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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mr.

Let me start of by saying that some of the following is based purely on speculation and guesswork, and good old intuition.

I am definitely going to ruffle a few feathers with this post.

It's well known that there are vast numbers of single guy's on here fact. A portion of those are socially inept and very probably could be considered vulnerable. (anyone who has talked to some of these guy's or been to a club will know exactly the sort I mean, no disrespect intended but there is a reason why some people are single) now I haven't got a problem with these guys.

Keep reading.

I will admit that I enjoy looking at the most popular pic's.

I have noticed as we all have that there maybe one or two who are probably working girls, maybe?

Also there appears to be a influx of very young women who are looking for "daddies" (already debated in depth and something that doesn't sit well with me)

Now as we are all aware of the tactics the ladies employ to get most fabbed and who fabbed them.

K.

So my question is are there people on here who are preying on the vulnerable and lonely?

Likewise it could be said that some guy's are taking advantage of lonely /vulnerable women?

Yes it's a lot of generalised statement's with no actual proof, people are consenting adults who agree to the lifestyle choice.

So what I really asking is, are there any safeguards set in place to protect the vulnerable from being taken advantage of by other's?

Look before people jump down my throat and accuse me of this and that.

I am measly trying to get a sensible adult debate going to highlight the "possibility" that the vulnerable could be at risk of being taken advantage of.

Speculating based on observations and personal experience.

However I could be widely off the mark and completely wrong on all counts, probably talking utter shitte.

It would be very interesting if the people who run the site had some input regarding this?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Yes.

Though they might see it as "providing a service".

Report any blatent ones.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short of a warning on this site not to give money or gifts to people, a warning no one would read, I'm not sure what you could do?

People are scammed daily in all sorts of situations, not just here and not just involving relationships. I'm not convinced there is a way to stop it?

It's maybe something kids should be taught in schools though. I think the problem is much wider than Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all over the place here. Fit, young, horny men choosing a lonely divorcee who feels she hasn't been looked at twice since the divorce. Older men with money being used in exchange for sex. Young girls who were the ugly duckling at school being whisked up by the first men to show them kindness.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The weak and vulnerable are preyed on everywhere it's blindingly obvious on here but I'm not sure how it can be prevented. The thin end of the wedge is when an obviously vulnerable youngish man posts something a bit naive, he's frequently destroyed verbally, then you get the posts from men asking if it's ok to put thirty quid in a woman's account because she doesn't have taxi fare...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes.

Though they might see it as "providing a service".

Report any blatent ones.

Mr ddc"

Yes but that then leads to some guy's assuming or treating all women as prostitutes.

Which is very probably why our last club visit didn't feel like a club it felt more like a brothel.

But yes providing a service, but on here tho?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

Though they might see it as "providing a service".

Report any blatent ones.

Mr ddc

Yes but that then leads to some guy's assuming or treating all women as prostitutes.

Which is very probably why our last club visit didn't feel like a club it felt more like a brothel.

But yes providing a service, but on here tho? "

I don't think thats the logical conclusion at all.

And the club situation is probbaly more down to club pricing.

Single men paying large sums of money are going to generally expect something for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's every possibility on a site like this the vulnerable of both sexes could be taken advantage of, I sometimes look at profiles and think that for sure.

We've all seen threads where people have been stitched up & lost money / mentioned others asking for money in return for sexual favours etc etc.

As for safeguarding ~ there are tools in place to contact Admin if you suspect something isn't quite right. Everyone on here is an 'adult', over 18 that's where the duty of care ends I assume.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I think in someways the swinging world is protected from the issues raised OP when compared to the "vanilla" dating scene.

In vanilla world it might be considered appropriate to pay for dinner, drinks etc. at the start and then as the relationship grows perhaps gifts etc. But in the swinging world any mention of money or gifts is an instant red flag to most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The susceptible and the needy!!.

Two sides of the same coin both in denial about who needs who.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

"
actually a lot of them do have large incomes because they get DLA usually high rate

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes.

Though they might see it as "providing a service".

Report any blatent ones.

Mr ddc

Yes but that then leads to some guy's assuming or treating all women as prostitutes.

Which is very probably why our last club visit didn't feel like a club it felt more like a brothel.

But yes providing a service, but on here tho? "

Some men will treat all women as prostitutes, it's is I'm afraid a reflection of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as a working lady go I know of 3 that where on here, think 2 still are, the odd thing is as far as I know they don't ask for payment when they meet on here but both have a profile on an escort site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some fair points and sensible replies.

Good to have a proper discussion.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.


