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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never respond to why arent i getting meets posts ..this is a swing site we all have choices ....if your not getting meets whatever you do wont really make any difference ???

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

It's when they don't ask for people to critique their profile....but people do it regardless, often being rude in the process....that's when it gets nasty.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?"
if people were to say "it may be your profile" that isnt so bad,but it never stays like that does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably just the nature of some of us here.

Sometimes I will offer an opinion and other times I will just move on.

I do tend to look at most posters profiles if I haven't seen them before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that couple weren't asking for advice though....they made a statement and asked if anyone else had similar experiences.

folk took it upon themselves to "assist" in advising about their profile

perhaps if folk read the op sometimes, this wouldn't happen...

just saying is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?"

If they were "moaning" I would tend to ignore, however if they were genuinely asking for advise I would be inclined to offer my opion and help in any way I could.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?"

im a fussy cow so i dont always want to meet

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

I think it's best just to totally ignore anyone whining about not getting any meets, in the past I used to enquire, "how long have you been trying", the shortest was "half an hour" and the longest was "at least a couple of days now", so then I gave up asking, mwah, hugz, Ruby, xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?"

Timewasting i call it,wasting my time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we read the post never look at there profile as any suggestion as to what they have put or pics they have as this tends to spark controversy between other ppl or the person who posted it in the first place ....... here to make love not war failing that a good session lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I think there is a fine line, and some people go over it knowing full well what they are doing...and why Admin don't like it.

Sometimes it is hard to tell what is nit picking and wether a profile critique is asked for by the wording of the first post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there is a fine line, and some people go over it knowing full well what they are doing...and why Admin don't like it.

Sometimes it is hard to tell what is nit picking and wether a profile critique is asked for by the wording of the first post.

"

i think if someone starts a thread with "please read my profile and tell me why i'm not getting laid at least .... xxxx times"...it's fair game.

or "what's wrong with my profile"

some folk are very 'helpful' though...in a twitchy curtain way

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

You see in the thread 'Messers' the OP's didn't ask anyone to critique their profile, they asked if anyone else was experiencing problems in finding decent meets.

Others took that as an excuse to critique their profile....without being asked to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there is a fine line, and some people go over it knowing full well what they are doing...and why Admin don't like it.

Sometimes it is hard to tell what is nit picking and wether a profile critique is asked for by the wording of the first post.

i think if someone starts a thread with "please read my profile and tell me why i'm not getting laid at least .... xxxx times"...it's fair game.

or "what's wrong with my profile"

some folk are very 'helpful' though...in a twitchy curtain way

"

We are all different thats what makes this whole scene great we all looking for different things at different times plus you have the added extra of finding out new things that turn you on etc.... a great believer that if you ment to meet someone it will happen no matter the distance how great or hot your profile looks !!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

*resists urge to do a "what's wrong with my profile" thread*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I`d just refer them to Jeremy Kyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot depends on our individual personalities.

Some people just have to have the last word. They have to defend their point of view instead of biting their lip and keeping stumn.

If someone asks for an opinion, it's ok to give it, but far too many times an argument will start, and very often it will be between people who are offering their views, and the OP is just forgotten in the mellee

Can be funny as fuck sometimes

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"*resists urge to do a "what's wrong with my profile" thread* "

Oh go on, I dare ya.......I would be too scared too, they are a ruthless lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*resists urge to do a "what's wrong with my profile" thread* "

could break the record for longest thread ever....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*resists urge to do a "what's wrong with my profile" thread* "

Attention seeker!!!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"*resists urge to do a "what's wrong with my profile" thread*

Oh go on, I dare ya.......I would be too scared too, they are a ruthless lot"

Oh god woman... don't be daring me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot depends on our individual personalities.

Some people just have to have the last word. They have to defend their point of view instead of biting their lip and keeping stumn.

If someone asks for an opinion, it's ok to give it, but far too many times an argument will start, and very often it will be between people who are offering their views, and the OP is just forgotten in the mellee

Can be funny as fuck sometimes "
your so right xx some have to really get down to the nittey gritty , lol and go over and over again ,

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"*resists urge to do a "what's wrong with my profile" thread*

could break the record for longest thread ever.... "

Hahahahaha! War and peace eat your heart out!


