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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


"I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said "
What an idiot , report him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as you know my knowledge of football is poor at best however that teacher sounds awful.

If it was my child I'd request a meeting to discuss it. Inappropriate

Knitter kisses and warm hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report the twat to the head that's disgusting thing to say to a child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report it how fucking inappropriate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twat doesn't deserve to be working with children!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Report the twat to the head that's disgusting thing to say to a child "
I rang when we got home but the head of house said he had already left. Abbey has to take her reg mark on Monday then go to see her head of house to discuss the matter

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Why would he say such a thing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Report it how fucking inappropriate "
the head of house said , in what contex was it said, but it shouldn't matter in what context he said it, he shouldn't of said it at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said "

He is just a bully. Definitely report him.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Should not have been said, presuming it was reported accurately. Just help her to move on and forget it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Report it how fucking inappropriate the head of house said , in what contex was it said, but it shouldn't matter in what context he said it, he shouldn't of said it at all"

There's no context it would be an ok for all he knew she knew someone who had committed suicide. Since when was suicide humourless in any context? What a bunch on numpties! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Report the twat to the head that's disgusting thing to say to a child I rang when we got home but the head of house said he had already left. Abbey has to take her reg mark on Monday then go to see her head of house to discuss the matter"

That's good, I can't see way he would say such a thing, they is nothing funny about it so he can't say it was a joke

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's bad, really bad. I would be absolutely fuming. As Vara said she could have known someone who had committed suicide. Totally wrong!!!!

Hope your daughter is ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disgraceful behaviour for a so called professional.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I'd be straight on the phone to the school or emailing & copying in the Chair of Governors. That is disgraceful behaviour from a teacher!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that you should have contacted the Head. He will of course investigate to ensure those words were actually said and the teacher will no doubt be spoken to.

I would have been really angry to. Make sure you are updated.

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By *edheadsruleCouple
over a year ago

lancashire

What an absolute arsehole!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First of all you need to be absolutely certain that he did say this.

If he did say this it is definately inappropriate for the classroom. This sort of footy 'banter' isnt suitable for kids from an teacher. The teacher is also singling out a particular sub group (Newcastle supporters) for negative comments from himself and giving and example for other children to follow.

Speak to the head about your concerns but try (I know its hard when its your kids) to keep it 'professional' because its harder to be dismissive if you stay calm. Explain your concerns to the Head. A good Head teacher will want to clamp down on this immediately because it is very close to becoming bullying.

Good luck

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be straight on the phone to the school or emailing & copying in the Chair of Governors. That is disgraceful behaviour from a teacher!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said "

Send a letter of complaint to the school addressed to the Governing body.

This requires disciplinary action as a minimum.

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By *illo0069Man
over a year ago

litherland

i wouldnt worry about it, i would walk up to him an whisper quietly in his ear "if u ever speak to my daughter like that again you will be going off that fkn bridge" and bid him farewell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said "

Report him, google school complaints and go onto GOV.UK it gives you a guide to the proper procedure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is a shocking thing to say to a 12 year old child

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

That is awful... The man is in loco parentis and his behaviour was unacceptable.. I hope that you can get rid of him and his foul attitude

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree that you should have contacted the Head. He will of course investigate to ensure those words were actually said and the teacher will no doubt be spoken to.

I would have been really angry to. Make sure you are updated."
I have confirmed what was said by talking to 3 of Abbey's friends who were in the lesson with her and what he said is what I have quoted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said

Report him, google school complaints and go onto GOV.UK it gives you a guide to the proper procedure"
Thanks for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clearly this teacher is a arsehole.. That would affect a child: s wellbeing. I would report this tosser. He's done that to your child he will do it again and to others! His behaviour needs addressing asap.. Bit of a bastard as you may have to wait till Monday now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Twat doesn't deserve to be working with children!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was bullied at school.. Including bw teachers.. Report him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are joking aren't you? He obviously spoke before he thought however I don't think anything malicious was meant! Honestly the way people rock on here like the sun shines out of their...mouths is just a complete joke. He's/she's a teacher doing a hood deed service etc don't jeopardise his job. Had he of said, "their fucking shit you should jump of a bridge" I'd understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wrong on so many levels!! Email the school immediately and get this man dealt with!!

