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"Think everyone does this to a greater or lesser degree. I wouldn't say it was acting though; merely tailoring yourself to a given situation. Personally, I suppose, I'm the class clown, full of the one liners, swears like a trooper, likes to command the room and has a tendency to get pretty wasted. That said, put me in polite company or somewhere conservative (don't like that word but it'll do for the purpose) and I'm completely different. Not acting, just adapting to the situation as required - or perceived to be required. Free." I like that tailored. I find I go from highs to lows even more so in clubs the high of new people girls and clps to lows of feeling no one would want me but I still keep face and try my best to look on the good side of life iam young -ish ok heath a house a job good friends even if only a few and in an odd way ppl at the club know me in a way others don't so that's nice as well but still I am going to rob that tailored like it a lot | |||
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"That's the funny thing about depression Hun, u look like the rest of us. It's an internalised disorder and we live with it for so long we get use to having this mask and this face we show the world; more as a defence mechanism than anything. I won't call it acting. Like the Japanese say we have three faces. One for the world, one for family and friends and one only that only you see and no one else. The answer to ur question, I think of some level all of us are someone slightly different around others. I have suffered from depression and anxiety for way too long now. I don't think anyone knows the real me. Like yourself I am rather cheery and confident but honestly? I'm the biggest ball of emotion and tears underneath it all. " true we all wear masks and hide how we really feel to look stronger sorry but that japanese thing is very good do like that but so true and some times not offen after a bad day I do have to let it out some how having a cry or getting very d*unk or working out thinking of why iam upset not all good ways but they help | |||
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"Think everyone does this to a greater or lesser degree. I wouldn't say it was acting though; merely tailoring yourself to a given situation. Personally, I suppose, I'm the class clown, full of the one liners, swears like a trooper, likes to command the room and has a tendency to get pretty wasted. That said, put me in polite company or somewhere conservative (don't like that word but it'll do for the purpose) and I'm completely different. Not acting, just adapting to the situation as required - or perceived to be required. Free." Go on...say it again,it won't kill you...or will it. | |||
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But i find if i have a negative encounter it does tend to be shutters down and I'll sit on my phone for the rest of the night.
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"I know where you guys are coming from with depression, to the status quo i'm the confident Essex film maker who as starred with 100's of girls in naughty movies but in real life i have no confidence at all. Since i was 5 i have been up and down with bi polar so when i am on a big high i know there is going to be that awful low to follow. I have spent 20 years in this business yet only a handful know the real me so i do various faces very well, women and playing pool were my saviour as i could enjoy these past times and to everyone else be good at them whilst hiding the non confident me inside. I bet OP that a big percent are no different on Fab in the fact that they use guises in pretense to who they really are. " wow now that's a shock I alway felt the males in porn if anything was a bit up there own asses and thort they was gods gift to females but wow but iam glad you have things to help you chill pool and females | |||
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"well wouldn't be nice to live in a world where we didn't have to pretend we're something were not ! im sure most of us have a few problems or secrets we keep hidden from others .. guys like me know that only to well " yes it would be better if we did not have to hide are self's but it seems it's the world we live in sucks but it's life I guess | |||
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"I have very bad social anxiety. Yet latley been trying to get out more to parties and nights out and force myself to interact. Feed back has been very positive talking to loads of people as well (Actually dared to dance at the weekend too ).
But i find if i have a negative encounter it does tend to be shutters down and I'll sit on my phone for the rest of the night.
"know what you mean from been out having a laugh and enjoying myself to some one saying some thing and my mood just dropping til all I want to do is go home | |||
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"I too cover up the real me, i may seem confident the happy go lucky kind of fem Who seems the happy confident help anyone out in the office with computer tech probs an got computer/photography skills an seems happy an confident esp when you see my photos on fabs i dont seem shy an awkward I disguise my shyness an im not confident an dont seem to see im good looking or a nice body despite me looseing weight To people on the outside im a happy, confident, go lucky fem. Im not tbh " Iam just the same I know iam not no brad pitt but just wish for once I could be some one better looking or better body(iam working out again not much but just starting) and it's always the ones that seem happy that feel the worst or so they say | |||
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"I too cover up the real me, i may seem confident the happy go lucky kind of fem Who seems the happy confident help anyone out in the office with computer tech probs an got computer/photography skills an seems happy an confident esp when you see my photos on fabs i dont seem shy an awkward I disguise my shyness an im not confident an dont seem to see im good looking or a nice body despite me looseing weight To people on the outside im a happy, confident, go lucky fem. Im not tbh Iam just the same I know iam not no brad pitt but just wish for once I could be some one better looking or better body(iam working out again not much but just starting) and it's always the ones that seem happy that feel the worst or so they say " I know what you mean | |||