"*resists urge to do a "what's wrong with my profile" thread*

Attention seeker!!! "

Bugger... totally rumbled!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You see in the thread 'Messers' the OP's didn't ask anyone to critique their profile, they asked if anyone else was experiencing problems in finding decent meets.

Others took that as an excuse to critique their profile....without being asked to."

Totally agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?"

Ooops and there he was gone xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?

Ooops and there he was gone xx "

Wasn`t a "he" on this occasion Soapy, it was the "Meat is murder" couple, obviously too much "prime beef" around for their taste.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

This reminds me of my unfinished horror screenplay I'm writing which some of the older forum members will have heard before.

Working title: 'Dead Ban'

Basically there is this forum community that chat every day but one by one thay all start getting banned. Some of the forum members start to investigate and discover that each member that gets's banned is murdered in real life!!!!

It's all fictional but the 3 forum member that start investigate the issue are a Sunderland TV, a Sunderland Monkey and a time travelling medieval version of the Monkey.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"This reminds me of my unfinished horror screenplay I'm writing which some of the older forum members will have heard before.

Working title: 'Dead Ban'

Basically there is this forum community that chat every day but one by one thay all start getting banned. Some of the forum members start to investigate and discover that each member that gets's banned is murdered in real life!!!!

It's all fictional but the 3 forum member that start investigate the issue are a Sunderland TV, a Sunderland Monkey and a time travelling medieval version of the Monkey."

...all you need is a convenient scape goat who later proves to be innocent, I don't know, maybe an axe murderer or something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?

Ooops and there he was gone xx

Wasn`t a "he" on this occasion Soapy, it was the "Meat is murder" couple, obviously too much "prime beef" around for their taste. "

Oh dear, did they realise we were nothing but a bunch of timewasters?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?

Ooops and there he was gone xx "

Same pattern as normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?

Ooops and there he was gone xx

Wasn`t a "he" on this occasion Soapy, it was the "Meat is murder" couple, obviously too much "prime beef" around for their taste.

Oh dear, did they realise we were nothing but a bunch of timewasters? "

Thats what happens when folk don`t read the "smallprint", and join the site with the misconception that they`d actually get a "meet" on here.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"This reminds me of my unfinished horror screenplay I'm writing which some of the older forum members will have heard before.

Working title: 'Dead Ban'

Basically there is this forum community that chat every day but one by one thay all start getting banned. Some of the forum members start to investigate and discover that each member that gets's banned is murdered in real life!!!!

It's all fictional but the 3 forum member that start investigate the issue are a Sunderland TV, a Sunderland Monkey and a time travelling medieval version of the Monkey."

Damn, I am never going to know the ending, as my attention span isn't long enough to watch films.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh dear, did they realise we were nothing but a bunch of timewasters?

Thats what happens when folk don`t read the "smallprint", and join the site with the misconception that they`d actually get a "meet" on here. "

Spelling Check: "meat" or "meet"?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"This reminds me of my unfinished horror screenplay I'm writing which some of the older forum members will have heard before.

Working title: 'Dead Ban'

Basically there is this forum community that chat every day but one by one thay all start getting banned. Some of the forum members start to investigate and discover that each member that gets's banned is murdered in real life!!!!

It's all fictional but the 3 forum member that start investigate the issue are a Sunderland TV, a Sunderland Monkey and a time travelling medieval version of the Monkey.

Damn, I am never going to know the ending, as my attention span isn't long enough to watch films."

LOL unfortunately my attention span is even worse hence the screenplay remains unfinished.

I might just write the final scene and cut the crap!

I was imagining something like a Scooby Doo ending with a multiple masks being taken off, finally ending up with Soapy shouting 'I would've got away with it if it wasn't for you pesky kids!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol oh dear xx

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"I think there is a fine line, and some people go over it knowing full well what they are doing...and why Admin don't like it.

Sometimes it is hard to tell what is nit picking and wether a profile critique is asked for by the wording of the first post.

"

yeah i think your right ,as an (old timer) on here i think this is just to good an opportunity (for a minority)

to get stuck and play the power up game .

Anyone coming on with those questions are generally new to the site never mind the forums,so the rules about ripping the piss out of an online mate dont apply.