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are joking aren't you? He obviously spoke before he thought however I don't think anything malicious was meant! Honestly the way people rock on here like the sun shines out of their...mouths is just a complete joke. He's/she's a teacher doing a hood deed service etc don't jeopardise his job. Had he of said, "their fucking shit you should jump of a bridge" I'd understand. "

I can understand what you are saying but when you are a teacher, especially for teenagers, there are somethings you don't say, what if a child that was depressed heard this and had never contemplated suicide but heard this teacher saying such a thing and thought 'I might do that' teachers have a duty of care and saying something quite so bad breached that, yes he may not have thought the comment through but he needs to be spoken too, so he doesn't do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said "

probably a sunderland fan, but he should save that pisstaking for the pub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are joking aren't you? He obviously spoke before he thought however I don't think anything malicious was meant! Honestly the way people rock on here like the sun shines out of their...mouths is just a complete joke. He's/she's a teacher doing a hood deed service etc don't jeopardise his job. Had he of said, "their fucking shit you should jump of a bridge" I'd understand.

I can understand what you are saying but when you are a teacher, especially for teenagers, there are somethings you don't say, what if a child that was depressed heard this and had never contemplated suicide but heard this teacher saying such a thing and thought 'I might do that' teachers have a duty of care and saying something quite so bad breached that, yes he may not have thought the comment through but he needs to be spoken too, so he doesn't do it again"

When your a teacher yes you have a duty of care, let's not forget he is still human. Adults know better I completely understand that but if every teacher spoke like a textbook then there would be no rappor with the students and the teacher.

GOING FORWARD - email the teacher or even go and see him. Speak to him direct but I certainly don't think it's worth reporting him to the school as the knock on effects could be massive towards his career.

Just to be clear - I'm not condoning it and I think things should be reported I. E. Serious serious remarks but in this instance I don't think it should.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are joking aren't you? He obviously spoke before he thought however I don't think anything malicious was meant! Honestly the way people rock on here like the sun shines out of their...mouths is just a complete joke. He's/she's a teacher doing a hood deed service etc don't jeopardise his job. Had he of said, "their fucking shit you should jump of a bridge" I'd understand.

I can understand what you are saying but when you are a teacher, especially for teenagers, there are somethings you don't say, what if a child that was depressed heard this and had never contemplated suicide but heard this teacher saying such a thing and thought 'I might do that' teachers have a duty of care and saying something quite so bad breached that, yes he may not have thought the comment through but he needs to be spoken too, so he doesn't do it again

When your a teacher yes you have a duty of care, let's not forget he is still human. Adults know better I completely understand that but if every teacher spoke like a textbook then there would be no rappor with the students and the teacher.

GOING FORWARD - email the teacher or even go and see him. Speak to him direct but I certainly don't think it's worth reporting him to the school as the knock on effects could be massive towards his career.

Just to be clear - I'm not condoning it and I think things should be reported I. E. Serious serious remarks but in this instance I don't think it should. "
I appreciate your views and comments but in this case I disagree I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are joking aren't you? He obviously spoke before he thought however I don't think anything malicious was meant! Honestly the way people rock on here like the sun shines out of their...mouths is just a complete joke. He's/she's a teacher doing a hood deed service etc don't jeopardise his job. Had he of said, "their fucking shit you should jump of a bridge" I'd understand.

I can understand what you are saying but when you are a teacher, especially for teenagers, there are somethings you don't say, what if a child that was depressed heard this and had never contemplated suicide but heard this teacher saying such a thing and thought 'I might do that' teachers have a duty of care and saying something quite so bad breached that, yes he may not have thought the comment through but he needs to be spoken too, so he doesn't do it again

When your a teacher yes you have a duty of care, let's not forget he is still human. Adults know better I completely understand that but if every teacher spoke like a textbook then there would be no rappor with the students and the teacher.

GOING FORWARD - email the teacher or even go and see him. Speak to him direct but I certainly don't think it's worth reporting him to the school as the knock on effects could be massive towards his career.