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"What can I say any one who has read a post before knows I have depression and such. Anyway yet to most who just know me to see me and don't know the real me I come over rather confident and strong willed and stick to my guns yet deep down is a different story I feel shy and if anything don't want to see others yet I force myself out to try and sort my head out yet if I had my own way ied stay in bed all day and sleep but work makes me go out and pays bills and my sex drive makes me go to clubs and pubs to try and find some unlucky lady to take pity on me lol so my Q is do you act different to who your with or what your doing or are you you a 100% of the time? Eg at clubs iam the funny guy who makes you laugh and feel at ease Work the hardworker who's a bit slow but does his best and always gets the job done The street the odd guy with tats and piercings but if you get to know him he is a big softie " I can identify with that my friend. As a fellow sufferer, I have to force myself to do things, and though I am a genuine type of guy, I sometimes have to put on a front to get through the day. | |||
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"I too cover up the real me, i may seem confident the happy go lucky kind of fem Who seems the happy confident help anyone out in the office with computer tech probs an got computer/photography skills an seems happy an confident esp when you see my photos on fabs i dont seem shy an awkward I disguise my shyness an im not confident an dont seem to see im good looking or a nice body despite me looseing weight To people on the outside im a happy, confident, go lucky fem. Im not tbh Iam just the same I know iam not no brad pitt but just wish for once I could be some one better looking or better body(iam working out again not much but just starting) and it's always the ones that seem happy that feel the worst or so they say I know what you mean " sucks I know but for once ied like to know what it's like to be good looking be one of the guys girls talk about and go mad over oh well a boy can dream | |||
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"Depression is something that will always be there. You can be just 1 problem away from sliding down that lonely Scarry slope. The best way to deal with it is talking about it and understanding that you are not the only person who suffers from this hidden illness.. Having counciling can help. Or even if there was anyway to organise a group of similar people to talk and listen to.. Maybe a fab group would be a good idea in some form.. But the most important thing to remember its nothing to be ashamed about its something that must be talked about... X x" I have to say I always feel a bit better after been on here talking with others and that just find it really nice of every one that just posts and helps one another I find it easyer on here as no one knows me so to speak | |||
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"What can I say any one who has read a post before knows I have depression and such. Anyway yet to most who just know me to see me and don't know the real me I come over rather confident and strong willed and stick to my guns yet deep down is a different story I feel shy and if anything don't want to see others yet I force myself out to try and sort my head out yet if I had my own way ied stay in bed all day and sleep but work makes me go out and pays bills and my sex drive makes me go to clubs and pubs to try and find some unlucky lady to take pity on me lol so my Q is do you act different to who your with or what your doing or are you you a 100% of the time? Eg at clubs iam the funny guy who makes you laugh and feel at ease Work the hardworker who's a bit slow but does his best and always gets the job done The street the odd guy with tats and piercings but if you get to know him he is a big softie I can identify with that my friend. As a fellow sufferer, I have to force myself to do things, and though I am a genuine type of guy, I sometimes have to put on a front to get through the day. " aye when you have to put a front on for how your really feeling then if you don't put one on been asked what's up all the time and trying to tell others that don't really get it at all I just keep my face on 98% of the time now | |||
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"When I was nursing, it was always important to be professional. If you had problems at home you had to leave them at home. Always wearing a confident smile. Even if you were dealing with stinky leg ulcers or horrific scarring from accidents it can't show on your face. I got so used to putting on my professional mask, that it transfered into normal life. I have had problems with health as well asdepression and anxiety, but hide it well. An insecure sad lady hides within the fun sexy lady who loves going to clubs. Putting on a smiley face often enough can trick your brain and actually improve your mood. ( I read that somewhere !)" in one way your job has trained you to fake it I don't know wather to see that as a good or bad thing but for work it's always needed but it's what's under that needs to be worked on when iam out in a club iam happy bouncy flirty and easy to get on with yet inside iam thinking why are you here | |||
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"I know where you guys are coming from with depression, to the status quo i'm the confident Essex film maker who as starred with 100's of girls in naughty movies but in real life i have no confidence at all. Since i was 5 i have been up and down with bi polar so when i am on a big high i know there is going to be that awful low to follow. I have spent 20 years in this business yet only a handful know the real me so i do various faces very well, women and playing pool were my saviour as i could enjoy these past times and to everyone else be good at them whilst hiding the non confident me inside. I bet OP that a big percent are no different on Fab in the fact that they use guises in pretense to who they really are. wow now that's a shock I alway felt the males in porn if anything was a bit up there own asses and thort they was gods gift to females but wow but iam glad you have things to help you chill pool and females " Lol you would be quite surprised by the guys and girls in the industry as most of them just do a job and don't take it home with them. Whatever problems a person has they all excel at something so concentrate on this as an escape from your normal life, behind my camera"s etc I've got 4 lovely children and 8 grand children so this also helps me from doing anything silly like ending it all as I've attempted several times in the past. Kim is my rock best friend and changed my life completely from the eastend boxer on the wrong side of the law to now a decent person. | |||
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