FabSwingers.com forum: Married or Single

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies, I am curious....

Do you go for married guys who are not looking for a relationship when wanting no strings or Single guys who might want be more clingy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single non clingy guys.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its funny op NEVER from this site but during my life i had far more problems with married men than single men.

I go for guys that just want the same as me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single guys every time.

i get the feeling i've unintentionally met a lot of married/attached guys off here though.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Single every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single.

Married men are never free when I am.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Single (hopefully)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"single guys every time.

i get the feeling i've unintentionally met a lot of married/attached guys off here though. "

You won't be alone I'm sure with that comment.

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

south

"Single.

Married men are never free when I am. "

now that's not true!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single for many reasons. I don't wish to play with someone else's partner and possibly be responsible for a break up, way too much hassle. This is supposed to be no strings, to me, being married is a massive string! For me, its morally wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men who don't do relationships usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find meeting single men far easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well when I was single I loved myself a married man (I know it's awful but we all have our tastes), I wasn't one of the ladies that wanted to not know, I'd prefer they told me (for some reason they seemed sexier!) but I'd like to point out at this stage, although I fancied them and we had a bit of banter back and forth, I only ever met with them for socials.

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't go for whether they are married or single ~ I meet men I find attractive.

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

south

"I don't go for whether they are married or single ~ I meet men I find attractive."

well at least your honest, unlike some who just make them selves look foolish by saying they don't...when if you read the threads , like some do and post often....most know who the married mr's.are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't go for whether they are married or single ~ I meet men I find attractive.

well at least your honest, unlike some who just make them selves look foolish by saying they don't...when if you read the threads , like some do and post often....most know who the married mr's.are!"

I've learnt over the years what people say in the forums & what they actually do in private can be very different

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Ladies, I am curious....

Do you go for married guys who are not looking for a relationship when wanting no strings or Single guys who might want be more clingy?

Then I'd course there's the married guys who aren't happy in their relationships so are looking for a way out and get very clingy, very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just go for guys that I'm into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never knowingly seek out a married man but at the end of the day if there was an attraction it would be rude not to

And let's face it .... There are plenty of married men on here who don't state whether they are or not so you wouldn't always know anyway unless they told you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*waits for the inevitable line to be doled out....

"It's called Fab Swingers not Fab Cheaters"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't knowingly seek out anyone that's married and playing solo, but there are no flashing neon signs above their heads, especially in a club situation

In other words, there are fifty shades of grey in all relationships (other colours are available)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh loads of you have probably been with married guys but just aren't aware.

Either way it doesn't bother me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't go for whether they are married or single ~ I meet men I find attractive."

Exactly this I don't judge or want to be judged on my private life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of the guys we've met through our couple profile we later found that all but one of the 'single' guys were married. The other was probably married too but we didn't find out.

All the people replying 'single' here are the reason men lie.

Same level of trust:

1. I'm single.

2. I'm married with permission.

Yet people choose to believe (1) more than they believe (2), yet it's far more likely they are lying. Quite funny really when you think about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single non clingy men or married with permission.

The cheaters are a nightmare on so many levels.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I'm amazed at the high proportion some people quote, but I ask blunt questions, and as I look for guys who can meet regularly in their own bachelor pads I can be quite sure they are single!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm amazed at the high proportion some people quote, but I ask blunt questions, and as I look for guys who can meet regularly in their own bachelor pads I can be quite sure they are single!

I've caught out so many guys by saying "I'm married, are you married or got a girlfriend?". So they all admit to it, thinking I'm ok with it.

Even in a normal vanilla nightclub, I've pulled five guys on five consecutive weekends. Got snogs off all and all asking to leave with me. All confessed to girlfriends when I said I was married.

(And none who had girlfriends who knew they were playing with others.)

I'm so glad I'm not single, it's a nightmare out there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm amazed at the high proportion some people quote, but I ask blunt questions, and as I look for guys who can meet regularly in their own bachelor pads I can be quite sure they are single!

I've caught out so many guys by saying "I'm married, are you married or got a girlfriend?". So they all admit to it, thinking I'm ok with it.

