FabSwingers.com forum: Seen as an object

By *edallion OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

I wonder how many guys on here have been seen as an object in the past.

So I had this couple in Manchester message me yesterday asking for pictures like I owe them one (before even sending theirs or trying to know if I'm sane through a conversation) and then proceeded to tell me about a guy they met who claimed to be 6"4 and 10" long only for him to be about 5"7 and 6" long which got her furious blah blah blah.

I tried to see the humour in it and wished them better luck next time. They proceeded to ask me how long I was (and by this time I knew I wouldn't be meeting them because of their approach) which I replied to not quite the 9" you're after but I like the other side of swinging as well which includes the flirting, not knowing how sexy the meet will be, and the imaginative sex. I also made it clear then that I'm not interested as I've been objectified because they didn't even ask for my name but straight to how long are you which I don't find sexy from anyone(well except Beyoncé lol).

I then got one of the most ridiculous replies saying 'well expect to be objectified if you say you're BBC' which I never said to them and sure I didn't add it anywhere in my profile (didn't even have to go cross check).

My questions now are how many people just assume rubbish on here or think people should read their profile but then don't read others? Has this happened to you in the past (Both male and female and what did you think of it)?

One more thing, if you have a similar mentality, please don't message me (block my black ass) or better still show yourself on here so you can join this couple in the block list.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

That's all we are to the women on here, pieces of meat for women's pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Number One Chap regularly accuses me of objectifying him.

I do.

He loves it.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

As if men never objectify women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guilty too. Just look pretty for me. Oh. And lose the pants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder how many guys on here have been seen as an object in the past.

One more thing, if you have a similar mentality, please don't message me (block my black ass) or better still show yourself on here so you can join this couple in the block list.

I gave up reading that at the point I found myself wondering why you were engaging on conversation with someone you clearly didnt even like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sick of being treated like a piece of meat, I have feelings too you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its the nature of sites such as this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tina will be along soon with claims forms for you.

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By *edallion OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"That's all we are to the women on here, pieces of meat for women's pleasure

Sometimes it's okay to have self respect and write make your own rules as well. See it as they want you same way as you want them.

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By *edallion OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"I wonder how many guys on here have been seen as an object in the past.

One more thing, if you have a similar mentality, please don't message me (block my black ass) or better still show yourself on here so you can join this couple in the block list.

I gave up reading that at the point I found myself wondering why you were engaging on conversation with someone you clearly didnt even like"

I was replying because I'm not that stuck up to stop replying even if I know I won't meet. It doesn't have to be sex everyday every time. Sometimes it's good to see how people reason and I obviously blocked them after they said don't call your self BBC and expect not to be objectified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you may well be just a piece of meat but your a dam fine piece of meat that id love to sink my teeth into. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the exact same experience with a couple, felt like I owed them something. Needless to say, I wanted nothing to do with them

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm Tina Titz and objectively available for weddings, birthdays and polling days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often objectified. Doesn't bother me. If I'm someone's fumble material so be it.

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

"I'm Tina Titz and objectively available for weddings, birthdays and polling days

Not Barmitzvah's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't this supposed to uncomplicated fun ?

any way most men on here would love to be some woman's piece of meat so what's all the bitching about ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder how many guys on here have been seen as an object in the past.

One more thing, if you have a similar mentality, please don't message me (block my black ass) or better still show yourself on here so you can join this couple in the block list.

I gave up reading that at the point I found myself wondering why you were engaging on conversation with someone you clearly didnt even like

In fairness they do have a point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder how many guys on here have been seen as an object in the past.

One more thing, if you have a similar mentality, please don't message me (block my black ass) or better still show yourself on here so you can join this couple in the block list.

I gave up reading that at the point I found myself wondering why you were engaging on conversation with someone you clearly didnt even like

Each to their own, and while i agree it doesn't have to be about sex, I still can't see why anyone would engage in conversation with someone who's messages they so clearly object to. Or why you'd be surprised that further messages only angered you more?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"I'm Tina Titz and objectively available for weddings, birthdays and polling days

Not Barmitzvah's

Not since last time. Jackboots aren't appropriate, apparently, but I felt they nicely complimented my skirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies.

Just to be clear. I have no objection to you using me as an object

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"Op you may well be just a piece of meat but your a dam fine piece of meat that id love to sink my teeth into. Xxx

It's pms like this that I object to the most

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I wonder how many guys on here have been seen as an object in the past.

One more thing, if you have a similar mentality, please don't message me (block my black ass) or better still show yourself on here so you can join this couple in the block list.

I gave up reading that at the point I found myself wondering why you were engaging on conversation with someone you clearly didnt even like

Perhaps it's a slow day and he wanted to see how it panned out. I sometimes do that. I know I'm not gonna meet them but I like it when they dig a hole and then furiously try to back fill it.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I'm sure it's not nice at all,I know why we're all on here,but it would be good to be valued a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder how many guys on here have been seen as an object in the past.

One more thing, if you have a similar mentality, please don't message me (block my black ass) or better still show yourself on here so you can join this couple in the block list.

