FabSwingers.com forum: Women in the real world

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

How often do you find, that whenever you find a woman in the real world, who you take so much as the slightest shine to, and she's spoken for? I can honestly say, I don't think I've ever fancied ANY woman I've met, who was actually single at the time, and I've no problem admitting just how frustrated, angry and bitter this makes me feel.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me..."

Did you know they were single initially?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why you should feel angry because the women you met weren't to your liking. That doesn't seem like a typical response, perhaps if you worked on chilling out a bit it'd be easier for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works both ways in the real world. The majority of men that have sparked an interest in me are generally attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stands to reason all the good ones are taken

I feel the same with men, find one you fancy and he's married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because I'm married, isn't it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me..."

You are obviously on the wrong site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

Did you know they were single initially? "

...

...in so much as, I see a girl I like, we get chatting, we get on great - and she has a boyfriend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site. "

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are loads of Women that have partners that I find attractive, Some are fun to flirt with and have a laugh, Some I think that's the type of Woman I would like to date, But a lot more who I think she's hot but thank fuck she's not my partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not even in your late teens? Maybe you need to look at yourself, do you omit those that are single as a barrier to making a commitment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site. "

Why is he?

Just because he likes women in the real world and would like a relationship that does not mean he can't be on here looking for casual encounters too

Why do people think everybody on here should be emotionless fucking machines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me."

There are several ASD dating websites you could try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the woman and ofcourse you don't have any problem with an affair and if the husband, fiancee and or boyfriend doesn't find out or similarly doesn't mind, (open relationship or the like,) then just have fun with the said woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the woman and ofcourse you don't have any problem with an affair and if the husband, fiancee and or boyfriend doesn't find out or similarly doesn't mind, (open relationship or the like,) then just have fun with the said woman. "

Maybe he's looking to settle down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe he's looking to settle down "

You know for someone who makes no secret of her Earthiness Nymphos, you're definitely one of the brighter people on the forums x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he's looking to settle down

You know for someone who makes no secret of her Earthiness Nymphos, you're definitely one of the brighter people on the forums x"

As I always say what I lack in looks I make up for in personality, I'm a nice person me, honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not putting words in your mouth OP, But are your feelings of frustration, angry and bitterness because you feel you are a better person then their current partners, Either by your looks personality by the way they treat their partners or the way he acts etc Or simple because they have what you don't have ?

Nothing personal its just a follow up question to your question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he's looking to settle down

You know for someone who makes no secret of her Earthiness Nymphos, you're definitely one of the brighter people on the forums x

As I always say what I lack in looks I make up for in personality, I'm a nice person me, honest

You're attractive though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Why is he?

Just because he likes women in the real world and would like a relationship that does not mean he can't be on here looking for casual encounters too

Why do people think everybody on here should be emotionless fucking machines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so then if the women is looking else where then she isn't sure about the situation. They are meny forms of love and if you are going to settle down, to be with whom you presive to be the one then you have got to be damned sure you have chosen the right person; cause if the man is besoted and the women not then obviously that relationship is doomed. However if the women feels the same way the easiest course of action is to get pissed of and try else where.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not putting words in your mouth OP, But are your feelings of frustration, angry and bitterness because you feel you are a better person then their current partners, Either by your looks personality by the way they treat their partners or the way he acts etc Or simple because they have what you don't have ?

Nothing personal its just a follow up question to your question"

He got there first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

There are several ASD dating websites you could try. "

I don't want to be defined by my Autism, I just want to meet a woman who's intelligent and worldly enough to value me in spite of it, and not be frightened of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

There are several ASD dating websites you could try.

I don't want to be defined by my Autism, I just want to meet a woman who's intelligent and worldly enough to value me in spite of it, and not be frightened of me."

That's a lot to ask of a stranger, whereas if you're registered somewhere where they EXPECT it, it's less of a burden and opens your opportunities. Anyway, they're not gonna date you just cos you're autistic, they still have to like you for you. You can say no if you believe otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

There are several ASD dating websites you could try.

