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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Us single guys get a rough stick dont you think... I know there are those out there that do deserve the harsh treatment, but what about the one's that are courtous to others and respectful and just want to have fun like the rest on here.

Maybe its just I am not that attractive to you ladies and couples that warrants NO reply?

I see both sides of the coin but sometimes its not always easy being on the wrong end of a constnt No from peeps...

That said there are those that do reply even if it is a polite no..But still

How do you make that all important first impression?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i have had more problems with couples so single guys are ok in my book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant speak for all women here, but i think that the ratio of single men to women/couples etc is far higher and so women/couples can therefore afford to be a little bit choosey with who they select.

i personally like to see (if i were meeting) a nice avatar, some interesting pictures, decent and well written profile and also to recieve a personal message not a copy and paste job

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By *anchestercouple2011Couple
over a year ago

stockport

noticed uve not been on the site long

give it time hun there will be some ppl willing to give you a fair deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just read your profile. Are you happy or are you a hippy?

If you struggle to pull in the vanilla world, chances are you'll struggle here too.

Just be patient, confident and social and you wont go far wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you browse through the forums you'll fine this topic is exhausted many many times.

Yes it can be difficult sometimes to arrange meets, even entering dialogue with someone else can have its challenges. This is due to the unfortunate few single guys who treat sites such as this as a porn site, or as a means to guarantee a "fuck" by sending repeated messages along the lines of "fancy a fuck"

The best advise is be yourself, if someone says no don't push the subject. Sex is intimate on any level, so ultimately you have to gain the trust of those you hope to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i have had more problems with couples so single guys are ok in my book. "

Same here give me a single guy anyday I fond couples to be more tiresome and more demanding so I'm sticking with the men x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well you probs not every one cuppa tea and us wonman have the pick of the crop on here dnt we ...........yes agree always be polite in sending mail and it cost nothing to send mail back saying no thanks or lets chat .....patience sure there will meet a meet for you soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its any consolation we women playing alone get bombed out and our mails ignored too. I have spent lots of email exchange with guys who I thought liked me and wanted to meet. Time as gone on and nothing has happened so it seems they are just being sociable. Perhaps this is an indication they find it more difficult to say no thanks from the outset than women do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant speak for all women here, but i think that the ratio of single men to women/couples etc is far higher and so women/couples can therefore afford to be a little bit choosey with who they select.

i personally like to see (if i were meeting) a nice avatar, some interesting pictures, decent and well written profile and also to recieve a personal message not a copy and paste job"

Some of us do all that and still don't get a reply. I'd rather have a 'thanks, but no thanks' reply than nothing at all! I know there's the odd idiot out there who can't take rejection nicely, but is that an excuse for people to be ignorant just in case? Although I do appreciate that single women are probably swamped with messages from men.

I find it interesting that not a single person that I've messaged has looked at my profile! I didn't think my messages were that bad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer single guys, but that dosent mean I want to have sex with every single one of them Im not that good haha. To me its all down to attraction at the end of the day No its not easy on here for single guys but unfortunatly thats just the way it is on these sites

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

be yourself. be respectful. be patient. ladies can be choosey cos so many of us. enjoy forums more. thats how i know most of my friends. and people do meet from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer single guys, but that dosent mean I want to have sex with every single one of them Im not that good haha. To me its all down to attraction at the end of the day No its not easy on here for single guys but unfortunatly thats just the way it is on these sites "

PS I usually put on my profile " If you dont here from me within a week take it as a polite thanks but no thanks "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant speak for all women here, but i think that the ratio of single men to women/couples etc is far higher and so women/couples can therefore afford to be a little bit choosey with who they select.

i personally like to see (if i were meeting) a nice avatar, some interesting pictures, decent and well written profile and also to recieve a personal message not a copy and paste job

Some of us do all that and still don't get a reply. I'd rather have a 'thanks, but no thanks' reply than nothing at all! I know there's the odd idiot out there who can't take rejection nicely, but is that an excuse for people to be ignorant just in case? Although I do appreciate that single women are probably swamped with messages from men.

I find it interesting that not a single person that I've messaged has looked at my profile! I didn't think my messages were that bad!"

