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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Drives me fucking insane. Someone new pops on and everyone bombards them and then they go ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Drives me fucking insane. Someone new pops on and everyone bombards them and then they go ffs"
You never sent them a message then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did suggest that newbies couldn't be messaged until they'd been on the site for a few days and had worked out how to use the filters etc on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I didn't no. Same area as in same town then gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've all been newbies at some point & survived, it's really not that much of a big deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just rather off putting for some and this person was in the same crap area as me which never sees anyone join haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we set up our couples profile we got over 100 messages within the first 15 minutes

Knowing how the site works we went through them slowly and just deleting the ones that hadn't even read the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't no. Same area as in same town then gone "

How do you know they went because they was bombarded then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't no. Same area as in same town then gone "

how do you know what messages they are getting if you haven't mailed them and spoken

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

What do you suggest OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She actually messaged me x then said she was getting bombarded and was going. She said she messages me as in same area n realised same town

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fresh meat that's why OP

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Would you rather join a site/forum where you weren't messaged or welcomed ... and got the impression that it was very cliquey for newbies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She actually messaged me x then said she was getting bombarded and was going. She said she messages me as in same area n realised same town "
She does not seem very grown up...maybe the sites not for her ,did she create a profile to not gain attention then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Possibly couple x unlike u she probably not v hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My theory on the matter is fairly contentious I guess!

There are some incredibly attractive guys on here with fantastic bodies and great personalities - along with some very average ones.

As soon as a new female member comes along - well before she's uploaded her first picture - the average guys bombard her with sycophantic messages, hoping to get a meet in before the woman realises that, due to the ratios on here, and the way a guy's taste and discernment diminishes as his rampant horniness increases - even a woman considered very plain in the 'real' world can demand pretty much what she wants on here - and generally gets it! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wife kinda like the bombardments made her all horny I like that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibly couple x unlike u she probably not v hot "

oh well best she's gone then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The opposite to being bombarded is zero messages ~ I know which I would prefer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My theory on the matter is fairly contentious I guess!

There are some incredibly attractive guys on here with fantastic bodies and great personalities - along with some very average ones.

As soon as a new female member comes along - well before she's uploaded her first picture - the average guys bombard her with sycophantic messages, hoping to get a meet in before the woman realises that, due to the ratios on here, and the way a guy's taste and discernment diminishes as his rampant horniness increases - even a woman considered very plain in the 'real' world can demand pretty much what she wants on here - and generally gets it! X"

This

But no need to mention my attractiveness and great body etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My theory on the matter is fairly contentious I guess!

There are some incredibly attractive guys on here with fantastic bodies and great personalities - along with some very average ones.

As soon as a new female member comes along - well before she's uploaded her first picture - the average guys bombard her with sycophantic messages, hoping to get a meet in before the woman realises that, due to the ratios on here, and the way a guy's taste and discernment diminishes as his rampant horniness increases - even a woman considered very plain in the 'real' world can demand pretty much what she wants on here - and generally gets it! X"

That would imply that the attractive guys are part of the any holes a goal brigade aswell then

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I actually have newbies blocked. No interest to me as a rule. I introduced a friend to the site last week and had to friend request him (or I could have messaged) for him to contact me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rejoined back in April, I have never had more than 60 - 80 messages in the first few days of joining. This time though there was over 100, and I couldn't cope (that was with using the filters) so I deleted the lot, with the presumption that if the messagers were serious they would message back - some did some didn't, the ones who didn't, their loss lol....the ones who did were chatted to and either met for a social and went somewhere or went nowhere. That's how the site works, but I couldn't cope with answering 100 emails...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My theory on the matter is fairly contentious I guess!

There are some incredibly attractive guys on here with fantastic bodies and great personalities - along with some very average ones.

As soon as a new female member comes along - well before she's uploaded her first picture - the average guys bombard her with sycophantic messages, hoping to get a meet in before the woman realises that, due to the ratios on here, and the way a guy's taste and discernment diminishes as his rampant horniness increases - even a woman considered very plain in the 'real' world can demand pretty much what she wants on here - and generally gets it! X

That would imply that the attractive guys are part of the any holes a goal brigade aswell then "

Some of them - yep!