A more "helpful" friendly welcoming style is required so they feel inclusive

or we get the "clique" word coming out (primarily unjustified in my opinion)

The worst one i remember was about 2 and a half years ago when a cd male came on to ask advice, he had only been on the site for 30 minutes and that guy was shredded from everything to the lack of content to his spelling to people taking the piss out of his sexuality ,loads tried to PM him but he had gone saying he had never experienced a more judgemental group of people in his life...thankfully we sort of have moved on since those days and due to the mods i dont think it could happen again .

..it makes you wonder why people behave in a totaly different way on here to how they are in real life,so if someone else comes on asking for advice jujst bite your lip and if you cant say something positive ...say nothing..simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well...i for one am going to miss them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there is a fine line, and some people go over it knowing full well what they are doing...and why Admin don't like it.

Sometimes it is hard to tell what is nit picking and wether a profile critique is asked for by the wording of the first post.

yeah i think your right ,as an (old timer) on here i think this is just to good an opportunity (for a minority)

to get stuck and play the power up game .

Anyone coming on with those questions are generally new to the site never mind the forums,so the rules about ripping the piss out of an online mate dont apply.

A more "helpful" friendly welcoming style is required so they feel inclusive

or we get the "clique" word coming out (primarily unjustified in my opinion)

The worst one i remember was about 2 and a half years ago when a cd male came on to ask advice, he had only been on the site for 30 minutes and that guy was shredded from everything to the lack of content to his spelling to people taking the piss out of his sexuality ,loads tried to PM him but he had gone saying he had never experienced a more judgemental group of people in his life...thankfully we sort of have moved on since those days and due to the mods i dont think it could happen again .

..it makes you wonder why people behave in a totaly different way on here to how they are in real life,so if someone else comes on asking for advice jujst bite your lip and if you cant say something positive ...say nothing..simples "

Aye the forums were a daunting place at one time PD ill give ya that

But it was sorted lol

Some peeps think they are bad now they wanted ta be here then ah lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"This reminds me of my unfinished horror screenplay I'm writing which some of the older forum members will have heard before.

Working title: 'Dead Ban'

Basically there is this forum community that chat every day but one by one thay all start getting banned. Some of the forum members start to investigate and discover that each member that gets's banned is murdered in real life!!!!

It's all fictional but the 3 forum member that start investigate the issue are a Sunderland TV, a Sunderland Monkey and a time travelling medieval version of the Monkey."

Is it really fictional?.........are you sure?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I think there is a fine line, and some people go over it knowing full well what they are doing...and why Admin don't like it.

Sometimes it is hard to tell what is nit picking and wether a profile critique is asked for by the wording of the first post.

yeah i think your right ,as an (old timer) on here i think this is just to good an opportunity (for a minority)

to get stuck and play the power up game .

Anyone coming on with those questions are generally new to the site never mind the forums,so the rules about ripping the piss out of an online mate dont apply.

A more "helpful" friendly welcoming style is required so they feel inclusive

or we get the "clique" word coming out (primarily unjustified in my opinion)

The worst one i remember was about 2 and a half years ago when a cd male came on to ask advice, he had only been on the site for 30 minutes and that guy was shredded from everything to the lack of content to his spelling to people taking the piss out of his sexuality ,loads tried to PM him but he had gone saying he had never experienced a more judgemental group of people in his life...thankfully we sort of have moved on since those days and due to the mods i dont think it could happen again .

..it makes you wonder why people behave in a totaly different way on here to how they are in real life,so if someone else comes on asking for advice jujst bite your lip and if you cant say something positive ...say nothing..simples "

actually on this occasion..... I kinda agreed with them....so i am sorry to see them go

as i said in the thread in question, the person asked "why people didn't read the profile?"... so I think "Because the profile in itself was hard to read!" is a fair answer..... it wasn't a profile critique... it was a genuine answer!!

and for that they and several other people who made the same point were jumped on.......

sometimes people are too sensitive to what in effect was common sense....

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"I think there is a fine line, and some people go over it knowing full well what they are doing...and why Admin don't like it.

