FabSwingers.com forum: Advice to your younger self

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey

So I'm liking spending some time on the forum (feeling down and really low), but surprisingly it has cheered me up slightly.

Got a question for you guys. If you could give your younger self some advice what would it be and why?

Mine would be to stand up for myself and not take for an answer, since I've always let people walk over me leading to my current low self confidence etc.

Hope everyone's having a good evening. X

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Don't get married, listen to what your friends and family think about your potential husband.

Although with out that I wouldn't had my children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey

So I'm liking spending some time on the forum (feeling down and really low), but surprisingly it has cheered me up slightly.

Got a question for you guys. If you could give your younger self some advice what would it be and why?

Mine would be to stand up for myself and not take for an answer, since I've always let people walk over me leading to my current low self confidence etc.

Hope everyone's having a good evening. X"

Don't be a twat

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

I would pass down the wisdom of knowing all future lottery numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Remember boys have feelings too'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't get married, listen to what your friends and family think about your potential husband.

Although with out that I wouldn't had my children.

I see what you're saying as I'm sure many men and women could relate that to bad bfs and gfs.

I like that you've highlighted the positive that came from the negative.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"'Remember boys have feelings too'"

Can I ask what you mean by that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just make sure that you have some FY money!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Don't get married, listen to what your friends and family think about your potential husband.

Although with out that I wouldn't had my children.

I see what you're saying as I'm sure many men and women could relate that to bad bfs and gfs.

I like that you've highlighted the positive that came from the negative.

That's the kind of person I am I don't focus on negatives life's to short.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would pass down the wisdom of knowing all future lottery numbers

In trying to write a thought provoking post, completely forgot about that! ??

Yeah me too I think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No advice at all.....

I can't see any value robbing myself of the option of discover who I've become through living life experiences .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice to my younger self -

"Always check what's in your hand before putting it in the litter bin on the way home at 4am. Even, and I really mean this, ESPECIALLY when you're d*unk."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No advice at all.....

I can't see any value robbing myself of the option of discover who I've become through living life experiences .....

OK that's brilliant!

I wouldn't be the person I am today if certain things hadn't happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need to know what other people think of you or care and certainty don't let nasty ,sarky or downright bitchy comments get to you .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Advice to my younger self -

"Always check what's in your hand before putting it in the litter bin on the way home at 4am. Even, and I really mean this, ESPECIALLY when you're d*unk.""

OK I think we've all done that -d*unk and sober sometimes ?? haha!

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

Where to start?!! So many mistakes made down the years that I'd advise myself against making, but then you have to wonder if you didn't make those mistakes what others would have been made instead, and what would be missing from your current life that wouldn't have happened without them!! And now my brain hurts and I need a lie down, so will settle for telling myself not to always be a twat!!

Mr G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Remember boys have feelings too'

Can I ask what you mean by that? "

I'm afraid the younger me was a complete and utter gobshite where the boys were concerned. Treated many a good fella like shite and it's one of my regrets to this day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come out sooner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carry on your doing a marvellous job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't get married, listen to what your friends and family think about your potential husband.

Although with out that I wouldn't had my children.

So get u I was thinking the same . Grrrrrr but hindsight would be great but hey ho X

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

When you turn 18 and they flood your post box with loan offers. Rip them up. Every one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont do magic mushrooms my eyes were always like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get married

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"'Remember boys have feelings too'

Can I ask what you mean by that?

I'm afraid the younger me was a complete and utter gobshite where the boys were concerned. Treated many a good fella like shite and it's one of my regrets to this day. "

Well you seem to be a lovely person now, so lessons learnt and all that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When you turn 18 and they flood your post box with loan offers. Rip them up. Every one of them. "

Yes!!! Could not stress that enough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always wash your hands after touching jalepenos!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always wash your hands after touching jalepenos!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I would've told myself to take more time thinking over important decisions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let her hate you, it will make it easier for her to move on, it was you who was being a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let people walk over you .

Look after your health .