I gave up reading that at the point I found myself wondering why you were engaging on conversation with someone you clearly didnt even like

Conversation and to see what other wonders they will come out with. I'm here for my entertainment and sometimes it's entertaining. Also,it may help the people who are talking to me to change their approach-not that I assume everyone likes the same approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op you may well be just a piece of meat but your a dam fine piece of meat that id love to sink my teeth into. Xxx

It's pms like this that I object to the most "

It's a sex site,what do you expect flaunting your hat all over the place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all sex objects , and on occasion we tick someone else's boxes and they tick ours .

When this happens the fun begins

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By *ay BrowerMan
over a year ago

Oldham

I would try and forget about it OP.

No use getting upset over a few messages from total strangers who you haven't or are likely to meet or develop a relationship with.

It's not the end of the world is it?

Just man up!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get plenty of women complaining about how men message us as pieces of meat so I don't know why some people aren't empathetic to this guy. Yes it's a sex site but there's still a lot to be said for manners and the slow burn of getting to know somebody. Clubs have their place for immediate sex but I think many men and women like getting to know each other first.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Men are just giant sex toys on here an in clubs the women hold all the power just accept it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men are just giant sex toys on here an in clubs the women hold all the power just accept it."

They aren't all giant

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

due to some peoples perception that this is a 'sex site' and shouldnt be used for anything else..you are deemed to have made the choice that you are emotionally unavailable and therefore can be used in any manner you consent to.

as a single man or woman, who i have been told by some as not true swingers, we apparently have the capacity of being an 'accessory' only.

some like being used as a plaything/ fuck toy.. and some dont.

attitudes vary OP, not everyone objectifies on here and some use objectification as a defence of their own emotions and their situation.

whereas i have played with lovely couples who have wanted an equal three way dynamic, the fact is you are the one that enters and leaves their world. feeling empty after an experience is common i do believe, for both men and women.

do what you want to do and dont do anything for other people if you dont want to experience it for yourself.

its this tenacity that allows you to have a continued good time on the scene and feel you are experiencing something worthwhile, if this fades take a break...most people do this, i know i have.

like all interactions some are great and some are not so. but dont let the few that have entitlement, ruin the whole thing, just learn to be more discerning in future xx hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion NSA sex is pretty much based on objectification. You want something, you find that something, you want to fuck it, and that's it.

That's ok so long as you both understand each other and want the same thing, but a lot of people can't do this tactfully without leaving the other person feeling like they are nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion NSA sex is pretty much based on objectification. You want something, you find that something, you want to fuck it, and that's it.

That's ok so long as you both understand each other and want the same thing, but a lot of people can't do this tactfully without leaving the other person feeling like they are nothing."

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I used to be a sex object... When I asked the ex if she wanted sex she objected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men have feelings?!? Wowzers. School day.....

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Men have feelings?!? Wowzers. School day.....

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yes we do .. Get yer tits out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Number One Chap regularly accuses me of objectifying him.

I do.

He loves it.

Schuuuuwing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We get plenty of women complaining about how men message us as pieces of meat so I don't know why some people aren't empathetic to this guy. Yes it's a sex site but there's still a lot to be said for manners and the slow burn of getting to know somebody. Clubs have their place for immediate sex but I think many men and women like getting to know each other first."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion NSA sex is pretty much based on objectification. You want something, you find that something, you want to fuck it, and that's it.

That's ok so long as you both understand each other and want the same thing, but a lot of people can't do this tactfully without leaving the other person feeling like they are nothing."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure it's not nice at all,I know why we're all on here,but it would be good to be valued a little."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"due to some peoples perception that this is a 'sex site' and shouldnt be used for anything else..you are deemed to have made the choice that you are emotionally unavailable and therefore can be used in any manner you consent to.

as a single man or woman, who i have been told by some as not true swingers, we apparently have the capacity of being an 'accessory' only.

some like being used as a plaything/ fuck toy.. and some dont.

attitudes vary OP, not everyone objectifies on here and some use objectification as a defence of their own emotions and their situation.

do what you want to do and dont do anything for other people if you dont want to experience it for yourself.

its this tenacity that allows you to have a continued good time on the scene and feel you are experiencing something worthwhile, if this fades take a break...most people do this, i know i have.

like all interactions some are great and some are not so. but dont let the few that have entitlement, ruin the whole thing, just learn to be more discerning in future xx hugs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men have feelings?!? Wowzers. School day.....

yes we do .. Get yer tits out

Hahaha new profile pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think the messages he received were acceptable, had the post ended after he received the second messafe my response would have probably reflected that more than my earlier post did.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Just under nine inch? Great advertising OP. The subtlety will fool most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure it's only like how all other profile types get messages, but some messages from couples and women are just a little egocentric

It's the nature of the site, I just view it as another type of approach really!

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Just under nine inch? Great advertising OP. The subtlety will fool most.

You're only as good as your own hype!

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By *edallion OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"I wonder how many guys on here have been seen as an object in the past.

One more thing, if you have a similar mentality, please don't message me (block my black ass) or better still show yourself on here so you can join this couple in the block list.

