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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My nurse is so beautiful i have to go see her ever 2 weeks to talk to her about personal stuff when im there i cant stop checking her out and im sure she is flirting with me when im there how should i go about seeing if she acutally likes me or if im reading the situation rong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My nurse is so beautiful i have to go see her ever 2 weeks to talk to her about personal stuff when im there i cant stop checking her out and im sure she is flirting with me when im there how should i go about seeing if she acutally likes me or if im reading the situation rong "

You're reading it wrong.

Just leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All sounds a bit creepy to me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone ever been banned from using the NHS entirely from sexual harassment? I'm not talking about one nurse or one doctor, but complete cessation of services provided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She sounds like a consumate professional.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

From someone within health - op, please allow her the freedom to be comfortable and to do her job.

Find sexual release elsewhere or with people who have freedom to talk with you or ignore you. Chat up strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's just doing her job well and making you feel comfortable. Obviously a very nice lady who's good at her job so don't mistake it for her wanting to jump you.

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By * PillowsWoman
over a year ago

stevenage

Don't go there. It might feel intimate to you but she's only there for professional reasons. I agree she's just doing her job leave well alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's just being friendly..... don't read into it anymore than what u hve done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck that - tell her you think she's lovely and ask her out.

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By *ir jizalotMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

It is the company policy to act in a professional manor at all times whilst maintaining a therapeutic rapour with patients. Any deviation from the policy is classed as unprofessional conduct and is a sackable offence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is the company policy to act in a professional manor at all times whilst maintaining a therapeutic rapour with patients. Any deviation from the policy is classed as unprofessional conduct and is a sackable offence. "

Again, bollox... There are loads of people bumbeling through life wishing they met someone special. Just tell her how you feel and ask the girl out to dinner or coffee or whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck that - tell her you think she's lovely and ask her out. "

This is an option that would bury speculation, albeit shattering perception and illustrating disillusion. Diplomacy and tact would be advisable to optimise your approach and potentially ignite a blossoming relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again, bollox... There are loads of people bumbeling through life wishing they met someone special. Just tell her how you feel and ask the girl out to dinner or coffee or whatever."

This is of course right because thinking with your dick is always the most preferable option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is of course right because thinking with your dick is always the most preferable option.

Thinking with his dick! Ha..

Maybe you've never had a man hand you flowers and tell you he thinks you're beautiful and ask you out?

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By *ir jizalotMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Why is it bollox?

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

You could just try and ask her out for a date but if your wrong makes seeing her every 2 weeks a bit awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it bollox?"

You're saying if some guy asked her out... She could be fired?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could just try and ask her out for a date but if your wrong makes seeing her every 2 weeks a bit awkward

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just what I was going to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She couldn't get involved with a patient no she would be fired and struck off

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By *ir jizalotMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Why is it bollox?

You're saying if some guy asked her out... She could be fired?"

No am saying if she accepts she will get sacked.

Is it fer to jepodise her future and career because she is pretty to him.

What am saying is it is a dissmisable offence for a nurse to become affiliated with a patient on an unprofessional basis.

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By *ir jizalotMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Why is it bollox?

You're saying if some guy asked her out... She could be fired?

No am saying if she accepts she will get sacked.

Is it fer to jepodise her future and career because she is pretty to him.

What am saying is it is a dissmisable offence for a nurse to become affiliated with a patient on an unprofessional basis."

Because she would still have to nurse him so there is a conflict of interest and the NMC would dismiss her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it bollox?

You're saying if some guy asked her out... She could be fired?

No am saying if she accepts she will get sacked.

Is it fer to jepodise her future and career because she is pretty to him.

What am saying is it is a dissmisable offence for a nurse to become affiliated with a patient on an unprofessional basis."

Maybe you're on the board of directors of a hospital - I'm not, but that sounds like an invasion of privacy on the nurses behalf. I'm sure she could see whom she wants.

And I'd still tell her I thought she was beautiful and ask her out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because she would still have to nurse him"

Would she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there is a conflict of interest and the NMC would dismiss her"

The all knowing NMC knows who everyone dates and where they first met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hospital staff can't get involved with patients and she probably wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hospital staff can't get involved with patients and she probably wouldn't "

Get involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hospital staff can't get involved with patients and she probably wouldn't "

Probably... But I would never advise someone not to tell a woman that she's beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its never a good idea because it could be awkward she could get herself removed from the case too X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck that - tell her you think she's lovely and ask her out.

Yep, loads of big words. You sound like you have a stick up your arse.

The guys opening line was how he thinks a nurse he knows is beautiful... No mention of fucking her or having her piss on him or anything whacky. A man thinks a woman is beautiful and you lot think he shouldn't tell her? And ask her out? And maybe fall in love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its never a good idea because it could be awkward she could get herself removed from the case too X "

It's ALWAYS a good idea to say something nice to someone!! What planet are you on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about her being comfortable in her work place and being able to do her job in peace !!!!