"So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

"

Vulnerable can be emotionally lacking. A site this size could be a fair few.Yes I can imagine there are a number of people who prey on the vulnerable but how do you control it? Very easy through messaging to say what the other person wants to hear.In real life this happens no different than on fab.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"As far as a working lady go I know of 3 that where on here, think 2 still are, the odd thing is as far as I know they don't ask for payment when they meet on here but both have a profile on an escort site "

Sex workers need sex on their own terms too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

actually a lot of them do have large incomes because they get DLA usually high rate"

Both components at the higher rate only comes to about 130 a week.

Wouldn't even get you an hour woth a decent girl

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

"

Vulnerability and low iq. No far from it.

The most intelligent man I ever met wad a Frickin genuine genius, a bonafide nuclear physicist.

But had zero social skills and couldn't interact with other's on a normal level.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Some people make themselves vulnerable I think. I think people declaring that they're looking for a relationship open themselves up a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short of a warning on this site not to give money or gifts to people, a warning no one would read, I'm not sure what you could do?

People are scammed daily in all sorts of situations, not just here and not just involving relationships. I'm not convinced there is a way to stop it?

It's maybe something kids should be taught in schools though. I think the problem is much wider than Fab."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people make themselves vulnerable I think. I think people declaring that they're looking for a relationship open themselves up a bit."

You're right. And men who give off the "i'd do anything for a shag" vibe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

Vulnerability and low iq. No far from it.

The most intelligent man I ever met wad a Frickin genuine genius, a bonafide nuclear physicist.

But had zero social skills and couldn't interact with other's on a normal level. "

If thats as severe as youre making out that would be along the lines of some form of autism which would come under the ill bit.

But having zero social skills doesnt make you vunerable.

I know people with no social skills you wouldnt be able to scam them as they'd just straight up tell you to fuck off when you spoke to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

actually a lot of them do have large incomes because they get DLA usually high rate

Both components at the higher rate only comes to about 130 a week.

Wouldn't even get you an hour woth a decent girl"
I know someone who gets over £1000 per month plus full housing benefit and full council tax benefit, free bus pass and various other "living" expenses so yes some do have large incomes

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

Vulnerability and low iq. No far from it.

The most intelligent man I ever met wad a Frickin genuine genius, a bonafide nuclear physicist.

But had zero social skills and couldn't interact with other's on a normal level. "

People who prey on the vulnerable exploit greed, need for love, lonliness and use flattery to do it. It can happen to all sorts of people. I was sat next to an elderly woman in the hairdresser who was in contact with two U.S. military men, she was an intelligent and articulate woman and try as we might neither my hairdresser or me could convince her that these were scammers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As far as a working lady go I know of 3 that where on here, think 2 still are, the odd thing is as far as I know they don't ask for payment when they meet on here but both have a profile on an escort site

Sex workers need sex on their own terms too."

Yes I guess so and I would be the last one to say want they do is wrong, which is way I said they have not asked anyone that I know for payment on FB.

But the question was asked are there escort on Fab, yes they is, do they pray on guys not that I can see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

"

I don't think that is 'basically' what he is saying at all ...

Go back and read it again

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"As far as a working lady go I know of 3 that where on here, think 2 still are, the odd thing is as far as I know they don't ask for payment when they meet on here but both have a profile on an escort site

Sex workers need sex on their own terms too.

Yes I guess so and I would be the last one to say want they do is wrong, which is way I said they have not asked anyone that I know for payment on FB.

But the question was asked are there escort on Fab, yes they is, do they pray on guys not that I can see."

I was just responding to you saying it was odd that they don't ask for payment

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole

It's the oldest profession in the world.

This remind's me of Mrs Merton talking to the lovely Debee McGee

" What attracted you to millionaire Paul Daniels? "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's the oldest profession in the world.

This remind's me of Mrs Merton talking to the lovely Debee McGee

" What attracted you to millionaire Paul Daniels? ""

I don't think Debbie McGee was a prostitute or Paul Daniels vulnerable

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Wow that's heavy for a Saturday morning!

You're possibly right in some ways but they're that vulnerable they'd be scammed in 'real life' too.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the oldest profession in the world.

This remind's me of Mrs Merton talking to the lovely Debee McGee

" What attracted you to millionaire Paul Daniels? ""

That's quite funny but not a very good analogy in this instance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the oldest profession in the world.

This remind's me of Mrs Merton talking to the lovely Debee McGee

" What attracted you to millionaire Paul Daniels? "

I don't think Debbie McGee was a prostitute or Paul Daniels vulnerable "
off topic but its the same when asked what he would be if he wasn't a footballer Peter crouch answered - single! sums it up nicely, money talks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow that's heavy for a Saturday morning!

