FabSwingers.com forum: messers?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

is it just us or does everyone have the same problem as we;re having?

after a nice meet within our first week of being on the site its all gone a bt pete tong...

we seem to be just be getting messed about by people.. guys pretending to be females and people just arranging meets then going awol..

is this the norm?

we know its a free site so guess it means theres going to be idiots that just want to add to thier pic collections and rub one off watching cams. but surely people do meet?

it would be nice just to hear from females that do actually want to meet up and play nad dont want to spend the next year sending messages and talking crap on msn..

rant over lol

steve x steph

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You'll find there are lots of users who get messed around - I can't vouch for people pretending to be the opposite sex, but if you've good reason to believe this is the case, then it's worth reporting them. It won't help you, once something's happened, but if everyone does this, it should lower the volume of people who are fake etc.

Over time, you're likely to get better at filtering out those who are time-wasters, or get their kicks in different ways to you. Perhaps you could stick to members who have been verified as genuine by others, in the shorter-term, as at least these should be who they say they are, and likely to be reliable.

As for the awol bit: I've had this happen this past week - a meeting was fixed, then there is silence/no messages etc. Some people are on here whilst having partners who don't know of this, so sometimes it could be down to your potential meet not being able to communicate, if they're under scrutiny etc. Otherwise, work/home emergencies crop up, but the AWOLs happen at far too high a rate for genuine emergencies to be the cause.

So, you're not alone - it's a real pain, but there are lots of fantastic people on the site; good screening and a profile that's off-putting to some wasters can help too.

Good luck!! Sophie

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"is it just us or does everyone have the same problem as we;re having?

after a nice meet within our first week of being on the site its all gone a bt pete tong...

we seem to be just be getting messed about by people.. guys pretending to be females and people just arranging meets then going awol..

is this the norm?

we know its a free site so guess it means theres going to be idiots that just want to add to thier pic collections and rub one off watching cams. but surely people do meet?

it would be nice just to hear from females that do actually want to meet up and play nad dont want to spend the next year sending messages and talking crap on msn..

rant over lol

steve x steph"

I am going to use exactly the same answer as when it was asked by a couple 2 days ago...

They had been here 3 weeks... you have been here 5... but the point still stands...

"I was trying to work out a way of answering this without it looking like a double standard because it is had been a single guy putting up this they would be flamed...

so yes... single guys are to couples, what couples are to single women...

the latter can pick and choose..

5 weeks to draw this kind of complaint is very impatient, people have been known to go months ( and i mean months!) before they get their first meets... and as I would have said to a guy if they put this up this up... the site doesn't tend to be insta-shag!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had nothing but mess arounds for the past 5 months, when I first joined I was married but playing as a single, was fighting guys off with a stick, when I separated and got a place of my own nothing except, cancellations, no shows or disappearances from site after meets had been arranged

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

5 weeks and had a meet thats pretty good we were on 4-5 months before we even got a meet ok its not the longest but, all i can say is take the good with the bad

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

just had a look at your profile aswell could maybe be the mrs being preg might put people off, it might seem all good till the time comes and then change there mind about meeting, its only a thought i could be wrong, as for the messers man acting as women its going to happen no matter what site your on its just something you learn to deal with

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

A member for around 17 months now.....have met over Twenty different members, both single guys and couples..

Not a single let down or no show, not a single instance of anyone wasting my time.

One cancellation by a guy an hour from a meet, but went on to meet him again at a later date....and again...and again.

So not all doom and gloom on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are certainly a lot of timewasters on this site and it does take time to spot them. If people want to meet and are genuine about doing so they will come up with the date and return messages etc. I dont chase anyone to be honest, if they want to meet and we like them then we will have a serious conversation, otherwise message and chat if you like but im not gonna chase thats for sure. Im not sure bout couples and single females, i dont think many single women do meet couples so my advice is go to a club or a social where this may have more chance of happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your status update doesn't help and also the fact your pregnant we wouldn't want to play with anyone like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your status update doesn't help and also the fact your pregnant we wouldn't want to play with anyone like that."

you could think a better way to word that.. Anyone would think that being pregnant meant your suddenly a different person..some men find that a huge turn on.. and as long as they are fine with it.. its there choice..

and I take my hat off to them..

To the OP.. yes there are lots of time wasters.. you learn quickly how to spot the fakes, the wasters, and those that just are not going to go through with it..

We found only meeting those with verifications helps.. also we always do a call early on, then a social meet.. and then a meet..

Good luck to you both... and dont give up, as once you find the right people it is a great thing..

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do we need to word it better? We wouldn't want to play with someone pregnant would turn us off. Or are we all meant to agree with her profile and rush out to message them asking to shag them? The fact from her status message they have already got a downer with fab calling us timewasters and we should play bingo would put us off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do we need to word it better? We wouldn't want to play with someone pregnant would turn us off. Or are we all meant to agree with her profile and rush out to message them asking to shag them? The fact from her status message they have already got a downer with fab calling us timewasters and we should play bingo would put us off too. "

If your unable to see how the wording was a little demeaning then I dont know how to explain it to you.. I am not suggesting playing while pregnant or with pregnant women is for everyone..

but there are better ways to word things..

I get downers at times when we arrange groups and we get 2 out of 12 guys turn up.. it gets annoying..even worse when they dont even let you know..

You do like to post to be alittle argumentative.

Katie.x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

actually katie... marley does have a bit of a point there that you decided to overlook...

if your first post on a website is to moan about timewasters.. or to have a moan in general... what kind of impression does that leave? not one where I would want to flock to them .....

if you post negatively, I'm sorry.. but whinging isn't a particularly sexy trait....

as for the pregnancy stuff... again each to there own, and some people are going to be turned off.. as some may be turned on by it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"actually katie... marley does have a bit of a point there that you decided to overlook...

if your first post on a website is to moan about timewasters.. or to have a moan in general... what kind of impression does that leave? not one where I would want to flock to them .....

if you post negatively, I'm sorry.. but whinging isn't a particularly sexy trait....

as for the pregnancy stuff... again each to there own, and some people are going to be turned off.. as some may be turned on by it...."

i see both sides here...it was the "wouldn't want to meet someone...like that" comment. it does sound a little judgemental.

however, i agree with marley as the idea of being pregnant and swinging is implausable to most....previous threads have highlighted that fact on many an occassion.

though, again, we see a thread that has demoted itself to picking at someones profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't picking on her profile I was commenting on a previous post about her being pregnant if I hadn't read her profile I wouldn't have been none the wiser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wasn't picking on her profile I was commenting on a previous post about her being pregnant if I hadn't read her profile I wouldn't have been none the wiser."

i never accused you of picking apart the profile either.

or did you read me attribute your name to that...i don't know who made the original comment so i opted not to name for that reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never said you was it was aimed at Katie not you. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never said you was it was aimed at Katie not you. Sorry

easy mistake to make as it was me that made the comment about profile picking and your comment immediately followed mine.

it can be averted by using the "and quote" facility when you respond...it will include the post you were responding to then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my phone so it will only let me quote if it's a small quote.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Phew ! glad thats sorted ( I think)

Right, I will remind people of the rules again though, please don't nit pick peoples profiles when they post something as it says in the rules that I am going to paste.

http://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

No nit-picking please

Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread e.g. someone is wondering why they're not having success, please don't critique their profile or be mean about it. We want the forum to be open and friendly to newbies and everyone starts somewhere.

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