They may have their privacy preferences set so that they can browse profiles without that search showing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

How do you make that all important first impression????? "

the first bites with the eye

And im afraid that wether someone is attracted to you or not is out of your control

but none of us are going to be interested in someone we're not attracted to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers peeps nice replies and ill keep doing what im doing

So thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's "shooting" fetish? Haven't heard of that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

How do you make that all important first impression?????

the first bites with the eye

And im afraid that wether someone is attracted to you or not is out of your control

but none of us are going to be interested in someone we're not attracted to"

*Nods in agreement*

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Us single guys get a rough stick dont you think... I know there are those out there that do deserve the harsh treatment, but what about the one's that are courtous to others and respectful and just want to have fun like the rest on here.

Maybe its just I am not that attractive to you ladies and couples that warrants NO reply?

I see both sides of the coin but sometimes its not always easy being on the wrong end of a constnt No from peeps...

That said there are those that do reply even if it is a polite no..But still

How do you make that all important first impression????? "

Yes its hard at first well the first cpl of months can be murder no meets no one replys to your messages take my advice stick to cpls for now the single fems on here can very picky ,fussy,choosy and like some have said above like to pick the cream of the crop but as i know there not always the best good look and stick at it comes good in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i have had more problems with couples so single guys are ok in my book. "
We agree with you on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes its hard at first well the first cpl of months can be murder no meets no one replys to your messages take my advice stick to cpls for now the single fems on here can very picky ,fussy,choosy and like some have said above like to pick the cream of the crop but as i know there not always the best good look and stick at it comes good in the end "

Stick to couples for now?

Are you trying to say that couples are an easier target than the single lady?

I am a female in a good solid relationship, my preferences to who I play with are no different to how they would be if I were single..... If anything, it is probably harder in some cases as you have to gain the trust of the bloke as well as attracting his wife/gf.

Don't let that scare you OP! Just be mindful that when you approach a MF couple... try and remember to include the male half in your message... we get so much mail targeted at just me and it's very annoying when someone ignores that fact that I have a husband.

Good luck xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Yes its hard at first well the first cpl of months can be murder no meets no one replys to your messages take my advice stick to cpls for now the single fems on here can very picky ,fussy,choosy and like some have said above like to pick the cream of the crop but as i know there not always the best good look and stick at it comes good in the end "

This couple are fussy who we meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes its hard at first well the first cpl of months can be murder no meets no one replys to your messages take my advice stick to cpls for now the single fems on here can very picky ,fussy,choosy and like some have said above like to pick the cream of the crop but as i know there not always the best good look and stick at it comes good in the end

Stick to couples for now?

Are you trying to say that couples are an easier target than the single lady?

I am a female in a good solid relationship, my preferences to who I play with are no different to how they would be if I were single..... If anything, it is probably harder in some cases as you have to gain the trust of the bloke as well as attracting his wife/gf.

Don't let that scare you OP! Just be mindful that when you approach a MF couple... try and remember to include the male half in your message... we get so much mail targeted at just me and it's very annoying when someone ignores that fact that I have a husband.

Good luck xx "

Not to be too personal but why are there no pics of him on your profile?

If you are trying to promote the pair of you is it not best to pur you BOTH on? Maybe that is why you are getting more attention than your hubby...Just an observation and hope you dont mind me saying.... Feel free to get in touch if you want

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Stuart, its only been a couple of weeks so bear with it. Some single ladies can get shedloads of emails so isnt possible to reply to everyone sent to us. Have to dwindle them out somehow. My dwindling them is about the mail the single men send me, is it written for me or just another copy and paste email with someone elses name on it. Wether the person has an avatar which i can see yours hasnt even tho you have face pics on your visible gallery. Maybe that is why people arent looking at your profile?

Also distance,age and attraction are other things that have to work for me. Also availability too which is always a problem.

Stick with it tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its just a numbers game.

I was talking to a friend the other day about the show 'take me out' she said she'd like to see it the other way round, with men turning their lights off etc - only problem is, no-one would ever turn their light off! - it can be a bit like that here with people carpet bombing (messaging) everyone.