Also if something goes wrong it's not the end of the world and tomorrow's another day.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Don't let the Bastards Grind you Down"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could go back in time and give myself one piece of advice it would be go back to the hospital when my daughter was 10 year old and demamd they operated on here

You trust the doctors and surgeons but they aren't always right, knowing what I know now I'd have taken her round every hospital in the country till somebody agreed to help us

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Mine would have been to do what I wanted not to do what was expected of me. It took a long time for me to be happy with things because of family.

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

Mine would be, don't keep fucking that guy- he will never want you.

And, don't marry that man just because you don't think you're worthy of anyone else.

However, I do like to believe things happen for a reason. So maybe those choices are what led me to the happy life I have now.

Sassy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My God, I could. write war and piece on this and I'm a bloke.

Breathe ....

If you want kids of your own, don't get involved with a woman with kids from other guys (generalisation - my mistake)

Don't support their kids (even though you care for them) into their late 20's

Learn to pick yourself up when you feel used and abused.

Still, your life can't be any worse than mine lol

Now, where's that depression thread as I need to be on it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm hoping that when people post their advice that they realise that positives may have come from their negatives.

Hopefully put a smile on your faces and make you a little happy.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

nothing... because my younger self was an obnoxious little cunt that sure as hell wouldn't listen to any advice whatsoever...

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"nothing... because my younger self was an obnoxious little cunt that sure as hell wouldn't listen to any advice whatsoever... "

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By *o fuss gentMan
over a year ago

York

Don't settle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Come out sooner"

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't buy a Peugeot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't buy a Peugeot

Damn, I'm well and truly screwed! Although, in fairness Peugeot has been one of the more reliable makes in my opinion

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By *elovetofuck2Couple
over a year ago

cannock

"Don't get married, listen to what your friends and family think about your potential husband.

Although with out that I wouldn't had my children.

This is spot on! Wouldnt of got married and wasted all that money! Would of waited for my now partner but like you said I wouldn't have my son if did that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let her hate you, it will make it easier for her to move on, it was you who was being a dick"

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

Don't Marry????

At work about 6 months back, I was sat in office with 4 of the girls at work all aged about 50-60, one was due to retire and was asked 'any regrets!'

She said she would never have married, one by one all of the others agreed...

I'd like to think that this stemmed from 1960's/70's when equality, well it hardly existed and expectations on a wife/mother/partner were ridiculously burdensome....this is just a though before I get into deep water

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By *londie bearWoman
over a year ago

Bexley-ish

Tell ur parents you love them and don't take them for granted, I lost both of mine in my early 20's x

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Not everyone has a soulmate. Hang on in there, because you're one of the lucky ones who will have two and for very different reasons at different times. But you already suspected this, so keep recognising the bizarre coincidences as signs that you're on the right path.

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By *its_n_piecesCouple
over a year ago

wait 'til star wars seven is on tv

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Dont date that stupid fool when you (met her in 1st year of uni)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never use Veet on your knackers....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

live a lot more than i did when i was young - i mssed out on so much fun - mind you having a blast now making up for it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't buy a Peugeot

Damn, I'm well and truly screwed! Although, in fairness Peugeot has been one of the more reliable makes in my opinion

I loved my S16, shame it was fucked by 50,000 miles.

Wouldn't touch another pug, and I've owned three of them. I was massively tempted by the 208 GTI though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For God sake listen to your family and DONT FKING DO IT YOU DIPSTICK!!!

Mr Lust

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Advice to teenage self:

"These things you worry about, these things you think are important - in 20 years time none of it will matter.

Enjoy yourself. You're sexier than you think."

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"Don't get married "

You are sooooo right.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"nothing... because my younger self was an obnoxious little cunt that sure as hell wouldn't listen to any advice whatsoever... "

I am still a stupid cunt but at least it's begining to dawn on me a little.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Don't get married

You are sooooo right. "

I was always very clear about two things:

1/ I like men and women

2/ I'm not getting married

Everyone knows where they stand from the off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't blow your wages on stupid things, travel more and do what you want for you and not to make others happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one thing.....go ahead with the dream of travel at 18

Was talked out of it by my well meaning Dad and I wish I had gone...even now

I jacked in my job at 30 and went then but wish I had done it at 18

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

Duck......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear sunscreen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing.... never go commando to a toga party I guess...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a voice. Use it.

