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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I seemed to have sent messages to all the women in my locality..without any response..(they were nice msgs too)..2 little or no response. What's left to do without seeming desperate or clingy?

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Start a new profile pretending to be someone else?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh. Beats me.

I know the feeling mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a cock picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just enjoy the forums .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I seemed to have sent messages to all the women in my locality..without any response..(they were nice msgs too)..2 little or no response. What's left to do without seeming desperate or clingy? "

Would you be willing to travel a little further or maybe visit a club? I can't see that there's much else you can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watch out for social events in the meets section, the people there will verify you making life easier on here, and you might even hot it off with one or more of them

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Give it up and just fuck about on here. Works for me

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Try another town ?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I have self censored this post in an effort to be a kinder and more humane forumite

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just enjoy the forums . "
I posted things earlier with zero zilch nien response even the forums hate me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shag the wife instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give it up and just fuck about on here. Works for me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really 3 months is not a long time to be here mate, Stick with it join on on other peoples posts and the Friday fun within the forums and you will get there.

Keep an eye out for socials also that are close to your area and get yourself known there.

Good luck stick with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Really 3 months is not a long time to be here mate, Stick with it join on on other peoples posts and the Friday fun within the forums and you will get there.

Keep an eye out for socials also that are close to your area and get yourself known there.

Good luck stick with it "

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Give it up and just fuck about on here. Works for me "

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

send a message saying you'll do anything to meet them. works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have several options (some less likely to land you in hot water than others)

Wank

A lot

Move

Send nicer messages

Send some 'orrible ones (some of 'em love a bastard)

Find out where they live and work

Follow them

Go gay

Enjoy the site for what it is

Wank more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shag the wife instead "

Send her over then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same boat mate, I couldn't be any nicer if I tried, I stick to the forums now. I'm not getting any hopes up

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Treat em mean

Other ways to treat the opposite sex are available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read a book and have a cup of tea.

I recommend The Shadow of the Wind.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

I am not expecting any replies until the collapse of the universe. In the mean time I'll just waste my fkin time like every one else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Create a fake profile, use a really attractive woman as the avatar, get some sap to verify you in return for a 'favour' then verify your real account, when all the women in the local area see that you've been verified by the hottest girl in town they'll be all over you.

It can't fail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some great ideas lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I only send 1 message every 3-5 days

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By *idseysCouple
over a year ago

redditch


"I seemed to have sent messages to all the women in my locality..without any response..(they were nice msgs too)..2 little or no response. What's left to do without seeming desperate or clingy? "

Some of us replied, some of us were willing to chat to see how we got along, after a few messages you decided to stop answering and removed us from friends... there's always two sides to every story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why have you messaged "every" woman local to you? Surely they cannot all be of interest to you. And I'm damn sure you would not be of interest to them! So why did you waste all that time and effort?

There was an interesting thread earlier today titled....why do I get so many meets? It was posted by (in his own words) a 45 year old, balding, going grey and running to middle aged spread, "average guy". Plenty success in a relatively short time.

So if you ask yourself the question "is it me?" Then the answer is obvious.

Is it your profile? Is it what you seek/offer that isn't compatible? Do you blanket bomb everyone with the same (even if polite) message?

The site works fine for very many of us. You cannot change the site.....but you can change yourself, your attitude and approach and the way you use the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are 300 single women on the site within 30 miles of you. they all rejected you?

admit it you copied and pasted fancy a fuck to them all didn't you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about expanding your search area.

Trying out a club / social / party.

Joining in the forums can be a way of striking up a conversation with others.

Good luck x

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Every woman probably means two at most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My deleted post has been hijacked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a few have said above....fanny about in the forums

Not much else for it unless you fancy trying socials/clubs.

Every now n again I'll do a profile search n message lasses that have recently joined that I like the look of....I rarely get a reply or if I do it usually ends up going nowhere.

It's all good though as every now n again a lass will make 1st contact with me....most of my best meets happen this way.

It boils down to this.....if you expect nothing you won't be disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start from the top again.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I've not sent a preemptive message for years, it's usually my inane ramblings on here that make a woman want to strike up a conversation with me for some strange reason

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Don't message people that you've messaged before, where they've not replied to you.

Most people who receive messages then visit the sender's profile - so put your attention there op.

Others also search for and view for people who are potentially compatible - again requiring the profile to be attractive.

I've not viewed ops profile so can't comment. Fine tune the text and make sure your photos show your physique as well as possible.

Visit clubs and socials so you're not 100% reliant on the internet.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Move north cause I know I have no problem pulling......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try the government relocation programme

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