Just to be clear - I'm not condoning it and I think things should be reported I. E. Serious serious remarks but in this instance I don't think it should. I appreciate your views and comments but in this case I disagree I'm afraid"

Your well within your case to disagree tbh I'm not a teacher nor do I have children so if it was to happen to me then I may be same!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are joking aren't you? He obviously spoke before he thought however I don't think anything malicious was meant! Honestly the way people rock on here like the sun shines out of their...mouths is just a complete joke. He's/she's a teacher doing a hood deed service etc don't jeopardise his job. Had he of said, "their fucking shit you should jump of a bridge" I'd understand.

I can understand what you are saying but when you are a teacher, especially for teenagers, there are somethings you don't say, what if a child that was depressed heard this and had never contemplated suicide but heard this teacher saying such a thing and thought 'I might do that' teachers have a duty of care and saying something quite so bad breached that, yes he may not have thought the comment through but he needs to be spoken too, so he doesn't do it again

When your a teacher yes you have a duty of care, let's not forget he is still human. Adults know better I completely understand that but if every teacher spoke like a textbook then there would be no rappor with the students and the teacher.

GOING FORWARD - email the teacher or even go and see him. Speak to him direct but I certainly don't think it's worth reporting him to the school as the knock on effects could be massive towards his career.

Just to be clear - I'm not condoning it and I think things should be reported I. E. Serious serious remarks but in this instance I don't think it should. I appreciate your views and comments but in this case I disagree I'm afraid

Your well within your case to disagree tbh I'm not a teacher nor do I have children so if it was to happen to me then I may be same! "

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't think that it's bullying tbh. Just a stupid comment. As a parent of a son the same age and from a family who has been touched by suicide I would be extremely upset. I'm not sure but I don't think my children know that suicide is an option.

I would probably try and get in touch with the other parents because naturally I do blow these kind of things out of proportion

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said "

Bang out of order, even if said in jest he needs to be reported to the head. Suggesting to a child to throw themselves off a bridge is surely a safe guarding issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The teacher needs to be reported.

Follow the correct procedure.

Speak to the head before the teacher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldnt worry about it, i would walk up to him an whisper quietly in his ear "if u ever speak to my daughter like that again you will be going off that fkn bridge" and bid him farewell"

This is probably the road I would go down (bloke)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report the twat. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is he still able to walk?

If so... Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps - I HATE gayball but there is never an excuse for a teacher coming out with something like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is he still able to walk?

If so... Why?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well as you know my knowledge of football is poor at best however that teacher sounds awful.

If it was my child I'd request a meeting to discuss it. Inappropriate

Knitter kisses and warm hugs "

This!

And hugs from me too! xx

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By *inston80Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

What a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is always rivalry in football and perhaps the idiot is a Sunderland fan.

I think your daughter showed maturity in giving the answer she did, about her team being crap and got what they deserved.

For the teacher to say what he did, especially to a 12 year old takes it beyond friendly rivalry. He obviously wasn't thinking of the possible consequences or thought he was talking to one of his mates. I do think you are right to bring it to the attention of the school. If your daughter was of a different temperament and fragile she could have taken his words literally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It dosnt need the Govenors etc. Just a firm word from the head. He probably regrets saying it already and if he dosnt then some guidence will help him.

Im sure we have all made mistakes...said things we have regretted at home or the workplace.

As a parent of two kids I have had to visit the school occasionally to discuss the words or action of a teacher. Your blood does boil when its your own kids and it was a crass and stupid thing for someone in his position to say but that is it.

So speak to the Head but dont bay for his blood. It wont help you. Be calm and proportionate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Update.. Had a meeting with the head and the teacher in question this morning. Teacher was very apologetic and said he totally realised what he said was wrong the minute it left his mouth, he then sincerely apologised to my daughter. The Head spoke very harshly to the teacher and warned him that any further out bursts would result in further action taken.

We are happy as we can be with the outcome. thanks for everyone's comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are joking aren't you? He obviously spoke before he thought however I don't think anything malicious was meant! Honestly the way people rock on here like the sun shines out of their...mouths is just a complete joke. He's/she's a teacher doing a hood deed service etc don't jeopardise his job. Had he of said, "their fucking shit you should jump of a bridge" I'd understand. "

This!

If a 12 year old said it to him would he be reporting them? - no. It's hardly front page news and the people suggesting someone might actually do it- get real.