Sometimes it is hard to tell what is nit picking and wether a profile critique is asked for by the wording of the first post.

yeah i think your right ,as an (old timer) on here i think this is just to good an opportunity (for a minority)

to get stuck and play the power up game .

Anyone coming on with those questions are generally new to the site never mind the forums,so the rules about ripping the piss out of an online mate dont apply.

A more "helpful" friendly welcoming style is required so they feel inclusive

or we get the "clique" word coming out (primarily unjustified in my opinion)

The worst one i remember was about 2 and a half years ago when a cd male came on to ask advice, he had only been on the site for 30 minutes and that guy was shredded from everything to the lack of content to his spelling to people taking the piss out of his sexuality ,loads tried to PM him but he had gone saying he had never experienced a more judgemental group of people in his life...thankfully we sort of have moved on since those days and due to the mods i dont think it could happen again .

..it makes you wonder why people behave in a totaly different way on here to how they are in real life,so if someone else comes on asking for advice jujst bite your lip and if you cant say something positive ...say nothing..simples

Aye the forums were a daunting place at one time PD ill give ya that

But it was sorted lol

Some peeps think they are bad now they wanted ta be here then ah lol xx "

yeah i remember when the rules were not as comprehensive and people thought they could say anything to a stranger as long as they put a smiley face after it with the "it was a joke " ploy to try and wriggle out lol.

I remember doing it myself once with madchick on the old pussy posse /daves threads (remember them threads reaching over 5000 posts lol ), now i would never upset anyone in real life ...but the banter got wound up more and more and the stakes raised and as it was under the banner of banter me and a few other members went too far,and she rightly felt got at,it wasnt intentional as i said but its such a fine and difficult line to tread .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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as i said in the thread in question, the person asked "why people didn't read the profile?"... so I think "Because the profile in itself was hard to read!" is a fair answer..... it wasn't a profile critique... it was a genuine answer!!

and for that they and several other people who made the same point were jumped on.......

sometimes people are too sensitive to what in effect was common sense...."

the 'why doesn't people read my profile' was a rhetorical question...the actual question posed was if others had the same experience

and the question "why don't people read my profile?" does not translate as "please, read my profile and comment".

there is actually no answer to why someone doesn't read a profile...you can only make assumptions and reading someones profile will certainly not provide that answer!

we've all been subjected to it...no matter how good or bad we think our profile is

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"

as i said in the thread in question, the person asked "why people didn't read the profile?"... so I think "Because the profile in itself was hard to read!" is a fair answer..... it wasn't a profile critique... it was a genuine answer!!

and for that they and several other people who made the same point were jumped on.......

sometimes people are too sensitive to what in effect was common sense....

the 'why doesn't people read my profile' was a rhetorical question...the actual question posed was if others had the same experience

and the question "why don't people read my profile?" does not translate as "please, read my profile and comment".

there is actually no answer to why someone doesn't read a profile...you can only make assumptions and reading someones profile will certainly not provide that answer!

we've all been subjected to it...no matter how good or bad we think our profile is

"

thats true indeed ,maybe an unofficial hands off the "newby poster" self imposed rule should apply in the forum ...til we know them and know they are happy to engage on a friendly banter level ,i mean if someone new walked in the pub for a drink ,you wouldnt stand up and start taking the piss or criticising the way they asked for a pint (unless you were looking for conflict)....i think its called showing respect.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

as i said in the thread in question, the person asked "why people didn't read the profile?"... so I think "Because the profile in itself was hard to read!" is a fair answer..... it wasn't a profile critique... it was a genuine answer!!

and for that they and several other people who made the same point were jumped on.......

sometimes people are too sensitive to what in effect was common sense....

the 'why doesn't people read my profile' was a rhetorical question...the actual question posed was if others had the same experience

and the question "why don't people read my profile?" does not translate as "please, read my profile and comment".

there is actually no answer to why someone doesn't read a profile...you can only make assumptions and reading someones profile will certainly not provide that answer!

we've all been subjected to it...no matter how good or bad we think our profile is

"

and there you go folks..... the power of the written word!

different people interpreted it differently.... which is why you ended up getting different answers....

the person never came back to put people right on what they were asking or not asking did they... it was left to others to judge

maybe the lesson in all this is to say nothing contenious to anyone.. just be fluffy and go there there there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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and there you go folks..... the power of the written word!