I don't want to be defined by my Autism, I just want to meet a woman who's intelligent and worldly enough to value me in spite of it, and not be frightened of me."

You're unlikely to find that here though.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

There are several ASD dating websites you could try.

I don't want to be defined by my Autism, I just want to meet a woman who's intelligent and worldly enough to value me in spite of it, and not be frightened of me.

You're unlikely to find that here though....."

You've probably noticed I don't actively look to swing here anymore, I mostly just use the site to chew the fat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

There are several ASD dating websites you could try.

I don't want to be defined by my Autism, I just want to meet a woman who's intelligent and worldly enough to value me in spite of it, and not be frightened of me.

You're unlikely to find that here though.....

You've probably noticed I don't actively look to swing here anymore, I mostly just use the site to chew the fat."

No i haven't noticed. Just like you probably hadn't noticed my movements

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

There are several ASD dating websites you could try.

I don't want to be defined by my Autism, I just want to meet a woman who's intelligent and worldly enough to value me in spite of it, and not be frightened of me.

You're unlikely to find that here though.....

You've probably noticed I don't actively look to swing here anymore, I mostly just use the site to chew the fat.

No i haven't noticed. Just like you probably hadn't noticed my movements"

Ah. Well I'm louder than most people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me..."

I can't really contribute very well as I don't often feel like this, as I don't often look at things in quite the same way. I often get attention from attached women, but there's plenty of single women out there who aren't bonkers / weird / past their sell by date etc. Also plenty in relationships that aren't happy, so be glad you're not one of them

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

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...in so much as, I see a girl I like, we get chatting, we get on great - and she has a boyfriend."

What's the boyfriend got to do with anything ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

There are several ASD dating websites you could try.

I don't want to be defined by my Autism, I just want to meet a woman who's intelligent and worldly enough to value me in spite of it, and not be frightened of me.

You're unlikely to find that here though.....

You've probably noticed I don't actively look to swing here anymore, I mostly just use the site to chew the fat.

No i haven't noticed. Just like you probably hadn't noticed my movements

Ah. Well I'm louder than most people."

Not something I'd notice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

Did you know they were single initially?

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...in so much as, I see a girl I like, we get chatting, we get on great - and she has a boyfriend."

in that case you should ask first, saves you chatting and wasting both your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

There are several ASD dating websites you could try.

I don't want to be defined by my Autism, I just want to meet a woman who's intelligent and worldly enough to value me in spite of it, and not be frightened of me."

your a man first n formost xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

There are several ASD dating websites you could try.

I don't want to be defined by my Autism, I just want to meet a woman who's intelligent and worldly enough to value me in spite of it, and not be frightened of me."

Do you find it hard to approach women?

I've worked with a few autistic people in my time and a lot find it very hard to approach people and form relationships, some have found it hard to even talk to people they don't know more so members of the opposite sex

Maybe your main problem is making yourself known to women you like??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unusual thread, as this time I'm interested in the guys views.

Sure, I COULD try speed dating or similar, but it feels HORRIBLY contrived and forced to me...

You are obviously on the wrong site.

Pretty much every site is the wrong site for a guy like me.

There are several ASD dating websites you could try.

I don't want to be defined by my Autism, I just want to meet a woman who's intelligent and worldly enough to value me in spite of it, and not be frightened of me.

Do you find it hard to approach women?

Maybe your main problem is making yourself known to women you like??"

Yes, I do. Talking to people is easy for me, I enjoy it, but initiating conversations is very hard for me, and when through sheer determination I have done, I often find the people I'm talking to (and yes, I'm aware of taking my time, keeping my distance, watch my tone, relax etc), but frustratingly I find that most people just don't want to talk, or they struggle themselves. Perhaps if I'd been fortunate enough to meet them in another setting, where they may have had a chance to become familiar with me from a distance themselves, and see I'm nothing to be afraid of things might be different, but understanding that I'm a big guy, with Autism, approaching and chatting to a girl in the street...yeah, you can see how it's not an easy start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sank once more.

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