It's stupid thing to say but if you're going to try and end a teacher's career every time they say something stupid then forget about teachers trying to build rapport with children. You'll turn then into robot sounding politicans.

Whatever happened to just taking to the teacher direct and saying that he shouldn't have done that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldnt worry about it, i would walk up to him an whisper quietly in his ear "if u ever speak to my daughter like that again you will be going off that fkn bridge" and bid him farewell"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldnt worry about it, i would walk up to him an whisper quietly in his ear "if u ever speak to my daughter like that again you will be going off that fkn bridge" and bid him farewell

"

How is the above ok let alone the right thing to do?

You are outraged about someone saying something stupid and the way to deal with it is threaten to kill him!

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That kind of banter (which it was) should not have been aimed at a child especially from a teacher,it's something that should be aimed at your mates in the pub. I'd be going down to the school and having a word if I was you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Written complaint - and I de be going with her

Simple

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Had an issue with appalling behaviour in terms of duty of care and complained to the school and all they did was band together....amazing how that changes when ofsted, the local MP and the newspapers get involved though. Hope things get sorted out.

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By *illo0069Man
over a year ago

litherland


"i wouldnt worry about it, i would walk up to him an whisper quietly in his ear "if u ever speak to my daughter like that again you will be going off that fkn bridge" and bid him farewell

How is the above ok let alone the right thing to do?

You are outraged about someone saying something stupid and the way to deal with it is threaten to kill him!

Lol"

Surprisingly its very effective when gob shites try and behind the system

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Personally I would go higher then the school, you might want to put something on the school's social media as that would cause a shit storm. The head would be forced to do something over that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I would go higher then the school, you might want to put something on the school's social media as that would cause a shit storm. The head would be forced to do something over that."

Shit, why not just pick up a brick, light a molotov cocktail and form a good old fashioned angry mob while we're at it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I would go higher then the school, you might want to put something on the school's social media as that would cause a shit storm. The head would be forced to do something over that."

so bring a school into disrepute and sack a perfectly good teacher over one stupid mistake..? wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her to go to the teacher and say that she'd rather wake up in the championship than wake up in Sunderland.

Football banter is all well and good but he shouldn't be a cunt about it to a bairn that's shocking! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I would go higher then the school, you might want to put something on the school's social media as that would cause a shit storm. The head would be forced to do something over that.

so bring a school into disrepute and sack a perfectly good teacher over one stupid mistake..? wow "

People wonder why they can't recruit enough new teachers...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's dumb to joke about suicide. The teacher possibly wouldn't know if the child was affected herself by mental health or a close family member. It just seems silly to pick on a child with adult type chat.

Anyway, it was unprofessional to say the least and he ought to apologise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's dumb to joke about suicide. The teacher possibly wouldn't know if the child was affected herself by mental health or a close family member. It just seems silly to pick on a child with adult type chat.

Anyway, it was unprofessional to say the least and he ought to apologise. "

Yes it was dumb and unprofessional. He already has apologised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's dumb to joke about suicide. The teacher possibly wouldn't know if the child was affected herself by mental health or a close family member. It just seems silly to pick on a child with adult type chat.

Anyway, it was unprofessional to say the least and he ought to apologise.

Yes it was dumb and unprofessional. He already has apologised."

Okay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I would go higher then the school, you might want to put something on the school's social media as that would cause a shit storm. The head would be forced to do something over that.

Shit, why not just pick up a brick, light a molotov cocktail and form a good old fashioned angry mob while we're at it? "

Ooh an angry mob , I'm in.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said "

In my experience reporting a teacher gets you nowhere

I went to see the head about one of my kids, she said the teacher hit her over the head with a book as she walked behind her because she was talking

When it comes down to it it's the teachers word against the kid and most people will believe a adult over a child as kids do have tendencies to exaggerate

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By *igjrvMan
over a year ago

blackwood

I'd be having a chat with him and not in school time either

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"You are joking aren't you? He obviously spoke before he thought however I don't think anything malicious was meant! Honestly the way people rock on here like the sun shines out of their...mouths is just a complete joke. He's/she's a teacher doing a hood deed service etc don't jeopardise his job. Had he of said, "their fucking shit you should jump of a bridge" I'd understand.

