FabSwingers.com forum: The hate virus

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I remember once when I worked in insurance (it was fucking horrible), I remember someone in client relations telling me that if someone has a positive experience, they'll tell 3 people about it, and if they have a negative experience, they'll tell 10.

This got me thinking that if true, then negativity spreads further and faster than positivity, and it got me wondering, could this be why we have so many problems in the world, because we're too quick to judge each other simply upon what we've heard, rather than what we've experienced for ourselves?

Sure, you could say 'this person is a twat', but did you actually experience that for yourself? - or did you simply hear it from one person, maybe two, three? How many of THOSE people personally experienced this persons unpleasantness, or did they simply hear it enough times to assume it must be true, taking it at face value, rather than investigating for themselves in order to make a more informed opinion?

Perhaps they don't personally know the supposedly guilty individual, and trust the person who told them - how well do you know that person though? Just to complicate things further, how well do you know YOURSELF, who directly had a negative encounter with this 'twat', but failed to realise that it was in fact your own unpleasantness toward them which provoked them to be the same toward you? Are you big enough, do you have the character enough to admit that you were wrong, and actively, sincerely apologise to them?

What I'm saying is, are we simply too quick to judge one another, thus allowing this 'hate virus' to spread so quickly and freely, when patience and understanding could not only stop it, but actually replace it with a spread of love and respect?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh, and don't take MY word for it that insurance is an unpleasant area to work in, investigate for yourself and see if it's right for YOU, I may just have been a crappy employee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who is saying it but usually I wouldn't take anyone's opinion on whether I'd like an individual because it's usually the people that nobody else likes that I get on best with. Lots and lots of people would say my best friend is a nasty bonkers bitch but they'd also say the same about me! If however my best friend said someone was a cunt I'd be more inclined to believe it.

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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Oh, and don't take MY word for it that insurance is an unpleasant area to work in, investigate for yourself and see if it's right for YOU, I may just have been a crappy employee

In the heyday of the insurance 'industry', when every bugger and his dog were being recruited we were referred to as a 'Thug in a suit'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility.

For instance I have a relative who's in every way, a lovely person except he has a well I wouldn't call it hatred maybe a severe dislike for gay people, however I also have a cousin who's gay and married as a gay couple, now family get togethers can always be tricky but to be fair there both antagonists to the situation, however they both remain civility in close quarters and have done for about 20 years.

As somebody pointed out to my aunty at the start... You don't have to approve but you do have to be nice.

Personally I never pass on negativity in general conversation unless the conversation is about the negativity

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility."

I wasn't aware it had already that name, I thought I made it up? Interesting.

" I have a relative who's in every way, a lovely person except he has a well I wouldn't call it hatred maybe a severe dislike for gay people, however I also have a cousin who's gay and married as a gay couple, now family get togethers can always be tricky but to be fair there both antagonists to the situation, however they both remain civility in close quarters and have done for about 20 years."

Does this relative have an actual REASON why they dislike gay people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The expression 'Hate Virus' is new to me, put I totally get what you are saying.

It makes me think of burn-out, compassion fatigue, and victim blaming as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The expression 'Hate Virus' is new to me, put I totally get what you are saying.

It makes me think of burn-out, compassion fatigue, and victim blaming as well."

Thankyou, I'm glad you understand what I'm saying, though I'm actually quite sad that this thread is getting so little response, I feel it's one of my better ones with an important message.

...a bit more philosophical than my lovely penis one anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read two lines of this thread and slashed my wrists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility.

I wasn't aware it had already that name, I thought I made it up? Interesting.

I have a relative who's in every way, a lovely person except he has a well I wouldn't call it hatred maybe a severe dislike for gay people, however I also have a cousin who's gay and married as a gay couple, now family get togethers can always be tricky but to be fair there both antagonists to the situation, however they both remain civility in close quarters and have done for about 20 years.

Does this relative have an actual REASON why they dislike gay people?"
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Yeah she's a devout Catholic

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I read two lines of this thread and slashed my wrists

"These cows are very small - those cows are far away..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read two lines of this thread and slashed my wrists

"These cows are very small - those cows are far away...""
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I'm still scared Ted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read two lines of this thread and slashed my wrists

"These cows are very small - those cows are far away...""

Obviously a highly intelligent reply ......wtf

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility.

I wasn't aware it had already that name, I thought I made it up? Interesting.

Does this relative have an actual REASON why they dislike gay people?.

Yeah she's a devout Catholic"

Ah, another debate altogether!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Unless your one of those fortunate people who concentrate on the positives rather than the negatives. Why concentrate on the negatives when its more fun to concentrate on the positives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless your one of those fortunate people who concentrate on the positives rather than the negatives. Why concentrate on the negatives when its more fun to concentrate on the positives"

Sometimes its good to be negative about the positives but positive about the negatives ...im positively sure of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility.