Don't worry about what others think of you, just be true to yourself.

You're funny and people actually like you for you.

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By *enetrate and CelebrateWoman
over a year ago

Horndean

Live, laugh and love ... only you can decide what makes you happy and only you can get yourself there! Don't hesitate towards what could be and learn from your mistakes! Life is yours so live for today and not for tomorrow.

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By *its_n_piecesCouple
over a year ago

"Wear sunscreen. "

i see what you did there

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Stay in Canada

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't play with electricity so much and wear a god damn helmet when cycling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing!!.

You turn out perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everyone has a soulmate. Hang on in there, because you're one of the lucky ones who will have two and for very different reasons at different times. But you already suspected this, so keep recognising the bizarre coincidences as signs that you're on the right path."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wear sunscreen.

i see what you did there

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI"

Everyone should listen to that every week from the age of 18.

Wise words indeed.

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Tell ur parents you love them and don't take them for granted, I lost both of mine in my early 20's x"

Likewuse

Also...

Don't marry young - irrespective of how mature you feel at the time

Live life for you, not how others want you to live it

Look to the future and don't let the past influence your future

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Mine would be to stand up for myself, since I've always let people walk over me leading to my current low self confidence etc."

Help people open there eyes to what is really happening, not just let them see what they want to see.

Don't forget about yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To my younger self

Your not ugly or stupid. Be happy in your self , breathe and relax.

Enjoy your life it doesn't end in tears

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Get in the habit of going to bed early every night, starting now and make it a regular habit.

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Dont get married,

If i was much younger i would definately not of got married, huge mistake

Im a lot hapier being single,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do exactly as you need to do. It all adds to make you who you will be.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I wouldn't really change anything as it is that journey that has made me the me I am now. But...

1) Stop listening to your mad family calling you fat at a size 8;

2) The first time you swallow all those pills tell someone and get some help;

3) When the surgeon suggests a hysterectomy at 21 say yes;

4) When you find him jealously reading your teenage diaries walk out and don't look back.

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

Believe in yourself.

Don't let others walk all over you.

Love hurts, but its better to of loved and lost to have never loved at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing!!.

You turn out perfect

I totally agree of course

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By *iaFlashCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Honestly think i would just tell my 14 year old self

"whatever figures you buy, keep them in the damn boxes unless damaged then swap/refund"

The ones i did take out are now worth double/triple the value

Flash

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Ignore them and their stupid charts, you're not really fat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My one and only piece of advice for a younger me... "Do not marry that fucker"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take the A46 northbound past Worcester on the 13/10/89

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave him now!

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By *teve196301Man
over a year ago

northumberland

Dont take for granted what you have,let her/him know just what they mean to you before its too late ........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pay your bills and save for what you want xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I would tell my younger self to live alot because I was way too good

and nothing wrong with getting married if if you got the right person x

Mrs M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The grass is sometimes greener on the other side.....

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

Be confident in who you are

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Dont take for granted what you have,let her/him know just what they mean to you before its too late ........ "

Agreed

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By *ary_ArgyllMan
over a year ago

Argyll

I'd say to my younger self - Enjoy yourself more and don't worry so much - time goes really fast so make the most of it.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Don't forget to put the bins out on the night of the 5th May 2016. You'll miss the bin men by minutes if you forget until bedtime and think you'll manage it in the morning.

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

Advice to self at various times up to around mid 30s:

1. Go to uni sooner, not later

2. Look in the mirror with appreciation not disgust - you'll never look this good again

3. Believe that when people speak to you it's probably because they like you and not because you're a charity case or a bet

4. Tell your dad you love him and see him more before it's too late

5. Save wisely, don't fritter

6. Don't give proven bastards second chances

7. Don't beat yourself up about your sexual self

8. Take every opportunity to travel before kids

Ms G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work harder at uni and stop worrying about your sister. She will always be a #*?!

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