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Is being sexually liberated as a woman seen as negative?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily, I guess it depends on the context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you know the answer and you're just looking for confirmation that he was wrong to say what he did.

As long as you're happy, who cares.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not necessarily, I guess it depends on the context."

He was a non swinger and I didn't swing then. I just found his attitude a bit of a double standard I guess.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

By some men, yes. As far as I'm concerned, those men are idiots, but it cuts both ways. When I've dated people, they suddenly seem to go off me when I mention that I've swung...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not necessarily, I guess it depends on the context.

He was a non swinger and I didn't swing then. I just found his attitude a bit of a double standard I guess. "

So if you had left it later he would have stuck around longer? Only you know the answer to that...

I think overall that men on here find women who are sexually liberated and who like to take the lead more of a turn on than off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not necessarily, I guess it depends on the context.

He was a non swinger and I didn't swing then. I just found his attitude a bit of a double standard I guess. "

He did enjoy having sex with you though ? If he was a man of principles as his statement, sort of meant, he wouldn't have taken your knickers off.

You need to be two to dance tango.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If men want to use you then i think no, this is because they do not understand what sexually liberated women are, imo.

Despite you being liberated and having wants and needs of your own and happy to go get them seen to they think you are just a service and open to anything they want.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? "

You were there. I wasn't ......

Did he say it

a) jokingly.

b) to hurt you

c) because he is really of the women are pure mindset

No one can tell why he said it.

As for are sexually open women viewed in a negative light ?

By their dads - Yes

By other women - Yes

By the church - Yes

By nuns - Yes

By anyone running a smear campaign - Yes

By men after a quick shag - Not until they've emptied their balls.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? "

What an absolute twatock! Swinger or no, this kind of attitude belongs in the dark ages.

As to your question, alas, I think so. There are plenty of chaps I've met here who are happy to sleep casually with liberated ladies but wouldn't have a relationship with them. They want pure, innocent breeder types to take home to Mummy

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S.

I have to be honest even you question it by using the phrase 'sexually liberated' women.

It's the sexually oppressed women we need to see as against nature.

ALSO being sexually liberated does not mean being like a Martini ... anyplace , anytime , anywhere... it's just about not being sluttified for it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light?

What an absolute twatock! Swinger or no, this kind of attitude belongs in the dark ages.

As to your question, alas, I think so. There are plenty of chaps I've met here who are happy to sleep casually with liberated ladies but wouldn't have a relationship with them. They want pure, innocent breeder types to take home to Mummy "

Yup.Agreed.

Nice New Avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? "

It would seem that some guys do think like this. We had assumed all Swingers would be more liberated than vanilla guys (& girls), but there are still some who find it hard to accept we are equals and can be and do what we like. Ignore idiots like that and don't let them try to control you or change you - be yourself x

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light?

What an absolute twatock! Swinger or no, this kind of attitude belongs in the dark ages.

As to your question, alas, I think so. There are plenty of chaps I've met here who are happy to sleep casually with liberated ladies but wouldn't have a relationship with them. They want pure, innocent breeder types to take home to Mummy

Yup.Agreed.

Nice New Avatar."

Aah thanks Granny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may be wrong but perhaps he was just being cruel...a bit nasty...saying something that he thought might hurt you.

Dont let him win.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

look up the madonna whore complex, some guys are sad and think women who enjoy sex are just slags and not ok to date. they're fine with using us though and i feel sorry for their partners because they're having shit sex and probably being cheated on as well.

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

Sounds like hes got a bruised ego and was being a bit of a twat he didnt seem to mind you dropping ya knickers after ya 4th date did he. Sounds like a bit of a cockwomble if ya ask me

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? "

As you've said he wasnt a swinger and you didnt swing at the time.

Sounds like immature unnecessary post break up comment. As opposed to a comment connected with female sexual liberation, swinging or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is wrong with a consenting adult, be that male or female, wanting to enjoy sexual pleasure on a first encounter ?

If it's right then go for it! If it's not don't?

There is, in my mind, no detraction from my view of a lady who is sexually confident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what if it is a post break up comment .... It's still a valid point ....

When dating when do you engage in sexual play....

After sixth Date still hasn't happened by eight I decided he was just gay and not for me ..... nonetheless did go on number nine ..... drum roll..... We ended up married and very happy X

It's a hard call as to the moment and sexual liberation X

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Since much of what women are and do is seen critically anyway, I've decided not to give a shit what anyone else thinks of me.

I'm far happier.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? "

Maybe he shouldn't drop his pants so quickly?

Funny how some see this as going only one way. Double standards anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take this guy to heart, doesn't sound like he has any manners. Why should the ladies be any different to the guys?

Every potential partner, /relationship is different. Just go with your instincts at the time.

If he was that worried, he could have always declined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys and women can judge if sexually liberated.. ive met people in the past and they have said to me after that please dont verify as they wouldn't want people knowing they have met someone like me..

Just ignore it op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys and women can judge if sexually liberated.. ive met people in the past and they have said to me after that please dont verify as they wouldn't want people knowing they have met someone like me..

Just ignore it op "

Nice people!!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"So what if it is a post break up comment .... It's still a valid point ....

When dating when do you engage in sexual play....

After sixth Date still hasn't happened by eight I decided he was just gay and not for me ..... nonetheless did go on number nine ..... drum roll..... We ended up married and very happy X

It's a hard call as to the moment and sexual liberation X "

In what way is it a valid point ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since much of what women are and do is seen critically anyway, I've decided not to give a shit what anyone else thinks of me.