I gave up reading that at the point I found myself wondering why you were engaging on conversation with someone you clearly didnt even like

In fairness they do have a point "

Of course you wouldn't see where I said I didn't call myself BBC in any message to them nor in my profile because you probably think like they do.

And would you meet me if I text you saying I've just met this woman with a rather wide fanny and have you got a thight fanny for me to explore? I bet you'll be jumping on the opportunity because it's uncomplicated fun. SMH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the ladies to understand, it's the same if I were just to message and say "how big are your tits" or "how big is your ass". No introduction, no friendliness. Don't think you'd appreciate it very much. That's what this post is about

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By *edallion OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"We are all sex objects , and on occasion we tick someone else's boxes and they tick ours .

When this happens the fun begins

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By *edallion OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"We are all sex objects , and on occasion we tick someone else's boxes and they tick ours .

When this happens the fun begins

Sorry, but that's your own opinion not others.

How do you know if you tick my boxes without having a neutral conversation?? Because in this case you're a woman and I desperately need you? No darling, I don't meet everyone who claims black only and I'm sure there're other guys who see it like this and I know a few.

Good luck, but just know you shouldn't assume Mr. A and Mr. B wants you because you might be kidding yourself

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By *edallion OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"Men have feelings?!? Wowzers. School day.....

No one is talking about feelings here. I just asked if some people are that delusional to think everyone wants them because they'll be with anyone that looks like what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion NSA sex is pretty much based on objectification. You want something, you find that something, you want to fuck it, and that's it.

That's ok so long as you both understand each other and want the same thing, but a lot of people can't do this tactfully without leaving the other person feeling like they are nothing."

Completely agree with this. Though sometimes it can turn into them actually realising you are a human being once they get to know you... Shocking I know!

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By *edallion OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"Number One Chap regularly accuses me of objectifying him.

I do.

He loves it.

I also have a few who I play around with like this but it's just stupid for a total stranger to think you're their object. I know some who were very polite and shy in the beginning but now we do dirty talks when we meet. At least I knew they're sane and not some wierdos and I'm happy to meet them again and again.

Would you fuck a random guy who comes to you and says oi, how juicy is your pussy? I know some will but not everyone is desperate and willing to be made feel like a toy.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I get where you're coming from OP but I would have ignored them after the first message.

Now if you were a woman complaining about being treated like a free prostitute, you'd be drowning in sympathy by now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a fuck site ,,what do you expect,,ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its a fuck site ,,what do you expect,,ffs"

Show us yer tits then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its a fuck site ,,what do you expect,,ffs

Show us yer tits then

yea ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op you may well be just a piece of meat but your a dam fine piece of meat that id love to sink my teeth into. Xxx

It's pms like this that I object to the most "

Well once I've sunk my teeth into a lovely piece of meat I suppose I will have to brush my teeth....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Being a woman on here is basically the definition of being objectified. You only have to read some of the forum posts to see that there are a lot of men who believe that the women here are sat in lingerie just waiting to service one guy or another. I know some of the guys I meet are astounded that I might have *gasp* a social life and not be able to meet at a moments notice.

I can quite understand however that there are people out there who also objectify men, because they believe that there are so many they can be rude to them and move on to the next if they don't get a result.

The best things to cultivate on here are a thick skin and a sense of humour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I happen to quite like being objectified. I'm just a whore

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i think this thread would have been a whole ton different if it had been started by a woman.....

but i do actually get what the OP means...

my general response would have been, "i can see by your questioning you haven't read my profile... so i wish you luck finding what you are after"..... and left it there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *edallion OP Man
over a year ago

manchester

"For the ladies to understand, it's the same if I were just to message and say "how big are your tits" or "how big is your ass". No introduction, no friendliness. Don't think you'd appreciate it very much. That's what this post is about "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Often objectified. Doesn't bother me. If I'm someone's fumble material so be it. "

Guys take a look at Myth and Legends' profile. It's very well written, this is how you show yourself off creatively and get peoples attention. They are hot as hell and sound really nice people. Ding WINNER!!!

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"Op you may well be just a piece of meat but your a dam fine piece of meat that id love to sink my teeth into. Xxx

It's pms like this that I object to the most

It's a sex site,what do you expect flaunting your hat all over the place

I object to my hat being objectified for someone else's titilation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I happen to quite like being objectified. I'm just a whore

Good man. Lose the towel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. If women can be offended when they are objectified, so can men be. I think just being on this site as a female, 8 out of 10 messages are basically someone saying what they want to do to you (in explicit detail). Asking you to suck their cock, or saying they would love to come over and lick your pussy.... The list is endless to be fair. So I don't really get offended anymore. I've become desensitized, and just ignore. What I'm trying to say OP, is try not to take it personally. There are a lot of men and women on here, who can be decent, and treat you with the respect you deserve... Ignore the ones who openly objectify you... Delete and block, and give them no further thought... They don't deserve a moment of your time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I happen to quite like being objectified. I'm just a whore

Good man. Lose the towel. "

Wouldn't you rather keep the rest to your imagination?

Well not yours but the others any way...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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