different people interpreted it differently.... which is why you ended up getting different answers....

the person never came back to put people right on what they were asking or not asking did they... it was left to others to judge

maybe the lesson in all this is to say nothing contenious to anyone.. just be fluffy and go there there there."

it's irrelevant if it is interpreted different or not...the fact still exists that if someone asks why people do not read their profile, it is not a direct invite to probe their profile...it is asking you to make an assumption or offer an opinion on that issue

as i said, actually reading their profile cannot and will not answer that question...as it happens to everyone and no matter what your profile looks like, even if it screams READ ME it will not stop someone from sending out mail without reading it

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"

as i said in the thread in question, the person asked "why people didn't read the profile?"... so I think "Because the profile in itself was hard to read!" is a fair answer..... it wasn't a profile critique... it was a genuine answer!!

and for that they and several other people who made the same point were jumped on.......

sometimes people are too sensitive to what in effect was common sense....

the 'why doesn't people read my profile' was a rhetorical question...the actual question posed was if others had the same experience

and the question "why don't people read my profile?" does not translate as "please, read my profile and comment".

there is actually no answer to why someone doesn't read a profile...you can only make assumptions and reading someones profile will certainly not provide that answer!

we've all been subjected to it...no matter how good or bad we think our profile is

and there you go folks..... the power of the written word!

different people interpreted it differently.... which is why you ended up getting different answers....

the person never came back to put people right on what they were asking or not asking did they... it was left to others to judge

maybe the lesson in all this is to say nothing contenious to anyone.. just be fluffy and go there there there."

Not at all Fabio....there are ways of responding to a thread and there are ways not to respond to a thread, you and another member chose to handle the OP's point with a degree of tact....while the other person in question tore straight into the Op's profile photo's and criticised them for showing certain types of pics.

It was this other member who ruined the thread by making personal comments which the Op never asked for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind the threads asking about why arnt I getting meets, we were all new to this once. What I dont like is the nastiness that follows. There are certain people who enjoy picking apart someones elses profile. People who do this really need to look closely at themselves rather than the profile they are "critiquing". Sometimes its easy to go off track and the majority of us have done this, but you can tell who the perpetrators are who want the opportunity to be nasty. Being honest tho Id rather a thread go downhill in this way, at least its interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A question to you all.

If someone comes on here asking why they are not getting meets and moaning , what's the 1st thing you do. You look at their profile. You then say well maybe it's your profile. Now is this nit picking or common sense?"

The profile tells half the story. The messages and pictures they send out the rest. To be nasty like some do about a profile never helps though.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"I think there is a fine line, and some people go over it knowing full well what they are doing...and why Admin don't like it.

Sometimes it is hard to tell what is nit picking and wether a profile critique is asked for by the wording of the first post.

yeah i think your right ,as an (old timer) on here i think this is just to good an opportunity (for a minority)

to get stuck and play the power up game .

Anyone coming on with those questions are generally new to the site never mind the forums,so the rules about ripping the piss out of an online mate dont apply.

A more "helpful" friendly welcoming style is required so they feel inclusive

or we get the "clique" word coming out (primarily unjustified in my opinion)

The worst one i remember was about 2 and a half years ago when a cd male came on to ask advice, he had only been on the site for 30 minutes and that guy was shredded from everything to the lack of content to his spelling to people taking the piss out of his sexuality ,loads tried to PM him but he had gone saying he had never experienced a more judgemental group of people in his life...thankfully we sort of have moved on since those days and due to the mods i dont think it could happen again .

..it makes you wonder why people behave in a totaly different way on here to how they are in real life,so if someone else comes on asking for advice jujst bite your lip and if you cant say something positive ...say nothing..simples

actually on this occasion..... I kinda agreed with them....so i am sorry to see them go

as i said in the thread in question, the person asked "why people didn't read the profile?"... so I think "Because the profile in itself was hard to read!" is a fair answer..... it wasn't a profile critique... it was a genuine answer!!

and for that they and several other people who made the same point were jumped on.......

sometimes people are too sensitive to what in effect was common sense...."

sorry _abio i dont know about this specific case ,i didint see it , i was talking in general terms and past observations .

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