You're possibly right in some ways but they're that vulnerable they'd be scammed in 'real life' too....."

You right people scam and use other people all the time in "real life" so it's really no surprise that it would happen on Fab to, we have not managed to stop in the real world so can't see how you could do it on Fab other then report it if you feel you have be use or asked for payment for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So what I really asking is, are there any safeguards set in place to protect the vulnerable from being taken advantage of by other's? "

You're asking if there are safeguards to stop stupid men fucking hookers?

Like what exactly? A bank card that doesn't allow withdrawals when you have an erection?

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)


"Some fair points and sensible replies.

Good to have a proper discussion. "

Indeed!!

We had an experience on here where a couple told us they would be pleased to meet us so long as we paid for their meal and drinks. They then went on to post that she would give away blow-jobs for a tenner a pop (no pun intended).

As far as your comments regarding "vulnerable" individuals go, we recognised a while ago some of the situations you discuss. However, are those that "prey" on the vulnerable just here or are they an unfortunate part of society in general? Maybe there is no greater percentage here than elsewhere, it is just that we see it more readily because of the very open nature of this community?

Maybe a question we have to ask ourselves is, "what would you do if, whilst at a swingers party, you witnessed someone taking advantage of an individual who was possibly socially inept, confused, depressed?"

Difficult?

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole


"It's the oldest profession in the world.

This remind's me of Mrs Merton talking to the lovely Debee McGee

" What attracted you to millionaire Paul Daniels? "

I don't think Debbie McGee was a prostitute or Paul Daniels vulnerable "

I never said she was and that he was.

Just thought it was funny and she took it in the spirit it was said.

Paul Daniels was an Icon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The weak and vulnerable are preyed on everywhere it's blindingly obvious on here but I'm not sure how it can be prevented. The thin end of the wedge is when an obviously vulnerable youngish man posts something a bit naive, he's frequently destroyed verbally, then you get the posts from men asking if it's ok to put thirty quid in a woman's account because she doesn't have taxi fare..."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways."

without a doubt yes go's both ways

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's the oldest profession in the world.

This remind's me of Mrs Merton talking to the lovely Debee McGee

" What attracted you to millionaire Paul Daniels? "

I don't think Debbie McGee was a prostitute or Paul Daniels vulnerable

I never said she was and that he was.

Just thought it was funny and she took it in the spirit it was said.

Paul Daniels was an Icon"

Oh. You said that the phrase "it's the oldest profession in the world" reminded you of the Mrs Merton quote, sorry if I made the wrong connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

actually a lot of them do have large incomes because they get DLA usually high rate

Both components at the higher rate only comes to about 130 a week.

Wouldn't even get you an hour woth a decent girlI know someone who gets over £1000 per month plus full housing benefit and full council tax benefit, free bus pass and various other "living" expenses so yes some do have large incomes"

#livingthedream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways."

A lot of the 'appreciation' threads basically say "I for one, actually prefer women who don't have any teeth / prefer to wash after sex / enjoy sex with 12 cats watching"

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole


"It's the oldest profession in the world.

This remind's me of Mrs Merton talking to the lovely Debee McGee

" What attracted you to millionaire Paul Daniels? "

I don't think Debbie McGee was a prostitute or Paul Daniels vulnerable

I never said she was and that he was.

Just thought it was funny and she took it in the spirit it was said.

Paul Daniels was an Icon

Oh. You said that the phrase "it's the oldest profession in the world" reminded you of the Mrs Merton quote, sorry if I made the wrong connection "

No problem easy mistake to make

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways.

A lot of the 'appreciation' threads basically say "I for one, actually prefer women who don't have any teeth / prefer to wash after sex / enjoy sex with 12 cats watching" "

Don't get you?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Short of a warning on this site not to give money or gifts to people, a warning no one would read, I'm not sure what you could do?

People are scammed daily in all sorts of situations, not just here and not just involving relationships. I'm not convinced there is a way to stop it?

It's maybe something kids should be taught in schools though. I think the problem is much wider than Fab.

"

Agree its not a situation just on the internet.

I dont worry so much about the asking for money, or offering money etc because the site has tools for that and they are easily dealt with.

I worry more about the ones that lay open how lonely they are, the ones with really low self-esteem etc but thats just my interpretation of their situation based on a few posts on a website and it may be completely wrong... other people might see it as a good place to get support.

How do you protect those people? - no idea, and as long as they are consenting adults I dont know if its anyone elses responsibility to protect them.

Interesting thread though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Vulnerability and low iq. No far from it.

The most intelligent man I ever met wad a Frickin genuine genius, a bonafide nuclear physicist.