Having said that - one man's stunning could be another man's fugly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did suggest that newbies couldn't be messaged until they'd been on the site for a few days and had worked out how to use the filters etc on here."

that's a brilliant idea...it can be so overwhelming and shows the worst aspect of fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually have newbies blocked. No interest to me as a rule. I introduced a friend to the site last week and had to friend request him (or I could have messaged) for him to contact me.... "

I block newbies, non-verified, no-photos, non site supporters and anyone under 25 or over 40 who isn't an existing friend - and still have over 500 messages! I really wish you could filter by body type etc to get the numbers down further but you can't - so there's no way I'll read most of my messages - which makes me feel bad for the guys who send them! I'd hate to be a single guy on fab!! X

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"I actually have newbies blocked. No interest to me as a rule. I introduced a friend to the site last week and had to friend request him (or I could have messaged) for him to contact me....

I block newbies, non-verified, no-photos, non site supporters and anyone under 25 or over 40 who isn't an existing friend - and still have over 500 messages! I really wish you could filter by body type etc to get the numbers down further but you can't - so there's no way I'll read most of my messages - which makes me feel bad for the guys who send them! I'd hate to be a single guy on fab!! X"

I hear ya! It's not just newbies I have blocked - it's pretty much everything other than ladies I have blocked - and even they must be verified and have public pics

I still get a LOT of messages though as been on here years and didn't ever need filters when I had it as a couples profile

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Drives me fucking insane. Someone new pops on and everyone bombards them and then they go ffs"

Fancy, people messaging others. What's the site coming to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So,they have to wait a week and then bombard those poor women. Why not have an automatic filter on for all people and when you want to receive messages you take them off. The site sends you a message of explanation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually have newbies blocked. No interest to me as a rule. I introduced a friend to the site last week and had to friend request him (or I could have messaged) for him to contact me....

I block newbies, non-verified, no-photos, non site supporters and anyone under 25 or over 40 who isn't an existing friend - and still have over 500 messages! I really wish you could filter by body type etc to get the numbers down further but you can't - so there's no way I'll read most of my messages - which makes me feel bad for the guys who send them! I'd hate to be a single guy on fab!! X

I hear ya! It's not just newbies I have blocked - it's pretty much everything other than ladies I have blocked - and even they must be verified and have public pics

I still get a LOT of messages though as been on here years and didn't ever need filters when I had it as a couples profile "

We both get loads of messages because we have vaginas, are single, and tend to do well on hot photos! It's flattering but means more messages and harder to keep track of people you like! What I don't get are those who've pretty much turned being on page one into a career - posting new pics every few hours, every day! Must make it impossible to actually meet anyone as you can't keep track of any conversations! Xx

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"I actually have newbies blocked. No interest to me as a rule. I introduced a friend to the site last week and had to friend request him (or I could have messaged) for him to contact me....

I block newbies, non-verified, no-photos, non site supporters and anyone under 25 or over 40 who isn't an existing friend - and still have over 500 messages! I really wish you could filter by body type etc to get the numbers down further but you can't - so there's no way I'll read most of my messages - which makes me feel bad for the guys who send them! I'd hate to be a single guy on fab!! X

I hear ya! It's not just newbies I have blocked - it's pretty much everything other than ladies I have blocked - and even they must be verified and have public pics

I still get a LOT of messages though as been on here years and didn't ever need filters when I had it as a couples profile

We both get loads of messages because we have vaginas, are single, and tend to do well on hot photos! It's flattering but means more messages and harder to keep track of people you like! What I don't get are those who've pretty much turned being on page one into a career - posting new pics every few hours, every day! Must make it impossible to actually meet anyone as you can't keep track of any conversations! Xx"

That's why I have so many filtered out and a slightly worn out block button I have started making very good use of the personal notes on profiles too - I just wish in some ways that people couldn't hide their profile when they look at you so I could block the stalker types too

Good luck to newbies though, anyone not aware of what happens to single ladies must get one hell of a shock!!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"She actually messaged me x then said she was getting bombarded and was going. She said she messages me as in same area n realised same town "

So. she messaged you, before you could reply to her first message a second came through ... Her plea for help , you didn't have time to reply suggesting use your filters block single guys ages ., like capt Kirk would have done..get the shields up Mr sulu.. and then she was unlos..

Either way the majority of new profiles I see are folk who have found the filters and applied them, or are folk returning to the site and according to the profile blurb, 'we know how this works'..

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