This!

If a 12 year old said it to him would he be reporting them? - no. It's hardly front page news and the people suggesting someone might actually do it- get real.

It's stupid thing to say but if you're going to try and end a teacher's career every time they say something stupid then forget about teachers trying to build rapport with children. You'll turn then into robot sounding politicans.

Whatever happened to just taking to the teacher direct and saying that he shouldn't have done that. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said "

I would be furious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Update.. Had a meeting with the head and the teacher in question this morning. Teacher was very apologetic and said he totally realised what he said was wrong the minute it left his mouth, he then sincerely apologised to my daughter. The Head spoke very harshly to the teacher and warned him that any further out bursts would result in further action taken.

We are happy as we can be with the outcome. thanks for everyone's comments "

Very sensible all round.

Glad it's sorted

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Reading through the thread I see that OP has already spoken to the head and the teacher involved. As the parent of a child who struggles with suicidal thoughts, the teachers comments horrified me. ( yes he is getting support thanks), I hope your daughter is OK and hope the teacher will not make such inappropriate comments in future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldnt worry about it, i would walk up to him an whisper quietly in his ear "if u ever speak to my daughter like that again you will be going off that fkn bridge" and bid him farewell

How is the above ok let alone the right thing to do?

You are outraged about someone saying something stupid and the way to deal with it is threaten to kill him!

Lol

Surprisingly its very effective when gob shites try and behind the system"

Im not sure I undertand your last comment. Probably predictive text. Can I just ask you .....If Donald Trump was able to stand for Parliament...would you vote for him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally would see it as banter but it would depend soley on the child he said it too. My son would find it funny and say a cheeky comment back but my daughter I don't think would find it funny x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It's a bit strong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really sorry op. I couldn't concentrate on what you wrote due to your avatar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dangerous words potentially, I'd meet with the head to establish facts then deal with it all properly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Update.. Had a meeting with the head and the teacher in question this morning. Teacher was very apologetic and said he totally realised what he said was wrong the minute it left his mouth, he then sincerely apologised to my daughter. The Head spoke very harshly to the teacher and warned him that any further out bursts would result in further action taken.

We are happy as we can be with the outcome. thanks for everyone's comments

Very sensible all round.

Glad it's sorted "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bump.. hi everyone just an update, the teacher in question on our thread has been sacked today. He told a young pupil aged 13 she looked and dressed like a whore and he also split a students hand open last week when he threw a stapler at him. This guy definitely does not belong in a classroom

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Bump.. hi everyone just an update, the teacher in question on our thread has been sacked today. He told a young pupil aged 13 she looked and dressed like a whore and he also split a students hand open last week when he threw a stapler at him. This guy definitely does not belong in a classroom "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bump.. hi everyone just an update, the teacher in question on our thread has been sacked today. He told a young pupil aged 13 she looked and dressed like a whore and he also split a students hand open last week when he threw a stapler at him. This guy definitely does not belong in a classroom "

Flipping heck Ali..! Guy sounds like a total cock...glad the school did the right thing...here's hoping he doesn't work with kids ...or maybe anyone...again!

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Report the twat to the head that's disgusting thing to say to a child I rang when we got home but the head of house said he had already left. Abbey has to take her reg mark on Monday then go to see her head of house to discuss the matter"

If it was my daughter i would be goong to see the headmaster/mistress. Forget the appointment i'd be straight in the office. I'd also consider reporting him to the teachers union and ofsted. I wouldn't want that teacher anywhere near a child of mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bump.. hi everyone just an update, the teacher in question on our thread has been sacked today. He told a young pupil aged 13 she looked and dressed like a whore and he also split a students hand open last week when he threw a stapler at him. This guy definitely does not belong in a classroom "

glad he has gone xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Same here, the parents of the boy who's hand he split open are taking matters further and want him charged with assault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same here, the parents of the boy who's hand he split open are taking matters further and want him charged with assault"

I'm condoning his actions but I would be interested to know what the boy said/did to get a stapler thrown at him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same here, the parents of the boy who's hand he split open are taking matters further and want him charged with assault

I'm condoning his actions but I would be interested to know what the boy said/did to get a stapler thrown at him."