I've message people and gone unnoticed (I dont get bothered about it) and then they've popped up and said hello months later when I'm on cam in chat (probably because I'm the only one in there not wanking) sometimes its down to timing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just be nice if some do reply back

rather trying again later on

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"just be nice if some do reply back

rather trying again later on "

Do you not think if a lady hasnt responded to your mail within a week or so it may be an idea to block her so stops you mailing her again. You control that tho, not her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont like to block people just for that

only block if there being rude.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Yes its hard at first well the first cpl of months can be murder no meets no one replys to your messages take my advice stick to cpls for now the single fems on here can very picky ,fussy,choosy and like some have said above like to pick the cream of the crop but as i know there not always the best good look and stick at it comes good in the end

Stick to couples for now?

Are you trying to say that couples are an easier target than the single lady?

I am a female in a good solid relationship, my preferences to who I play with are no different to how they would be if I were single..... If anything, it is probably harder in some cases as you have to gain the trust of the bloke as well as attracting his wife/gf.

Don't let that scare you OP! Just be mindful that when you approach a MF couple... try and remember to include the male half in your message... we get so much mail targeted at just me and it's very annoying when someone ignores that fact that I have a husband.

Good luck xx "

OH so true listen hard and fast about sending messages to cpl never think its the wife your talking to becuase its mostley the husband so show respect as for me targeting cpls know just have a better chance of getting a meet with a cpl and as for single ladies i said in my last post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But seriously, what does a reply do? it just gives some people another excuse to reply again.

A follow on message never goes down too well, if they havent replied I'd take the hint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes its hard at first well the first cpl of months can be murder no meets no one replys to your messages take my advice stick to cpls for now the single fems on here can very picky ,fussy,choosy and like some have said above like to pick the cream of the crop but as i know there not always the best good look and stick at it comes good in the end

Stick to couples for now?

Are you trying to say that couples are an easier target than the single lady?

I am a female in a good solid relationship, my preferences to who I play with are no different to how they would be if I were single..... If anything, it is probably harder in some cases as you have to gain the trust of the bloke as well as attracting his wife/gf.

Don't let that scare you OP! Just be mindful that when you approach a MF couple... try and remember to include the male half in your message... we get so much mail targeted at just me and it's very annoying when someone ignores that fact that I have a husband.

Good luck xx

OH so true listen hard and fast about sending messages to cpl never think its the wife your talking to becuase its mostley the husband so show respect as for me targeting cpls know just have a better chance of getting a meet with a cpl and as for single ladies i said in my last post "
its one of the reason i wont talk to a couple because of that

(unless if i see them on cam) would be better

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"dont like to block people just for that

only block if there being rude.

"

I understand that but it will stop you mailing her again. If that is what you dont want to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont like to block people just for that

only block if there being rude.

I understand that but it will stop you mailing her again. If that is what you dont want to happen."
I no what you mean but i moved on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, you don't get the rough end of the stick at all.

There are a LOT of you. MANY people will delete a message without opening it, based on that first line pre_iew. We get emails every day and the pre_iew reads such as "lol u r sexy wanna...".

MANY people will add a captcha in to the profile (see ours, last para) to see if the emailer has even read the profile. Do you realise that we get over ten emails most days that haven't read our profile? Instant deletes.

I could go on, but my point us this: many many single guys do themselves no favours at all, which in turn makes the recipients quite jaded at time.

Now, as a disclaimer here, I'm, not saying YOU do any of the above. You may be the perfect emailer but you do still have to take into account the numbers of simgle guys sending emails. Some of us get a lot of emails and it's boring and tiring to go through each. There are time when people will just bulk delete as they can't be arsed.

So, perseverance I guess.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Yes its hard at first well the first cpl of months can be murder no meets no one replys to your messages take my advice stick to cpls for now the single fems on here can very picky ,fussy,choosy and like some have said above like to pick the cream of the crop but as i know there not always the best good look and stick at it comes good in the end

Stick to couples for now?

Are you trying to say that couples are an easier target than the single lady?

I am a female in a good solid relationship, my preferences to who I play with are no different to how they would be if I were single..... If anything, it is probably harder in some cases as you have to gain the trust of the bloke as well as attracting his wife/gf.