I'm far happier. "

Absolutely this for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your only a slag if you won't shag them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your only a slag if you won't shag them "

Not everyone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your only a slag if you won't shag them "

hahaha.. Thats so true..

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Life is short, enjoy shagging

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Since much of what women are and do is seen critically anyway, I've decided not to give a shit what anyone else thinks of me.

I'm far happier.

Absolutely this for me too. "

Same here at 51 I am more self assured than ever. Let our vaginas be a pleasure to us...lol

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"look up the madonna whore complex, some guys are sad and think women who enjoy sex are just slags and not ok to date. they're fine with using us though and i feel sorry for their partners because they're having shit sex and probably being cheated on as well."

I agree with this but why are their partners having shit sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"look up the madonna whore complex, some guys are sad and think women who enjoy sex are just slags and not ok to date. they're fine with using us though and i feel sorry for their partners because they're having shit sex and probably being cheated on as well.

I agree with this but why are their partners having shit sex?"

they can't be having good sex or else they would be whores and undateable.

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By *ay BrowerMan
over a year ago

Oldham


" Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? "

Sadly lots of people judge others in various ways.

Also a lot of people who aren't liberated/adventurous won't understand what that actually means. I would say you dodged a bully there OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was just having a dig in a way that it would get to you. Clearly it worked xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? "

4th date? Crickey that's a long time

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"look up the madonna whore complex, some guys are sad and think women who enjoy sex are just slags and not ok to date. they're fine with using us though and i feel sorry for their partners because they're having shit sex and probably being cheated on as well.

I agree with this but why are their partners having shit sex?

they can't be having good sex or else they would be whores and undateable. "

But you can have good sex with just one man cant you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"look up the madonna whore complex, some guys are sad and think women who enjoy sex are just slags and not ok to date. they're fine with using us though and i feel sorry for their partners because they're having shit sex and probably being cheated on as well.

I agree with this but why are their partners having shit sex?

they can't be having good sex or else they would be whores and undateable.

But you can have good sex with just one man cant you?"

yeah i have done previously.

some guys see women as either datable or sexual, they can't see them as both. so they date the women they don't find sexual, sexual women aren't worthy of dating and are slags but alright for using for sex and nothing else.

everything patriarch about womens sexuality tends to stem from this attitude i reckon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light?

You were there. I wasn't ......

Did he say it

a) jokingly.

b) to hurt you

c) because he is really of the women are pure mindset

No one can tell why he said it.

As for are sexually open women viewed in a negative light ?

By their dads - Yes

By other women - Yes

By the church - Yes

By nuns - Yes

By anyone running a smear campaign - Yes

By men after a quick shag - Not until they've emptied their balls."

Best and most accurate answer you'll find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light?

4th date? Crickey that's a long time "

I was thinking the same.

Around five hours after picking me up for a first date for us.

The blokes a twat, don't dwell on it. It suited him at the time I guess.

People should enjoy being themselves and their wants and needs, sod what others think. Lifes too short !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the swinging/fab world sexually adventurous women are celebrated. They won't be looked down on or shamed. For one thing, they make life easier for the guys, assuming it's guys they're after. But, the thrust of the interaction is a desire for simple, uncomplicated sexual gratification.

In any 'normal' dating or long term relationship seeking environment there is indeed a double standard. Man - stud. Woman - slut.

But hey, women got to get off the Titanic first so it's not all bad.

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? "
by gobshites who have a fucked up madonna/whore schitzoprenic argument going off in their heads . The problem lies with them...not you . If there were more women like you the world would be a happier place to live .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? by gobshites who have a fucked up madonna/whore schitzoprenic argument going off in their heads . The problem lies with them...not you . If there were more women like you the world would be a happier place to live . "

Because it would be easier for you to get sex you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If any sexually liberated women want to come and express their sexual prowess on me, I'll more than happily positively embrace it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? "

I haven't read the responses no time sorry if this has been said.

The short answer is yes. Even on here there are small verbal tells that let you know that in general people prefer a woman who is "choosy", "picky" or doesn't just move straight on to sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the swinging/fab world sexually adventurous women are celebrated. They won't be looked down on or shamed. For one thing, they make life easier for the guys, assuming it's guys they're after. But, the thrust of the interaction is a desire for simple, uncomplicated sexual gratification.

In any 'normal' dating or long term relationship seeking environment there is indeed a double standard. Man - stud. Woman - slut.

But hey, women got to get off the Titanic first so it's not all bad. "

If by the swinging world you mean sites like these,you're incorrect; women who have sex with lots of men are still looked down upon. They are called the anythings who don't say no to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

But hey, women got to get off the Titanic first so it's not all bad. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? "

Why does it have to be a gender issue? Could have told him the exact same thing. So in my opinion, no, They are not seen negatively. I'll judge, when I get to know them, not beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sexually very open minded as I imagine most ladies on here are. I dated someone for a few months and when we finished, he said - don't drop your knickers so quickly next time. I waited until our fourth date to have sex with him.

Got me thinking - are women who are sexually liberated/adventurous seen in a negative light? by gobshites who have a fucked up madonna/whore schitzoprenic argument going off in their heads . The problem lies with them...not you . If there were more women like you the world would be a happier place to live . "

it's not schizophrenic, schizoid means loner type.

it's sociopathic or psychopathic.

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