantasy' sex... I beg to differ there as most people are here for good old fashioned sex ... Maybe there are a few thrills attached but it all boils down to sex in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

here have a tissue -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong "

its two things

1; the tie you wear

2; your room clutter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go out and enjoy life instead of moping around on here! That is what you are doing wrong.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"here have a tissue -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really don't mean this in the least bit nasty but boy have you both got a lot to learn to make this site work for you "

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By *hilled fun ssMan
over a year ago

Southside

If your looking for dates join a dating site. This site is a hook up site for nsa fun. Oh an take down the pic with the shirt. Great bod .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go out and enjoy life instead of moping around on here! That is what you are doing wrong. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong

Cause your post and profile and most of your pictures are all kind of a downer.

Anything that could possibly be a bad thing do play up, this site is full of idiots with profiles reading "im new/looking for wn older woman to teach me/no one wants to meet me"

Thinking it will get them some sympathetic pity fuck.

But it wont, people are here to fulfill fantasy sex, the kind of stuff you think about while having a wank.

How many women do you think fantasise about a fumbling newbie or somone complaining no one fucks then?

Be confident be positive, be the fantasy.

That's too much to aim for ...

Surely being a man he can only focus on one thing at a time

And as for 'fantasy' sex... I beg to differ there as most people are here for good old fashioned sex ... Maybe there are a few thrills attached but it all boils down to sex in the end"

That's where the attitude between singles and attached people differ.....most couples are looking for that little extra spice...the icing on the already delicious cake. Singles want sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stand out from the crowd

Shout out loud

You're the one for me!

Dare to be different darlings"

"Shout out loud" that's my job mr hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong

Cause your post and profile and most of your pictures are all kind of a downer.

Anything that could possibly be a bad thing do play up, this site is full of idiots with profiles reading "im new/looking for wn older woman to teach me/no one wants to meet me"

Thinking it will get them some sympathetic pity fuck.

But it wont, people are here to fulfill fantasy sex, the kind of stuff you think about while having a wank.

How many women do you think fantasise about a fumbling newbie or somone complaining no one fucks then?

Be confident be positive, be the fantasy.

I'd never consider meeting someone who complains about anything, or starts a thread like this. Not hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lose the pics of the toilet door tattoos. Get something bigger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"here have a tissue -

exactly

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

I'm on here to just observe the scene.

You'll probably get more out of adult friend finder and plenty of fish but still need to put some effort in and follow others advice above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all a state of mind.......... I'm short fat and ugly but I still meet folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong

Cause your post and profile and most of your pictures are all kind of a downer.

Anything that could possibly be a bad thing do play up, this site is full of idiots with profiles reading "im new/looking for wn older woman to teach me/no one wants to meet me"

Thinking it will get them some sympathetic pity fuck.

But it wont, people are here to fulfill fantasy sex, the kind of stuff you think about while having a wank.

How many women do you think fantasise about a fumbling newbie or somone complaining no one fucks then?

Be confident be positive, be the fantasy.

That's too much to aim for ...

Surely being a man he can only focus on one thing at a time

And as for 'fantasy' sex... I beg to differ there as most people are here for good old fashioned sex ... Maybe there are a few thrills attached but it all boils down to sex in the end"

Fantasy sex doesnt have to be anything out of then realm of normal vanilla sex though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not from the grammar police but I know a lot of people are put off by bad spelling.

But you're 23, put the laptop away, get out in the sun and get to the pub

and lighten up.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong "

Einstein said to do the same things over and over again and expect a different result was a definition of insanity... What You're doing ain't working... Change it, we can't tell you what you're doing wrong we can only offer generic advice and opinions, YOU have to figure out the how and what.. you're an individual sell your individuality.

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By *thwiltsmMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Get yourself of to a swingers club I'm sure someone will grab you lol

If not it's a night out.

Getting a meet in here is difficult for all single guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Picture?

Profile?

Messages?

No idea x"

I just be a unlucky one x

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By *igtits36lCouple
over a year ago

risby

This site is not good for newbies as people don't look or people also don't like disablity too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a young dude you don't even need this site

trust plus it's slim pickings on the female front lol women an gay guys are spoilt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get yourself of to a swingers club I'm sure someone will grab you lol

If not it's a night out.

Getting a meet in here is difficult for all single guys"

Sound advice there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really don't mean this in the least bit nasty but boy have you both got a lot to learn to make this site work for you "

Exactly fire....it works great for many of us.

To the OP...your profile reads like something you would expect on a dating site...this ISN'T a dating site. Nor (for the usual "getting nowhere " complainers) is it a sex site.

It is a swingers site, aimed at, and mainly populated by swingers. Those of us who understand and appreciate that this is a lifestyle. There do seem to be a few more and more (mainly men) joining the site without this understanding.

Go away and ponder...then decide if you wish to remain or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It don't seem like I am good enough for anyone on this site now one seems to message me back or ever just message me at all what I am doing wrong

Cause your post and profile and most of your pictures are all kind of a downer.

Anything that could possibly be a bad thing do play up, this site is full of idiots with profiles reading "im new/looking for wn older woman to teach me/no one wants to meet me"

Thinking it will get them some sympathetic pity fuck.

But it wont, people are here to fulfill fantasy sex, the kind of stuff you think about while having a wank.

How many women do you think fantasise about a fumbling newbie or somone complaining no one fucks then?

Be confident be positive, be the fantasy.

And that my friends... is how it's done!

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