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By *ir jizalotMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Why is it bollox?

You're saying if some guy asked her out... She could be fired?

No am saying if she accepts she will get sacked.

Is it fer to jepodise her future and career because she is pretty to him.

What am saying is it is a dissmisable offence for a nurse to become affiliated with a patient on an unprofessional basis.

Maybe you're on the board of directors of a hospital - I'm not, but that sounds like an invasion of privacy on the nurses behalf. I'm sure she could see whom she wants.

And I'd still tell her I thought she was beautiful and ask her out."

The NMC is who she is professionals registered with and she is bound by a duty of care to the patient to engage outside of that duty is a violation of her conduct.

She can see who she wants but not from her place of work unless a college.

You have spent too much time over seas leave the UK politics to us and carry on the your sexy all revolution in the USA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's about her being comfortable in her work place and being able to do her job in peace !!!!"

OK OK OK OK... Comfortable... Do her job in peace...

"Hi (nurses name) ... Listen, I know this situation isn't idea but I just wanted to tell you that I think you're incredible beautiful and I was, well, I was wondering if maybe I could take you to dinner?"

Nurse "fuck off and let me do my job in peace, are you trying to get me fired?!"

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By *ir jizalotMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It's about her being comfortable in her work place and being able to do her job in peace !!!!

OK OK OK OK... Comfortable... Do her job in peace...

Nurse "fuck off and let me do my job in peace, are you trying to get me fired?!""

Then the guy would need to see two other nurses.to get over his humiliation so it all comes back to him doesn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's about her being comfortable in her work place and being able to do her job in peace !!!!

OK OK OK OK... Comfortable... Do her job in peace...

Nurse "fuck off and let me do my job in peace, are you trying to get me fired?!"

Then the guy would need to see two other nurses.to get over his humiliation so it all comes back to him doesn't it "

I've never ever.... Ever been humiliated by telling a good-looking woman that I thought she was beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm off to bed.

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By *ir jizalotMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm off to bed.

Night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

let her do her job -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When your there, lovingly gaze into her eyes and tell her you've got a thing for her and you've shared it with hundreds of Swinger's on a public forum, you understand she's doing her job but you've reciprocated her mannerisms and you feel she'd make great marriage material.

Dont even bother. She's just being friendly, if she's gorgeous and a professional - take it from me, she'll already be snapped up. Don't embarras yourself as you'll have to see this lady again and nurses do gossip like Coronation Street lol

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By *he Hobbit And MeCouple
over a year ago

southampton

I am a nurse with in the NHS and sometimes have to deal with this! Speaking from a nurses point of view it is creepy and also frightening as we are only doing our job and do not ask for this attention, me personally i would let it go for a while then just call security. Our jobs are hard enough as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a nurse with in the NHS and sometimes have to deal with this! Speaking from a nurses point of view it is creepy and also frightening as we are only doing our job and do not ask for this attention, me personally i would let it go for a while then just call security. Our jobs are hard enough as it is.

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this is what i meant by letting her do her job X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck that - tell her you think she's lovely and ask her out.

Yep, loads of big words. You sound like you have a stick up your arse.

Clearly, lost in translation.

I was merely advocating your opinion.

In future I shall endeavour to deliver my discourse in monosyllabic prose, to accommodate the amoebic fold.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yep! People don't understand how scary it can be for a woman who is doing her job to be hit on by a man who thinks that her professional behaviour which is a requirement of that job, means she is available to him romantically or sexually.

It's inappropriate and ill advised to approach a medical professional in any capacity other than their professional one. Mistaking professional concern for personal concern is common in people who don't have caring relationships elsewhere or feel lonely or neglected.

The surgeon who operated on my spine sat with me and held my hand while he explained what he was about to do, did it mean he wanted to take me out for dinner?

Op, don't do it find another woman to admire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck that - tell her you think she's lovely and ask her out.

Yep, loads of big words. You sound like you have a stick up your arse.

Clearly, lost in translation.

I was merely advocating your opinion.

In future I shall endeavour to deliver my discourse in monosyllabic prose, to accommodate the amoebic fold.

Please don't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Fuck that - tell her you think she's lovely and ask her out.

Yep, loads of big words. You sound like you have a stick up your arse.

The guys opening line is about how he thinks the nurse who is "treating" him is beautiful...big difference. They have a professional relationship, he is telling her personal stuff, she is listening and being sympathetic he has mistaken this as personal interest this has made her very attractive to him. There is never in my view a case for crossing the line with a professional carer.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Technically OP, you could ask her to have your case reassigned because you are developing feelings towards her. That might leave her free, but in truth you would have to accept the reality that you would never see her again.