But had zero social skills and couldn't interact with other's on a normal level.

If thats as severe as youre making out that would be along the lines of some form of autism which would come under the mentally ill bit.

"

Autism is NOT a mental illness. I think it's really important people understand that. It's a difference in the way someone's brain processes informationZ

It's like a PC computer calling a MAC mentally ill.

Different. Not less.

Autistics often feel sorry for neurotypical (non-autistic) people.

Neurotypical people place too much value on what others think of them, to their own detriment. They aren't very logical. They struggle to be truthful in all situations. They don't have heightened senses, and often miss sensory information. Imagine NOT being able to be captivated by the leaves on a tree moving in the wind for hours? Poor neurotypicals. Maybe they can get therapy or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways.

A lot of the 'appreciation' threads basically say "I for one, actually prefer women who don't have any teeth / prefer to wash after sex / enjoy sex with 12 cats watching"

Don't get you? "

I'm agreeing with you, just smile and nod.

Men prey on women here by pretending to like features they know most other men don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Short of a warning on this site not to give money or gifts to people, a warning no one would read, I'm not sure what you could do?

People are scammed daily in all sorts of situations, not just here and not just involving relationships. I'm not convinced there is a way to stop it?

It's maybe something kids should be taught in schools though. I think the problem is much wider than Fab.

Agree its not a situation just on the internet.

I dont worry so much about the asking for money, or offering money etc because the site has tools for that and they are easily dealt with.

I worry more about the ones that lay open how lonely they are, the ones with really low self-esteem etc but thats just my interpretation of their situation based on a few posts on a website and it may be completely wrong... other people might see it as a good place to get support.

How do you protect those people? - no idea, and as long as they are consenting adults I dont know if its anyone elses responsibility to protect them.

Interesting thread though "

I think you are right in that the people with low self-esteem and or very lonely are an easy target for those who pray on them, can you stop it happening, doubt it.

All you can do is give him/her support if they ask for.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Some people make themselves vulnerable I think. I think people declaring that they're looking for a relationship open themselves up a bit.

You're right. And men who give off the "i'd do anything for a shag" vibe. "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"

So what I really asking is, are there any safeguards set in place to protect the vulnerable from being taken advantage of by other's?

You're asking if there are safeguards to stop stupid men fucking hookers?

Like what exactly? A bank card that doesn't allow withdrawals when you have an erection? "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways."

Oh indeed!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Short of a warning on this site not to give money or gifts to people, a warning no one would read, I'm not sure what you could do?

People are scammed daily in all sorts of situations, not just here and not just involving relationships. I'm not convinced there is a way to stop it?

It's maybe something kids should be taught in schools though. I think the problem is much wider than Fab.

Agree its not a situation just on the internet.

I dont worry so much about the asking for money, or offering money etc because the site has tools for that and they are easily dealt with.

I worry more about the ones that lay open how lonely they are, the ones with really low self-esteem etc but thats just my interpretation of their situation based on a few posts on a website and it may be completely wrong... other people might see it as a good place to get support.

How do you protect those people? - no idea, and as long as they are consenting adults I dont know if its anyone elses responsibility to protect them.

Interesting thread though "

There are times I cringe because some people bare their souls and seek validation on here. They post time and again about being "used" oblivious to the fact they're the architect of their own misery by giving the predators the blueprint to hurt them.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways.

A lot of the 'appreciation' threads basically say "I for one, actually prefer women who don't have any teeth / prefer to wash after sex / enjoy sex with 12 cats watching"

Don't get you?

I'm agreeing with you, just smile and nod.

Men prey on women here by pretending to like features they know most other men don't. "

Yep!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

There's plenty of preying on the vulnerable that goes on every day and that's clearly to be seen on TV advertising.

Whilst I was reading this, and advert for life insurance that used the death of a mother to bolster their profits came on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think there are people who use fab for material gain, eg massively overcharging for a room contribution at a gang bang.

I wouldn't say they are praying on the vulnerable but I would say they aren't acting within the spirit of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you're basicaly saying prostitutes prey on vunerable men?

Now based on the usual definition of vunerable in this context being mentally ill or deficient/low IQ.

That does not seem a very sound business stratagey as those types of people dont tend to have particuarly large incomes.

I don't think that is 'basically' what he is saying at all ...

Go back and read it again "

Well it is given hes talking about "professional" and working girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways.

A lot of the 'appreciation' threads basically say "I for one, actually prefer women who don't have any teeth / prefer to wash after sex / enjoy sex with 12 cats watching"

Don't get you?

I'm agreeing with you, just smile and nod.