Even in a normal vanilla nightclub, I've pulled five guys on five consecutive weekends. Got snogs off all and all asking to leave with me. All confessed to girlfriends when I said I was married.

(And none who had girlfriends who knew they were playing with others.)

I'm so glad I'm not single, it's a nightmare out there! "

This is exactly why as couples and as singles neither of us judge the person in front of us. You either need to play Sherlock Holmes, or accept the person in front of you based on whether you fancy them or not. Much easier to not judge or wonder why and just play.

Some women are on here looking for a relationship and masking it as swinging, and I'd definitely want to avoid those, so I'm very happy to skip by the 'no married men' brigade.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Definately single for me.Miss

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I think it's irrelevant as anyone can say anything on here.

If I was looking for meets my criteria is about finding mutual attraction and a bit of a spark. Even when it's NSA that's important and I'm too fussy to not care.

The next part is that I would prefer them to accommodate which I guess does rule out attached men in general but not always when hotels are so often frequented.

While I never ever want to be the other woman again (I've still got the scars) I don't think that's really likely to be the case for most on here anyway.

And I should also point out that it's not just married men who play alone without partners knowledge and it's not my or anyone else's place to judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single.

Married men are never free when I am.

now that's not true!!!!!"

Some of us single guys have commitments too so aren't always available. . Eg. I have my kids at my place once a week and some weekends and they always take priority over any meets...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Fuck knows the lines can be jaded at times I prefer singles though

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'm amazed at the high proportion some people quote, but I ask blunt questions, and as I look for guys who can meet regularly in their own bachelor pads I can be quite sure they are single!

I've caught out so many guys by saying "I'm married, are you married or got a girlfriend?". So they all admit to it, thinking I'm ok with it.

Even in a normal vanilla nightclub, I've pulled five guys on five consecutive weekends. Got snogs off all and all asking to leave with me. All confessed to girlfriends when I said I was married.

(And none who had girlfriends who knew they were playing with others.)

I'm so glad I'm not single, it's a nightmare out there!

Some women are on here looking for a relationship and masking it as swinging, and I'd definitely want to avoid those, so I'm very happy to skip by the 'no married men' brigade. "

Some women are on here and open and honest about wanting a relationship I don't mask my wants as swinging I mask my wants at being a kinky fucket who wants a bit more than a shag, however I'm open with the guys I meet and then it's down to them. I take everything that is said on here with a pinch of salt and do not listen to promises. My point is along as everything is open and honest people can make choices. It's the sneaky people or those who are not honest that do my head it....however I must say I've had far more issues with single females on here than single men hence why I don't do verifications it's no fuckers business who I meet and I can't be dealing with nosey people.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm amazed at the high proportion some people quote, but I ask blunt questions, and as I look for guys who can meet regularly in their own bachelor pads I can be quite sure they are single!

I've caught out so many guys by saying "I'm married, are you married or got a girlfriend?". So they all admit to it, thinking I'm ok with it.

Even in a normal vanilla nightclub, I've pulled five guys on five consecutive weekends. Got snogs off all and all asking to leave with me. All confessed to girlfriends when I said I was married.

(And none who had girlfriends who knew they were playing with others.)

I'm so glad I'm not single, it's a nightmare out there!

Some women are on here looking for a relationship and masking it as swinging, and I'd definitely want to avoid those, so I'm very happy to skip by the 'no married men' brigade. "

Yea but neither of you judge the person in front of you

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'm amazed at the high proportion some people quote, but I ask blunt questions, and as I look for guys who can meet regularly in their own bachelor pads I can be quite sure they are single!

I've caught out so many guys by saying "I'm married, are you married or got a girlfriend?". So they all admit to it, thinking I'm ok with it.

Even in a normal vanilla nightclub, I've pulled five guys on five consecutive weekends. Got snogs off all and all asking to leave with me. All confessed to girlfriends when I said I was married.

(And none who had girlfriends who knew they were playing with others.)

I'm so glad I'm not single, it's a nightmare out there!

Some women are on here looking for a relationship and masking it as swinging, and I'd definitely want to avoid those, so I'm very happy to skip by the 'no married men' brigade.