Developing feelings in your case is very normal. She is not flirting, she is putting you at ease so that you can open up more.

Try having a wank before you go. I find that once the little fella has had his 'say', and the blood returns to your brain, it is easier to see things with more clarity.

Good luck.

Mr ddc

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Wait until your reason for seeing her so often is over then tell her how you feel about her. It is possible that you are feeling close to her due to having to open up to her about personal things. The fact that she is listening and not judging could also be contributing to you believing she is flirting or coming on to you. It is not uncommon for people to fall for those who care for them.

I think you need to weigh up whether the ongoing treatment with her is more important than finding out if she likes you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She would have to be really stupid to take this any further if she did like you

I take it she's a psychiatric nurse, if she even went for a drink with you outside of work she was loose her job, its gross misconduct and seen as abuse of your position

Maybe she's just being friendly, I don't know, it does happen so maybe she is just daft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an attractive gp,I would feel creepy myself if I told him I thought he was attractive. Some things are best left unsaid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait outside her place of work, be sure to wear sunglasses and a hoodie,

Follow her home so you have her address,

Find a nearby hiding place so you can watch the house, stay there until you are sure she has gone to bed.

Check for potential husband / partner coming home.

Repeat last 2 steps for a few months to be sure.

Still not certain, break into house search it for signs.

Use a spray can to leave a romantic love letter on her bedroom wall.

To extreme? then perhaps it's best you respect her as a woman and as a professional,

There are times when you meet someone who you should have a relationship with, but the circumstances make it difficult. IF this is one of those times change the circumstances, then ask her out.

Humour alert, for those not sharing my warped and twisted sense of humour, the advice given above is not serious, Stalking is a bad and creepy crime that I don't wish on anyone.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Typical bloke mistaking compassion for flirting, she is doing her job. That involves putting you at ease during your procedure, or consultation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading it wrong, we friendly with everyone. It isn't flirting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wait until your final app with her and then ask her if she`d like to go for a drink sometime

you might make it awkward between you otherwise

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By *ildt123Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Again, bollox... There are loads of people bumbeling through life wishing they met someone special. Just tell her how you feel and ask the girl out to dinner or coffee or whatever."

Oh great idea

Apart from running the risk of having her sacked from her job, being struck off the register so she can't work anywhere ever again! Even if she fancies you she can't do anything about it without risking ruining her career etc leave it alone, unless you bump in to her out of work AFTER you are discharged from services

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is of course right because thinking with your dick is always the most preferable option.

Thinking with his dick! Ha..

Maybe you've never had a man hand you flowers and tell you he thinks you're beautiful and ask you out?"

Not hand me flowers no, but I have had offers of being taken out. Of course I've dealt with it with assertiveness and not rudeness but it isn't actually very nice. When at work you are there to do a job and you shouldn't have to put up comments of this nature. In your mind you think it's a compliment and should be taken graciously, in reality it's uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fancied my nurse when i was in hospital for a week last year. I had to just bite my lip all the time i was there. Wasnt till i was discharged when i passed her a note with my number on but even i knew that was wrong. Never heard from her cuz i knew it would be a big risk fo her.

Is it worth risking a career for something that might not even work. OP id leave it well alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This,

It is uncomfortable when someone comes on to you, and to cover myself, I've reported situations, I love my job and don't want to loose it through no fault of my own

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By *oncupiscentTonyMan
over a year ago

Kent

Dash, I hate to pop your bubble but the nurse doesn't look at you and see a person, she sees a patient, and as such there's no way in hell she's gonna risk her pin for a patient

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As a health professional I'd be uncomfortable about many moves that patients may make. I've been touched, had suggestive remarks and more - it can be fairly frightening for someone, especially if they're not confident in their job or fear complaints being made about them.

Op - I think you should keep the relationship professional and be your normal friendly self. She may make it clearer at some point that her friendliness isn't just a professional service-minded front but allow her to do that, rather than inform her of your ideas. Some of us are just naturally flirty and appreciate time with others where we feel safe and at ease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(I appreciate that a number of commentators are medical personnel, so they will be familiar with the following info.)

New guidelines published by the GMC in 2013 reaffirmed that relationships with CURRENT patients are unethical.

However, those same guidelines included an acceptance that relationships with FORMER patients MAY BE acceptable, provided that the Doctor has taken into account a number of factors.

These include, but not limited to:

1. How much time has passed since the professional relationship ended.

2. How frequently and under what circumstances the patient was treated.

3. Whether the patient was classed as 'vulnerable' during the treatment period.

As stated in the current guidance: "a relationship with a former patient you treated over a number of years is more likely to be inappropriate than a relationship with a patient with whom you had a single consultation."

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