Men prey on women here by pretending to like features they know most other men don't.

Yep! "

But is that men preying on women or the women preying on the men.

The women are taking advantage of the desperation of the men to get a shag despite the man being offput by certain features/habits.

Take an example;

We have a couple with a very attractive female and a unattractive bisexual male partner.

Now there are lots of very fit guys who want to shag the wife.

The couple puts up the condition to shag the wife you have to suck off the husband.

So a guy decides fuck it he doesnt fancy the guy but he'll do it to shag the female.

So who is taking advantage of who, the couple the guy or the gug the couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways.

A lot of the 'appreciation' threads basically say "I for one, actually prefer women who don't have any teeth / prefer to wash after sex / enjoy sex with 12 cats watching"

Don't get you?

I'm agreeing with you, just smile and nod.

Men prey on women here by pretending to like features they know most other men don't. "

True.

But when they admit they don't like a particular feature they usually get jumped on by 'the offended party'

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways.

A lot of the 'appreciation' threads basically say "I for one, actually prefer women who don't have any teeth / prefer to wash after sex / enjoy sex with 12 cats watching"

Don't get you?

I'm agreeing with you, just smile and nod.

Men prey on women here by pretending to like features they know most other men don't. "

oh right. I'm good at smiling and nodding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn't just about men paying women for sex though is it. It's about emotional vulnerability as well as financial and it isn't just women preying on men it goes both ways.

A lot of the 'appreciation' threads basically say "I for one, actually prefer women who don't have any teeth / prefer to wash after sex / enjoy sex with 12 cats watching"

Don't get you?

I'm agreeing with you, just smile and nod.

Men prey on women here by pretending to like features they know most other men don't.

Yep!

But is that men preying on women or the women preying on the men.

The women are taking advantage of the desperation of the men to get a shag despite the man being offput by certain features/habits.

Take an example;

We have a couple with a very attractive female and a unattractive bisexual male partner.

"

You must have seen our face pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all its a sex site and obvious what it is lol.

I find the dating sites a lot more preying on the vulnerable ..pretending and lying with the needy and vulnerable people (a lot of the time)...just to get a fuck.

I find you do have to be 100% on what you want from this site and stick to your guns ..it's a fun site or supposed to be xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Vulnerability and low iq. No far from it.

The most intelligent man I ever met wad a Frickin genuine genius, a bonafide nuclear physicist.

But had zero social skills and couldn't interact with other's on a normal level.

If thats as severe as youre making out that would be along the lines of some form of autism which would come under the mentally ill bit.

Autism is NOT a mental illness. I think it's really important people understand that. It's a difference in the way someone's brain processes informationZ

It's like a PC computer calling a MAC mentally ill.

Different. Not less.

Autistics often feel sorry for neurotypical (non-autistic) people.

Neurotypical people place too much value on what others think of them, to their own detriment. They aren't very logical. They struggle to be truthful in all situations. They don't have heightened senses, and often miss sensory information. Imagine NOT being able to be captivated by the leaves on a tree moving in the wind for hours? Poor neurotypicals. Maybe they can get therapy or something."

Off topic, but ASD is a very wide spectrum with many experiencing severe disability who's shoes you would definitely not want to be in.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"It's all over the place here. Fit, young, horny men choosing a lonely divorcee who feels she hasn't been looked at twice since the divorce. Older men with money being used in exchange for sex. Young girls who were the ugly duckling at school being whisked up by the first men to show them kindness. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Vulnerability and low iq. No far from it.

The most intelligent man I ever met wad a Frickin genuine genius, a bonafide nuclear physicist.

But had zero social skills and couldn't interact with other's on a normal level.

If thats as severe as youre making out that would be along the lines of some form of autism which would come under the mentally ill bit.

Autism is NOT a mental illness. I think it's really important people understand that. It's a difference in the way someone's brain processes informationZ

It's like a PC computer calling a MAC mentally ill.

Different. Not less.

Autistics often feel sorry for neurotypical (non-autistic) people.

Neurotypical people place too much value on what others think of them, to their own detriment. They aren't very logical. They struggle to be truthful in all situations. They don't have heightened senses, and often miss sensory information. Imagine NOT being able to be captivated by the leaves on a tree moving in the wind for hours? Poor neurotypicals. Maybe they can get therapy or something."

Well its classed as a "developmental" disability, so yeah mental illness isnt the best description.

You wouldnt use mental illneas to describe downs syndrome either now i think about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but sexual addiction is actually classified as a mental illness now xx

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)


"No but sexual addiction is actually classified as a mental illness now xx"

Oh no!! Then there is no hope for us!! xxxxx

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