Yea but neither of you judge the person in front of you

Touché

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you get many "clingy" men?

I know there are plenty clingy women...I've come across a few...particularly the younger ones for some reason!

I still prefer single ladies but have been with a few who are married...but generally with hubbies permission.

At the end of the day you do rely on a certain level of honesty from the other party...and most married guys profiles tend to be quite obvious, so I reckon most women with a few brain cells can spot them anyway, and then make their own choice.

(I am genuinely single btw....)

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

It's a sad sad world...

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

Before I was on the scene and single, married women wasn't a problem.

Because I could always give them back.

But now on the scene and single, I wouldn't knowingly go with a married woman.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Do you get many "clingy" men?

I know there are plenty clingy women...I've come across a few...particularly the younger ones for some reason!

I still prefer single ladies but have been with a few who are married...but generally with hubbies permission.

(I am genuinely single btw....)"

Yes you certainly do get clingy men,I used to think this was more a female trait until I joined here,well that's what we're lead to believe isn't it!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Ladies, I am curious....

Do you go for married guys who are not looking for a relationship when wanting no strings or Single guys who might want be more clingy?

Are they the only options?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do you get many "clingy" men?

I know there are plenty clingy women...I've come across a few...particularly the younger ones for some reason!

I still prefer single ladies but have been with a few who are married...but generally with hubbies permission.

(I am genuinely single btw....)"

Outside of fab my experiences are that men can get very clingy, I don't think it's a gender attribute but a personality trait. On fab it doesn't happen but th st might be because we're a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that women or couples shout consider that a guy married or attached is much more likely to be clean (sti) free were singles may not be so carefull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea but neither of you judge the person in front of you

By definition they're not in front of us lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think that women or couples shout consider that a guy married or attached is much more likely to be clean (sti) free were singles may not be so carefull "

We never consider anybody is more likely to be free of sti , that's not a sensible way to look at things.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I think that women or couples shout consider that a guy married or attached is much more likely to be clean (sti) free were singles may not be so carefull "

Nar,I don't buy that one bit as I'm sure others don't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Anyway, we try not to meet married men who play as a single whether their partner knows or not. It isn't any more judgemental than any of the other choices we make and its our decision the reasons for which which we give no explanation to anyone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think that women or couples shout consider that a guy married or attached is much more likely to be clean (sti) free were singles may not be so carefull

Nar,I don't buy that one bit as I'm sure others don't."

We have been amazed by the number of single men who think that as a couple we will be automatically free from STI.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh it depends on the guy

theres pluses and minuses with both married and single guys

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I think that women or couples shout consider that a guy married or attached is much more likely to be clean (sti) free were singles may not be so carefull

Nar,I don't buy that one bit as I'm sure others don't.

We have been amazed by the number of single men who think that as a couple we will be automatically free from STI.

Interesting,I wonder why that is?!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think that women or couples shout consider that a guy married or attached is much more likely to be clean (sti) free were singles may not be so carefull

Nar,I don't buy that one bit as I'm sure others don't.

We have been amazed by the number of single men who think that as a couple we will be automatically free from STI.

Interesting,I wonder why that is?!"

I don't know, if they thought about it they'd realise that we're as much of a risk as anyone else. Possibly they think we are exclusively meeting them.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I'm amazed at the high proportion some people quote, but I ask blunt questions, and as I look for guys who can meet regularly in their own bachelor pads I can be quite sure they are single!

I've caught out so many guys by saying "I'm married, are you married or got a girlfriend?". So they all admit to it, thinking I'm ok with it.

Even in a normal vanilla nightclub, I've pulled five guys on five consecutive weekends. Got snogs off all and all asking to leave with me. All confessed to girlfriends when I said I was married.

(And none who had girlfriends who knew they were playing with others.)

I'm so glad I'm not single, it's a nightmare out there!

I think that if you choose play in clubs you have to accept that it goes with the turf - it's not the place to find out about people's background whereas online you have the luxury of time.

As for your 'no married men brigade' who are pretending to swing......well, there is another category - women who are entirely open about what they want and STILL use this site to find single men for regular sex meanwhile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a woman on here and she only goes for attached men as single guys are to much hassle

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