I wasn't aware it had already that name, I thought I made it up? Interesting.

Does this relative have an actual REASON why they dislike gay people?.

Yeah she's a devout Catholic

Ah, another debate altogether!"
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Does it make a difference?.

If somebody hates gerkin having never even tasted it, is that somehow better than somebody who just doesn't like the taste of it?.

I dunno myself, I don't think you'll ever condition everybody's thoughts the same, which was my point about staying civil despite of your seemingly irrational thoughts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility.

I wasn't aware it had already that name, I thought I made it up? Interesting.

Does this relative have an actual REASON why they dislike gay people?.

Yeah she's a devout Catholic

Ah, another debate altogether!.

Does it make a difference?.

If somebody hates gerkin having never even tasted it, is that somehow better than somebody who just doesn't like the taste of it?."

To the best of my knowledge no one has ever persecuted a Gerkin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility.

I wasn't aware it had already that name, I thought I made it up? Interesting.

Does this relative have an actual REASON why they dislike gay people?.

Yeah she's a devout Catholic

Ah, another debate altogether!.

Does it make a difference?.

If somebody hates gerkin having never even tasted it, is that somehow better than somebody who just doesn't like the taste of it?.

To the best of my knowledge no one has ever persecuted a Gerkin."
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That was my point about civility in the face of irrationality!.

It is possible to hold ridiculously stupid irrational hatred of stuff and not be a cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said this before, you'll never get everybody in a country to agree about stuff despite your own seemingly overwhelmingly sensible pragmatic views...

The mark of a civilised country is NOT getting everybody to agree with your stance but getting everybody to get along without descending into chaos.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"What I'm saying is, are we simply too quick to judge one another...?"

Damn right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility.

I wasn't aware it had already that name, I thought I made it up? Interesting.

Does this relative have an actual REASON why they dislike gay people?.

Yeah she's a devout Catholic

Ah, another debate altogether!.

Does it make a difference?.

If somebody hates gerkin having never even tasted it, is that somehow better than somebody who just doesn't like the taste of it?.

To the best of my knowledge no one has ever persecuted a Gerkin..

That was my point about civility in the face of irrationality!."

I gather you yourself are not religious?

Your gay cousin sounds like a person of strong character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility.

I wasn't aware it had already that name, I thought I made it up? Interesting.

Does this relative have an actual REASON why they dislike gay people?.

Yeah she's a devout Catholic

Ah, another debate altogether!.

Does it make a difference?.

If somebody hates gerkin having never even tasted it, is that somehow better than somebody who just doesn't like the taste of it?.

To the best of my knowledge no one has ever persecuted a Gerkin..

That was my point about civility in the face of irrationality!.

I gather you yourself are not religious?

Your gay cousin sounds like a person of strong character.

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I'm not religious but I could be described as spiritual.... Mostly whiskey

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility.

I wasn't aware it had already that name, I thought I made it up? Interesting.

Does this relative have an actual REASON why they dislike gay people?.

Yeah she's a devout Catholic

Ah, another debate altogether!.

Does it make a difference?.

If somebody hates gerkin having never even tasted it, is that somehow better than somebody who just doesn't like the taste of it?.

To the best of my knowledge no one has ever persecuted a Gerkin..

That was my point about civility in the face of irrationality!.

I gather you yourself are not religious?

Your gay cousin sounds like a person of strong character.

I'm not religious but I could be described as spiritual.... Mostly whiskey

Amen brother, the drink of the tasteful boozer!

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Unless your one of those fortunate people who concentrate on the positives rather than the negatives. Why concentrate on the negatives when its more fun to concentrate on the positives

Sometimes its good to be negative about the positives but positive about the negatives ...im positively sure of this."

I hope your not an electrician......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really have a problem with the "hate virus" ,I think it generally gets tagged as a modern problem, where the actual problem is a lack of civility.

I wasn't aware it had already that name, I thought I made it up? Interesting.

Does this relative have an actual REASON why they dislike gay people?.

Yeah she's a devout Catholic

Ah, another debate altogether!.

Does it make a difference?.

If somebody hates gerkin having never even tasted it, is that somehow better than somebody who just doesn't like the taste of it?.

To the best of my knowledge no one has ever persecuted a Gerkin..

That was my point about civility in the face of irrationality!.

I gather you yourself are not religious?

Your gay cousin sounds like a person of strong character.

I'm not religious but I could be described as spiritual.... Mostly whiskey

Amen brother, the drink of the tasteful boozer!"
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I prefer Irish but then I am Irish so I might be biased

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You know perhaps I should take my cock pics down when talking about subjects like this, it's hard to take a talking penis seriously.

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