I'm NOT condoning

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"I picked my daughter up from school today in tears. During her math's lesson her teacher asked if there were any Newcastle United supporters in the class. A few of Abbey's mates said "yes sir Abbey is", the teacher then proceeded to say to my Daughter "Have you been crying your eyes out the past few day's then Abbey" to which she replied, "No sir, we were rubbish and deserve to go down" he then said "So what's your plans this weekend,are you going to throw yourself off the Tyne bridge" , She is 12 years of age, I am livid and just can't believe what he has actually said "

Is this real ???

If it is then report them.

Wot teacher surjests jumping of a bridge.

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

Totally out of order and very unprofessional!!!!

Children of your daughters age are still learning ways of life ( as we till we die ) and are very impressionable and look up to figure of responsibility for guidance !!!!

May of been taken at the time by her teach as banter , but things like that shouldn't be said that a 12 year old imo !

I'd suggest a meeting with the teacher concerned and inform him

Of your upset x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Totally out of order and very unprofessional!!!!

Children of your daughters age are still learning ways of life ( as we till we die ) and are very impressionable and look up to figure of responsibility for guidance !!!!

May of been taken at the time by her teach as banter , but things like that shouldn't be said that a 12 year old imo !

I'd suggest a meeting with the teacher concerned and inform him

Of your upset x "

If he has just been sacked, he will be able to teach elsewhere. This clearly contravenes his professional standards and he should be reported to his professional body immediately. You can do that yourself, it doesn't need to come from the head of the school.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Banter is joking around about the team's. No where and never is it acceptable for a teacher to joke about suicide. If one of the other kids said it, the onus is on him to intervene....if that ever happens now, the kid's won't take him seriously. This should not need to be explained to him! Idiot of a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally out of order and very unprofessional!!!!

Children of your daughters age are still learning ways of life ( as we till we die ) and are very impressionable and look up to figure of responsibility for guidance !!!!

May of been taken at the time by her teach as banter , but things like that shouldn't be said that a 12 year old imo !

I'd suggest a meeting with the teacher concerned and inform him

Of your upset x "

You wanna read all the thread?

Terrible behaviour for someone whom you're suppose to trust with your children.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

it was banter gone too far,admittedly. i could have taken that at 12 and so could all my kids and my friends..cmon people it was a mistake, not professional misconduct...they see worse things on TV news than this..kids are brought up too wussy these days imo...everything offends and upsets them..err yeah that's life..get over it..it was in context of a footie game and how rubbish the team was doing,as a joke. as rapport (however inappropriate his humour) he doesn't deserve the book thrown at him..ffs, she knows the guy..maybe shes suffering from hormonal sensitivity..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Talk about twisting things.

I think it was mindless for a teacher to say this but only the people on this thread have mentioned suicide. Not the teacher. ALSO........ he did say ARE you going to jump... so contrary to some posts here he did not suggest she did.

Still a bit foolish to joke with children though. Shame...... but the proof is above.

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in


"Totally out of order and very unprofessional!!!!

Children of your daughters age are still learning ways of life ( as we till we die ) and are very impressionable and look up to figure of responsibility for guidance !!!!

May of been taken at the time by her teach as banter , but things like that shouldn't be said that a 12 year old imo !

I'd suggest a meeting with the teacher concerned and inform him

Of your upset x

You wanna read all the thread?

Terrible behaviour for someone whom you're suppose to trust with your children."

guess I'm

Just like British rail , late as usual dohhhhhhh

Have read the whole thread now !!!

What a lovely teacher !!!! NOT !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally out of order and very unprofessional!!!!

Children of your daughters age are still learning ways of life ( as we till we die ) and are very impressionable and look up to figure of responsibility for guidance !!!!

May of been taken at the time by her teach as banter , but things like that shouldn't be said that a 12 year old imo !

I'd suggest a meeting with the teacher concerned and inform him

Of your upset x

You wanna read all the thread?

Terrible behaviour for someone whom you're suppose to trust with your children.

guess I'm

Just like British rail , late as usual dohhhhhhh

Have read the whole thread now !!!

What a lovely teacher !!!! NOT !!!! "

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