Don't let that scare you OP! Just be mindful that when you approach a MF couple... try and remember to include the male half in your message... we get so much mail targeted at just me and it's very annoying when someone ignores that fact that I have a husband.

Good luck xx

OH so true listen hard and fast about sending messages to cpl never think its the wife your talking to becuase its mostley the husband so show respect as for me targeting cpls know just have a better chance of getting a meet with a cpl and as for single ladies i said in my last post its one of the reason i wont talk to a couple because of that

(unless if i see them on cam) would be better"

Oh dear have you got so wrong like so many other single guys the amount of cpls when ive met them say but you showed us respect thats why we went for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not to be too personal but why are there no pics of him on your profile?

If you are trying to promote the pair of you is it not best to pur you BOTH on? Maybe that is why you are getting more attention than your hubby...Just an observation and hope you dont mind me saying.... Feel free to get in touch if you want "

No worries on asking the question! You will see plenty of MF profiles with just the lady in photo's as it is usually males doing the searching. We have a picture of us together which we send when we have searched for or have received interest from a potential meet xx

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I dislike profiles where all the pics on a couples profile are the lady only. It puts me off because if I am meeting a couple I am meeting both of them so want to be interested in both of them and see pics of both of them.

It makes me feel that its all about the lady of the couple and it isnt. Its about both of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet couples from this site but read their forum posts. I always assume the one contributing is the one in the avatar pic which makes me do a double take at some of their posts sometimes. I'm still wary if one half of a couple contacts me to chat as I don't know if this is the norm in their relationship so it can make me feel uncomfortable unless I know the full sp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has been written about so many times, and I know how you feel I've had one meeting in the last six moths, but like what has been said at the top here, a no thanks makes a big difference to a guy rather than nothing at all, its so frustrating, some for the most part want manners but they sure don't like giving them back, and that's downright rude.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

never let it get to you.... you will find over time that the 'ranters' have more to concern themselves over than just 'single guys'

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Data what happens if you were a single lady and you got say 20.emails every day. Most of those clearly havent read your profile.

Would you be happy to reply to everyone of those with a polite thanks but no. And do that every day. Would you start to wish people would read your profile and.end up just deleting those that havent read your profile or the copy and pasters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dislike profiles where all the pics on a couples profile are the lady only. It puts me off because if I am meeting a couple I am meeting both of them so want to be interested in both of them and see pics of both of them.

It makes me feel that its all about the lady of the couple and it isnt. Its about both of them."

We don't expect any women to contact us... In fact it is extremely rare that we have females even looking at us, that's why we look for them and offer to send a fully clothed face pic of us both privately.

We also avoid one of our pet hates... cock pics on a profile, we don't like seeing them so therefore we don't display them.... again, these are available to send privately if someone wants to see. NOTE: no one should take any offence to our dislike of public cock pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we meet single guys occaisionally, but we do the prospecting. We don't welcome unsolicited emails.

..... and the non replies are not the exclusive reserve of couples to singles. Plenty of single guys haven't replied to our emails, and the last 5 who we agreed to play with, either cancelled or didn't show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When first seeing this thread i thought it said "the simple guy"

Thought blimey !!!

someones got it right first time

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

you have only been on the site 3 weeks, give it time lol, as there are a lot of single men to choose from, think you have to give it longer than a couple of weeks, x

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I dislike profiles where all the pics on a couples profile are the lady only. It puts me off because if I am meeting a couple I am meeting both of them so want to be interested in both of them and see pics of both of them.

It makes me feel that its all about the lady of the couple and it isnt. Its about both of them.

We don't expect any women to contact us... In fact it is extremely rare that we have females even looking at us, that's why we look for them and offer to send a fully clothed face pic of us both privately.

We also avoid one of our pet hates... cock pics on a profile, we don't like seeing them so therefore we don't display them.... again, these are available to send privately if someone wants to see. NOTE: no one should take any offence to our dislike of public cock pics!"

There are plenty who do like cock pics and the same that dont swings and round abouts i say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Peaches!!!

Hmm how do I take that comment...

See me after class please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not moaning on the forums?

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